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I learned a lot from Seddit but ultimately what I realized is the most effective way to become good at dating is to grow into a well rounded attractive person vs just the dating aspect. Its kinda like a diet where you only eat meat. If you dont have carbs, veggies, etc you wont become a healthy person. The internet is your oyster. Get better at making friends and GO!
/r/seduction30/08/17 02:10 PM
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You are missing the point. You want to hang around people that share similar goals.If your current friends circle is not helping you towards said goal, find some new friends (You said it yourself "Very few of them are interested in hitting the bars..". I still have a few friends from when I was bad with women. I still see them from time to time, but back then when I wanted to go out and meet women they were the worst friends to go out with at the bar. I would go and approach women and the whole …
/r/seduction30/08/17 02:03 PM
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Love that last quote!
/r/seduction30/08/17 01:55 PM
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Most married people aren't actively dating. Unless they're into that sort of thing ;)
/r/seduction29/08/17 06:34 PM
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Make a comment about something on her profile. She might read it,check out your profile and respond or ignore it. You have nothing to lose.
/r/seduction03/06/17 09:37 PM
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In perfect world people would be direct and say what they mean to say. Read the post I made about why sometimes women will feign interest in the moment. Ever see a girl get yelled at and called a 'lesbian' at a bar by some bro? Its not a pretty sight.
/r/seduction08/12/16 09:05 PM
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Some women are afraid to be direct when it comes to rejection because they don't know how you (a stranger) are going to react to being rejected. Honestly some men become total pricks when they get rejected. This is one reason for the "mysterious" phenomenon of 'Why did she give me her number if she wasnt interested?' Send her a short text referencing something fun from your conversation and ask her out. Good luck
/r/seduction08/12/16 08:55 PM
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I am 30 and feel very similar. This is a situation where the concept of 'like attracts like' comes into play. If I am in player mode (hooking up and gaming) then those are the types of woman I will attract. There will always be exceptions, but I found this concept to be true. I've since begun switching my intentions and actions to mirror that fact that I want a LTR. For me that means waiting 3-5 dates before having sex and engaging in a variety of quality dates before having sex. I really want t…
/r/seduction08/12/16 07:36 PM
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What kind of things do you talk about with your platonic friends? You can talk about anything you want and topics that are relevant to the person you are talking to. Conversations with friends tend to be a mixture of statements "Dude, thats an awesome jacket!" and questions "Where did you get it?". Dont get stuck in the 'Job interview mode' of speaking of only using questions. Its honestly about being yourself, talking her like you are already friends,and mixing in flirting/sexual tension. Like …
/r/seduction08/12/16 07:08 PM
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IDK man. It kinda sounds like she was just being polite. Especially if she didn't add much of anything to the conversation = zero rapport. Good luck though! Also don't add people on FB unless you are pretty much dating. Adding her right away like that can come off as super needy. I have a number of female friends that would be turned off by that sort of thing.
/r/seduction08/12/16 07:00 PM
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Get off Reddit, ask her out, and find out for yourself.
/r/seduction19/11/16 08:01 PM
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Comedy show might only be for an hour though. You also can hit some bars before and after.
/r/seduction30/09/16 02:02 PM
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Bowling is expensive in NYC :(
/r/seduction30/09/16 01:55 PM
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Get off the internet and just do it.
/r/seduction24/09/16 07:08 PM
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Everyday. NYC. However I have lived in a smaller town before in the past. Same applies just in less quantity. Wherever there is people, there is opportunity.
/r/seduction19/09/16 02:54 PM
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Set up the date and see what happens.
/r/seduction16/09/16 06:21 PM
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Than be faster than your friends. Make your pitch but ultimately it's the woman's choice.
/r/seduction14/08/16 06:19 PM
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You don't have to be making lots of money to have your shit together however you should work towards achieving some sort of financial stability. Its ultimately better for you and will grant you access to a better life/better women. There will always be exceptions, but the exceptions in this situation aren't really exceptional women now are they?
/r/seduction11/08/16 07:11 PM
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Needy, passive in the relationship, doesn't have their shit together, etc. I knew about this one guy that was physically very attractive but some reason could never hold down a girl friend. At one point he and his current girlfriend decide to move into together and get an apartment. During the move process he basically sat on his ass playing xbox while the GF took care of all the logistics and most of the packing. After day of her packing she comes home and he has the tenacity to say to her 'Hey…
/r/seduction11/08/16 02:48 PM
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Honestly it sounds like you need time to heal. You got out of a long relationship with someone you loved and had your heart broken. That is an emotionally traumatic event of which there is no instant fix. Check out this TED Talk https://www.ted.com/talks/guy_winch_the_case_for_emotional_hygiene?language=en Getting laid is great but it wont do much to heal a deep wound. Some things that helped me get over my last relationship were time,meditation, exercise, and participating in activities that re…
/r/seduction04/08/16 07:40 PM
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The Tinder date I had last night was complaining about guys that send messages like this. That shit is creepy as fuck dude. Try treating her like a person, build some rapport, go on a date, and see where things go.
/r/seduction04/08/16 06:55 PM
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You dont.
/r/seduction04/08/16 06:47 PM
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Its where you send a sample of the women's feces to a lab to determine whether or not she is attracted to you.
/r/seduction04/08/16 01:59 PM
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I've gotten plenty of numbers by the simple 'Hi I'm (insert name). I saw you from across the room and wanted to meet you'. Can't tell you how many times the girl later told me 'I was really impressed by your confidence to walk up to me like that'
/r/seduction28/07/16 05:42 PM
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This is very important. When I first started dating years ago 'he talked too much' was a comment I heard about myself through the grapevine. Its kinda like being the host of an event. You aren't the main attraction, you are there to direct the flow of the conversation. Eventually you build rapport and the girl will start asking questions about you. And for god sakes don't burden the girl by talking too much about your feelings.
/r/seduction26/07/16 01:50 PM
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At the end of the day if you aren't being sexual/stimulating a woman emotionally she is going to find a man that can. Flirting is really just a matter of bantering/teasing the girl. Think of how boys and girls would tease each other on the playground. Its kinda like that but a grown up version. http://theartofcharm.com/podcast-episodes/episode-6-banter-part-1/ That is a really good podcast on bantering. It will probably feel unnatural initially but over time it will become second nature. I flirt…
/r/seduction18/07/16 02:16 PM
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Tall guys with "normal" personalities also struggle with women.
/r/seduction18/07/16 02:02 PM
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Are you behaving like a friend or someone with a potential lover/sexual interest? If you just are having bland vanilla conversation without any sexual tension peppered in , of course these girls are gonna eventually bail. Be playful, banter, tease them, ask them legit questions but be ready to banter again. Show that you are comfortable with your sexuality and escalate when appropriate. I know right now you feel bitter and angry, but you also have to realize that ultimately these women chose to …
/r/seduction16/07/16 09:36 PM
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Non-sense. I know a guy that is around that height and he is never struggling for women.
/r/seduction16/07/16 09:25 PM
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Anywhere that people go is game for meeting women. I've met women on the subway, trains,live events, coffeeshops, restaurants, on the street, the park,etc. If you don't have balls, grow some. How do you think humanity has been procreating before Tinder?
/r/seduction15/07/16 08:58 PM
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This is my rule for texting. First text. If I don't hear back I wait a day or two before sending a follow up text. If I hear nothing after that I drop it and move on.
/r/seduction11/07/16 07:17 PM
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I day game successfully in NYC on a regular basis. Really its about getting comfortable talking to anyone (men and women). There is a local coffee shop in my neighborhood I regularly visit. I talk and make banter with the staff, patrons, etc. Just all around social (wasn't always like this btw). You look pretty awesome when the owner is high fiving you and 30 seconds later you walk over to a cute girl and say 'Those are cool pants. Kinda reminds of a quilt my grandmother made'. True story. Obser…
/r/seduction11/07/16 02:37 PM
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You are 17 dude. Chill, have fun, and for god sakes don't overtext!
/r/seduction11/07/16 02:29 PM
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Very true. I had the most amazing time with a girl from Mexico recently.
/r/seduction11/07/16 02:28 PM
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I just gave you your answer. Move on. You sound super needy.
/r/seduction11/07/16 02:19 PM
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Because people are afraid of confrontation. They would rather keep telling you they are "busy" then say outright say they aren't interested. Its annoying, but its the way the world works.Learn, Move on, find someone interested.
/r/seduction10/07/16 08:44 PM
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When a girl says she is too busy she is not interested. Move on.
/r/seduction08/07/16 07:30 PM
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I put into practice what the article recommended.Last night had a fantastic date with a new girl. F-closed in under 4 hours. This wasn't my only tweak, but definitely helped.
/r/seduction21/06/16 05:53 PM
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Dude. Its 2016. Ever hear of thing called Google? Find three cool spots, ask her out.
/r/seduction17/06/16 06:18 PM
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I will try this next time. Thanks :)
/r/seduction16/06/16 06:14 PM
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Do you have a link?
/r/seduction16/06/16 02:12 PM
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Thats one thing I was thinking too. Maybe warmed her up a bit more with something simple like watching a movie.
/r/seduction16/06/16 02:00 PM
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This girl is a time waster. Move on.
/r/seduction06/06/16 05:14 PM
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Ouch. It does sound like you need new friends.
/r/seduction05/06/16 10:43 PM
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Me I like to how out as long as possible. I like to treat my girls to a fire hose...
/r/seduction05/06/16 10:00 PM
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Well in your situation I would either not invite your friend out to social situations where you intend to meet women or offer some coaching to your buddy on what to do when your'e in the zone. Like I had a friend that used to always try to horribly wingman for me. Im in the middle of a great conversation and he starts bragging about how cool I am, the work I do, etc. It was WAY over the top and came off like I was desperate to impress her. Afterwards I explained how what he did wasn't helpful an…
/r/seduction05/06/16 09:04 PM
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Why are you scared? Have some courage dude. You are going to fail and make mistakes. People ghosting out has nothing to do with where or how you met them. Its because they lost interest. Haven't you ever started dating someone and lost interest on your end?
/r/seduction05/06/16 08:54 PM
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Friends like that will only hold you back or worse blow up your spot because of their awkwardness.
/r/seduction05/06/16 03:22 PM
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This.
/r/seduction05/06/16 03:19 PM
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I don't prefer going out alone, but have done it. Three weeks ago I felt like meeting a girl but no one was around. So I went to a local bar that attracts that type of women I'm interested in. I started out by socializing with both the men and women in the club. Eventually I was having a good time chatting with this one group of people. I then spotted a girl that caught my attention. I walked up and said simply 'Hello, I saw you from across the bar and thought you seemed like a lovely person. I …
/r/seduction05/06/16 03:19 PM
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Break self-improvement into sections.
/r/seduction04/06/16 10:07 PM
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Doesn't matter. Had sex
/r/seduction13/05/16 08:25 PM
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Everyone at some point experiences making a "connection", getting a number, only to discover things went cold. It could be anything. She could have gotten back together with her ex, met someone more interesting, or ready for this one... SHE WAS NEVER INTERESTED IN THE FIRST PLACE. Sometimes girls will give numbers out and text for a bit without actually intending to ever see you again. Learn to get out the habit of over analyzing stuff like this. Its needy behavior.
/r/seduction03/05/16 09:25 PM
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Then the girl isn't interested in hanging out with you. No magic text game is gonna change that. Move on. If a girl is interested in you, she will make herself available.
/r/seduction03/05/16 09:00 PM
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I'm 5'11 and 165 but used to weigh around 130 in HS. Im telling you being skinny is almost as bad as being fat. I have a friend who is in his mid twenties, making bank, but is probably 125 soaking wet. My ex used to always comment 'He's a nice guy, but he looks like a child'. Not surprisingly he has had dreadful luck when it comes to women. Women are biologically hard wired to be attracted to strength. To all guys who are underweight IMMEDIATELY ERASE from your brain the thought of IM PERFECT JU…
/r/seduction28/04/16 05:38 PM
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She cant be that much of a celebrity if shes on Tinder.
/r/seduction28/04/16 12:47 AM
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Some questions. How old are you? Whats your diet like? Any alcohol involved? I'm assuming you are using condoms. For me I have trouble finishing when I'm wearing one and can sometimes go limp. Using a little lube inside the condom helps. Also its all about how you frame things. Like if I've been drinking sometimes I'll mention to the girl 'Dammit, shouldn't have had that last drink'. When the little man needs a break thats when you should switch over to oral and using your hands to please the gi…
/r/seduction12/04/16 06:39 PM
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Her: I'm so horny tonight. How would you answer this?
/r/seduction12/04/16 06:27 PM
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Weightlifting, photography, art, musical instrument, reading, attending speaking events.
/r/seduction12/04/16 06:22 PM
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It happens both ways. There are plenty of girls I went on dates with that I 'didn't click' with. Also if you didn't really care why are you posting about it here?
/r/seduction03/04/16 10:24 PM
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I just watched a recent video of The Rollingstones. Those guys are in their 70's and still killing it. Have fun, do what makes you happy, never stop enjoying life!
/r/seduction03/04/16 02:31 PM
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30 minutes is really not a big deal. I live in NYC and sometimes have to take 45 min to get to a date. Yes coffee shops are a great idea. I am self employed and have struck up friendships with my local barista's.
/r/seduction01/04/16 12:38 PM
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I was thinking about countering with 'Hmmm I never thought you to be shy... Its kinda cute.'
/r/seduction15/03/16 11:56 PM
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My last GF was like this. I'm very affectionate while she was more guarded. I still care about her to this day, however for my next relationship I am planning on going with someone a bit closer to my emotional needs.
/r/seduction14/03/16 03:03 PM
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From my experience the way women bond is mostly through talking. If you've ever played fly on a wall to a group of women, its non stop conversation about everything. If a girl is talking to you non-stop its a good sign that she feels comfortable around you. However its up to you to decide whether or not this girl is right for you. People can improve but this can take a long time. Sometimes you just have to accept or reject a person for who they are.
/r/seduction14/03/16 03:00 PM
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When she reaches out to you only when she wants something but doesn't reciprocate when you want something is a big one.
/r/seduction14/03/16 02:47 PM
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That girl wasn't interested. Theres no great take away or analysis to be had here. You should have backed off way earlier in the conversation.
/r/seduction14/03/16 02:42 PM
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This makes sense to me. I also need to remove these words from other written non-dating interactions I have with people.
/r/seduction13/03/16 11:43 PM
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The only situation I would consider getting back together would be if overall it was a good relationship and the initial issue that caused the break up has been resolved.
/r/seduction09/03/16 12:57 AM
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You shouldn't be so concerned with the feelings of people who are in the wrong. If you want people to respect you confrontation is warranted especially in a situation where you are in a relationship with said person. If they play the victim card they are still in the wrong and have shown their true colors.
/r/seduction09/03/16 12:00 AM
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And it works 100% of the time 50% of the time...
/r/seduction08/03/16 08:07 PM
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When they start acting or saying things like that I drop it. That is a manipulation tactic people use to avoid owning their behavior. A person of good character will be capable of owning their mistakes. My last relationship was great because we both owned our shit and did what we could to improve things. Ultimately you dont want to be in a relationship with someone like that.
/r/seduction08/03/16 04:23 PM
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"Yes totally. In fact I translated it directly from a book of ancient Spanish love poems"
/r/seduction08/03/16 03:55 PM
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I once had a friend that I was sort of dating flake out on me. On that day we had planned on going hiking. However ten minutes before she was supposed to arrive at my house she texts me 'Hey I don't want to go hiking today. Im out shoe shopping with my brother'. At this point I was pretty upset as I had packed a backpack full of snacks and sandwiches and was ready to hit the mountain. I called her out on it and told her about all the preparations I made and how I thought it was rude to make othe…
/r/seduction08/03/16 03:49 PM
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What have you said to people who have ghosted?
/r/seduction08/03/16 03:38 PM
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Its really not so much what you say but rather how you say it and the confidence you project. I always joke with my friends that the best pickup line 'Hello my name is...' Always try to have a little more energy than what's average in the room. As far as small talk starting off with basic topics like school, work,hobbies family, dreams, guessing their heritage are staples. Try opening with statements about Universal or interesting current events 'That was a really awesome Kendrick Lamar performa…
/r/seduction07/03/16 03:23 PM
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You sound like the man I used to be. I recommend reading a book called 'No More Mr. Nice Guy'. Changed my life. Also realize that there are no instant fixes. Changing ones thinking patterns take time. Good luck
/r/seduction03/03/16 11:25 PM
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Do you end up winning the girl? If the answer is yes then you are fine. If the answer is no then its probably time to tone down a bit.
/r/seduction03/03/16 09:46 PM
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Yes. If she rejects you its totally possible future circumstances could just the situation. However whatever you do don't use this as an excuse to wait around for her. Go forth and be awesome!
/r/seduction03/03/16 09:43 PM
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You still might be. Some girls just like flirting for attention. If this is the case you need to just stop giving her the attention she craves and move on. Maybe this will cause her to take notice. Maybe it won't. There are so many other girls out there in the world. Don't be the chump that gets led around like a lost puppy.
/r/seduction01/03/16 11:02 PM
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Its all about being confident and leading. I once got turned down for a kiss (I didn't ask, she just brushed it aside). We ended up having sex an hour later. Let your state of mind originate from within and not external circumstances.
/r/seduction01/03/16 10:23 PM
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Welcome to the friendzone.
/r/seduction01/03/16 09:35 PM
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Ask her out and let the naysayers be damned! Just say 'Its been nice getting to work with you. Lets hang out sometime. Give me your number and we'll set something up. '
/r/seduction01/03/16 09:33 PM
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Its only awkward if you make it awkward. Theres this bar I sometimes go to and I kind of fancied this girl that worked there. We've had a bunch of great conversations in the past but at the time I had a GF. I stopped in last week, she mentioned how she hasnt seen me in awhile. Had another great chat and said 'Hey you should give me your. I'd like to hang out sometime'. Got the number texted back and forth a bit and things went dry. I'll go back and act like nothing happened. Its not a big deal. …
/r/seduction01/03/16 01:12 AM
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Find another girl and bring her to the library. Then she'll want you :P All joking aside you did nothing wrong. Go back whenever you feel like it and act like nothing happened.
/r/seduction24/02/16 01:06 AM
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Work on investing in yourself (gym, hobbies, friends,books,self-improvement, etc). Also there is nothing wrong with feeling shitty or grieving the loss of a relationship. Its honestly going to take some time to get over a six year relationship. Thats a long time to be in a relationship with someone. Give it some time.
/r/seduction24/02/16 12:32 AM
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You seem to have your logistics sorted out. Just make sure you frame yourself as 'I decided to move back home to further my career' etc. I lived at home for a bit to save money when I was starting my business. Never had any issues with women when framed like that. The last thing you want her to think is 'Eww hes some loser that lives with his mom.' Also nothing wrong with your mother being there. It really depends on the dynamic of the relationship. When I am with my mother it is very clear I AM…
/r/seduction08/02/16 07:02 PM
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Just pretend like it didn't happen and don't let it affect your mood or state. I had this happen to me once and an hour later we were having sex.
/r/seduction06/02/16 09:43 PM
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If you have to weigh this out in your head then you haven't done a good enough job of making your intentions clear in the first place. Don't come on too strong, but be direct.
/r/seduction06/02/16 09:41 PM
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No. That is something you should discuss with someone you have an actual relationship with (Close friends, SO, etc)
/r/seduction23/08/15 06:46 PM
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You also have to take into account that being front and center on stage is a form of status which gives a person an advantage.
/r/seduction07/08/15 10:00 PM
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The good ones.
/r/seduction07/08/15 02:47 PM
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Here is simple truth I learned from a friend. 'If a girl is remotely interested in you she will be happy that you are making any effort to contact her, regardless of what you say.' So ya, even if you say an awkward 'Hello, how are you?' she will most likely give you the green light unless you say something totally stupid.
/r/seduction07/08/15 02:27 PM
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This in spades.
/r/seduction07/08/15 02:21 PM
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Its a text message, not a game of chess. I respond to text messages when I feel like it. Not because of some game I'm trying to play. A woman is going to think your'e needy by how you behave in person. Not by analyzing the speed of your responses.
/r/seduction07/08/15 02:21 PM
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From having a fulfilling life. If you don't have one go cultivate one.
/r/seduction17/07/15 04:07 PM
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Pro-tip. Not all women enjoy red-wine. Have both red and white ready to go ;P
/r/seduction08/07/15 06:43 PM
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Ya that kind of thing happened to me when I was first getting started. Honestly you just need to hunker down and go for it. Stop overthinking it and just act. A woman will forgive a man for being too bold but not for being too timid. Learn to not give a fuck about the people around you. Live in YOUR world and focus on the people you want in it. I just started a relationship with a new girl and one of the things she liked about me was how confident and direct with her I was (a character trait tha…
/r/seduction26/06/15 01:50 PM
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Just ask her out for drinks.
/r/seduction26/06/15 01:40 PM
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If you want her pursue her. Make a move. Ask her out on a date.
/r/seduction21/06/15 09:48 PM
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This right here is the winning mindset.
/r/seduction18/06/15 04:46 PM
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I would agree with you now that you have un-packed that a bit more. I think its also important to look at what the underlying motivation for self improvement is. If you are only trying to be the best possible YOU to gain the attention of approval of others then you are still insecure. My buddy recently broke up with his girlfriend and now he is embarking on the whole self improvement journey. Make sure you are doing it for yourself and not to win someones approval.
/r/seduction18/06/15 03:11 PM
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I feel relationships are basically sexual relationships that have grown a friendship component. Still escalate and keep things fun but build the friendship component. People I genuinely care about I ask them about their life 'How was your day? How did your class go? Did you end up painting your bedroom?' You can't be in sexual/game mode all the time. Sometimes all you have to do is show up and listen. I also things start moving to the relationship territory when you start wanting to include her …
/r/seduction18/06/15 02:49 PM
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That kind of statement to me sounds like its coming from a place of insecurity.
/r/seduction18/06/15 02:47 PM
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In Zen and the Art of Motorcycle Maintenance Pirsig talks about the concept of the 'mechanics touch'. Meaning there are some screw or bolts that if you use too little force it wont budge, but at the same time if you use too much force it will break. I feel game is very similar. You just have to learn to develop a feel for where the sweet spot is.
/r/seduction18/06/15 02:40 PM
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I find it good practice to make strong eye contact with all persons in most social situations. I look clients in the eye. I look friends in the eye. I look women I want to date in the eye. Don't just adopt eye contact for game. Adopt it holistically into your life. I tend to hold eye contact for approx 7-10 seconds before looking away and re-establishing eye contact. Maybe sometimes longer if its a romantic situation.
/r/seduction18/06/15 02:25 PM
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Girls are scary...
/r/seduction18/06/15 02:21 PM
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Get coffee, have fun, and if it goes well segue to drinks or another hangout.
/r/seduction01/06/15 11:09 PM
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I do power poses and also like working out sometime before going out(Get those good endorphins and testosterone pumping!). Listening to tunes that get you in a good mood helps big. Also I'm big on warming up my social skills before hitting the main event. Meaning I will stop and talk to random people on the way to the venue to put me in the right frame of mind to be meeting people.
/r/seduction01/06/15 11:06 PM
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We've been keeping in touch. Lets see what she says...
/r/seduction31/05/15 09:33 PM
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What kind of questions do you ask?
/r/seduction31/05/15 09:27 PM
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I have to disagree. Its important to carefully consider external observations of ones behavior especially when you start noticing a pattern in peoples reactions. People tend to fall into the illusion of rating their competency as higher than it actually is. Hence why external evaluation is important. Read up on the Dunnings Kruger effect for more info. http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Dunning%E2%80%93Kruger_effect An example of this from my own life is I used to always think of myself as friendly an…
/r/seduction31/05/15 09:25 PM
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Positive. I'm probably doing something with my body language that I am not aware of (Kinda like when I discovered my bitchy resting face) . Thats the only conclusion I can come to.
/r/seduction31/05/15 03:12 PM
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You gotta love the feminist types that give you dirty looks whenever you ask to split the bill. Welcome to equality ladies :P Whenever I DO pay for people I do it out of generosity and never out of obligation. Also when I give in this context I never expect something in return.
/r/seduction27/05/15 10:31 PM
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Met this cute redhead at a coffee shop a few weeks ago. I was smitten as she had one of my favorite girls name, was a musician, and had a cool accent. Also did I mention she was a redhead? We chatted for quite some time and so I decided to ask her out. I text her the next day and get the dreaded 'Who is this? I think you have the wrong number' text. It turns out we had some mutual friends on FB and there on her profile photo is a picture with her boyfriend. This all occurred at my regular coffee…
/r/seduction27/05/15 06:26 PM
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Typically what happens too is if you wait too long to approach someone you psyche yourself out. Two things I recommend to help combat this is if you see someone you are attracted to start talking them almost immediately. That way you don't give yourself the chance to overthink and thus stress yourself out. If you do psyche yourself out try some breathing exercises and approach when you've chilled out. For me this can take a couple minutes,
/r/seduction27/05/15 03:31 PM
2

