I talk too much, I accept that. How can I sculpt it to be more attractive?

2010-04-26T18:35:54+00:00

Talk less. Listen more. Be mysterious.

jarly · 2010-04-26T19:51:00+00:00

First, check your frame.

One of the biggest probs I see with guys getting into pickup is not talking too much. Being able to just talk for thirty minutes is a gift. It will serve you well. The best PUA's have the gift of gab and are intelligent.

Here's the issue I see most guys have with talking. It's the misconception that a guy has to "talk a girl into" sex.

This is WRONG WRONG WRONG. In fact, you are more that likely talking your way OUT of sex.

In Roosh's (rooshv.com) outstanding pickup book "Bang" he says "It's impossible to talk for thirty minutes without saying something wrong or stupid." The good news is, IT DOESN'T MATTER. In fact, you could talk about anything and it's cool, as long as you're giving her good FEELINGS. It's all about feelings. If you're giving her positive energy, and fun, all talking is doing is strengthening the bond and helping you transition from attraction to rapport.

You can meet and sleep with a girl without saying a single word. You can do it all with body language and eye contact. I know this because I've done it. I know this because I teach it, and I know it because it happened last night.

I recommend you try an experiment that will open your eyes.

At the next party, work on not saying shit. Smile, smirk, be social, but just step back a bit and let everyone else be the entertainment and fun. Don't chime in, even when you have something funny to say. Don't answer group questions when you know the answer. Just chill.

You'll find that everyone in the room will start saying dumb stuff and keeping the vibe going. And your value will keep climbing and climbing. People will start saying things like "He knows." or "See, John's laughing." etc. referring to you.

Let it ride. Don't be wierdly "I'm not talking" but just let others be the center of attention.

I think you'll be SHOCKED at how the highest value girls and guys in the room start aligning themselves to you. Qualifying to you, and how the cutest girls will start Kino'ing the SHIT out of you.

You'll want to move from where the action is (front room, etc) to the kitchen, and just chill. They'll come to you.

Then when the group of high value people moves into the kitchen around you, go outside the back/front door and chill. The high value people will follow you again.

Once you've got the cute girl(s) kino'ing you, this is where you pick your target and isolate. Lock the eye contact, kino her back, keep the words and talking short. Isolate her to the bedroom or somewhere quiet. Don't say anything. Take her hand and lead her. She'll follow. You won't believe it's actually working, but it will. When you get there, just start making out.

The rest is up to you.

Solid body language and eye contact are the most powerful tools in your arsenal. More powerful than anything verbal.

Good luck.

rmbarnes · 2010-04-26T22:35:54+00:00

I wish I could talk too much...

poncedeleon · 2010-04-26T15:53:07+00:00

I'm in a similar situation. I find keeping my frame playful/sexual helps a lot at college parties. I can usually get the girls fired up just by misinterpreting what they are saying as something sexual (I do this on purpose). Also, I almost always use my lingerie opener/routine:

"Hey, I've been invited to a lingerie party in a few weeks and I'm trying to decide, boxers or briefs?"

I get all kinds of responses to this question, but all are fun, and there is a lot of room for flirting.

Title	I talk too much, I accept that. How can I sculpt it to be more attractive?
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Date	April 26, 2010 3:37 PM UTC (16 years ago)
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