Women's perspective on being approached

ThrowawayPUA · 2010-08-17T15:50:24+00:00

Remember, what women say they like, and what they actually respond to, are two entirely different things.

mynewname · 2010-08-17T16:50:41+00:00

AFC: I shouldn't talk to her. She probably gets bothered all the time by guys. I'd just be annoying her. SIGH.

PUA: Now there's a girl just waiting to hear from an interesting guy.

pooflinga · 2010-08-17T14:43:05+00:00

Frankly, if this EVER happened to me, I would be tremendously flattered as long as the guy was being nice (hi! what are you looking at!?) and not a jerk (hi! you have boobs!).

More guys need to realize this. Women don't get approached as often as we believe they do (outside of a bar). Just talk to them like a normal person and they almost always respond positively.

2010-08-17T18:00:38+00:00

Don't stress too much about hitting on girls because you worry they're sick of being approached. You may very well be overestimating the amount of attention they get.

I find guys assume I'm hit on a lot more than I actually am. I don't know if there's selection bias here because the only guys I've discussed this with are friends or boyfriends. But they're always shocked to hear that I'm rarely asked out. I'm no great beauty - I'd wager I'm about a 7 - so guys really shouldn't be intimidated.

When I'm politely approached I'm flattered, not offended. I might not want it to go anywhere but I rarely refuse the oppertunity to flirt with a cute guy.

2010-08-18T08:31:50+00:00

Whatever the circumstance, I don't think you guys should hesitate to approach attractive women, because most women aren't going to be outright hostile to you for it.

But also, it's good to keep in mind that just approaching and talking to a woman won't necessarily register you as sexually interesting because different women are attracted to men in different ways.

Some do get really turned on by excellent conversationalists, others experience more attraction when they're doing something active with you, and then there are the chicks that worship musicians. So if you do approach a chick, and you bomb, don't take it personally, attraction can be very subjective and contextual.

Title	Women's perspective on being approached
Author	m-m-m-monster
Upvotes	12
Comments	7
Date	August 17, 2010 2:18 PM UTC (15 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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