Moved back home to attend school, so I'm living with my mother. Should I take a break from approaching?

daddymonsterpoodle · 2016-02-06T21:38:08+00:00

Having my mom nearby would certainly cramp my style. Even if my mom was cool with it, it just don't seem right.

2016-02-06T21:51:35+00:00

Absolutely keep going.

BTW Your mom wants you to succeed. You're a 27 year old man, she cares about you, she wants you to get laid, be happy and give her grandchildren. There are tons of posts out there about "my adult son can't seem to get a girlfriend, what can I do to help?".

It's all in your head, you want to succeed with women, your mom wants you to succeed, so why stop?

Is this possible, or is this a severe handicap?

A bit, but handicaps make you better. Playing the game on hard mode makes you really good if you stick with it.

PS You need to be proactive with pick-up. That means committing to going out and doing approaches, not waiting to meet women when you're out shopping with mom. To me it sounds like you aren't actually going out alone / with friends with the intention of doing approaches, but rather are just randomly approaching when you're out doing other things. That's good and all, but you also need to commit to going out with the express purpose of approaching. And if you're doing that, I don't see how your mom matters.

Update: I read your 100 sets thread and IMO you're going at it all wrong. You're randomly chatting up cashiers once a week and counting that as progress - it's way too slow. It's like a guy who randomly goes to the gym once a week, picks up a few dumbbells, does a few curls then goes home and writes for 15 minutes about "lessons learned." You want results, you gotta get serious and ramp it up. You need to do 5-10 approaches PER DAY/NIGHT. Like, go to a nightclub and start talking to women. Push through the fear and commit to doing substantial volume - flirting with a random cashier once a week and then over-theorizing it is the wrong way to get results. You should be going out for a minimum of 3 nights a week and doing a minimum of 5-10 sets per night if you want to get results in the next year. If you keep up at your same pace you'll never get any real results: either get serious or give up on getting the results and changes you want. You CAN get those results, but you have to COMMIT and be SERIOUS, and that means committing to X nights a week doing Y approaches per night.

lofiharvest · 2016-02-08T19:02:50+00:00

You seem to have your logistics sorted out. Just make sure you frame yourself as 'I decided to move back home to further my career' etc. I lived at home for a bit to save money when I was starting my business. Never had any issues with women when framed like that. The last thing you want her to think is 'Eww hes some loser that lives with his mom.' Also nothing wrong with your mother being there. It really depends on the dynamic of the relationship. When I am with my mother it is very clear I AM the one taking her out. Where as other guys I know act like a little boy getting led around on a leash by their mother. Having a good relationship with ones parents is attractive. Being a mommas boy is not.

Title	Moved back home to attend school, so I'm living with my mother. Should I take a break from approaching?
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Date	February 6, 2016 8:48 PM UTC (10 years ago)
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