Congrats on taking a risk! That takes balls in age where so many people wuss out on things like Tinder. However I feel like your takeaway or 'things that I learned' are all flawed. For starters you are focusing too much on the specifics of what you are saying.Whether or not you used an indirect opener (like your example) or a direct one probably didn't matter in this situation. I use the most random of things to open girls up. I could ask a girl about raisin toast and build rapport from there. T…
/r/seduction27/05/15 01:16 AM
14

You don't have to create the reason why a woman won't date you. Let her decide that for herself.
/r/seduction26/05/15 02:46 PM
3

I feel its normal. I use to play chess competitively and at that level you study and acquire a set of openings. A good chess player will use openings that creates a game that caters to your strengths. If you survive the opening its the middle and end games that end up becoming quite unique. My point is that you don't have to re-invent your approach every time you talk to someone new. Every person is different and when you get past the small talk (opening) you'll begin to explore the territory th…
/r/seduction25/05/15 04:13 PM
-1

If you have no interest in talking to women why are you posting in a subreddit about talking to women?
/r/seduction21/05/15 10:30 PM
3

I kind of wonder if stuff like 'The Fappening' has given it a bad rep in certain circles.
/r/seduction19/05/15 10:47 PM
2

I wasn't asking what to do in response to her objection. I was asking if anyone else has noticed a similar pattern.
/r/seduction19/05/15 10:39 PM
3

Its a great way to meet beautiful women for sure. I would caution anyone who does photography professionally to not make a habit of trying to seduce every model you work with. The last thing you want is to create a reputation that could end up costing you clients. My rule is if I meet someone that I feel a potential connection towards I will make a move. When I do this I am very direct with something as simple as 'You know working with you has been really fun. I'd like to get to know you better …
/r/seduction19/05/15 07:37 PM
2

American girls are more direct and more open to showing signs of interests. When I lived in London I found the English girls frustrating since I had a hard time reading them. Of course that was before I had any game. I'm curious to see how I would do now. Oh and a British accent is definitely an advantage but you'll still have to do your part and escalate.
/r/seduction18/05/15 09:02 PM
2

Have you ever been in a situation where you found someone attractive yet were afraid to talk to them let alone make eye contact? Of course you have! The same anxiety we experience as men happens to women. Just make a move. Stop trying to know the score before playing the game.
/r/seduction18/05/15 08:57 PM
1

Then go meet people in real life.
/r/seduction18/05/15 07:42 PM
2

Talk about anything. If you got a good vibe going on the specifics don't really matter. Last night I opened up three different girls with stuff like 'Me and my friend were debating whether or not the new Star Wars will be better with or without George Lucas. Can you settle this for us?'. Later I noticed there was a Bollywood movie playing on the TV and just simply pointed and said ' Its amazing how huge Bollywood is, yet you never hear much about it in America'. The last one happened when a girl…
/r/seduction17/05/15 03:18 PM
7

Its all about having a friendly confident vibe.
/r/seduction15/05/15 03:50 PM
1

Make a move and see what happens.
/r/seduction15/05/15 03:40 PM
1

yep
/r/seduction15/05/15 03:36 PM
1

Simple. Stop.
/r/seduction14/05/15 10:28 PM
2

I currently live with one dude and a girl. The girl has a BF who is a chill dude that sometimes stays over. Its honestly a good arrangement because we all mind our own business but in a friendly manner. Also for FWIW I am not sexually attracted to the girl. I say if you get a good vibe from the girl and you like the apartment go for it!
/r/seduction14/05/15 10:27 PM
1

Treat her like you would if you didn't have money. I know its a touchy subject but I do feel that a mans provider potential is a factor when it comes to attraction. I wouldn't view your success as a negative. I would view it as an advantage you've earned. Enjoy it
/r/seduction14/05/15 03:52 PM
2

Thats what she said...
/r/seduction13/05/15 06:51 PM
2

Availability matters to me because I don't waste time with women that cheat. Why potentially set yourself up for drama when there are a ton of available women out there?
/r/seduction13/05/15 06:47 PM
2

Build value in yourself, acquire confidence and pursue the women you want.
/r/seduction03/05/15 10:49 PM
5

I don't subscribe to the 'one size fits all' belief when it comes to dating. I can only speak from my own experience. I have read something like to 10-15 books on pickup and have watched all kinda of videos. And you know what? Out of everything I've read or seen Models and No More Mister Nice Guy are the only two books I recommend. To me these books helped me to cultivate a confidence and respect for myself that once I lacked. From that I place I learned how to stop being so needy and attract wo…
/r/seduction01/05/15 10:42 PM
2

Have an intelligent conversation about books whilst still escalating.
/r/seduction27/04/15 03:12 PM
1

This is very true. If you can warm a girl up to the point where she won't stop talking you are gold. Unless she is a total weirdo of course.
/r/seduction26/04/15 03:12 PM
1

Flea Markets, art galleries, game/quiz nights, taking a class together, etc.
/r/seduction26/04/15 03:05 PM
1

I just moved to a new city and so fired up the OKC account. I've had three dates since moving here and honestly so far the best date out the bunch was the one I met off OKC. The other two were women I met in person thru social/hobby connections. I say use whatever tools you have at your disposal, just don't let the internet become a crutch. You should be able to attract women in both real life and online if you got game.
/r/seduction25/04/15 07:12 PM
3

I personally don't use the word "date" when I ask a girl out. Why? Because from my experience this comes off a bit too strong and can be interpreted as a form of commitment. I just usually say something as simple as 'Hey you! Lets go on an artsy adventure Thursday night. I know this awesome bar that makes kick ass cocktails near the gallery!' Women are much better at reading between the lines than men are. I don't need to use words to communicate I have a sexual/romantic interest in her.
/r/seduction24/04/15 10:29 PM
1

I'm attracted to the girls I find attractive. If anyone has a problem with that they can fuck off.
/r/seduction24/04/15 10:20 PM
3

Next time pay bills equally right from the start.
/r/seduction24/04/15 11:00 AM
2

You cant expect someone to be flirting with you when you have not even met in person yet. Attraction ultimately has to happen between the two of you actually in the room. Just chill, and wait for the actual date.
/r/seduction23/04/15 06:39 PM
2

A psychologist by the name of Arthur Aron created a list of 36 questions that 'can make you fall in love with anyone' . Obviously you are not going to sit there reading off a list of questions, these are just guidelines (listed below). You also want your conversations to be a mix of statements and questions. I always feel sorry for the guy at the next table over that sounds like he's on a job interview versus an organic conversation. Example: Q(me): Where did you go to school? A(her): I went to …
/r/seduction23/04/15 04:38 PM
4

No.
/r/seduction23/04/15 03:39 PM
1

I totally agree with the OP. Its not the technology isn't useful, Its just you don't want to let it become a social handicap or a crutch. It feels like every week I see this asked on here 'There is this beautiful girl in one my classes. We have a mutual friend on Facebook. What is the best way to message her?' Before the internet that person would have cowered in the corner and never got the girls number (rightfully so). Come on fellas, lets be men of action!
/r/seduction22/04/15 05:19 PM
1

It ain't 1969 anymore indeed ;)
/r/seduction21/04/15 06:49 PM
2

I'm older, 24 at the moment Lol if you are "older" than me being 28 must make me ancient! Any ways I didn't lose my virginity until I was 27. Reason being I used to be religious and practiced abstinence until I left the faith and learned some game around age 26. I have since been with 4 different girls and honestly my biggest piece of advice to you is to stop making such a mountain out of sex in your mind. Yes its a good thing we humans get to enjoy but after I lost my virginity I had to go to w…
/r/seduction21/04/15 06:48 PM
1

Who is 'Superflirt' written by? There are a couple guides named that floating around the web.
/r/seduction18/04/15 07:59 PM
1

I grew some stubble/slight goatee to better define my jaw. Also seriously work on your inner game/confidence and I promise you will get girls.
/r/seduction18/04/15 07:57 PM
3

I feel its better to just build rapport and escalate versus making formal 'I want to date you' declarations. Some women get scared off by that kind of thing. As far as kissing her, look her in the eye and kiss her when the two of you are having a nice moment. Don't overthink it, kissing is not rocket science, its kissing!
/r/seduction16/04/15 02:40 AM
1

Just do what you have to do man. Whatever time is left after that allocate an amount of it towards dating. You also could try studying at coffee shops or public places where your chances for meeting women are good. I'm self-employed and regularly go to coffeeshops to work and have met some really cool people this way.
/r/seduction12/04/15 12:53 PM
2

Yes and last time it happened was about a week after a terrible date. She tried to re-connect but in my mind she broke the boundaries for behavior I deemed acceptable. I ignored her and moved on.
/r/seduction12/04/15 12:49 PM
2

For starters you sound more 'nice guy' than 'alpha'. You've been tutoring her for this long and still have yet to make a move? Take it as a learning experience and move on. Oh and stop calling yourself alpha until you are pulling game like Don Draper. One must be aware of their own limitations before they can improve. Labeling oneself as competent in an area so lacking is self-deception at its finest. You see this at jobs where its obvious to everyone but the actual employee in question that the…
/r/seduction07/04/15 12:35 PM
1

Mmmm passive agressive.
/r/seduction07/04/15 12:19 PM
1

I am going say shes going for option C
/r/seduction07/04/15 12:04 PM
1

You got it.
/r/seduction06/04/15 02:00 PM
2

Great job man. Sounds like you were confident and escalated perfectly.Be sure to buy that roommate a beer.... or two... or three!
/r/seduction06/04/15 12:31 AM
3

