Long time sedditor under a throwaway.
I've been working on my game for the past 2+ years, and it's been life-changing to say the least. It's been an exponential growth. Currently, I am spinning an awesome number of plates (and it has so far been very good for me). My growth has been an outside-inside transition, and only recently have I begun to work on my core. This is mostly due to a combination of fixing my sleep schedule, weaning off of smoking, eating healthy, and hitting the gym like a beast. The material of David Wygant has also been a major influence, and if there is any PUA philosophy I recommend it is his.
That isn't to say that my game is air-tight. I've had periods of highs and lows throughout the past couple of years. My game can be described as manic depressive. However, for the first time, I feel like what I am doing comes from within rather than me forcing it. It's begun to feel like a glide rather than a struggle. Although, it's too early to say how my progress will continue.
I have also noticed that with my increased confidence, my range in women has broadened. More types of women are a possibility - I don't have to bottom feed. With this comes specialization. I know what type of girl is "my type" and I can finally have choice rather than taking up every opportunity.
So here's the TL;DR part: there is a girl that I really, really like (judging from what little I can tell so far of her personality, and looks thus far) and who I really want to ask out. I am getting fewer IOI's from her than girls I am used to, because she is considerably more attractive, and this is subconsciously making me more nervous and AFC-like when approaching her. I do believe that I am holding my own, and I do believe that she is attracted to me... but I'm not completely sure and my confidence is not as high.
She works at a cafe, and whenever I order something she always comments on something about me - how I'm looking that day. I figured this was something that people just do at the cafe because they work there and want tips, but during times where there's a line ahead of me, she doesn't make small talk with anyone else but me. I spoke to her again today, though, and she kind of seemed like it was just in her nature to talk to people. She was able to talk to me with confidence, and wit, whereas I'm used to girls being entranced and nervous around me (I am baller, remember?).
Either way, I'm asking her out. I'm thinking of doing it tomorrow. For most girls, I would wait a really long time (to exhibit scarcity), but I really can't wait for this. I'm really thinking about it a lot.
Advice?
Update I finally asked her out. She said yes... but that I was the third person asking her out that day, and that I should not expect anything romantic. At the time, I was thinking "I don't care - this is awesome." but I'm not sure how I should proceed. My instinct would be to just take her out for a drink or coffee and get to know her, but I may have to do something more exciting to set myself apart. Who knows.
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