Denied to go out with a girl that works in my gym

SirKolbath · 2018-09-01T22:37:05+00:00

Ignore her. If she works there and she's spreading shit about you, file a complaint with the gym management. If she's leaving you alone, leave her alone.

Flpgneves · 2018-09-02T00:31:39+00:00

Don't talk to her, don't even look at her. Don't give her any validation. If she passes by you or comes close to you, turn your head to the other side. Show ACTIVE disinterest. Every interaction with every girl is a frame battle. You can only win this one by totally ignoring her.

FiveStarTendieDinner · 2018-09-01T23:12:21+00:00

Sounds like you're getting a free gym membership. Their management should cave in to that if you act blue pilled enough to cry about it.

RylanBlackwood · 2018-09-01T22:52:01+00:00

Honestly, I would talk to her and try make some peace. She's a childish little brat, like all bitches. Just try and smooth the situation over, the drama isn't worth it.

walawalawa · 2018-09-02T03:14:57+00:00

It's only awkward because you think it is.

Stop caring about it.

I have this in my social circle where I dance and DJ.

A "friend" who I realized had been taking advantage of me: free-loader, not helping on simple things, not paying when he attended some of my events and then constantly bringing up, bragging etc that my crazy ex was hitting on him.

A combination of ALL those things led me to just drop contact with him. I didn't say anything I just wasn't as active. He showed up at a recent dj night with a few female friends of mine.

I said hi and teased him that he'd been out of touch. For whatever reason he left early and took 3 of those girls with him. This is seen as a snub or the height of rudeness.

Suddenly one of the girls who left who is just a friend I have ZERO interest in is now ignoring me. What he said about me, why I have no clue.

Is it awkward? Not really. Chicks act like that. They're emotional. The trick is not to let it get into your head. Just act normal.

In my case there is ZERO upside to asking the girl what's up or calling out my "friend" for his bad behavior recently. Find other options.

HurricaneHugues · 2018-09-02T04:49:23+00:00

You ditched that friend, correct?

Morphs_ · 2018-09-02T08:08:26+00:00

Sounds like you rejected her in a typical manly fashion: by being blunt and saying only "no" or something like that. Women can take that sort of rejection pretty badly.

My advice is to learn preemptive de-escalation. So prevent this stuff in the first place by giving her a reason to say no that isn't her. If you give no reason, she'll automatically fill this in that it's her (which it is, but you don't want her to think that).

So come up with something like saying you're in a busy period, or working on some private stuff that take up all your attention, etc. Basically you're using a feminine way of rejecting, which is by not directly rejecting her, but by being unavailable.

For the rest, sounds like you two are still pretty young (late teens/early 20s). Most women will mature up a little in the next decade.

Title	Denied to go out with a girl that works in my gym
Author	Coolguy1699
Upvotes	2
Comments	9
Date	September 1, 2018 10:34 PM UTC (7 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
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