Background (posted before): HB9, 31, doctor. Dated once, I feel like I aced it but there was no sex, just a blowjob (was on her period and wasn’t willing to take off her panties). She texted me and wanted to meet me the next day, but I wasn’t available. Admittedly, I was being way too cold after the BJ, and after a week of hardly any contact she wouldn’t see me because she was “busy”. It was obviously bullshit but I thought whatever, that’s life, met other girls.

She later told me that she realized I’m a “player” and she wants something serious. She had a feeling I wouldn’t commit (mind you, she’s 31, probably going after some BB). I maintained my frame (understanding, but uncompromising) and suggested we meet again to see how things go. She then said that she promised a gay friend of hers that she will see some guy he’s trying to set her up with, and she doesn’t want “mix it, but if things don’t work out she will definitely let me know”. Meh, I accepted it calmly as rejection, wished her well and nexted.

I didn’t expect to hear anything from her ever again, but 2 weeks later here she is, texting me again. Now I have this dilemma, on one hand I definitely still want to smash, but on the other, I feel like I’m entering her very strong frame as a fallback for the other guy.

Not sure how to proceed. Enlighten me?