What to do?

allthr3 · 2011-05-16T06:23:25+00:00

don't jump on her the second she gets back. girls are not retarded... act like the new (real?) you. she will already see the physical difference... which will probably help her in seeing the inner differences as well.

word of caution: if she seems really into you too quickly, don't even bother. she's shallow and will leave you/cheat/become bored etc. if you no longer live up to the ideals she is looking for.

razqel · 2011-05-16T07:02:15+00:00

If she was not interested in you before, she categorized you as "just a friend". This will be the same image she'll have in her mind when you meet her. However, since there was a break of time, she'll be more willing to accept that you did change (to become a high value male), and categorize you as someone she's willing to have sex with (i.e., out of the friend zone).

She might not have seen you as someone she can be sexual with, which is why now you must lead the sexual interaction. Be sure to escalate. This may be hard to do because it changes the original dynamic of the relationship, but you must do it or you'll quickly fall back into the original category.

She will test you to see if you're the same guy as before. She'll try to push your buttons to see if you really are different. These are tests of dominance, so be sure to control the frame. Make no excuses for escalating physically.

allthr3 is correct in that your physical change will help her see the inner changes. However, I disagree in his statement that she is shall if she likes you too quickly it's an indication that she'll eventually leave you.

AbsenseOfMind · 2011-05-16T19:15:29+00:00

Maybe not the kind of advice your are looking for, but anyway.

Go out and talk to girls you never talked to before, think of it as calibrating the stuff your learned. Later focus on the stuff that worked well for you.

l3fth4nd · 2011-05-17T02:53:08+00:00

You have a low chance of doing it right unless you're approaching a lot. I've done over 500 approaches and I still suck(with intermittent spurts of awesome). Learning to apply these ideas take a lot of practice. I'm sure just being more fit and mellow will increase your chances a lot but don't get hung up on this girl. If you want to get this particular girl, you're better off forgetting about the PUA stuff and being yourself. You really need to start approaching like crazy. Hit on over 40 girls per week when you're starting out. Reading the theory alone will do next to nothing for you. The real gains are in gaining experience talking to people. The theory is merely a guideline for what to watch for and how to improve quickly.

2011-05-16T12:39:21+00:00

I was thinking of using this as my first real attempt at the application of some of the things that I've learned from seddit in the last few months that i've been reading it.

Imagine you have been reading a lot lately on how to play the guitar. You post to a guitar forum "Some girl I liked a year ago is coming to town and since I've been reading a lot about playing guitar I figure when she arrives is the best time to try actually playing guitar for the first time".

I want to temper your expectations on how well this is going to go. There is a 1% chance you will take her out, she will confess she always liked you and now that you've got fit she wants to jump you. There is a 99% chance she won't have any feelings at all for you. And since you haven't actually been practicing game (only reading it) you are not going to execute any of the techniques correctly.

Any ideas on how not to fuck this up?

You are almost definitely going to fuck it up. Your only real hope is that she has a high enough interest in you that whatever you do doesn't matter.

My advice is to suffer through it. Make a real effort - don't half ass it. You know what everyone here talks about if you really have been reading for a few months. DHV, push pull, kino escalation, etc. You are going to find that the practice and the theory are worlds apart.

And once you come out the other side - start doing what you are supposed to be doing. Approach lots of women until this stuff becomes so natural you don't even have to think about applying it to some girl from a year and a half ago.

Title	What to do?
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Comments	7
Date	May 16, 2011 6:11 AM UTC (15 years ago)
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