To the ladies... I have a few questions. Men feel free to chime in.

LesbianPUA · 2011-05-18T21:00:37+00:00

If you really want to know what women think, why don't you go post this in 2X?

frogma · 2011-05-18T21:41:46+00:00

Sex becomes less of a "need" for a guy the more he gets. Abundance mentality helps with that (actually having abundance is better though). When a guy acts needy, it's unattractive. The more needy he acts, the less the girl will want sex. It's your job to get her to want it.

I know a lot of women like the sweet charming guy that seduces them with roses and candles

That's not how it works though. Women want to be pampered and treated like princesses (they want to be chased), but real life will show you that they don't go after the guys who do the chasing. They go after the guys who make em chase them. It works the same way for guys- chances are there have been plenty of girls who put you up on a pedestal, and you probably weren't very attracted to them. You were busy wanting and chasing the girls who didn't make it so easy for you.

Biologically, I think testosterone plays a huge role in men wanting sex all the time, and women not necessarily wanting it as much. But women still want sex. Picture this scenario- would Brad Pitt have a hard time getting a girl to have sex with him? Absolutely not. He'd have to fend off millions of girls. You don't have to be Brad Pitt, but you can improve yourself (and your mentality especially) to get similar results.

xitiomet · 2011-05-18T21:53:28+00:00

Guy here

You can't know something if you have never experienced it. There is a female equivalent to this. Ever wonder why women like to cry at movies? Care and nurture even when its irrational to do so? Stick with a bad boyfriend that beats them? They have emotional needs like we have physical ones. One of life's great ironies if we tried to actually take care of each others needs even though they don't make sense to us many relationships would be far more fulfilling. So in answer to your question they understand our needs as much as we understand theirs.

misarei · 2011-05-19T03:42:00+00:00

Posting this on 2x would be better but anyway, I'm answering this with a 5 year experience I've had with an ex-boyfriend, and im sure many other woman will answer this differently. But in my perspective,

I don't believe that it's really NEEDED. But many things in the world aren't needed and choose to do them out of obvious pleasure anyway. So i accept it as "needed" for lacking of better word. I totally agree and understand that men seem to change into a different state of mind. I was able to see it in my ex-boyfriends eyes when ever he was in that "state" or just aroused. The only thing i noticed that would properly get him out of that was either when i wasnt in the mood and was upset by him persisting or was just moody and turned sad over his persistence. lol
It depends. When i want to, hell yeah i did it on purpose!It was totally funny, but then he knew what i was up to so ended up getting the job done. But other times, sigh it would honestly be "awake" out of no where! Im not sure if its what men are thinking at the time but with out wanting to, sometimes i would suddenly feel something in my lower back and think " man again? whats wrong with him? i thought he just fapped last night!?" haaha but realized it was totally normal. I learned to ignore it or attend it. Sometimes with out trying to, i got a "kick" out of it. so, about 90% of the time, its not intentional. maybe you should be aware of your thoughts. So tell your friend to just " accept and ignore" if thats what their issues are. Im sure their boyfriend will later "accept and fap later."

Title	To the ladies... I have a few questions. Men feel free to chime in.
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Date	May 18, 2011 8:07 PM UTC (15 years ago)
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