Hey seddit.

This is going to be a mixture of FR and talking about my sticking points/lack of balls.

Yesterday i was going clubbing, han style. When i changed trains i was hopping along on my own, having a good time and dancing along on the platform to a song on my headphones. A three set (two guys and HB8) open me, they want a hit of what i took and i start dancing to inaudible music with one of the guys. We talk blabla on train for five minutes (the two dudes are very drunk) and i #-close the girl so we can hang out if either of our parties blows. As soon as we were out of the station the two drunk blokes were not to be seen and the girl asked me not to leave her. so we hit a rockabilly dive bar, dance with the greasers and i take her hand spin her, pull her in, she grinds up on me, you know the usual.

But i do not k-close her. And i have no excuse, except that that is my sticking point. So usually girls get frustrated with me and one of two things happens:

they leave after some heavy grinding or they close me. Which is nice, don't get me wrong, but i want to be able to fucking close myself.

In the case of a HB8: we met around 2am when i got to the parties, around 4 am her friends rejoined us and i left for the party i wanted to go to.

There was a fucking line at that time, so i had to wait. I get in around 4.30 am.

Music is good, minimal electro, and i hit the dancefloor. The only noteworthy interaction with a chick there is HB7 from finland. Open, isolate, bit of kino, back to dancing, she k-closes me. We make out, she pulls me to the side and i got her pinned to the wall. More making out and she does the „i can not believe what i am doing here“ face. So i kiss her neck and say „you smell so fucking good“ and turn my back, go back to dancing. I thought she would join me, but she is not to be seen again.

Rest of the night is pretty uneventful. I leave around 7.30 am.

So i can not kiss close. I mean, i know what i have to do: kiss them and get burned a couple times until i can read the signals. Still, i have trouble taking the leap.

How long have you needed to get over your sticking points? Have you done somthing in particular except just doing it?