Alright guys I did it! I asked out a stranger and we sat, talked, and ate at Denny's for 4 hours. How do I get romantic?

2019-05-17T01:41:25+00:00

First of all, congratulations! I love hearing success stories and this sounds like one :)

Eye contact is definitely solid advice, so keep that up. But if you want to start escalating romantically, try some kino on the next date. If you're going to Denny's again, sit next to her instead of across from her and try to make some thigh contact or brush shoulders. If you're going to be walking around, take her hand and hold it.

It sounds like she's already into you and probably hoping for you to escalate these things, so take that with some confidence. Good luck!!

recyclablebanthas · 2019-05-17T04:02:44+00:00

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How do I get romantic?

I asked her if she wanted to go to Denny's and she's all "hell yeah" right? So deadass we went at like 11 at night and stayed until about 4am. The whole time we were laughing, getting to know each other..

You don't really "get romantic." This is like asking how to make a girl say yes to a date. Look at how she reacted when you asked. She said, Hell yeah!

How did you "make her" do that? You didn't make her do a thing. You put yourself out there and saw what her reaction was, and it was good.

That's it. You're worried about what you're doing, but you're doing it already!

Also, you do realize that spontaneously asking someone out to Denny's and having an intimate exchange like that, getting to know her, having a good time..... that was already romantic to her, if she's interested. If she's interested, she'll hit the ball back like tennis.

Romantic is something you find and make with another person, if you're paying attention to them. You seemed to be doing this. So cut yourself a break and stop wondering if you need to do something magical to achieve what you're already collectively achieving with her apparently.

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...that's the first time I've clicked with a stranger that fucking fast like damn.

That's what it's supposed to look like, honestly. But it's only possible when you're relaxed enough, and congratulations, you appear to be in that state or it wouldn't have happened.

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Anyways, I plan on going out with her again. But I want to know how I can start to show romantic interest? ......The other day I saw somebody on here say keeping eye contact is good so I did that :)

Show romantic interest? Dude, you've already done that. I don't think you realize what a romantic story you've already started here, mate. You asked her out on the spur of the moment and spent time with her in a diner until 4 in the morning. You were getting to know each other, feeling comfortable, etc. Are you kidding me? You're already doing it.

Just keep plugged in: pay attention to her. If a voice in your head starts wondering about what to say or do, tell it to fuck off and push your focus outside of yourself because this girl will literally give you all the information you need to know what to do or say.

What to do:
- She's already told you enough about herself, I'd wager, that you should have some good ideas of what sorts of meets in what places, would be interesting or novel for her. Example: you might have a feel for whether she's nature person or not. Which could lead to inviting her on a hike in a cool place, etc.
- Physical escalation: you can start off easy by easing into her space bubble here and there and watching her reaction: does she flinch away or allow you in? How does she react to safe things like a high five, handshake, arm jab, etc.
What to say:
- Just listen, because follow-up is more important than coming up with some magical comment.
- Listen and follow up on something she's said. Getting at her emotions (how she felt about something) or her motivations (why she did something), will be interesting and impactful.

DriedUpPlum · 2019-05-17T01:23:36+00:00

You sat for 4 hours and didn't show romantic interest...

Noobie answers time....you have to make certain that she knows you want to fuck her, and she won't be surprised at all or offended at the fact that you want to fuck her as long you don't try to hide that fact 100%. Let that intention slip out and when you do, hold that frame as if it's obvious and then for the sake of being nice or indulging in other things you like to do, allow the conversation to take twists and turns. You obviously want to fuck her and that should be established in your mind and her mind from the outset. Now, the trick here is that the other parts of the conversation shouldn't be you trying to say the right thing but screening her to see if she can hold up to the things you want to do and what you want to see out of the person you're going to be letting taste your super sperm.

https://youtu.be/rH2CdSod3zI?t=446

Here's RSD Max to help you go over the freedom from outcome and how being on a pedestal yourself (obviously) helps you come off more sincere and less like a person that yells surprise I have a dick at the end of a conversation where you seem just happy to be with a girl.

It's totally fine if you just wanted to be with a girl but we all know you want to fuck so be upfront about that energy being in your bod.

Salute

lesntoomy · 2019-05-17T01:23:22+00:00

You start with verbal flirting and if recieved well escalate to touch. You can start with a game where you hold her jands and she must not laugh or smile while you count to 10. Search for other games like this too. You could also hold her hand and explain the meaning of each finger etc. Keep flirting and teasing with teasing dont do it too much and you have to use push/pull. Search youtube "daygame how to escalate"

Title	Alright guys I did it! I asked out a stranger and we sat, talked, and ate at Denny's for 4 hours. How do I get romantic?
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Date	May 17, 2019 12:49 AM UTC (7 years ago)
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