Alright, so I'm a little under the weather, so I'm not going to edit or proofread. That's just how it goes. I'll try to break the text into blocks, though, for easy reading. I'm a bit of a seduction novice (joined this subreddit a month or so ago), but I've learned a lot here, and I credit this community with at least some of the success I've been having. As such, I want to give back to the community by offering this field report.

Wifey and I have been in an open marriage for quite a while, but neither of us have successfully managed to have sex outside the marriage. We've also wanted to have a threesome for a long time. This HB7 I go to law school with had been giving me lots of IOIs over the past month or two, but I wasn't sure how to handle it.

After the semester ended, her and I would FB each other a little bit, but I was not at all sure how to indicate to her that I was in an open marriage without making my intentions super-obvious to her (thereby lowering my perceived value). I then realized that I could change the privacy settings on FB so that only she could see my 'relationship status' and then change it to 'in an open relationship.' I hid it from everybody first, then changed, then waited a day or two, and then allowed her to see it (so that it wouldn't pop up on her newsfeed, and she would see it only by creeping, which we all know girls do). The day after I allowed her to see it, she sent me a message saying we should hang out and have a dinner or something (my wife included).

I told her that we were leaving town for a week, but that I'd contact her when we got back and we'd set something up. At this point, I was nervous, because I wasn't sure if she just wanted to be social (law students can be like that, networking and such), or if she was actually interested in fun bedroom times. I was also a little afraid b/c I don't want word getting out around the school about my relationship status and I didn't want to weird her out or anything.

Anyway, I started sending borderline flirty messages on the advice of some Seddit links I had read (ones about texting girls), using winky faces and shit like that. When we got back, I sent her a FB messages that said "gimme your phone number, I'll call you tomorrow." She did, I called the next day and we chatted a little bit and set up dinner plans at our house for the weekend. I told my wife about most of the communications (mostly b/c it was exciting just to talk about it and plan out the evening). We planned out some special vegetarian dishes for her and she planned out to make bread and a special dessert for us. We planned for her to come over at 8pm, eat dinner with us, we put the 2 yr old to bed at 9pm, and then out come the drinks. Wifey and I planned to play "have you ever" with her so that we could ask her naughty questions (ever kissed member of same sex? Ever had threesome?)

The night came. She showed up. She loved our dinner. It was nice and relaxing. Conversation went very well. She was dressed very nicely, too. We put kiddo to bed and started drinking (though, we all drank a glass or two of wine with dinner). We went outside (it was beautiful out) with some gin/tonics and relaxed. When it got too cold we went inside and started 'have you ever.'

"Have you ever" worked beautifully, with one major drawback. The drawback was that we all got WAY too drunk. But, anyway, the game went how you might expect. We started with simple questions and ended up with naughty questions. She had kissed another girl before, but she had never had a threesome (none of us drank for that question, though).

At this point, it becomes a bit of a blur. We were all laughing and having a good time. Parts of my memory blacked out a bit. We quit playing 'have you ever' (in the dining room) and went into the living room to play mario wii for some reason. At this point I really blacked out, but I do remember that the girls went upstairs for my wife to show HB7 a picture in the office/spare-bedroom. All I remember is walking in on my wife and HB7 going at it. I immediately got turned on, but wasn't quite sure what to do, so I tried to facilitate everything. I helped take off pants and stuff like that. HB7 was on top of my wife, making out with her rather passionately. My wife later told me that (and we were both really drunk and both our memories are spotty) she thinks there was fingering involved, and that she might have gone down on HB7 (but she also thinks that might have been a dream).

Anyway, at a certain point I couldn't take it anymore and so I made stronger moves toward involving myself. HB7 (also really drunk) indicated that she did not want me to touch at that time. I said 'okay.' A little bit after that, HB7 kind of freaked out. She said something about thinking she was being recorded and (I shit you not) curled up into a ball in the corner of the room. My wife calmed her down and I left the room. HB7 passed out in the spare bed. Wifey and I went to bed and then puked all over everything. It was bad.

I had to wake up in the morning with the kiddo (and a nasty-ass hangover). I nursed my hangover pretty good. 3 hours later (or so) HB7 and wifey woke up at the same time. HB7 said she couldn't remember anything (understandably), but when we reminded her of what went down with her and my wife she began to remember. She did not seem to remember her 'freak-out.' Everything was nice again, I made a good breakfast, and we all hung out for a couple of hours before I took her home. While we hung out we had a pleasant time. I sat on the couch in between the two girls and practiced kino on HB7 in full view of my wife (I think HB7 was attracted to me the whole time, but very scared of offending my wife or seeming like a slut or something), mostly just gently caressing her knee and thigh a bit, while we conversed in order to make her feel more comfortable with the idea of us all touching each other.

Later, I took her home (she had asked us to pick her up b/c she knew she would be too drunk to drive) and when I parked outside her apartment she stayed in the car and conversed with me. So I practiced more kino on her, touching her neck gently while having a nice conversation with her. She didn't get out of the car for at least 15 minutes. This was a pretty strong IOI, I think. During the car ride over, and that conversation, we talked a bit about what had happened the night before, we both agreed that it was not weird but fun. She said a few times how much fun she had (e.g. she quit smoking 3 weeks ago and said she didn't even think about smoking last night b/c my wife and I were so "entertaining"). Oh, forgot to mention, back at the house before we left I mentioned that we should all hang out again this week (b/c I have to leave town for a few days on Thursday). Her and my wife both liked the idea. Anyway, while in the car (and this was yesterday) I closed on that idea. We're set up to hang out tomorrow night around 9pm.

At this point, everything seems smoothed out in terms of her understanding of our relationship and our intentions with her (also, she left a lot of stuff here, and I wondered if that was on purpose so she'd be sure to have an excuse to come back).

Tomorrow night, we will have way fewer drinks, and it seems that we are all aware that we will be having a threesome. I am very excited about it. I've been trying to think of ways to initiate the threesome tomorrow night as quickly as possible, and how to conduct myself (it seems easy when you're just thinking about it, but when you're actually in the situation it seems harder).

TL;DR: Professional colleague gave me IOIs. I hid my relationship status on FB to everyone, changed it to "in an open relationship," and then allowed her to see it. She messaged me to say 'let's hang out.' Did a little bit of subtle flirty FB messaging before closing. She came over, we got ridiculous drunk and her and my wife hooked up. I watched, but didn't get much involved (1st time, was so excited and drunk didn't know what to do). She had a little freak-out, but was fine in the morning (and hung out for two hours with my wife and I while we sat on the couch and I practiced kino on her), and said she couldn't remember her freakout, but could remember having fun. I drove her home after breakfast, and we rescheduled for tomorrow night. Before she got outside the car, she stayed and initiated conversation with me for 15 minutes while I practiced kino on her neck.

So, that's all I can think of for now. Two things:

  1. Any advice from seasoned vets on how I can best facilitate things tomorrow night? Any thoughts in general?

  2. Feel free to ask any questions you may have, I'll be here all night.