Ask her out now! The longer you wait the higher the likelihood of her losing interest or someone like me swooping in and making her forget all about you ;)
/r/seduction05/04/15 05:45 PM
1

I used to think the same way. In my opinion this particular mindset is motivated ultimately by a fear of rejection. Just assume attraction and make a move. You mention about life being short and not wanting to waste time. Its a much bigger time waster playing detective vs going for the kiss. If you try to kiss her and she is not interested in you, things will be made clear very fast. Then you can stop wasting time and move on. The amount of success I've had with women has greatly increased since…
/r/seduction05/04/15 03:43 PM
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Don't be the dancing monkey. Be fun but also learn to temper ones personality with a serious side. I was chatting with this gorgeous girl about two weeks ago. I was physically attracted to her but honestly she was too much of a goofball. Yes it was funny at times but it started to become a bit embarrassing/un-attractive. I couldn't help but wonder if this was what I was like years ago. That kind of behavior might work in high school but its the kiss of death IMO when you are an adult.
/r/seduction05/04/15 03:33 PM
1

I love hosting for people so I always have white and red wine available in addition to beer. Liquor wise I have several types of whiskeys (Scotch scotch scotch...) and some gin. I would get your hands on some Tequila. I have heard from several women over the years that Tequila makes them horny. Not alcohol but I find its always good to have good tea and coffee available in case your guest isn't in the mood for more drinks.
/r/seduction05/04/15 03:22 PM
2

Just bail. This chick sounds crazy!
/r/seduction05/04/15 03:18 PM
1

Very good post. Thanks OP!
/r/seduction05/04/15 03:06 PM
1

Its like something out of a movie that I could actually see working in real life. Will try on my next date. Bravo!
/r/seduction03/04/15 01:38 AM
49

A good starting point would be to drop that "forever alone" mindset.
/r/seduction01/04/15 12:26 AM
2

Sounds genuine to me. If she wasn't she would have not offered to reschedule especially in such a friendly playful manner.
/r/seduction28/03/15 03:48 PM
1

I work in film & TV production and get to work around some really attractive women. You'd be surprised how average or even physically un-attractive some of their partners are. I will say the impression you can make on a woman when you demonstrate you aren't intimidated by her beauty is amazing. This sets you apart because the average man definitely is. IMO there is a certain value to be had from reading the signs, but you really should at that point just assume attraction and see what happens. I…
/r/seduction27/03/15 02:30 PM
1

Its up to you whether or not you want to date someone from your place of work. Honestly if you are interested you need to get off the internet and just make a move. This to me is an example of a 'nice guy' behavior that I myself used to exhibit. You are probably consciously or sub-consciously afraid of failure to the point that you won't make a move unless you discover its a sure thing. If you want something take a risk and go for it because there is no such thing as a sure thing. Failure is by …
/r/seduction25/03/15 07:27 PM
1

Don't be a fool. Cover your tool!
/r/seduction25/03/15 07:21 PM
1

I do agree generally with what you are saying. When I first started things might have felt a little robotic or canned. However overtime it all becomes second nature to you and you develop your own new natural social style.
/r/seduction25/03/15 01:13 PM
2

What did you tell her? Sometimes girls play a little hard to get. I once tried to kiss a girl at a bar and she turned away and turned it into a hug. I was banging her later that night. Cat and mouse man, cat and mouse ;)
/r/seduction24/03/15 03:06 PM
2

I mean some girls flirt to ridiculous lengths just to get attention and nothing more.
/r/seduction24/03/15 03:06 PM
3

I'm a firm believer of the 'fake it till you make it' concept. Like for me I used to be deficient in the area of building a connection. I had to read some books, glean some technique, and make an effort to practice. Eventually my behavior changed and this is now who I genuinely am. You gotta start somewhere.
/r/seduction24/03/15 02:02 PM
1

Dude she's definitely interested in you! (Unless she is just one of those girls that likes to tease guys). If you are interested in her just hang out with her again, get close, and kiss her.
/r/seduction24/03/15 01:56 PM
1

Taking a genuine interest in others and becoming an active listener is a great place to start. There is a scene in the movie 'Boyhood' where the father and the son are talking about girls. I'm paraphrasing but he basically tells his son 'Just listen to her and ask lots of questions'. Typically any relationship (Sexual or platonic) will begin with small talk. As you build rapport, eventually the discussion will enter into more personal territory. Think about it, you don't share your life's story …
/r/seduction24/03/15 01:52 PM
4

I used to work for a large corporate insurance company. We had like 500 people working at that location and guess what ? The CEO was a short guy probably around 5'5" as well. His height didn't matter. When he walked in the room he had a fantastic personality and was very charismatic. I'm 5'11" and this guy is still way more alpha than me (Though I'm catching up). Honestly you can't change your height so you might as well stop worrying about it and start living.
/r/seduction24/03/15 01:21 AM
1

I feel a little social lubricate is perfectly acceptable. However you should work on yourself and your confidence to the point where you can chat up anyone anywhere. If you are silent without booze then you definitely have your work cut out for you.
/r/seduction21/03/15 02:20 PM
3

To prevent this from happening again in the future you should learn to control yourself by not forming emotional attachments prematurely. You should have not let your emotions gone this far with someone that isn't receptive. Don't feel too bad about it though.We've all been there. Live and learn.
/r/seduction21/03/15 02:08 PM
17

Good job. A man with confidence will eject when they realize they are with a person that doesn't suit them.
/r/seduction21/03/15 01:46 PM
1

We've all been in that place where you see that gorgeous waitress or bartender and you say to yourself 'wow, I'd like to get her number but that will never happen'. Don't be too hard on yourself as confidence takes time to cultivate. Things like assuming attraction and training yourself to be outcome-independent are definitely helpful. However there is a level of confidence that only comes from experience and achieving success. Keep refining your technique but remember to continue putting yourse…
/r/seduction20/03/15 03:41 PM
-1

Start talking about sex when the opportunity arises. 'Its kinda like the first time I bought condoms. I mean which one was I suppose to buy? Extreme pleasure? Lubricated? Ribbed? Strawberry-flavored? Haha good thing eventually little boys grow up ;) '
/r/seduction20/03/15 01:00 AM
1

Just genuinely trying to satisfy my own curiosity. I say if you like the girl make a move. If not just laugh it off and ignore it.
/r/seduction19/03/15 01:58 PM
1

If you have feelings for her why not turn it into a relationship?
/r/seduction18/03/15 07:31 PM
1

This used to be me in spades and what was the end result? I never got laid. Surprise? Nowadays I still have a sense of humor and can be silly from time to time, but its all much more in balance. I'll make a girl laugh and have a good time with her friends, but then I'll pull her away and have a serious conversation. Don't be a dancing monkey fellas.
/r/seduction18/03/15 07:28 PM
2

Thanks mom.
/r/seduction18/03/15 07:23 PM
-5

How old are you? I'm 28 and haven't had something like this happen since HS.
/r/seduction18/03/15 07:22 PM
1

If it works for you then great. However I would shy away from this myself. In western society the social norm is for men to pursue the woman. This is one of many reasons why nice guys never get laid because they are always waiting for the woman to take initiative. Most women simply will not do this. In fact I have heard many women say 'if I guy doesn't have the confidence to ask me for my number then he's not worth it' or even 'its the guys job to pursue the girl'.
/r/seduction17/03/15 07:37 PM
1

If you got the skills you can make even the most boring of activities fun for a lady.
/r/seduction17/03/15 07:27 PM
1

Watch your body language when you see her. Clingy guys tend to have needy body language. In practice this looks like always orienting your body towards her,reacting to her every move, leaning in too much, etc.
/r/seduction15/03/15 02:01 PM
2

It sure makes for a memorable story.
/r/seduction09/03/15 05:30 PM
1

Thats how it works!
/r/seduction09/03/15 03:11 PM
1

No its not too late. Around age 26 I stopped practicing christianity and became an agnostic. Up until that point the majority of my friendships were based around the church and other activities related to the religion. When news got out that I was no longer a christian my circle of friends began to crumble. I am 28 now and am in the process of moving to a new city and am making new friends. My biggest piece of advice is to get involved in activities that have the potential to connect you with pe…
/r/seduction09/03/15 03:11 PM
2

After you land your first kiss and the two of you are making out, be the first to pull away. This sub-communicates that you aren't needy. Desperate guys tend to get really clingy once they start kissing. Almost like a baby wanting their bottle back.
/r/seduction09/03/15 02:49 PM
1

To me my goal is to be a confident man that goes for what he wants and has a strong internal locus of control. You should read 'No More Mister Nice Guy' by Robert Glover for a better understanding on the whole 'nice guy' concept. . Also remember the journey from nice guy to a guy women want does not happen over night. It takes time for you to build new momentum and become congruent. For instance the old me would have turned into a puppy dog as soon as I met some resistance this past Saturday nig…
/r/seduction08/03/15 09:24 PM
1

I just found out yesterday that this girl in my circle of friends is totally into this guy she regularly hangs out with. However she is super shy and doesn't know how to telegraph the interest. Honestly if you hang out with all of us you would never suspect she had a thing for him. Just goes to show you that just never know when a woman might be attracted to you.
/r/seduction03/03/15 10:22 PM
1

And these phrases work both ways. Last year a girl messaged me late one night and said 'Hey, you should come over and watch Game of Thrones at my place' . Twenty minutes later the clothes were coming off...
/r/seduction03/03/15 09:16 PM
2

It's meant to be a comedy. As far as reality goes are you saying you've never been in a situation where a woman was interested in you but you were completely oblivious to her advances?
/r/seduction03/03/15 09:12 PM
1

It could be fear of sex or being vulnerable with a person. Another thing it could be is you are waiting for a 'perfect person' that just doesn't exist. When I was younger I talked myself out of pursuing plenty of good women. The result? I had no girlfriends, was a virgin, and hardly ever had dates. Remember no matter who you date they are always going to have flaws. You have them and I have them too. The decision you have to make is whether or not the person overall is someone you are attracted …
/r/seduction02/03/15 04:22 PM
1

Keep trucking my man!
/r/seduction02/03/15 04:11 PM
3

Even the most experienced and accomplished persons were at one point a rookie. Everyone starts with the same score.
/r/seduction02/03/15 04:10 PM
1

Well you have to realize that people carry different expectations as to the specifics of what a relationship should look like. For instance some people believe that the man ALWAYS has to pay. While more modern views on dating don't tend to practice that. IMO you should do what you feel is right and let the critics be damned. If a girl thinks you are cheap because you feel a 50/50 payment is more fair, then you probably aren't with the right girl for you.
/r/seduction28/02/15 09:47 PM
1

Flirting, touching,holding hands, playful inuedos, kissing,suggestive eye contact etc
/r/seduction28/02/15 09:40 PM
1

So you guys are talking about sex "a lot" but she says she doesn't wan't to "rush things". Sounds like she is the one in control of the relationship. How many dates have you guys been on? I had a buddy of mine given the rules on like the first date by the girl. Because she gave him the rules he was afraid to escalate and thus behaved like just a friend on all the dates. Of course 6-7 dates later he was thrown into the friendzone hard. Your situation doesn't seem as bad but remember that women ar…
/r/seduction28/02/15 03:16 PM
3

Well you've kinda already set the precedent that you are the bank of the relationship. If you believe that splitting is the way you want to go you should have done this right from the start. Its as simple as saying 'Lets split this' or when the waiter comes 'please split the check?'. Don't stop to explain to the girl why you split it, just do! Continue on with whatever you were talking about.
/r/seduction28/02/15 03:09 PM
2

And if she says 'aww no thanks'. Break the wrist and walk away...
/r/seduction28/02/15 03:04 PM
1

Its not better because if you have your own place you can escalate right there and bang right on the couch.
/r/seduction28/02/15 12:27 AM
1

Sharing apartment. I will have my own private room.
/r/seduction27/02/15 05:23 PM
6

Use a soft touch. Pursue her with dates and situations that make her feel comfortable. The last shy girl I dated for a bit was so nervous and shy that she messaged a few mutual friends of ours to make sure I wasn't a creep before even going on a first date. I also find with the shy ones you usually have to do most of the talking for longer until she gets comfortable with you. This is a pain in the ass , but it must be done. Also active dates that create natural pauses in the conversation (bowlin…
/r/seduction25/02/15 11:46 PM
1

You: You look like you do something creative Her:Yea Im an actress You: Stage? Film? Her: Mostly stage, though I'd like to get into film and TV eventually. You: Oh cool. So this actress friend of mine from back home told me this story about how the other male lead ate garlic before the big kissing scene to get back at her for a prank she did. That ever happen to you? Her: Eww gross! and No ,thank god!! You: I bet you wouldn't be brave enough to try a prank on me. Her: Be careful, I can be mischi…
/r/seduction25/02/15 02:18 PM
1

What do you say after "hello" to old friends? Talk about anything you want. Its really not that complicated.
/r/seduction25/02/15 02:05 PM
1

I find with daygame its all about being friendly and getting to know the person whilst escalating when appropriate. Hook points take awhile to achieve so you have to kinda keep chatting till it happens. Think about it. When you meet a random person you usually aren't automatically interested in them as a person. Usually the interaction begins with random small talk and will end unless the two of you find a solid commonality. Some of my closest friendships began this way. This doesn't always happ…
/r/seduction25/02/15 12:12 AM
1

No. Learning about each other comes after the initial introduction.
/r/seduction24/02/15 12:32 AM
2

The other problem is since change is not an instant process, we sometimes feel like we haven't improved much at all when we self evaluate. Honestly some days I still feel like the same timid person I used to be. But then people I haven't seen in years will comment about how much more confident I seem since the last time they saw me. Surrounding yourself with people that will encourage the new you is also helpful.
/r/seduction23/02/15 09:44 PM
2

5-10 minutes is really not too long. From my experience I feel if you don't invest in a decent connection before getting the phone number you greatly increase your chances of a flake. Who do you think she is more likely to go on a date with? A random guy at a coffeeshop who she hardly knows anything about but got swept into giving her number? Or a fun guy who loves to travel, is writing a screenplay, values family, and has in common a love for photography? I agree asking for the number couldn't …
/r/seduction23/02/15 03:05 PM
2

Hmm as far as showing intent/interest what would you have done? I think a guy walking across a coffee shop to talk to a girl definitely sub communicates interest and intent. I feel girls tend to know when they are being hit on even when its indirect (unless they are socially inept) To me the major hook point is when the woman begins to start adding to the conversation vs me having to be constantly provide the statements/questions which drive the conversation. From my experience this usually take…
/r/seduction23/02/15 05:30 AM
2

This is spot on. Confidence takes time to build, but once it does it will radiate from you. People will get the vibe that you won't tolerate bullshit and eventually they will stop trying to walk over you.
/r/seduction23/02/15 04:29 AM
2

Ya I think you are right. Its all practice and I will strive to do better next time.
/r/seduction23/02/15 04:23 AM
1

Good guide. My whole take on the buying a drink thing really depends on how the whole interaction is initiated and framed. Is she some random girl that right out of the gate is like ' Hey lover boy, buy me drink?' or is she some person you are genuinely chatting/connecting with? The former is just there to leech off suckers, the latter I'll do out of generosity typically before she even asks. Also with the second type I find usually at some point later in the night she'll end up buying me a drin…
/r/seduction19/02/15 01:32 AM
6

I love people like that. That would be awesome to have a neighbor like that could show you the keys to the kingdom...
/r/seduction17/02/15 08:55 PM
3

I'm 28 and only read this book in the last year. I feel you bro. Thankfully my life has changed drastically for the better. Don't worry we still have many good years left to enjoy ourselves :)
/r/seduction17/02/15 03:34 PM
5

The commonly used term of 'Nice guy' has nothing to do with how you actually treat people. 'Nice guys' are those men who chronically get described by women as 'Well he's a nice guy, but I just want to be friends'. There are a whole cadre of behaviors typically associated with 'nice guys'. Usually they revolve around various manifestations of passivity.
/r/seduction17/02/15 02:54 PM
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This book has greatly helped me. Highly recommended.
/r/seduction17/02/15 02:50 PM
1

My whole thinking on the stats goes back to the concept of "Practice makes perfect" vs "PERFECT practice makes perfect". I feel the quality of the practice is more important than the quantity. I'm no Brad Pitt and still relatively new to the whole seduction thing, but I would say out of the last 15 women I dated 10 were k-closes and 2 were f-closes. I Probably could have gotten closer to 4 f-closes if my escalation game were tighter. I kinda wonder if a woman can sub-consciously senses a person …
/r/seduction16/02/15 05:12 PM
1

Enjoying the course so far. Thankyou OP!!
/r/seduction15/02/15 06:08 PM
1

In your opinion how much do things like looks, personality, status/wealth impact your overall attraction to a person? Does one have a greater impact than the others?
/r/seduction15/02/15 03:34 PM
1

