First time going to a club alone [FR]

Ash_Gray27 · 2017-11-11T08:08:29+00:00

Nice! I'm trying to improve my cold game too. You can't be afraid to go out alone.

Tip: Get to know the staff. The place I like to go to by myself is a martini bar with Latin nights on Thursdays so I (usually) know the DJ, the bouncer and a few bartenders. Coming off as a regular increases social proof and overral just gives you more confidence.

recyclablebanthas · 2017-11-11T11:24:19+00:00

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A guy sat down next to me and I mentioned how fucking cold it was outside. We had a two minute, friendly conversation about our backgrounds....

Just going to point out that this kind of opener about the situation, could just as easily been done by you, on anyone in there, male or female.

The whole "no expectations" vibe you got from talking to a guy, you have to find a way to bring that to more of your conversations. It will help!

Also, the conversation you had about backgrounds, is probably also transferable to any other person you would have wanted to talk to.

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I did my best to just focus on trying to have a good time and not breaking eye contact after a girl locks eyes with me.

Grabbing eye contact isn't the thing. Holding good eye contact is good, don't get me wrong. But you don't need to be a tractor beam or anything.

Just good contact and don't break by looking down.

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I felt like I had some blood flowing, but I was still a little too sober to start going hard on the dancefloor.

Also don't need to be drunk to dance or enjoy it.

However, it is a language. And if you like doing it, then take a hip hop dance class or something. It's worth it to help break any anxiety in this area and make it even more fun by having some dance vocabulary. (Hip hop influences a lot of music these days so vocabulary from that can transfer into other forms of music pretty easily.)

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she approached me asking for my name.

You're going to see women doing something at some point, to show their interest. Even the most submissive women have their own way to encourage a man forward.

There's always going to be some form of reciprocation if she's attracted.

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That's right. It's goofy and you get some physical contact and girls seem to love it.

It's all in your attitude! Sounds like you did a good job of finding your fun.

Some guys post about how they feel awkward grinding and those are the guys that are going to make a girl feel awkward, ironically.

What you did was great!

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There were a lot of creepy guys in that club.

Two things here:

You're a little more in tune than a typical "creepy guy." As such, you're in a position to make adjustments according to what a woman wants, that other guys won't be able to make.
Pay attention to the venue at different times of night. Some places get worse as the night wears on. Creepy, awkward guys get more drunk and aggressive and it f--ks up the whole atmosphere because girls close up to strangers at that point. Getting to a place earlier, will see you running into people who are more open to talking to new people.

BearCanoe · 2017-11-11T15:53:47+00:00

Good for you bro, takes balls to put yourself out there like that.

Liquid17 · 2017-11-12T00:25:22+00:00

Good thing to practice breaking the initial social barrier is starting up random conversations with people that seem interesting to you at the first glance. Sometimes, it will just flow the night away.

Technostatin · 2017-11-11T17:19:50+00:00

Let me tell you about the last time I did this...

First thing I did was talk to the first person next to me at the bar. Then the barmaid. Then another guy, who was out with a group and he kindly introduced me to the group who were girls and guys - at that point I was settled as I knew I had a ‘base’ to return to whenever I wanted.

Then I saw a dude making out with a hot 18yr old so I high fived and befriended him once she’d gone. She came back with a friend and we got chatting. Her friend was tipsy and within 3 minutes we were kissing and she whispered in my ear that she wanted me to fuck her in the bathroom.

I led her into the disabled toilet (I know, classy, but roomy and free) and she locks the door and takes off her knickers, saying ‘fuck me’. Instead I said ‘suck my cock’ so she got down and blew me with me grabbing her hair - and her gagging deep throat. She came up and said I want you to sit on the toilet lid so I can get on top of you, but I said no, bend over it. She did, and was gushing by that point & whimpering - she said ‘don’t cum inside me’ - I tried but just couldn’t get hard enough due to the copious amounts I’d drank to be in the state that I was comfortable going out alone in the first place.

Moral of this story is not to drink too much when you go out alone as you never know what will happen.

Ventriloquiste · 2017-11-12T03:41:13+00:00

good on you brother. you have the courage that I find extremely hard to muster.

yellowidiot314 · 2017-11-11T09:44:26+00:00

You're never going to learn how to dance at a dance club. They are a business so they are going to try and sell you jelly shots and expensive liquor. You're better off taking some classes at a studio. Look for one next to a college if you want younger partners (unsure of your age). If you enroll in a dance class in the outskirts of town you may end up with a dance partner twice your age. They could have great moves but it could be awkward. No one knows how to dance at a club and the environment is almost identical to prom.

Title	First time going to a club alone [FR]
Author	GU3MS
Upvotes	93
Comments	15
Date	November 11, 2017 8:01 AM UTC (8 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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