Hi seddit. I'm just starting so firstly I want to concentrate on building my confidence and social skills before proceeding to real seduction. It's a bit embarassing but actually I have almost none friends... I'm attending therapy where I learned that in my life I tend to annoy people and make myslef look VERY stupid and annoying when I'm trying to be outgoing, social and when I'm trying to lead or just add something to conversation. It's just like my brain turns itself off and lets me tell anything stupid or embarrasing that is in my thoughts. I noticed many people (especially girls) that try to be "cool" and are just too fucking loud and annoying because of it.

Everything's fine when I'm just myself and try having fun instead of trying being cool, outgoing, social too hard but I'm not confident and loud enough then.

My question is how to be confident, outgoing and heard, but still being myself so I won't do stupid things or act annoying. Altough many people told me I'm friendly and outgoing and fun to talk but these were people like hairdresser's (really hot chick!) and etc. so I didn't really care about appearing cool to them.

btw. I've just started college and I'll be changing groups in february so it's a good chance to practice and fail a bit without big consequences.

TL;DR: How to be myself while getting more confident and ougoing? Trying too hard to be cool seems to just annoy people.