Just go out with friends like any other night and have fun!
/r/seduction15/02/15 12:08 AM
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I have to give the guy credit for his perseverance! 72 approaches to get 1 F-close sure is a lot of work!
/r/seduction14/02/15 09:56 PM
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Honestly you are still young enough where you can get away with not having those things. You are 21 and in college. No one (let alone a college girl) expects you to be financially independent. Just do something simple like go for a walk, get something to eat on campus, look at silly books at the library, watch a movie on your laptop, Etc. If you have any money coming in, start saving for a car if you can.Now I'm 28, so a little older than you. One thing I would tell my younger self if I could wo…
/r/seduction14/02/15 05:05 PM
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I used to do this when I was younger. You need to learn to exhibit control over your emotions. Nothing wrong with emotions however I can almost guarantee that you aren't actually "falling in love" with these girls. You hardly know these girls thus highly unlikely you have have formed a genuine two way connection in which love exists. Most likely what is happening is you are slipping into obsession fueled by an underlying fear of abandonment. Read 'No More Mr. Nice Guy' by Robert Glover.
/r/seduction13/02/15 06:38 PM
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For starters you need to stop thinking women are just going to walk up and open for you. Yes its possible, but culturally we as men are the pursuers. Thus its our job to take the initiative and pursue. In fact I have heard many times from several female friends 'Asking us out is the guys job. Plus if he doesn't have the courage to ask me out he's probably not worth it'. If you are interested in someone while you have headphones on just take them out and start talking. Also if the girl has headph…
/r/seduction13/02/15 03:12 PM
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You should be able to perform either way. However I do find it easier when I've had a little to drink. Just enough to take the edge off but not enough for you to get drunk. You just need to plow through sober man.
/r/seduction13/02/15 02:55 PM
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Just pick the one you are most interested in and see what happens. It sounds like to me you are afraid of failure as you are quite fixated on knowing the outcome before making an attempt. I've f-closed women that gave clear IOIs and also ones that didn't give any.
/r/seduction12/02/15 07:20 PM
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I find its also a good idea to demonstrate that you have a serious side. So yes be the fun guy and make her laugh, escalate sexually,etc but if you want to build a deeper connection you have to do just that. Actually connect on a deeper level. A good way is to work on being an active listener and leading the conversation beyond the shallow territory of typical small talk. Have a heart to heart. Good luck
/r/seduction12/02/15 06:36 PM
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I agree. A lot of pop culture and religious groups teach you that sex will totally change your life. But really the only thing that changed was that I now had sex. Other than that the song remained the same.
/r/seduction09/02/15 02:52 PM
5

Move on.
/r/seduction09/02/15 01:18 AM
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I wouldn't share that information. It comes off a very desperate as it basically translates to 'Please, feel sorry for me. I haven't had sex for so long and I'm so eager to end my dry spell with you'. Women are attracted to confidence not need. A classic move from the nice guy playbook is to try and make the girl feel sorry for you in hopes she will comply. A friend of mine recently got friend-zoned and his response to her ' I just want to be friends' was this desperate verbal diarrhea of 'Whoa …
/r/seduction08/02/15 09:44 PM
2

By failing shit tests. So I am a regular at this local cafe. I've done some promotional work for them and am on a first name basis with all the staff. This one girl has a very strong personality and is always giving shit tests to the men around her. Today she sees me sneeze into a tissue and goes 'What!? You just put that tissue back into your pocket like an 80 year old man!'. The older seeking approval/validation version of myself would have totally gotten into defensive mode and tried to expla…
/r/seduction08/02/15 08:09 PM
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You gotta just push thru and neg your dates like you would your other female friends.
/r/seduction06/02/15 08:47 PM
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Wait you have feelings for her after just one date? I hate to say it but if thats the case this certainly is an alarm bell that you are probably a clingy or needy person. I use to do the same thing when I was younger and let me tell you there is almost nothing less attractive to a woman. Now there is nothing wrong with developing feelings for a person when appropriate. But think about it like this, you barely know the person and yet you are letting yourself form an emotional connection this fast…
/r/seduction06/02/15 12:46 AM
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Ya it sounds like a classic shit test. I would have answered "you are sick" with 'OMG you are right! You should probably come over and check my temperature ;)' This technique is called agree and amplify. You could also have ignored her statement altogether and directed the conversation somewhere else. When you answered back with "why" you allowed yourself to be pulled into her frame which sub-communicates lower value.
/r/seduction06/02/15 12:30 AM
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Ya seriously. Losing 100lbs is quite the accomplishment!
/r/seduction06/02/15 12:20 AM
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I feel this way a lot when I interact with my best friend since the third grade (We are no in our late 20s) Theres nothing wrong with leading or feeling there is a better way. Just make sure you don't get sucked into the trap of always trying to fix people that don't have any real interest in improving. I am curious what resources helped you on the journey of where you are today?
/r/seduction06/02/15 12:19 AM
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Of course its limiting. However everyone has limitations and you just have to make the best of it. Also I agree with the other people on here in that you are a college student. Pretty much everyone at college is broke unless they come from parents that give them lots of money. Go and find fun things to do that don't require lots of money. Invite her over to watch a movie on a laptop, etc.
/r/seduction05/02/15 05:42 PM
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Ideas: Fly a kite if its a windy day Comedy club - You are both laughing which creates all kinds of good chemicals inside your brains. Art Gallery - I have had some great dates coming up with all kinds of fun interpretations of the art before us. Pool halls, ping pong, etc Flea Market - Farmers market. Looking at random stuff is fun! Toy store - Make her feel like a kid again Bowling - Most major cities now have bowling alleys that feature good drinks/food and only allow 21+ after a certain time…
/r/seduction05/02/15 01:01 AM
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A guaranteed way to get her in the shower...
/r/seduction05/02/15 12:49 AM
2

Good one!
/r/seduction05/02/15 12:46 AM
1

You should have asked her to join the mile high club. The instructor obviously did. Beta-mistake ;P
/r/seduction05/02/15 12:45 AM
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Body language is important when making first contact with ANYONE. Some body language tips Smile - not too big of a smile though. Sometimes a little smirk is just what the doctor ordered Eye contact - Keep good eye contact with the person. I would advise against the whole 'you have to hold eye contact until they break it first method. This can be perceived as being "creepy" to some folks. 5 - 7 seconds eye contact is a pretty good target to aim for. Good posture Open body language - Don't cross y…
/r/seduction05/02/15 12:13 AM
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I go for the playful teasing route. Honestly in some context some of the things I say could be considered mean but its all about your tone and timing. It has to come from the vibe of 'Hey I'm a confident, fun guy that just so happens to just be teasing you a little'. Think about when you hang out with a good friend. You often will "neg"on each other but it never comes off as being actually mean. If you are failing to connect or generate any kind of rapport then negging will usually blow up in yo…
/r/seduction04/02/15 12:12 AM
2

Young PUAs, do not get in the back of that van...
/r/seduction04/02/15 12:03 AM
1

It's obviously not my place to tell somebody what to do as there are so many complexities to any given situation that get missed on an internet forum. However I will say that moving out will not address the issue and is ultimately a form of running away from your problems. My sister did this and to this day still has communication issues with my parents. One thing to consider when dealing with your parents is the manner in which you confront someone. You can make the same statement but get diffe…
/r/seduction01/02/15 09:27 PM
1

Just bare in mind that a persons preferences are unique to every individual. I tend to lean more towards girls who are on the artsy/nerdy side vs your typical 'hot chick' vibe. I just had a date on Thursday with actress/model I met recently who was your typical girly girl. Nice enough person, just wasn't what I was looking for.
/r/seduction01/02/15 05:14 PM
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I recommend reading 'No More Mister Nice Guy' by Dr. Robert Glover. Its honestly going to be a bit of a journey but change is totally possible! I like you was raised in a similar household which lead me to have my own issues with passivity, etc. Thankfully you have taken the first step in realizing that you are a 'nice guy'. One important thing is you need to learn to not be afraid of confrontation when it is necessary. My mother to this day can act bitchy towards my dad. Naturally me and her us…
/r/seduction30/01/15 11:05 PM
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Just be sure you don't go over board with the humor. I used to end up falling into the territory of silly. I've since learned that women want a man with a sense of humor, not a clown. Just my two cents. Oh and PS you could also check out like a book or two on comedy writing.
/r/seduction28/01/15 09:58 PM
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You could also watch a film on a laptop. I did this once and it works well because the smaller screen encourages the two of you to move close. You could say 'Hey lets go back to my place and spin some vinyl' or 'I have a great bottle of... we should try some of it'. Another option is to play some board games or look at some photography books, etc. If shes a gamer girl you could invite her to play xBox.The sky is really the limit. If shes into you really won't need much of a carrot to draw her in…
/r/seduction28/01/15 12:24 AM
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The whole Manson method of compliments is indeed useful. I was out last week with a group of friends and among them was this new girl I found attractive. Later in the night while we are at the dinner table I lean in and whispered in her ear "You are really cute, you know that?" Here response was she smiled big, started blushing and said 'Aw, thanks. I don't know I think I'm kinda awkward'. The end result? She wants just the two of us to go out for drinks next time I'm in the city. I practice vul…
/r/seduction27/01/15 04:56 PM
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Sounds like to me you just got nervous and wimped out. Its ok man, I have done this many time before in the past. Getting comfortable with your sexuality is part of growing up. Do this. Schedule another hang out when you know you and her can be alone. Tell her 'Hey you should come back to my place and watch this amazing movie blah blah blah'. Sit down together and start watching the movie (Nothing too weird. You don't want to kill the mood now). Girls are really good at picking up on the signals…
/r/seduction26/01/15 12:02 AM
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Success breeds confidence. You need more successful experiences with escalating up the sexual ladder. When I first began my seduction journey I was extremely nervous to even go in for the kiss. However the more you do it the more comfortable you will get with the process. I know for me personally part of my sexual hangups originated from my religious upbringing. As far as being bad at sex there are resources and sections of reddit that are better suited at helping you in this area.
/r/seduction25/01/15 11:42 PM
1

It could be worse. A good friend of mine is like 32 and has never kissed a girl. Christians and their fear of sex...
/r/seduction25/01/15 06:50 PM
9

Why I never drink to the point where I'm no longer "functional"
/r/seduction25/01/15 06:47 PM
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I have had people in my circle of friends that have paired up and ended up getting married. There is always a risk that pursuing someone romantically could alter the dynamic of your friends circle, however if you genuinely dig this girl you owe it to yourself to give it a try. Theres a saying I have which goes "You can't win em' all, but you can't win any if you don't try". Also if you guys are good friends and things don't work out its also very possible for things to return to normal given eno…
/r/seduction24/01/15 06:28 PM
1

Why do you care so much about what other people think?
/r/seduction24/01/15 06:23 PM
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"Hi my name is... And I must say, you look like a girl who knows how to handle a sausage." In all seriousness pickup lines are bullshit. Focus on building connection/rapport instead of canned lines.
/r/seduction24/01/15 06:22 PM
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To me this sounds like a guaranteed DTF situation. You would have to do something pretty awful at this point to screw things up.
/r/seduction24/01/15 06:17 PM
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When you are starting to hang out with her and her friends this is a good indicator of things moving from dating to an actual relationship. If this is indeed your intention it is a good idea for you to engage socially with her friends and make a good first impression. Don't be that quiet withdrawn guy thats hanging out with our friend. Introduce yourself and be a part of whats happening. Doesn't mean you have to be the center of attention but at least let us know you are alive! Honestly I hate n…
/r/seduction23/01/15 11:10 PM
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i'm a nice guy :( I'm so sorry
/r/seduction23/01/15 03:21 PM
2

Don't read into it. Just set up a date and see what happens. The whole big texting exercise prior to a date is waste of time because what is going to determine your success is not how great your texts are but rather how well the two of you connect in person. You have probably heard the classic nice guy complaint of 'I don't understand. We wrote back and forth for two weeks and had good conversation but could hardly get her to talk on the date'. Also something to consider. How concerned a person …
/r/seduction23/01/15 03:11 PM
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Theres a saying 'a woman will forgive you for being too aggressive, but never for being timid'
/r/seduction19/01/15 04:29 PM
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It means kiss kiss. I was dating a british girl for awhile when I lived in London and one thing she complained about was how I didn't X's. I told her I was American and we dont do that shit...
/r/seduction19/01/15 03:02 AM
1

Try both and see what works best for you. I've had success with both methods.
/r/seduction12/01/15 08:18 PM
1

You can meet anyone and any time any day.
/r/seduction12/01/15 08:15 PM
1

Did you at least get her name?
/r/seduction12/01/15 08:12 PM
0

Lol white knights are usually the ones covered in the most shit.
/r/seduction09/01/15 11:10 PM
1

A lot of nice guys when on dates ask the girl for permission for literally everything they do. 'Shall we check this section of the store?' 'Do you wanna watch a movie?' 'Do wanna listen to the radio' 'Do you mind if I hold your hand' 'Do you mind if I kiss you' A friend of mine is the classic nice guy and even when I hang out with him hes always asking my permission to do things. I tell him all the time 'Dude, You don't have to ask my permission for every single thing you do!'
/r/seduction09/01/15 11:09 PM
2

Hey its all practice my friend. If you learn from your mistakes, mistakes ultimately become tools for your journey. Good luck
/r/seduction06/01/15 10:39 PM
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Not sure exactly what you did after she mentioned she had a boyfriend. Did you drop it and walk off immediately? Whenever I encounter this situation I don't let it kill my vibe. I continue to be friendly and let the conversation dwindle off naturally. If you pack up and leave the first moment you get the boyfriend issue it makes you look like a puppy with its tail between its legs. A confident holds his frame no matter what is happening around him. All and all awesome job for asking her out. She…
/r/seduction06/01/15 10:08 PM
5

Considering most of my friends create event pages even for private social gatherings, I would be going to a lot less parties if it weren't for facebook.
/r/seduction06/01/15 06:02 PM
1

Ya If I'm not attracted to said person I honestly would rather be home reading a book, hitting the gym, visiting friends, watching a movie etc.
/r/seduction05/01/15 08:59 PM
0

This
/r/seduction05/01/15 08:58 PM
1

I agree. Framing sex in manner like the OP described is really just a form of manipulation. I mean you can tease and have fun with it, but sex isn't something you should be genuinely trying to control someone with.
/r/seduction05/01/15 03:43 PM
2

And this is where I buy the man a beer!
/r/seduction03/01/15 05:22 PM
1

It helped me out a lot as a person. Inner growth makes you a more stable confident person which improves every aspect of ones life. Good luck on the journey!
/r/seduction31/12/14 03:05 PM
2

"Gaming style" is just a term we use around here for the philosophy or method of initiating a potential romantic connection with the opposite sex. You do realize this is a forum about seduction right? If these discussions make you feel uncomfortable I suppose you could go back to getting dating advice from your mom... As far as the kind of women I've been dating how about a chemical engineer, a model, a TED speaker, and most recently psychology grad student? Not a bad 2014.
/r/seduction31/12/14 03:03 PM
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Awesome book. I've read it twice. Honestly that and 'No More Mr. Nice Guy' are the two books that formed the foundation of my gaming style.
/r/seduction31/12/14 02:29 AM
1

My friend who basically is the cougar whisperer does really well by going to cover band gigs that play 80s music. Just be warned that if you go too far down the cougar path you might only develop skills for getting older women versus someone you'd actually want a long-term relationship with (If that is ultimately your goal). My friend has been on the cougar road for so long now that hes having trouble getting women closer to his age!
/r/seduction31/12/14 02:24 AM
1

The Tao of Steve
/r/seduction29/12/14 08:35 PM
1

A good habit to get into when you encounter someone you are strongly attracted to is polarize the situation. Meaning make your intentions clear that you have romantic/sexual interest and let her decide. Don't fall into the classic nice guy trap of hanging around , waiting patiently for the day when 'she sees your the one'.
/r/seduction26/12/14 06:23 PM
1

Just a casual assessment. I don't know how confident you realistically are based on the situation you've described. We as individuals tend to rate our competency in certain areas as higher than they actually are (See Dunning-Kruger effect). This is why having external assessment is essential for ones personal development. I can totally relate to your situation as I have had my fair share of long term crushes when I was younger. You need to get out of the habit of forming emotional attachments wh…
/r/seduction26/12/14 06:17 PM
2

I agree. Weird conversation to have with your sisters.
/r/seduction26/12/14 05:36 PM
1

IMO its all about becoming a secure, confident, well rounded person. When you genuinely are that person everything you do will be accompanied with an air of confidence. This is the true 'inner game' everyone talks about. Its not silly routines or other corny tricks, its living your life from a stable inner foundation. From that place I can communicate to a women sexual intent or even a desire to want more from a relationship with being needy. This however does take time to development (like a mu…
/r/seduction24/12/14 04:41 PM
0

I agree with this. You don't need no $50k to live decently on your own.
/r/seduction22/12/14 08:38 PM
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Getting started in any field can be tough. However if you want something bad enough you will find a way. Me I just kept knocking on doors, trying anything I could to get potential clients attention. Eventually I got my first breakthroughs and let the momentum build from there. Unfortunately this is just the stage of life you are at. Learn to be content whilst working towards your goals. Remember, focusing on the things you don't have is a guaranteed recipe for unhappiness. Embrace the now.
/r/seduction22/12/14 08:33 PM
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I personally would focus on improving your financial situation before focusing on pickup. I too live at home and have religious parents that would not be too happy if I brought a girl home for the night. I however have a car and a decent income (Im still living at home because the lower cost of living makes it easier for me to pay off the startup costs of my business. This is also a good way of framing to a girl why I live at home). Typically my lays have been at locations other than where I liv…
/r/seduction22/12/14 06:18 PM
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She wasn't drunk the whole time man. She decided to skip work and go for another fuck in the morning. Sounds like to me this man did his job.
/r/seduction22/12/14 06:08 PM
2

