20M in a 2year LTR, with occasional sex and have only just now discovered TRP (looking for some guidelines)

a0001_i1100 · 2018-08-27T16:24:17+00:00

Well, you can’t negotiate attraction or desire so don’t discuss a damn thing. You only want to do that if you are in late stage dread levels. Now, being so new, you need to digest the sidebar, key terms and theories (ie levels of dread), and required readings. Work yourself and work on becoming a top percentile man to increase her attraction. This could be a long process. (Years). I would read up on levels of dread. Don’t discuss the sex thing, be cool and non-chalant, you want to convey you know you could get sex somewhere else if necessary (but never state such things, it’s all in the mind frame and attitude. It’s called abundance mentality). See if things improve and continue on the journey and levels of dread. I recommend all required readings, side bar, key terms and concepts. Implement. Revisit as needed.

Occams_Stubble · 2018-08-27T19:43:31+00:00

It will NOT get better.

You are too young to be tied down. Man up, move on.

FixYourselfFirst · 2018-08-27T16:24:38+00:00

You might have to drop her. It's hard to fix an existing relationship. You have to increase your SMV. Lift, read the sidebar, maintain your frame.

civilizedfrog · 2018-08-27T17:32:40+00:00

Bitching about not getting enough sex is a very pussy drying move. Never do that again. She is not having sex with you cause you are not attractive. For that you need to lift. Let her feel that passive dread. You also need to up your alpha moves. She is getting what she wants from a relationship ie your time, while you are not getting what you want ie sex. Stop giving your time for a girl who is not having sex with you.

VasiliyZaitzev · 2018-08-27T19:53:22+00:00

Hey, I am a guy, who loves his girlfriend, I think she is wife material, she is lovely in all aspects but sex.

The Anna Karenina Principle and the Problem of Bad Relationships

-Sometimes, Even Good Fits Are Bad Fits.

[deleted] · 2018-08-27T23:36:49+00:00

Been in a two year LTR with a HB8, fuck her on demand twice a day, openly have side bitches, have done threesomes, have done all sorts of kinky sex from anal to... you get the point.

Any time she acts out of line for what you want, cut back the attention. Be ruthless. Assuming you're monogamous unlike me, tell her stories of a girl flirting with you or if you're feeling really risky tell her a girl made a move on you but you rejected her--doesn't have to be real, but you have to sell it and also make it "not a big deal" and hold frame. If you really want, start getting laid elsewhere so you're outcome independent with her again. Maybe drop hints that you're starting to have doubts about things, but don't go into a long talk about it.

Sex will pick up if you execute correctly. That said, I've never actually reversed a sexless relationship. I've also never gotten myself into them, so clearly what I do at least has some merit. Good luck--it's a lot harder to turn around a chick's opinion of you than to make a new chick like you.

nabosch · 2018-08-27T21:27:33+00:00

Do you lift? What is your physique like?

Retstortion · 2018-08-27T16:19:59+00:00

“She doesn’t know what’s holding her back”

PPPFFT HAHHAHAHHAHAHAHHAHAH

If you were 6 foot 4, ripped and resembled Ben Affleck this wouldn’t be an issue.

She doesn’t want to fuck you. Key word, WANT.

Hard next.

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