Social Defeat

Hungry_Youth · 2019-05-27T02:14:58+00:00

Go on to YouTube and watch self improvement channels such as ImprovementPill or FarFromAverage. Also get into reading books like How to Win Friends and Influence People or 92 Tips and Tricks to Social Interactions.

Dippy_Dingus · 2019-05-27T04:18:54+00:00

Self sabotage. You've failed before you have even started. You have no confidence. It's hard when you haven't had any results. But you gotta just try harder my man. Fake it til you make it. It works, man. Fake it, you might get a chick all the way to naked in between your bedsheets and then just completely blow it from there and give her the worst fuck of her life. But this is not a failure, this is a success! Take baby steps. It might take 100 girls before you make it with one. Every interaction is a success because you put forth the effort. Less in your head hating yourself, more pretending to like who you are and convincing the others that they should like you too. And if it works and you have actually captivated somebody's attention.... Just scream "OH MY FUCK, WHAT THE HELL IS THAT THING ON YOUR SHOULDER?!?!" Then run!

INTERLOPER_ETERNAL · 2019-05-27T02:52:49+00:00

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137thNemesis · 2019-05-27T04:37:36+00:00

What do you actually do, and are you actually doing it?

tretchman · 2019-05-27T08:25:45+00:00

You've basically developed a schema where your mind goes to the worst possible outcome as a likely outcome. It's pretty much like a phobia. You attack phobias by confronting them and learning that they aren't as scary as you thought it was. For instance let's say you're scared of spiders, you don't like them and worried one might bite and poison you. Thru many baby steps, you start approaching spiders, learning they're not that harmful after all, until the point where you can grab one w/ your hands. At this point the phobia is pretty much extinguished. But by continuously avoiding your fear (talking to girls) you are reinforcing it and making it get worse. So just like w/ my spider example, you need to start approaching girls. It's not gonna be a one-night process; you're gonna have to take baby steps w/ this. But once you talk to a girl and nothing bad happens other than maybe she rejects you, and you continue to do this, you will eventually conquer this fear. Embrace the uncomfortable feeling. Keep in mind that everytime you feel nervous and uncomfortable, you are helping yourself. I learned all this in psych classes btw lol

Title	Social Defeat
Author	Jugurthajones87
Upvotes	5
Comments	8
Date	May 27, 2019 2:05 AM UTC (7 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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