Someone on their phone a lot doesn't mean a thing. Its 2014 man! Everyone is always on their phone (for the most part). The secret to pickup/connecting with people,etc is simple... BUILD A CONNECTION WITH THE PERSON YOU WANT TO CONNECT WITH. The last bar tender I dated things unfolded like this. We started with random chit chat and then onto some banter over the course of a number of visits. Eventually I started peppering our conversations with genuine topics (heart to heart kind of stuff). For …
/r/seduction21/12/14 10:30 PM
2

And yet I still get numbers from waitresses. Amazing huh?
/r/seduction21/12/14 10:06 PM
2

I agree. If your friend is a "natural" you should keep hanging out with him and learn his ways.
/r/seduction14/12/14 09:34 PM
2

Hate to say it but if she shacked up that quickly with him theres a good chance you read the signals wrong and she was never really interested in you. Its like this one time I was in high school. My best friend was all about this girl and would constantly talk about the progress he was making with her etc. I meet said girl in a social setting (with my friend present) and she was totally all over me making my friend really jealous. The next day he was upset because 'I stole his girl' but the real…
/r/seduction14/12/14 09:32 PM
1

I guess it depends on how you view seduction. I like to think that though a person can get rusty, seduction is like riding a bicycle. Also I feel a man that can say no to sex and go for what he wants is ultimately more attractive than a well "practiced" man.
/r/seduction14/12/14 02:02 AM
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This sounds good on the surface but this really is dating advice you get from your Mom. I'm an entrepreneur and one thing I've learned is the stark difference between HOW I SEE MYSELF versus HOW OTHERS SEE ME. The best thing to do is to ask both male and female friends who you know will give you an honest answer what kind of vibe do you give off. I did this before and I realized that I came off at times as cold, intimidating, and even a bit snobbish. The immediately made it difficult for me when…
/r/seduction14/12/14 12:13 AM
1

Sounds like you aren't that interested in the women you've been meeting. Nothing wrong with that. I would start considering what you are experiencing to be a problem when you can't seal the deal for someone you truly want.
/r/seduction14/12/14 12:00 AM
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I know that sometimes really strong type A personality types can unintentionally come off as aggressive or intense. I would ask a male friend that you know will be honest with you what kind of vibe you give off. We tend to think we are more competent than we actually. Thats why external input is key.
/r/seduction12/12/14 06:41 PM
1

SO STUPID! I don't need an app to approach attractive women. Thats what I have balls for.
/r/seduction06/12/14 12:35 AM
1

Its all practice my friend :)
/r/seduction04/12/14 04:00 PM
1

I'm the total opposite of this. I look at women holistically.
/r/seduction03/12/14 10:43 PM
2

You did good by being direct. In person is typically preferred but you polarized the situation and now you can move your pursuits onto someone else. Don't be one of those 'nice guys' that hover around a girl pretending to just like her as a friend hoping for the moment 'when her eyes open' and she'll see how you are actually BF material.
/r/seduction03/12/14 10:34 PM
1

I used to be religious and I know the lingering guilt from my past life was a bit of a hinderance for me getting laid. Thankfully I've mostly kicked that habit.
/r/seduction03/12/14 12:04 AM
1

Thats why you don't fish too much from the same pond ;)
/r/seduction03/12/14 12:00 AM
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I would only ditch the friend if he kept doing things after I made it clear that his actions were bothering me. A true friend would stop.
/r/seduction01/12/14 10:45 PM
5

Tell your friend to knock it off. I had a buddy of mine that used to do stupid stuff like this when I chatted with girls (Like asking girls I wasn't interested in out for me). Thankfully he stopped.
/r/seduction01/12/14 07:35 PM
1

Everyones goals are different. Some people don't want anything serious or long term. Seduction is a tool. Use it for whatever you want.
/r/seduction30/11/14 07:11 PM
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You could go back for it. Yes it makes a better impression if you get it the first time but when you think about it you have nothing to lose.
/r/seduction30/11/14 07:08 PM
2

I am a freelancer that works on film and tv set that has successfully gotten #'s from various people working on productions (Including crew, clients, actresses,etc). Here is my strategy. I tend to only ask out if I feel a genuine or fun connection with said person. I don't want to get a reputation as the guy that hits on women all the time. This is bad for business. Try to isolate if possible.A good trick is to say something like 'Hey I'm starving. Lets grab lunch!' If not be confident and ask h…
/r/seduction29/11/14 01:20 AM
1

Two words. "Cock magic" https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=34KcjPVd69A
/r/seduction29/11/14 01:00 AM
1

No one said it was easy. Stop making excuses and go find what you want!
/r/seduction27/11/14 02:18 PM
2

Sounds like you need to get out there and make some new friends. Perhaps try some meetup groups or clubs of some sort?
/r/seduction26/11/14 11:35 PM
1

I've never been to Hong Kong but isn't it pretty progressive overall? Surely within a city of that size you can find your tribe.
/r/seduction26/11/14 05:23 AM
1

Sounds like to me you need to work on your locus of control http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Locus_of_control
/r/seduction26/11/14 01:58 AM
1

Why don't you game after girls that are more open or receptive to your non conservative approach to dating? I use to be Christian but when I left the faith I initially dated one or two christian girls. What I learned is that though anything is possible, I find its a better use of my time to go after women that are more congruent to my lifestyle.
/r/seduction26/11/14 01:57 AM
1

Look towards the window and shout 'Those dang ducks again!'
/r/seduction24/11/14 07:03 PM
1

I've made that mistake before. Live and learn :)
/r/seduction24/11/14 06:58 PM
1

Its different for every girl though. I was hanging out with this girl that ended her relationship like a month and a half ago. I kissed her and she got upset and said 'No, this is all too soon!' We never hung out again. No regrets though. I can only control my reactions, not hers.
/r/seduction22/11/14 04:47 PM
1

I've had similar situations like this before. For me failing occurred because I wasn't building seduction properly. I was also internally a bit shy telegraph my sexual interest. I will say this that if you couldn't get her to make out with you thats a bad a sign. Yes she slept in the same bed but girls will sometimes do that with friends. If you really like her I would play it cool and try to hang out again. If you aren't I would just drop it. Don't be afraid to read the signs and walk away.
/r/seduction22/11/14 04:43 PM
1

Haha I got laid the first time on a no fap challenge. Motivation indeed...
/r/seduction21/11/14 05:59 PM
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Theres a saying which I am sure you've heard 'Practice makes perfect'. However this statement I believe to be flawed.I prefer the idea of 'Perfect practice makes perfect'. Keep refining your social skills but also make sure when you practice, that you are practicing the right stuff! Try and eBook called 'Day Bang' by Roush. Also a side tip. I find it helpful to work on ones overall social skills versus focusing solely on pickup.Focusing on PUA only is like the guy at the gym that works on his ar…
/r/seduction17/11/14 01:25 AM
1

The good. Congrats on building up the courage to ask someone out. The bad. Sounds like you should have built up some more rapport before asking her out. If you don't build up some sort of connection first most girls aren't going to give you their contact info, let a lone hang out with you. Think of building rapport as social investment.This should be easy if you are a regular at the restaurant. Think of it this way. What is going to sound better in the girls mind? Going out with some random guy …
/r/seduction16/11/14 10:18 PM
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Men are like microwaves, women are like slow cookers. Unless they are already horny you need to arouse the woman first before initiating sex. If the woman is not aroused, you aren't having sex. Also prior to building seduction, make sure you've built lots of comfort with the girl. Try the DiCarlo Escalation Ladder. http://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/hlmra/dicarlo_escalation_ladder_concise_and_emphasized/
/r/seduction14/11/14 06:26 PM
1

Yes definitely start by reading 'Models' and then go onto 'No More Mr. Nice Guy'. Just keep in mind that nothing happens over night and everyone is different. There are no magic bullets. Its about gradually growing holistically as a person. Goodluck
/r/seduction12/11/14 02:03 AM
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I don't know this for certain, but it sounds like you haven't built up enough comfort with the women before jumping into the full on sexual mode. When I encounter the last minute resistance to sex thats usually when I pause, build some comfort, and then start the foreplay process again. Women are like slow cookers, not microwaves. You gotta warm the oven up before you put the meat in ;)
/r/seduction12/11/14 12:33 AM
1

Sounds like you need therapy not seduction to work thru your issues. Goodluck
/r/seduction11/11/14 05:29 AM
1

1) Be honest and confront your friend. 2) If someone in a social setting is trying to cock block you, try this. When the conversation breaks, reposition your body to face away from the problem person. Also you can try and move the target girl away from the herd once you've built up enough comfort and attraction. As far as the concern about hurt feelings, you are being mr. nice guy. Whats worse is continuing to throw the problem person crumbs when you never intend to follow thru.
/r/seduction10/11/14 08:02 PM
1

Do some research into the art of conversation. Or she might just genuinely be a boring person. If she truly is, why bother sticking around?
/r/seduction10/11/14 07:54 PM
1

I second those book recommendations. Those two changed my life! You sound a lot like the younger version of myself (I once got stuck on a girl for 3-4 years. Total waste of time!) You need to learn to have standards and boundaries in place in your life. When you create them, ENFORCE THEM! If a person doesn't treat you right or willing to give you the type of connection you want, move on. Also theres nothing wrong with talking to "random" people. Every quality person in your life was a "random" p…
/r/seduction10/11/14 07:50 PM
3

If you are getting negative responses to your brand of "confidence" it probably means you need to re-calibrate something. Coming on too strong or too cocky can sometimes come off as contrived and turn people off. Get the mix right and people will dig. Just last night I had a girl tell me ' I'm glad I met you. You can be a bit of dick,but its ok. Its acceptable (she then crack this big smiles). I then turn to my friend and say 'Dude, she just said my dick is acceptable. I like where this is going…
/r/seduction10/11/14 07:41 PM
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UPDATE: I gave her some room and we ended up texting back and forth a bit. We talked a bit more about what happened and she said 'I had fun, but want to keep things light'. So it sounds like we might be looking at a FWB scenario. Honestly I am totally cool with that as I am in the process of trying to relocate to another. In the mean time might as well have fun with someone whose company I enjoy :)
/r/seduction10/11/14 03:54 AM
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The post F-close neediness issue is something I definitely need to work on. Thanks for the input guys! I think what I am going to do is lay off the communication for awhile and contact her sometime next week. If she doesn't respond then NEXT! Either way, I am quite pleased to have this notch on my belt ;)
/r/seduction07/11/14 07:08 PM
2

Target.
/r/seduction07/11/14 05:37 PM
1

Haha well there is another bartender from the bar I sure wouldn't mind F-closing. Though its like her best friend... Perfect :)
/r/seduction07/11/14 02:46 PM
1

Spacing added.
/r/seduction07/11/14 05:54 AM
1

Hank Hill, is that you?
/r/seduction07/11/14 03:41 AM
1

If you look on /r/exchristian/ there are some good threads about ex-christians transitioning to healthy mindsets concerning sexuality. Breaking out of an old mindset takes time as you have years of momentum going in the direction of feeling shame associated with sex.The ideas of congruence and inner game greatly helped me with changing the way I viewed my sexuality. You have to build new momentum in the opposite direction of the shame when it comes. During that period of my life I would say to m…
/r/seduction06/11/14 04:53 PM
2

Its natural to generate attraction ;)
/r/seduction06/11/14 02:21 AM
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There are a couple of theories out there as to why people feel nervous displaying sexual interest in front of other people. I know for me (growing up in a conservative religious background) I dealt with shame issues associated with having natural sexual urges. Nowadays my whole way of thinking boils down to 'I want what I want and make no apologies for going after them'. Honestly you just need to man up, and take the leap. Over time it will get easier.
/r/seduction05/11/14 10:12 PM
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She might have just changed her mind. I had a girl a few months that sounds pretty similar to yours. We had a great date, go back to my place to watch a movie, end up making out very heavily. Second date shes a total different person. I didn't even get a peck on the cheek. I see her occasionally since we have mutual friends. When we talked about the elephant in the room she said that she just wanted to be friends as being more than friends didn't feel right to her. If you want my advice I wouldn…
/r/seduction05/11/14 05:44 PM
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I only ask out women when I feel like we've made a strong personal connection. Otherwise I don't as I don't want the reputation of being that guy that asks women out on set. (For the record I work in Film,TV, and Video production)
/r/seduction04/11/14 10:30 PM
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Wish the video was a better resolution :(
/r/seduction04/11/14 09:56 PM
1

While there are exceptions the majority of the time you should just move on to someone more receptive. Example: I once went out a few times with a girl that was raised in a religious conservative background who never been on a date in her life. Hence she was super nervous and wanted to get more information about me. She even spoke to mutual friends to make sure I wasn't a creep. If you choose to confront her about it I usually confront them by saying something like 'Hey I'm not looking for a tex…
/r/seduction02/11/14 11:54 PM
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You aren't nervous because you are talking to them within the comfort zone of your job. Believe it or not you also get a type of social proof from being an employee of a store as the customer is stepping into your domain. Also it is expected for an employee to chat with a customer so most people will be polite and chat (not much of a challenge). Let me be more specific with my advice. Practice talking to people in social situations that you are not used to. For me this meant chatting to people i…
/r/seduction31/10/14 03:21 PM
1

I am curious. How many LTR's have you been in?
/r/seduction31/10/14 02:29 PM
1

One of my favorite things to do when chatting with a redhead is the classic 'Its a shame I can't date you. You seem really cool' She then asks why and I say something about 'Oh, I'm not allowed to date redheads anymore. You are all trouble' or something along those lines. If she responds positively, at some point later in the conversation I say 'But then again... sometimes a little trouble is good for the soul...'
/r/seduction31/10/14 02:22 PM
1

Ya those redheads sure do rock my apple cart :P
/r/seduction31/10/14 02:17 PM
1

Be fun,flirty and confident. Make the woman believe that if she takes your hand, she's going on an adventure.
/r/seduction31/10/14 02:15 PM
1

You've got your answer.
/r/seduction30/10/14 11:52 PM
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Too much smiling comes off as creepy and or needy. Like this girl at this party last night would light up with a huge smile every time I looked across the room at her. It came off as so desperate. Imagine a guy doing the same behavior? Me I try to smile when I initially meet people and when appropriate moments come (Someone says something funny,etc). If you are like me, one who suffers from bitchy resting fair, learn to create a different face for your resting or neutral position. This makes you…
/r/seduction30/10/14 11:50 PM
2

You just need to practice talking to people. You still will sometimes get nervous but overtime this feeling will diminish.
/r/seduction30/10/14 09:50 PM
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You played this right if rejecting her is genuinely what you wanted to do. I was rejected once by a girl I was dating for a bit. She later tries to start things again, but after one more date I decided to call things off. Just because someone is selling doesn't mean you have to buy.
/r/seduction30/10/14 09:47 PM
3

To be honest people thinking you look 2 years younger than your actual age really isn't that significant. I'm 28 but occasionally have people ask me if I'm in my early 20's (not so much anymore). Here are some tips for looking older. What is your fashion like? Your style will create a perception as to your age. When I was younger I had a very simple 'youthful' T-shirt wearing vibe. Now I wear button down shirts, designer jeans, and layer my clothing (A bit more of a sophisticated NYC/London vibe…
/r/seduction25/10/14 04:06 PM
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I used to think this way for years. If it works for you great, but for me it ultimately lead to no romantic connections. All it got me was lots of female friends. When I started treating women as lovers versus as friends, thats when dating life changed.
/r/seduction23/10/14 08:37 PM
1

I'm terrible on an empty stomach...
/r/seduction23/10/14 08:32 PM
4

Its only creepy if its coming from a creepy guy.
/r/seduction22/10/14 09:54 PM
1

High end super markets like whole foods, wegmans, trader joes, etc
/r/seduction21/10/14 01:16 AM
1

It wouldn't work on me but on some guys sure. I can certainly find somebody immediately attractive, but I need to assess whether or not I like the person or else I rather go home and watch Netflix.
/r/seduction19/10/14 10:54 PM
2

Just attract a girl and f-close her. Society puts all this unhealthy pressure on losing ones virginity. Honestly nothing changed about my life after losing it. I was still the same guy with the same strengths and weaknesses only this time I've had sex.
/r/seduction19/10/14 10:49 PM
1

My first time I was a bit nervous and had trouble getting a solid erection at first . I told her 'hey sorry I'm a little nervous. Give it some time'. She was cool about it and ended up giving me a BJ to get things going. Believe it or not I lasted for over an hour (certain condoms dull the sensations enough to give you longevity) and didn't cum my first time. I ended up telling her it was my first time cause once your inside, the score doesn't matter. You're in!
/r/seduction19/10/14 10:42 PM
5

Read books for the sake and enjoyment of knowledge and the rest will come naturally.
/r/seduction19/10/14 06:54 PM
5

How old are you? I would say if you are like under 18 it doesn't really matter. However if you are older I would probably shy away from telling them as this could make them think 'Hmm whats wrong with this guy that he hasn't been able to get laid yet?'
/r/seduction19/10/14 06:53 PM
1

