Have fun, stop the overthinking mind:

Energy, energy, energy. Most girls at parties would probably prefer high energy gregarious people than the vice-versa unless something about you stands out. Whether it's looks or social proof. Starting the night off by amping my state, dancing crazily to the music. This by far gives me the best confidence to continue pursuing. I noticed when you have genuine fun, people are drawn into your reality and surround you with nothing but that of what you give off. Every single time, I notice people surround my vicinity and dance along.

I try not to rely on alcohol to get in-state, so my method is just having fun while engaging people. My in-state occurs mostly towards the end of the night. Meanwhile, alcohol gives me that boost in the start so I can slowly adapt myself till the end. I fully believe alcohol is fine as long as you know what you're doing. Engaging from single individuals to then big groups like mosh pit helps the most with getting out of your head. Matter fact, girls approach you for being so out there. There are times where I don't even need to approach. By just having fun, girls come to me.

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Highlights of the nights

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Bite from a bitch, frame control:

Used a situational opener, talked about her strong eye contact. This single set gave me so much shit. She went from "accidentally" backing up into guys to pretend walking away. If this occurs, she wants you to react and break your frame. She can slurp cum in front of me and I'll pretend it never happen. This helps to keep my frame in control and ultimately lets the female know that I can't be phased. She starts engaging other guys to make me jealous. I talk to girls around me and she comes back... Interesting. One point in the interaction, she badly wants to know my age and tries snatching my ID. She persists and goes as far as to biting my finger so I'd let go... Said I'm too young and proceed to shit test me, or maybe the age was a huge turn off. I pass most of it and she stays. I ended the set off with an intimate hug. Didn't want to proceed as she broke my boundaries. Don't let a bitch bite you!

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Dancing with females:

Friend and I engaged people all around us while moving to the front of the stage. As were "crowd hyping" a few girl's seem to be very receptive. We approach with the hand of God and pulled them in front of us. No resistance from them so we continued. They start grinding on us and we proceed to have fun. Never stop what you're doing just because you "got a girl". Continue giving off positive vibes to everyone and still be engaging. Lets her know your agenda isn't to only get females. This set went pretty well, but obviously, it was the beginning of the night so they wanted to enjoy music. We made out for a bit. They eventually leave to get water. Friends and I continue dancing like before we even approached. Moments later, female behind "accidentally" bumps into me. I pulled her in front and teased about her action. Danced with her for a while and let her go. This is a form of females approaching you. She purposely bumps into me twice to let me know that she is interested. All I had to do was make my move while being congruent and not needy. I share with her my fun and we had an amazing time. She eventually leaves. My friend and I go on about our night.

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LMR in a porta-potty, don't take it personally:

Met this cute looking girl on the dancefloor. Approached with the hand of god and started off dancing. One thing leads to another and we start grinding. When music is blasting your ears off, you need to be more physical and less verbal. As we started grinding I test the waters with what I can do. Halfway through, she engages this other dude in front of me. She is testing my frame and wanted to see my reaction. No fucks were given and I approach females nearby. I don't go after her and I don't show that she matters. I continued dancing and enjoying myself. Moments later, she comes back and forcefully pulls her hips into mine. Thumb rule, be willing to give up sets to maintain frame. Shows the female that you're not an AFC. An AFC would get mad and physical with the guy she engaged. Hours go by and I ask her where she's staying, how's she getting home, and is she busy tomorrow. This lets me know how and when I can pull. "Let's get pizza after and chill at a hotel rooftop". She has work in the morning and suggests we meet up another day. I was not having it because I might never see her again after today. I calibrated accordingly and pull her off the dance floor. We get to know each other a little more and I pull her to a lower volume spot. I engaged the make out in a secluded place out of plain view. Tested the waters and made sure she is ready to be pulled. The potties are so tight but make such a nice location. I engaged in a full-on make-out session. Pulling the back of her hair, touch erogenous zones and then proceeded to undress her. I can tell she still needed more warming up as she didn't want my hands down there yet. Persisting with the make-out and eventually had her pants down. I realized that I'm putting in too much work. I back off and let her invest. Things got hot quick, I made her squirt and orgasm with my fingers, but had strong strong resistance when trying to get inside. I let her know that if at any point she feels uncomfortable with what I'm doing, to let me know. I told her that she can walk off any time she wants. This builds comfort and lets her know you are socially calibrated. After several failed attempts of getting inside, I got tired of it and told her to leave. She was visibly upset. Her words were "You're not doing me", in a persistent manner. Didn't take it to heart, maybe it's because the girl just doesn't want a random guy inside of her. Whether that could have been due to the conditions or I didn't escalate properly. Even though I didn't F close, this set was still an amazing learning experience. Also, make sure you wash hands before and after! Shows respect to the women and yourself.

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Approach or feel guilty forever:

A friend and I ended up at a crazy after-party. The crowd engaged and got amazing vibes. An hour later we get burnt out, too much energy output. HB9 dances behind us and then walks in front. It was obvious that they want us to pull them. For some reason, we were too much of a bitch and let AA get the best of us. We later analyzed and found out they were interested. This had us in a state crash. We were too goal-oriented. The night ends and we're both very glad yet guilty. Promised that next time, you approach no matter what. Fuck the emotions.

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