*short back story: senior in HS, meet girl who I've liked/may have liked me, hit it off, she's really into me, only get to hang out couple hours a day, unable to drive yet for various reasons, unsure what to do after she likes me, continue to break the 80/20 rule to more of a 50/50 because I'm afraid of being a nice guy even though I never was one, continue doing this for 3 months, she loses interest, become confused on how "nice" I should be.

*Main questions: how nice I should actually be, especially after attraction is built, general advice for us who where never "nice? Guys.

*My whole life I've never been a "nice guy." my personality is pretty different in a good way, and I've got a fair share of flaws too. I'd say my strongest point is building attraction and getting new people to like me.

*When I started reading seduction I took in all the basics plus all the "anti nice guy" stuff. Around the same time I started talking to a hb 8 and she was REALLY into me. I acted myself but also kept in mind the stuff I read about being alpha and not a nice guy. So I admit I probably came off as rude more often than I needed to. Like I said im pretty new to this so I had NO idea what to do after attraction was built, and when she already likes you. This goes on for 3 months, we only get to see each other a couple times a day, and I can't drive. I set this rule that I wouldn't ask her out until I could drive, which looking back was dumb. Anyway she understandably loses interest because I was too "anti nice guy" and didn't show enough interest back. I think I did that because I was scared of rejection EVEN though I got crazy IOIs. So yeah I made allot of mistakes, did a couple things right (confident/non needy/dhv/witty/abundance) but I really feel that I'm not kind enough at all. Girls want to feel special, wanted, and treated right. I'm not sure how to show those things due to my fear of being needy/rejected.

*also posted on my phone sorry for bad structure/grammar.