Disagree. The charismatic guy with high social status "Life of the party" is ultimately gonna get you more points than the quiet stoic type.
/r/seduction19/10/14 06:49 PM
1

For starters you should always be focused on your personal self improvement. Guys who go to the gym for other reasons tend to come off as creepy and usually suck at working out. Gym bunnies like guys that are in shape, so genuinely be that man! Second if you REALLY want to meet women at the gym I suggest joining a gym that has a good number of women. I used to be a member of Planet Fitness and mine was crawling with beautiful women! However I decided to leave and join a real gym where you don't …
/r/seduction17/10/14 08:53 PM
1

I know for me personally when I started improving my fashion my game improved. Woman would tell me (after I got their number) that they were impressed with how well I dressed and how I wasn't a 'slob like most of the guys'. Even something as simple as making sure your socks match your outfit has caught the positive attention of women several times. Its not even about spending a ton of cash on clothes. Its about projecting a vibe that separates you from the herd.
/r/seduction17/10/14 02:08 PM
1

I know for me the "comedy routine" hasn't worked. Yes it made people laugh but then women start to not take you seriously. I have since begun to calibrate that aspect of my personality. Women like a strong man with a sense humor, not a dancing monkey that makes people laugh.
/r/seduction16/10/14 02:54 PM
1

I have to agree to a point. When someone is truly an alpha male they aren't constantly thinking about whether or not every one of their actions is alpha or beta. They just do what needs to be done and get the girl.
/r/seduction13/10/14 05:41 PM
1

I don't know if I would go this route. I kinda feel like pushing a persons buttons like that will only get you an emotionally clouded perception versus how an average person perceives you.
/r/seduction09/10/14 05:57 PM
1

The way I go about it is to ask a person I trust who is honest. I would also ask a person who is socially aware and relatively confident (As shy people tend to be too timid to give you a full answer) I usually also preface it with something like 'Hey man. Call me crazy but I sometimes get the feeing that I give off a bad impression when I first meet people. Please be honest with me, do I ever do that? ' My friend answered me and I soon realized that I displayed closed body language, didn't smile…
/r/seduction09/10/14 05:53 PM
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Yep.
/r/seduction09/10/14 04:18 PM
1

Where I live there is a pool hall that is full of High School kids. As far as arcades, it really depends on the town. For some people going to an arcade has a fun retro vibe to it.
/r/seduction09/10/14 04:11 PM
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I have to disagree. I used to be completely oblivious to the way people perceived me. I one day asked a friend I trusted 'Tell me. What kind of first impression do I give people?' He answered with 'You give off a bit of a snobbish mean vibe, but when people get to know you they realize thats not who you are'. It turned out my body language was giving off the wrong signals. Since making a few modifications I have noticed a huge improvement in my dating and social life. Its not about seeking exter…
/r/seduction09/10/14 02:57 PM
1

Pool Hall, arcade, parks, football games, fairs and festivals, coffee shops, yogurt places.
/r/seduction09/10/14 01:30 PM
1

I hate to break it to you but a woman being friendly doesn't automatically mean she was trying to pick you up. I am friendly and outgoing with all kinds of women and I certainly do not want to sleep with most of them.
/r/seduction08/10/14 08:51 PM
1

That makes perfect sense. No shame either for going to therapy. Everybody needs a helping hand every now and then. Good luck to you and your journey!
/r/seduction08/10/14 08:22 PM
2

I have to say I once went on a couple dates with a girl who was 19 and she was the dumbest girl I ever met. At first she seemed normal enough but her immaturity and lack of intelligence became painfully apparent! We were driving somewhere and a news report came on the radio mentioning something about Democrats and Republicans. She then blurts out 'What are Democrats and Republicans?' I thought she was joking at first but she wasn't. That third date we went on turned out to be the worst date I've…
/r/seduction08/10/14 07:11 PM
2

Yep. No fluffers were present ;)
/r/seduction08/10/14 12:45 AM
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Yep we chatted for close to two hours. Basically I walked back up to her table and just started talking. The vibe was good and so I just said 'Hey do you mind if I sit down?' She said yes and we talked about everything from the books and music we enjoy, to random stories about ourselves, etc. The conversation was of course peppered with the standard fare of flirting, teasing, and light kino.As far as how to segway back into conversation, don't overthink it JUST START TALKING. Honestly I have ope…
/r/seduction08/10/14 12:32 AM
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I was filming a promo video for a cafe/bakery. She was a customer in the cafe that I asked her to appear in my video. To which she enthusiastically agreed. After I finished filming we started chatting again and two hours later I got her phone number. Whats funny is she was definitely my favorite girl out of the last ten I've went on dates with. All of which were closer to or a bit older than my age. She had the spark and idealism of of youth tempered with a witty intellect and a surprising matur…
/r/seduction07/10/14 09:32 PM
2

I'd go for it. I'm 28 and had a little thing going on with a 19 year old for awhile. Really cool girl that was fun and quite intelligent. Probably would have kept things going but logistical stuff got in the way.
/r/seduction07/10/14 03:29 PM
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Californication!!
/r/seduction07/10/14 03:26 PM
2

I would try cutting back on masturbation and porn. This ramps up your sex drive and makes you much more aroused by the real thing. I am 28 and recently started noticing a dip in my libido. I took a month off from porn and masturbation and the difference was astonishing! Porn essentially desensitizes you to the image of a naked woman. You get too used to it and over time it takes more an more effort for you to get aroused.
/r/seduction06/10/14 09:54 PM
2

"Fake it till you make it" I strongly suggest watching this...http://www.ted.com/talks/amy_cuddy_your_body_language_shapes_who_you_are?language=en You become the person you want to be by consciously practicing the new you until it becomes habit. Over time the "new you" will replace the"old you" thus creating the new "real you". I used to be very shy and timid (mostly due to my father also being so). I am now noticeably more outgoing and confident. This has led to an improvement in my dating and …
/r/seduction01/10/14 09:44 PM
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Start by doing a search of previous posts. Lots of information to be found there ;)
/r/seduction30/09/14 04:09 PM
1

I honestly think you are over analyzing the situation. She genuinely could have just fallen asleep and she in fact did respond to your last text message (The response came the following morning) . However if we are on the topic... I've gotten out of the habit of saying 'no worries' or 'its fine'. Why? Because doing so its a subtle way of reinforcing a negative behavior. The other week a friend of mine was being a bitch to me about something stupid. Yesterday she apologized to me about the situat…
/r/seduction29/09/14 05:41 PM
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It absolutely does happen to women. I overheard a conversation between a friend of mine and his sister about this guy she was interested in ( His sister btw is an attractive, well educated women with a good job) where suddenly she states ' I keep dropping hints and giving him clues but he keeps saying he's not at the place in his life for a relationship. I'm gonna give him six months to see the light or I'm moving on'.
/r/seduction29/09/14 05:14 PM
1

Does the girl drive?
/r/seduction28/09/14 10:15 PM
2

If you are in a situation where sitting is possible lead by saying "Hey lets grab a seat!" Also the girl probably will not mind that you are taller than her. In fact she probably loves it!
/r/seduction28/09/14 10:12 PM
1

I guess I must have been going to the wrong bible groups when I was religious!
/r/seduction28/09/14 09:29 PM
1

Its not the woman's job to approach. Thats your job. This is a classic example of the feminine dating mindset taught by our mothers. Does 'Just be nice to girls and they'll notice you' ring any bells? If you want something be a man and approach. I often have noticed that attraction doesn't start until I first initiate the approach. Good luck!
/r/seduction26/09/14 03:55 AM
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Cities are great for this. In fact this is one of several reasons why I'm moving to NYC later this year. You have to go to activities that draw these types of women. For example you won't likely find this type of woman at a sports bar, but at a poetry slam or art gallery you definitely will! . Lots of good ideas in this post.
/r/seduction24/09/14 06:11 PM
2

So awesome that you are getting yourself holistically organized at such a young age. It myself only started this process a little over a year ago (I'm 28). Great post!!
/r/seduction24/09/14 12:30 AM
2

TIL I once "seduced" my mother with 5 seconds of eye contact.
/r/seduction18/09/14 02:11 AM
1

With her I am at the stage where I am still making an assessment of the situation. She is someone that I have always had a little bit of a soft spot for but at the same time I need to get to know more before making a decision. My plan at this point is to keep gaming while still exploring other opportunities.
/r/seduction17/09/14 06:07 PM
2

Absolutely true.
/r/seduction17/09/14 03:56 PM
1

Reminds me of this guy I know. Decent looking chap, in shape, does a lot of interesting stuff (Mountain climbing, parkour, etc) but his wife is this boring, shy, turtle faced gal with coke bottle glasses. Makes no sense whatsoever!
/r/seduction16/09/14 11:05 PM
1

What you are describing with your friends however is not a genuine sexual sub context as you have no real sexual intentions behind any of your actions. If you started having the exact same interactions with your friends but possessed a genuine sexual interest, your friends would notice. I believe in Models it talks a lot about being aware of your inner motives or state as this will be projected from you. For instance I can talk about sex with a woman but have it be perceived as completely platon…
/r/seduction16/09/14 03:50 PM
1

This. If you realize she's underage just let the conversation naturally dwindle down and return to what you were doing. Simple
/r/seduction16/09/14 01:26 AM
1

(Assuming you are not bisexual) When you socialize with men you do so without a sexual sub-context. Same applies to when you communicate to women with whom you have no sexual interest. Sounds like to me you just need to develop your general social skills more. A classic is 'How to Win friends and Influence People' by Dale Carnegie. I myself have begun to focus less on "game" and now focus more on overall social skill development. I myself used to hate small talk. I however since realized that it…
/r/seduction15/09/14 07:23 PM
2

Thank you!
/r/seduction15/09/14 06:07 PM
2

Wow you are seriously so far ahead of the pack. I wish I had this type of social awareness at your age. (Im 28 now). Keep up the good work!
/r/seduction12/09/14 09:48 PM
1

Well tomorrow is Friday. What happened OP?
/r/seduction12/09/14 02:41 AM
1

Have you yourself ever experienced losing attraction towards someone? Sometimes there is an actual reason and sometimes there isn't. (I remember one time meeting this Irish girl at a party that I was super taken with. Then for some reason the next couple of times I saw her my attraction just died). Something you could do is to ask someone you trust 'Hey what kind of first impression do I give off?' or ask a lady friend 'Is there something I do around women that might put them off? I have done th…
/r/seduction11/09/14 09:12 PM
1

Simple. Let the girl decide.
/r/seduction11/09/14 02:06 AM
1

We aren't trying to be negative. We are trying to teach you to hold realistic expectations when it comes to approaching women. When you get around the block a bit more you'll eventually learn the sure fire signs of a women being interested vs just her being polite.
/r/seduction09/09/14 01:58 AM
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Wait till you actually have a date before you claim victory. She didn't even actually agree to see you on Friday. She said "I'll SEE what I can do about this Friday"
/r/seduction08/09/14 08:46 PM
1

Coffee Shop. Done.
/r/seduction03/09/14 02:35 AM
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Because Its the pussy these sheets deserve, but not the one it needs right now...
/r/seduction29/08/14 03:43 AM
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TIL working out will get you an f-close on layaway!
/r/seduction28/08/14 06:17 PM
1

The crossfit gym near me is roughly 7 miles away. Where as the gym I go to is approx half a mile from my house and has all the equipment I need for powerlifting. (Quite the upgrade from Planet Fitness where there is no squat racks or deadlifting allowed!) Crossfit is cool but its a little too high energy for my life style. I am naturally thin and so would have to eat like a ton of food to not lose weight on a cross fit routine. I'm 5'11" and weighed 140lbs in HS. I'm currently 173 and worked har…
/r/seduction28/08/14 05:48 PM
1

I don't do crossfit but I think you are neglecting the benefit of how many attractive girls crossfit gyms draw. If you are a fit sociable guy at a crossfit gym you'll meet a ton more women than at a traditional gym.
/r/seduction28/08/14 04:47 PM
2

Good job for approaching! Honestly You only chatted with her for a minute so its not like you had enough time to really build any kind of genuine rapport. Its kinda hard to say what your mistakes were based on what you've stated here.
/r/seduction26/08/14 03:13 PM
1

Its hard to say as we do not know what he said after the initial opener.
/r/seduction26/08/14 03:10 PM
0

So true. I once fucked a girl 30 minutes after arriving at her place. You just never know where the spirit will take you :P
/r/seduction25/08/14 03:14 PM
1

He's pretty much one of the founding fathers of the PUA movement. A friend of mine was really into the Mystery method and it got him plenty of dates/lays. He even used it to find his wife and they are now happily married. I think theres value in what he brought to the community but his style is not really my own. I'm a firm believer in devouring the meat and spitting out the bones. After reading and watching a lot of PUA related material I now believe that inner game/overall self-improvement is …
/r/seduction25/08/14 03:10 PM
2

Get new friends!! There are some people I DO NOT hangout with when I want to meet girls. This one friend of mine is a cool artsy type but can give off a bit of a creeper vibe when he is on the prowl.
/r/seduction25/08/14 12:39 AM
1

Doing some of this now. Will have to start doing more bold statements. Thx for the ideas !
/r/seduction25/08/14 12:33 AM
3

OP. What resources have you discovered concerning speech patterns and conversations?
/r/seduction24/08/14 03:42 AM
1

I'm not sure if thats what I would call it. I have just observed that some men can open up a girl and have this playful edge or spark to them that women immediately love. I can open women and get numbers, but I tend to be a bit more reserved about it ( yet still friendly). Perhaps I need to step up my flirting game.
/r/seduction23/08/14 05:34 PM
1

I agree with this. Actually "liking" someone can lead to you becoming needy or clingy if you aren't careful. (I have made this mistake before). Play it cool ;)
/r/seduction23/08/14 03:46 PM
1

Sounds like you are doing an awesome job so far! In my opinion the key to building long term attraction is to stimulate and satisfy a woman intellectually, emotionally, and sexually. I find a lot of guys naturally are better at the intellectual front ("double standards, future aspirations and the state of nations",etc ). You can access more of the emotional side by asking her personal questions in regard to things close to her heart. A great way disarm someone is to show vulnerability by sharing…
/r/seduction23/08/14 03:43 PM
2

DO IT!!
/r/seduction23/08/14 01:09 AM
1

You've done all you can at this point so sit tight and wait. Don't keep messaging her. If she wants to see you again you have given her all the opportunity she needs. Good job for number closing!
/r/seduction22/08/14 10:58 PM
2

What I don't understand is why you felt you had to apologize and justify your actions to these people. This is a classic example of "nice guy" behavior . One should only apologize when you feel like you genuinely made a mistake. You can't win every approach and this one sounded like a lemon from the start. Next time just cut your losses and move on.
/r/seduction22/08/14 10:49 PM
2

Dude, what planet are you living on? Come back to Earth!
/r/seduction22/08/14 08:28 PM
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This is true. Also from my experience I have noticed that signs of attraction sometimes don't start appearing until you actually open her up. Like years ago when I would see a cute girl at a cash register ,I would stand there waiting, hoping she would notice me. Now I just start flirting and watch as her neutral bored appearance transforms to that of excitement.
/r/seduction22/08/14 04:52 PM
4

Think of Sherlock Holmes collecting clues from which to build a case. IOI's are essentially clues to the level of interest a woman has. Just like an investigation you can't make a 100% accurate assessment based on one clue. You have to look at the overall picture. An eye contact clue to look for is when she breaks contact does she look down or away? If she looks down this could mean interest but if she looks away then she's probably not.
/r/seduction22/08/14 04:35 PM
4

IOI = indicator of interest.
/r/seduction22/08/14 04:25 PM
-1

this
/r/seduction22/08/14 04:21 PM
1

Seriously, respect and value yourself and move onto someone you actually enjoy.
/r/seduction21/08/14 11:19 PM
9

This. Also compliments are fine, but don't over do it. Last thing you want to become is a kiss ass nice guy.
/r/seduction21/08/14 11:11 PM
1

Make sure when you approach that you do not approach from behind. You dont want to startle the girl especially at night. Also you just need more practice and experience to grow more confident. This takes time. For me I practice talking to random people all the time (men and women). Even thought I am naturally more introverted, over time I have cultivated an outgoing personality that enables me to meet new people on a regular basis. Keep you overall focus on meeting PEOPLE versus simply targeting…
/r/seduction20/08/14 08:01 PM
3

Just say thank you and keep chatting. Don't over think it, just flirt and be friendly.
/r/seduction20/08/14 07:58 PM
16

Banging Nemo now on Blue Ray!
/r/seduction19/08/14 12:56 AM
7

I know some people are all about the 'hold it until they break eye contact first' but in my opinion that can come off as a bit aggressive. Me I practice holding eye contact for around 4-7 seconds but quickly re-establish it after breaking it. Sometimes I break first, sometimes she does. When you break eye contact generally it will look more confident and comfortable if you break the eye contact with subtle eye movement, versus physically moving your head or body away. Drastic quick body movement…
/r/seduction19/08/14 12:55 AM
2

