"You want something? Go get it." ~Will Smith

I live by this quote. Here is an inspirational video of Will Smith quotes.

There are two types of winners: those who work for it, and those who hack the system and get it.

I was told that finding a woman would come naturally. That if I went through my normal routine, a woman would magically appear and we would simply fit into a relationship.

For many people, this is how it happens. They spend months, even years, building rapport with a woman before bridging the gap from being friends to being in a relationship.

But if you are in seddit, you are not one of these type. You are of the type who would rather hack the system, and find the easiest way to secure a woman, whether it is for sex or for a relationship.

This is why it is so hard in the beginning to ask a woman out: it is hacking society. Society dictates that this kind of attraction should happen through mutual experiences. When you ask a woman out, you are ignoring what society wants and are going directly for what you want.

And it works. Ask out random women, and you will see that you will get first dates, lays, even relationships.

Live and breathe daygame. When you are walking to a restaurant, ask a woman out. Going to your car, ask a woman out. Sitting at a coffee shop, ask a woman out. Waiting for a train, ask a woman out. It is incredible how many women will either give you their number, or thank you for asking them.

You have no idea what that number will lead to. Sure, I've had numbers lead to sex and to relationships, but I've also had numbers lead to invites to parties, information about the city, advice about how I can improve, and even just general companionship.

Here is an example encounter:

I am sitting in a public area. I see a cute girl walk by. Without hesitation I get up and run toward the cute girl. I walk a few steps ahead of her before turning my head to talk to her. I compliment her backpack and ask her where she got it. We have some light banter about backpacks and favorite colors. I then ask her for her number, she gives it to me, and we part. I text her a few minutes later (note: the time between when you get her number and when you text her should be related to the amount of time you know her. a girl I've known for 5 minutes I will text sooner than a girl I've know for 5 hours).

I have a theory that a relationship is dependent not on who you are, but on where they are in their lives. So if they are at a point in their life where they'd like a boyfriend, you are in a prime position to fill that role if you just got their number. This is different than women who give out their number out of politeness, curiosity, or boredom. These usually flake either during the texting or after the first date.

"The greatest word in the English language is "Next!" " ~Paul Janka

Failure is inevitable. But the difference between winners and losers is winners recover quickly and move on from a failure. Losers ruminate over failure. Be a winner. Move on.