How do you come to terms with never having sex with girls you really want to have sex with?

wax_idiotic · 2015-12-10T04:40:50+00:00

One of the very few constants in this world:

There's always someone much hotter that will make the memory of whatever chick you're thinking of no more significant than your last Glorious Fart.

SteveHackershaw · 2015-12-10T06:41:25+00:00

Don't "come to terms" with it. Go out and keep talking to hot girls and trying to set up dates, etc.. stay social and be flirtatious and escalate when you're with hot girls. If you have other areas of your life you need to step up (fitness, money, social life, etc) then DO IT. Even if you think its gonna take a long time, guess what.. its still really worth it!! Also, I really agree with SenorTylerDurden... completely cut out porn from your life, limit social media and tv as much as possible and focus on getting out of your house and being social every day!!

psillocyb · 2015-12-10T05:01:53+00:00

The past 2-3 hot girls that I've been with I thought I NEVER would. One was even a lesbian at the time & the other wrote me off for 3 years or so. So, I would say never give up. Who knows. Could turn out awesome. Unless yours is married. That is something I wouldn't want to step into.

TheMinistryOfAwesome · 2015-12-10T13:50:41+00:00

I didn't read all the replies because tl;dr - but here's my take on it.

I've had that feeling before "oh man, I could have had her, i bet she was great" and in general when you look back on girls that you knew or think about girls you still know but aren't available (for some reason?) then you generally tend to make more of their good qualities. "Oh her ass was so perfect... " bleh bleh. It's pretty much 'the halo effect'. It also pushes that whole "I want it feeling" which again is a dopamine stimulator and is part of your whole pleasure feedback system.

Really, dont dwell on it, and continue going with other girls, and meeting new people eperiencing life in gneeral is the best and only real way to get over something like this. It's similar to a breakup.

If your life is a pond, and you drop the girl into the pond she creates ripples, you see the pattern and watch it distort the surface and feel its effects deeper. When there are 100s of pebbles and some stones and some boulders being dropped, you generally don't notice the less important/smaller things as strongly. Furthermore, unless the pebble 'keeps being dropped' those waves and ripples diminish over time.

I repeat this a lot becuase it reverberated so well with my psyche: "The best way to get over one woman is by fucking 10 other women". While the situation is not exactly the same the fundamental point is really significant. You get perspective when you have a wider range of comparison, and things are always bigger/more daunting when they act without competition.

That's it.

TMoA

2015-12-10T05:47:28+00:00

Stop watching porn and limit social media which is just full of boobs and girls who try too hard. Get out in the real world.

HoneyBunchesOfDopes · 2015-12-10T14:25:07+00:00

Fucking all her friends

2Siders · 2015-12-10T04:20:53+00:00

Ya buddy, just got to find something else to occupy your time and thoughts. We all have those chick's we wished we would've fucked missed signs etc or just plan can't get. It's life if you're like others that didn't grow up fucked up and realize the world for what it is and know how to lose and weren't coddled your whole life your going to be just fine. Just don't pass on one girl hoping for another that you probably won't get. If you do chalk it up as a lose and roll out.

2015-12-10T17:55:08+00:00

easy you worship bill cosby

i4mn30 · 2015-12-10T18:46:23+00:00

I put my mind to other things. And it's not like as if having sex with them will douse out the fire that keeps enraging the question at hand. It's just a silly want.

Amplifyre1996 · 2015-12-10T10:12:56+00:00

You do realize that all vaginas feel the same right? The only difference is the body they are attached to

Title	How do you come to terms with never having sex with girls you really want to have sex with?
Author	Big_TX
Upvotes	25
Comments	22
Date	December 10, 2015 3:29 AM UTC (10 years ago)
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