Thats not long distance at all man especially if you found something you like. If you live in a city like NYC its not uncommon to sometimes have to travel like 30-40 minutes to meet someone via public transport. I dated a girl for a bit that lived roughly 100 miles away from me (met thru mutual friends at a party). Didn't work out in the end but I certainly do not regret exploring the possibility of us. Definitely try to set up a date ASAP without coming off as desperate. I agree with the sugges…
/r/seduction18/08/14 01:41 AM
6

Depends on the kind of man she is attracted to. I seen charismatic but average looking fit guys do well with girls at the gym. I have also seen attractive jacked guys with zero personality get zilch. Theres an old saying 'Don't go searching for a reason why a woman should reject you. Let her decide that herself."
/r/seduction16/08/14 11:06 PM
9

Sounds to me like you "don't" guys are trying to find reasons to talk yourself out of an opportunity. I have successfully gotten phone numbers from girls while they are working. Honestly If you are what the girl is after she will be quite happy that you asked her out (In fact I have been told this several times by girls "I've seen you in here a couple times before and was so happy when you asked me out). As far as the whole it being "awkward" its only awkward if you let it be. If she says no jus…
/r/seduction16/08/14 10:57 PM
1

How did you know they were trying to film a porno? Was there like a film crew there or did they just have a camera phone out?
/r/seduction15/08/14 10:05 PM
3

Keep your focus on enjoying and improving your life. Don't fall into the trap of 'woe is me' and feeling sorry for yourself. Yes it takes time to heal but always remember to keep your life moving forward! Also spend time with good male friends that are safe to talk to. Definitely check out/ read 'No More Mr Nice Guy' by Robert Glover . We have all been where your'e at, so chin up. This too will pass...
/r/seduction15/08/14 06:57 PM
2

Keep day gaming but at your age the easiest way to get laid is to expand your social circle to include lots of girls. Eventually you'll find some cute girl that you click with. Also quit porn and see how quickly you get motivated to get with girls.
/r/seduction15/08/14 05:45 PM
2

Tattoos are a great excuse for Kino. If you don't see any ask anyways as they might be hidden. If she says yes ask to see her tattoos. When she complies move yourself closer so you can get a better view of said tattoo. Then when the tattoo is in full view gently touch it and while continuing to make conversation. Added bonus if the tattoo is located in a more sensitive area.
/r/seduction14/08/14 09:47 PM
3

I use thumb wars all the time. Its fun,playful and the girls love it! Plus if you want to escalate things a bit further you can continue to hold her hand after the war is over.
/r/seduction14/08/14 09:38 PM
1

This wasn't you was it ? https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=K4sn6SF3QLs
/r/seduction13/08/14 05:39 PM
5

Mate, I wanna buy you a pint! Well done :)
/r/seduction13/08/14 05:35 PM
2

Stealing this. Well done :)
/r/seduction13/08/14 02:16 AM
1

I currently live in a small city but have done the big city vibe before. I myself prefer the big city scene as I find it easier to find the types of women and friends I enjoy (as there is a higher concentration of people making it easier to find your tribe). I am planning on moving back to NYC in the fall.
/r/seduction11/08/14 09:30 PM
1

Stronglifts 5x5 is great. Just make sure you have good form. It might not be a bad idea to have a trainer work with you for the first few workouts or have a knowledgable friend help. Thats how I learned to deadlift
/r/seduction06/08/14 10:05 PM
2

Just focus on having a good time and being friendly/flirty.
/r/seduction06/08/14 05:17 PM
1

Just be sure to clearly communicate to your friends that it is an open invite and to bring whoever they want. Also hopefully you have some female friends in your lot as they bring other girls. Good job for taking the initiative and being proactive when it comes to expanding your social circle.
/r/seduction06/08/14 05:12 PM
1

Well smoking isn't an attractive quality to everyone. Even though I do occasionally smoke cigars (On special occasions or holidays) I myself tend to avoid women who have a regular smoking habit.
/r/seduction05/08/14 11:33 PM
2

I take it your a member of the mile high club too?
/r/seduction04/08/14 06:54 PM
1

In America its called the freshman 15. In Britain its called the freshman 5. Keep fit :)
/r/seduction30/07/14 03:16 PM
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From my experience with nervous girls you usually have to carry the weight of the conversation until you hit a topic that gets her to open up. Also I can get a pretty good idea if the girl is nervous by chatting with her on the phone prior to the actual date (If her voice is shaky, etc). For nervous girls I tend to like to take them on dates where there are natural pauses in conversations. Things like art galleries, flea markets, antique shops, bowling, etc. From the sound of things though it so…
/r/seduction30/07/14 03:13 PM
1

I'm also going to add this to the conversation. Being able to easily pickup and move a woman during certain physical activities is a guaranteed way to have a woman coming back for more. ;)
/r/seduction29/07/14 10:08 PM
6

Side by side is more intimate plus gives you easy access ;) I've also read in some business books that sitting across from someone sub consciously makes you feel like you are in competition with a person as you are occupying opposing sides of a table. Think my territory vs yours.
/r/seduction29/07/14 08:31 PM
6

Nickelback...
/r/seduction29/07/14 07:50 PM
1

I'm 5'11" and weighed around 140lbs in High School. Over the past two years I have gotten into working out regularly and now weigh 170lb (Ultimately aiming for 180lbs). I work out three days a week 45min to an hour at a time using the Stronglifts 5x5 program. Honestly exercising for me has brought a huge improvement to my quality of life. I feel stronger, healthier, and more confident. Its true looks aren't everything but they do help. My dating has increased tremendously since I started going t…
/r/seduction28/07/14 07:28 PM
1

The way I tend to view personal mental discipline is in terms of positive and negative momentum. Your bad self talk is backed by what sounds like years of negative momentum. What you need to do is to start making a conscious choices to resist and move towards a more positive thought life. I heard once on a psychology radio program that it takes 5 positive thoughts to counteract 1 negative thought. When you start thinking that people don't like you begin to recite in your mind 5 or more examples …
/r/seduction28/07/14 03:03 PM
1

You can't win em' all, but you can't win any if you don't try!
/r/seduction28/07/14 02:50 PM
2

This is one of the biggest things I have taken away from my time studying PUA. Learning to feel comfortable talking to anyone improves ones life tremendously in all kinds of areas.
/r/seduction27/07/14 08:31 PM
1

Perhaps. Works for me in America and England.
/r/seduction27/07/14 08:29 PM
1

I'm saying from my personal experience if the first kiss is a dud usually things don't go much further.
/r/seduction26/07/14 11:35 PM
1

I think you missed what I was getting at. I was saying how the kiss or fingerprint of this girl was drastically different (in a good way) at the end of the night in comparison to earlier in the night.
/r/seduction26/07/14 11:16 PM
19

I said that once to a girl. She said "anything but that". I said no...
/r/seduction25/07/14 04:16 PM
6

Maybe she just has a thing for tea bags?
/r/seduction23/07/14 03:33 PM
1

Hehe this girl I dated for a bit was a stylist. She never dressed me but did have some good ideas (some of which I took)
/r/seduction22/07/14 08:49 PM
1

I think this is a great video especially for guys just starting to look into refining themselves. I know some people are anti-fashion but I honestly get complimented regularly on my fashion (from both men and women). Its not the end all solution to game but every little bit sure does help. Example this cute girl I was dating once admitted how one of the first thing she noticed about me was how my socks worked together with my outfit. To her she said it was a good indicator that I had my life tog…
/r/seduction22/07/14 08:28 PM
2

I myself naturally lean a bit towards "goofy". Just learn to dial back the "goofy" to more funny/fun. I recently was on a job with a guy I would describe as goofy to a fault. Nice enough guy but it was way over the top. Several people made note of it and though entertaining it was ultimately not a positive observation. Learn to find your sweet spot. Goodluck
/r/seduction20/07/14 08:09 PM
1

Things like smiling,maintaing receptive/open body language, not letting your attention wander from the person in front of you (making them feel like they are the only person in the room), asking good genuine questions about the person. I have bitchy resting face so the smiling thing alone really transformed the first impressions I gave people.
/r/seduction19/07/14 05:43 AM
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He could have just genuinely had those experience. Interesting people tend to have interesting lives. For instance today there random girl walked into the coffee shop I was at and said "its a bit of a wheres waldo day". I was then able to tell her a story about when I lived in England and how the Brits call it "Wheres Wally". Prior life experiences just come to me. Plus I enjoy reading about a wide range of subjects. I get along just as well with MIT professors as I do war veterans.
/r/seduction18/07/14 09:18 PM
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Also you could just befriend this guy and ask him "Man I love how you tell stories. I wish I could tell stories like you. Whats your secret?" I did this once with someone I know who has a magnetic personality and grew thanks to what I learned from him. People are often very flattered when you admit they have something you lack. Most of the time people are willing to help you out when asked properly.
/r/seduction18/07/14 06:34 PM
30

Use body language or gestures to amplify the story telling. Also don't just tell the story, show it! Example: "Wow you should have seen these two girls fighting at the coffee shop today" VERSUS "So I was at Starbucks by Main St around 5:00pm when suddenly this crazy blond girl leapt across the table like an angry tiger at her girlfriend. Thankfully the manager, who was the short italian guy broke the two of them up before things got too bad. I must admit it was kinda funny as I felt like I was w…
/r/seduction18/07/14 06:29 PM
7

Oh god, thats hilarious!
/r/seduction17/07/14 11:26 PM
7

For me I love an intelligent women. I dated for a little bit a gal who was a TED speaker and does a lot of work for social causes. Girls like that are my favorite kind.
/r/seduction17/07/14 06:42 PM
9

Wow thats some crazy pussy! Good thing you didn't hook up with her!!
/r/seduction10/07/14 12:19 AM
2

My bedroom.
/r/seduction09/07/14 11:33 PM
1

Remem ber that eating is extremely important for building muscle and gaining weight. A lot of skinny guys don't eat enough especially for their metabolism. You should check out the GOMAD diet. I sometimes do it when I want to make quicker gains. I am 5'11" and used to weigh like 140lbs in high school. I am now at 165 and am going for like 175-180lb. Just remember nothing happens overnight. Also check out the Stronglifts 5x5 power lifting routine. Combination movements like those found in power l…
/r/seduction09/07/14 12:31 PM
1

The video does talk about how our gut reaction is important and how one should pay attention to it. However there are signals that cause us to have a gut reaction in the first place. If you ask me "hey do you think your solution will fix the problem?" and I answer with "I am quite sure" but during the conversation I am playing with my collar, talking in a higher pitched voice, while my face turns somewhat flush, would you feel confident with the solution I just proposed? Probably not. However th…
/r/seduction07/07/14 02:58 PM
2

It definitely is. Ever have someone come up to you and say "you look like you are having a rough day"? You body posture and face are probably saying transmitting that. I've also have noticed people with low self esteem typically have poor posture and more closed body language. The way I view our bodies and minds is in a more holistic sense. Meaning the state of our mind affects the body and the state of our body affects the mind. I am firm believer in the concept of 'fake it till you make it'. H…
/r/seduction07/07/14 02:32 PM
1

Hey Guys I found this awesome video on Body language. It is a long video but totally worth it. The presenter is also quite fun. The video does lean more towards using body language in overall life versus specifically focusing on dating. However part of being a PUA is learning to grow overall as a person. Enjoy!
/r/seduction06/07/14 11:26 PM
1

Brooklyn Brewery is fun.They have a cool tour + beer hall. I also like thrift shops and vintage clothing stores as I can make a girl laugh by incorporating all the random stuff I find :)
/r/seduction01/07/14 10:55 PM
1

Fat Cat is awesome!
/r/seduction01/07/14 10:53 PM
1

There certainly is some truth to this. I one day realized the people I've usually found myself being friends with other guys who also have been mostly single. Currently I am in the process of moving to a new city. Change is coming...
/r/seduction27/06/14 04:34 AM
1

When I have bought girls drinks I have always done it as 'Hey I'll get this round but you get the next ;) ' . I never start the approach off with me offering to buy a drink. This comes across as needy and gives the girl the advantage as you basically have laid your cards out. You've just me her and already you are giving her your money.
/r/seduction25/06/14 08:56 PM
2

Having a cool car can be a plus but a car alone won't get you laid. Just be confident! Whatever you do keep the car clean :)
/r/seduction24/06/14 10:44 PM
2

Blind dates are usually set up via mutual friends and thus some pre-selection has occurred. Not the same thing as asking a random person off the street.
/r/seduction24/06/14 07:28 PM
1

You can't win em' all. Those check out situations are tough as you can't build rapport easily due to the restrictive nature of the interaction. I think most girls would say no to some random person asking them out without building at least some rapport first. The trick is if you are a regular is to gradually build rapport every time you see her. Just don't get oneitis !
/r/seduction23/06/14 02:13 PM
1

Hey well done for trying! Definitely don't avoid Target. You can't let stuff like this kill your vibe or affect your daily routine. I once asked out a girl that worked at a Barnes & Noble cafe I frequented. We met for a date and I felt it was a really good time (From what I could tell she was having lots of fun too). However she went cold on me soon after and didn't respond for date two. She still works there but will I let that stop me from doing the things I want to do? Nope! When I see her I …
/r/seduction23/06/14 02:06 PM
1

Also read 'How to Win Friends and Influence People' by Dale Carnegie. Classic book on improving social skills!
/r/seduction21/06/14 02:32 AM
1

For starters I would try and get yourself tucked into a crowd or a group of friends. It always is a plus being with people vs going lone wolf. Also don't focus too much on meeting girls. When I approach a social setting I like to think of people as treasures to be discovered. Even if I don't get a date I still have a great time meeting people. For me this is a really great motivator to be social which creates opportunities to get girls. The vibe you want to give off is the fun social guy that ev…
/r/seduction21/06/14 02:32 AM
1

Of course when you compare someone who has an emotionless face to someone who is chewing gum, the gum chewing face is perceived more positively. Why ? Because the chewing face looks more expressive and closer to a smile.
/r/seduction21/06/14 02:23 AM
5

Wise words I will tell my son someday.
/r/seduction21/06/14 02:20 AM
1

Create opportunities to hang out with her and start flirting with her. If you come on too strong or needy (which saying "I have a crush on you") can sometimes do, you might scare the girl away. Build attraction and go for the kill when the opportunity is there.
/r/seduction21/06/14 02:17 AM
1

Ya this feels like acting to me. Porn level acting at that ;)
/r/seduction21/06/14 02:04 AM
1

Not familiar with that phrase?
/r/seduction20/06/14 03:02 AM
1

This.
/r/seduction20/06/14 01:05 AM
1

I second reading "How to win friends and influence people" . I also agree you are not there to be "alpha" you are there to learn. Trying to be dominate as an intern might really rub people the wrong way as people might start thinking 'who the hell does this kid think he is?'. Be friendly,outgoing and open to learn new things. I work in the film industry and something I learned quickly is people are more likely to keep you around if you are an overall great person vs simply possessing great skill…
/r/seduction20/06/14 01:04 AM
1

What is your routine for this? I am assuming you are bit more smooth than just 'hey, buy me drink ;) '
/r/seduction18/06/14 09:34 PM
1

My experience has led me to believe that this is the outlier vs the majority. I find most people are alright with quick friendly chit chat during their exercise.
/r/seduction13/06/14 05:43 AM
2

If you make eye contact with a person and start talking the other person will take their headphones out. Real simple. Its worked for me 100% of the time.
/r/seduction13/06/14 05:41 AM
1

I really enjoyed those. Any more good videos kicking around the web you'd recommend?
/r/seduction05/06/14 02:56 PM
1

You can't talk during the movie :P
/r/seduction05/06/14 01:05 AM
6

Saying Tinder helped you break out of your shell and alleviated your AA is like saying 'I used to be afraid to swim in the ocean till I discovered swimming pools...' Tinder is good for some things but if you really want to improve your social skills you need to be approaching people in real life.
/r/seduction05/06/14 12:12 AM
1

How old are you? I usually only get a boner when I'm chatting with a girl and I realize theres a strong chance I'm gonna f-close. The reason I ask is I used to be like you when I was in HS but things have calmed down more now that I'm older.
/r/seduction28/05/14 06:11 PM
3

WWFUD What would Frank Underwood do? haha You just need to learn to be be confident or "alpha" in any situation. This comes with time as your confidence levels grows (fake it till you make it!). I was working on a film shoot recently for a client. The owner is in her late 20s, Harvard graduate, super driven type. When I first met her I walked up to her and confidently initiated and set the pace for the conversation. I could see her demeanor change from an alpha women to a girl wanting a boys att…
/r/seduction26/05/14 04:34 PM
1

You are thinking too much about what people think. Its kinda like when you were a kid and you were always scared that people would know you liked a girl. Part of being a confident man is not being ashamed or shy about what you want. I picked up a girl sitting at a communal table in coffee shop a few months back. There were dudes sitting directly next to us. However I wanted this girl and I didn't care if people were listening. Selective apathy is a great skill to learn. Also on a side note most …
/r/seduction23/05/14 01:13 AM
1

Also stretching your chest and shoulders in the morning can help as people with bad posture tend to be tight in these areas. Arms to your side and chest wide for the win!
/r/seduction22/05/14 05:01 PM
1

How are your conversation skills? Are the girls laughing/ having a good time etc?
/r/seduction22/05/14 01:58 PM
3

Placing more of your weight on your heels when you walk or stand is a good way to encourage good posture.
/r/seduction21/05/14 11:30 PM
42

Only the shitty hairstylists hate this.
/r/seduction21/05/14 11:28 PM
3

Ya movies are for when you are already in something more established relationship wise. From what you described if she has high social anxiety and doesn't feel comfortable with being physically open in public, I would probably save the kino for another time. Next time take more charge by steering the date away from a movie. If you must do some kino, I would keep it more on the playful side vs sexual. Example would be the occasional poke or flick on the leg.
/r/seduction21/05/14 07:31 PM
0

First things first. You gotta get the girl as close to you as possible. Lets say the girl is seated on another couch or far away from me. I will say something like 'Hey I'm cold, lets cuddle' or if theres only one blanket we have no choice but to share ;) Another one I used recently is I will try and have a silly chat with the girl during the movie. When she responds to my statements I will answer with 'whats that? Sorry I can't hear you' After repeating this a second time I will finally say 'Si…
/r/seduction21/05/14 12:06 AM
2

When I was a virgin I would just give it back to them 'Nah bro, your mom took my virginity remember?'. You need to learn to not let stuff like that kill your vibe. I like to think of myself socially as a snow plow. When I encounter an obstacle (like she says shes married or has a BF) I just keep the momentum rolling. Same goes for being around the guys.
/r/seduction19/05/14 11:13 PM
1

This. I have also heard it said that women are like monkeys. They will stay in the tree they got until they find a better one to jump to.
/r/seduction19/05/14 07:58 PM
2

I would add her on Facebook. A phone or text message after 6 weeks from someone you met once is too random plus the buying temperature would probably be gone. At least with the facebook she can stay connected with you and you can leave little casual reminders for her on her page. In the meantime don't stop gaming as she could come back and nothing could happen.
/r/seduction19/05/14 02:18 PM
1

Seriously somebody buy this man a drink!! Awesome recovery man!
/r/seduction18/05/14 03:57 PM
5

You have to gauge the girl. Girls with higher levels of confidence react better to someone who is cocky and dominant. Girls with lower self esteem or more introverted/shy tend to react better to being a bit more sweet. Last night I was talking with this cute artsy theater major (a bit of a book worm) and I realized I came off initially probably a little too cocky funny. I eventually dialed this down and got a much better reactions from her. Sadly she has a pretty serious long term BF but hey, I …
/r/seduction17/05/14 10:23 PM
7

Today son I am going to teach about our friend the shocker...
/r/seduction16/05/14 07:25 PM
1

Entertainment is rarely an accurate portrayal of what real relationships are like. It trains you to think you have to be this prince charming that does some crazy over the top achievement to win the girl.
/r/seduction16/05/14 07:24 PM
38

If I have a son , I seriously cannot wait to teach him all this stuff. One big reason why I am working hard on improving myself now is because I want my children to have a head start because I'm their father. Love my parents, but sadly I inherited a lot of bad social traits from mine. Happy to report I have improved and overcame a lot of the negative traits I once had :)
/r/seduction15/05/14 11:24 PM
21

I'd be careful about practicing gaming women if you're married. You never know, one of these days you might find yourself in a situation too hard to pass up. If your marriage is your priority I would avoid it. There are other ways to practice/improve social skills beyond game. Just my 2 cents.
/r/seduction15/05/14 10:55 PM
3

I have a bag tricks that work for me. I personally do not like to be too suggestive as this could trigger the ASD. I just look for the right body language and actions that indicate she is attracted to me. I myself am an audiophile and have a pretty unique and expensive record player. I like artsy girls so it works well when I say something like 'Hey we should go back to my place and spin some vinyl'. Or another trick is I talk about movies with the girl and eventually discover some great film sh…
/r/seduction15/05/14 05:17 PM
3

Movies get me laid. I haven't been able to yet get 15 min thru a movie when I've brought a girl home.
/r/seduction15/05/14 05:01 PM
2

If a girl breaks eye contact with you by looking down this is usually an IOI. If she looks away, then its possible she isn't interested. Just remember that IOI aren't guarantees they are clues. It could also mean she's simply shy. Take in the overall vibe of the person you are with. Good luck!
/r/seduction10/05/14 10:12 PM
1

I too suffer from Scarlet fever ;)
/r/seduction10/05/14 10:08 PM
1

He forgot to #close!
/r/seduction02/05/14 10:09 PM
14

But it gets me laid/dates! Still approach in person thou. Use the tool, but dont let it become a crutch.
/r/seduction02/05/14 12:22 AM
0

If your'e both into astronomy you should of invited her back to your place to see your "telescope" ;)
/r/seduction30/04/14 02:29 PM
1

Best of luck! I've found from my experience that its best to chat with the girl for at least 5-10 minutes in order to minimize flakes. That way you build a stronger connection than just you being some random guy she gave her number to. Let us know if you get a date!
/r/seduction30/04/14 12:27 AM
1

Find a cool cafe to visit before work. Visit a hip supermarket after work. Try coffeeshops, thrift stores, art galleries,clothing stores, museums, etc, etc on the weekends. Goodluck
/r/seduction22/04/14 01:37 PM
5

From my personal experience I have to agree with Mark Manson. I had noticed during late last year my ability to maintain an erection during porn was becoming more and more difficult. Then back in December when I was making out with this HB8 I noticed it was taking much more effort to get it up when I should of had a raging boner. I then began to limit my exposure to porn and put myself a 30 day challenge to see what would happen. At about 3 weeks I started getting morning wood again and became a…
/r/seduction21/04/14 12:47 AM
3

You could try getting a friend to help you quit. I have a challenge going on right now with a friend where we are trying to do one month without any porn or masturbation. If one of us fails we have agreed to pay the other friend $20. Obviously you have to do this with someone you trust.
/r/seduction21/04/14 12:30 AM
8

Ah don't skimp on the juicy details. How did you escalate to sex? Otherwise we have to assume you put a roofie in her drink :P
/r/seduction19/04/14 02:24 PM
3

I use OKCupid, POF, and Tinder from time to time. I have met some quality women on it before, but there is definitely a lot to sort thru. Ultimately its just a conduit for connecting with people. However I prefer approaching people in public when possible as I feel its easier to meet higher quality women that way.
/r/seduction19/04/14 01:44 AM
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This.
/r/seduction19/04/14 01:42 AM
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I don't typically go after taken girls. This is my code. However I will make exceptions if I am getting the vibe that she wants to leave her current relationship and I like the girl. Some women are ready to jump ship but are just waiting for the right opportunity. However if the girl decides she wants to be with me she has to break up with her old boyfriend. I don't do none of that man on the side stuff.
/r/seduction12/04/14 01:20 AM
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Definitely not like when I was a teenager. However I did fall hard for a girl about a year ago (ultimately didn't work out). Overall now its much rarer for me to "crush" on someone.
/r/seduction10/04/14 11:12 PM
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You got it!
/r/seduction04/04/14 03:15 PM
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I say go for it. The worst that can happen is she'll say no.
/r/seduction04/04/14 12:27 AM
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I prefer day game myself as I feel I can get a better gauge of what the girl is really like vs her in 'club mode'. Check out 'Daybang' by Roosh. And yes I have had pretty decent success with getting girls during the day. The last two locations I gamed was the spot where I get my hair cut (a trendy hair salon) and a cool bakery/cafe I frequent. I'm very big on the whole starting up with a harmless chat and gradually escalating into a game frame. Its the whole idea of boiling the frog. When I feel…
/r/seduction04/04/14 12:22 AM
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You guys also have to take into account his body language (Which you cannot see due to it being an audio recording). Communication is more than just words. If your body language is sexy,playful, fun, etc you'd be surprised the things you can get away with saying...
/r/seduction03/04/14 11:47 PM
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High five to you man! A step in the right direction for sure ;)
/r/seduction03/04/14 11:44 PM
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"Most attractive" is subjective.My argument is based upon the observation that women men and women pair up for all kinds of reasons. If you haven't concluded this yourself you need to go out more.
/r/seduction02/04/14 11:37 PM
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You do realize that women are attracted to all types of men right?
/r/seduction02/04/14 03:27 PM
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Don't act needy. You want to communicate to her by example that you are happy on your own and would continue to be happy if the two of you never got together. Little things can communicate this like NOT responding immediately to her messages every time. If you made real plans with real friends keep them or invite her to come along. Go light on the compliments. Too many and you start to sound desperate. A friend of mine likes this girl and said girl posts a picture of herself to facebook. Sure en…
/r/seduction02/04/14 03:22 PM
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Good call!
/r/seduction02/04/14 02:42 PM
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I'm seeing a girl today that is on the shy side. I called her up last night and could hear the shakiness in her voice. I felt tempted to get a bit nervous myself but I held my frame and just chatted with her. Learn to ramble on a bit. Eventually the girl will chill out and be comfortable being around you. Thats when all the good stuff can happen ;)
/r/seduction02/04/14 02:40 PM
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I actually watched a bit of it myself for a refresher. The video on Power body language is also really good for learning Alpha body language.
/r/seduction01/04/14 09:23 PM
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I know exactly what you mean. There is this HB6 I know that is a nice girl but just doesn't do it for me. However she wants the D so bad! Always asks things like 'When are you going to take me to...' or starts touching my arm and stroking it. I however stay cool as fuck and never give her an inch of interest. Learn to be cool around girls your ARE interested in and game on!
/r/seduction01/04/14 01:21 PM
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My buddy is an expert on this. We actually have a joke amongst his friends that when we see a bunch of cougars at the bar we text him saying 'Lots of hot girls at the bar. No one under 50!' He usually just goes to bars where cougars like to go and starts dancing with them. Pretty easy going from there ;)
/r/seduction01/04/14 01:15 PM
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Awesome thanks!
/r/seduction01/04/14 12:58 AM
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I agree to a point but when you the girl isn't biting its better to cut your losses and move onto another target at the venue. Body language can be a good indicator of this.
/r/seduction01/04/14 12:30 AM
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This... https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TNWl0pKhfgU
/r/seduction01/04/14 12:26 AM
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Well keep in mind you don't always have to be in game mode ;)
/r/seduction31/03/14 05:50 PM
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In our culture traditionally men play the role of the pursuer and the woman the pursued. So to me a friendly attractive girl who initiates the conversation can be a welcome change of pace. Just be careful not to be too aggressive. Honestly something as simple as 'hey hows it going' or some universal comment about the weather will do just fine. From there just let the conversation flow. Its not about cheesy pickup lines its about two people connecting. If the guy has any social skills and a pair …
/r/seduction31/03/14 03:00 PM
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You fellas need to practice till you can create a friendly face at a moments notice. I used to give off a very cold snobby vibe due to my bitchy resting face. I realized this when I asked some people I trusted what kind of first impression I gave them when we first met. Good luck
/r/seduction31/03/14 02:54 PM
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Turkey tap.
/r/seduction29/03/14 01:56 AM
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I've chatted up girls at the gym with decent results. I found the trick is to be friendly and to gradually build comfort and rapport with the girl over several days. Introduce yourself, chat a little bit, and then excuse yourself because you have to get back to working out. Then next time you see her say hello again, chat a little more, and go back to working out. Do this till talking to each other feels natural and if she gives you IOIs and #close! That way you are the cool guy she knows from t…
/r/seduction29/03/14 01:44 AM
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I just used that today. However I re-phrased slightly to "Should we tell our kids we met on Tinder? I won't tell if you won't ;) " She instantly said I made her day :) Got her number in under an hour...
/r/seduction24/03/14 12:30 AM
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He didn't say specifically say it was for pickup. He said he is trying to build a lifestyle. Great hobbies enrich ones life. No harm in asking to see what other people are doing for ideas ;)
/r/seduction23/03/14 11:21 PM
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I play several musical instruments, sing and write my own songs, Photography,Fine Art, Poetry, Electronic DIY, Listening to music on vinyl, Gym, Coffee & Beer snob.
/r/seduction23/03/14 11:19 PM
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This.
/r/seduction23/03/14 09:22 PM
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Ditto. Always get her number! Live and learn.
/r/seduction23/03/14 09:17 PM
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In addition to the sexual side begin building a genuine friendship with her like you would anyone else. Take her out on dates, eventually meet her friends, etc.
/r/seduction23/03/14 09:07 PM
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PRACTICE PRACTICE PRACTICE! Also be mindful of what kind of body language you are projecting. If your body looks awkward talking smooth won't help any.
/r/seduction23/03/14 09:01 PM
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Well I used to be the guy who would get crushed when "the one" girl I was chasing fell thru. I have since changed my mentality and now can get another girls numbers on the same day I get rejected. If you put "pussy on a pedestal" women will get the vibe that you are low value and desperate. Learn to become a confident mofo and they way women respond to you changes. And yes sometimes you must fake it till you make it.
/r/seduction23/03/14 09:00 PM
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Wow instantly improved my "selfies"!
/r/seduction23/03/14 08:51 PM
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Believe it or not you can also have a wingwoman. Helps especially too if said women is interesting or attractive. Gives you the extra social proof for having awesome female friends .
/r/seduction22/03/14 05:10 PM
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When you start getting close with the person gently put your hand on his thigh (keep eye contact). Eventually begin to lightly brush his inner thigh. If he is a red blooded guy he will get the message ;)
/r/seduction22/03/14 04:37 PM
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That is fantastic thank you! I'm trying to get out of the pure use of straight questions or interrogation style that most people use. For instance if I want to know where somebody is from instead of just asking I'll try something like Me: 'Hey, how long did you live down south for?' Her: 'Oh no, I never lived down south. Why did you think?' Me: 'Oh, sorry. You had this really friendly vibe about you that reminded of this girl I dated for a bit in Nashville.' Her: 'Oh you lived in Nashville? That…
/r/seduction15/03/14 03:31 PM
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Could you elaborate on your use of stacking and using leading questions?
/r/seduction14/03/14 01:13 PM
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If you are looking for a long term relationship F-closing on date one probably isn't the way to go.
/r/seduction14/03/14 01:12 PM
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Haha I thought you meant YOU were giving her "Bambi eyes" but rather you are seeing them. Understood
/r/seduction14/03/14 12:54 PM
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Can you elaborate on the "bambi eyes" and "anime eyes"? Never heard that one.
/r/seduction14/03/14 01:54 AM
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Great story. Thanks for sharing! What kind of words or phrasing besides 'I'm feeling hot' did you guys uses to escalate?
/r/seduction14/03/14 01:24 AM
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Stop making excuses. Walk over and say hello. If it doesn't work out its practice. You got nothing to lose but everything to gain.
/r/seduction13/03/14 05:24 PM
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I would recommend practicing your smile. You should be able to produce an attractive smile at the drop of a hat. You also have to determine which type of smile best suits your face. Ask an honest friend you can trust to figure out which one works best. BTW a warm face with a smile is not creepy if you aren't a creep.If a beautiful woman smiled at you would you find this to be creepy? Same goes for if a single woman notices an attractive man smiling at her, she probably isn't going to mind ;) A s…
/r/seduction13/03/14 12:54 AM
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With words. Seriously just say hello and start talking. The classroom is easy as you have something guaranteed in common (the class). Start there and see where it goes. Just don't fall into the trap of only talking about classes. Be a man and guide the conversation. If the vibe is good, ask her out.
/r/seduction12/03/14 09:24 PM
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I like all kinda of women, but wouldnt mind shacking up with a fit one like above ;)
/r/seduction12/03/14 02:56 PM
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When I first started working out I was eating 3000 - 4000 calories per day divided over 6 meals. I gained weight and muscle. So can you
/r/seduction12/03/14 06:07 AM
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Sorry about that! Thank you
/r/seduction12/03/14 02:31 AM
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Ya I didnt know. First time using Snapchat. Honestly I hate texting, but realize its part of modern game.
/r/seduction12/03/14 02:07 AM
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Not my style ;)
/r/seduction12/03/14 02:00 AM
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Workout your entire body not just your arms! I used to be a really skinny guy (5'11" 138lbs). Since working out I have gained muscle and weight (now 161lbs) and have went up a whole shirt size. My end goal is 180lbs or my man crush Daniel Craig. I have honestly noticed myself getting more attention as I no longer have that scrawny looking guy thing working against me. I overall feel so much more energetic and healthy thanks to exercise. Total bonus to a persons quality of life.
/r/seduction12/03/14 01:56 AM
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Just start saying hello and give them game like you would if you met them in person. If it goes well set up a date
/r/seduction11/03/14 12:52 AM
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Ya we've all had shitty nights especially when you first start. Have fun and go get em' next time!
/r/seduction25/01/14 04:30 PM
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Hey live and learn :)
/r/seduction20/01/14 04:39 PM
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I personally have had the worst luck in the past with christian girls . I find christian girls to be very intimated by dating because of the pressure of finding 'the one to marry'. If your definition of a "higher quality women" includes someone who is religious, then I say go for it. If not, I would avoid them. I don't need that hassle.
/r/seduction20/01/14 01:56 AM
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Just ask her friend for contact details and get in touch with her. Say something like 'Hey great meeting you the other night. I wanted to get your number in person but you dashed off before I had a chance." Mention how you got her number from her friend so its not creepy. I have used this before with success. Honestly if she was into you she is going to be very happy that you found her. If she says no, at-least you tried and move on. Simple
/r/seduction19/01/14 11:26 PM
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