Here's the situation. I meet a girl. I chat with her and build rapport. I get her number. I text her and make her laugh. I invite her to come kick it. I get no response. I should wait a day or three before trying to re-initiate texting, right?

Next time I do text her should I be playful and not invite her to do anything or should I be playful again and try to get her to come out with me again?

This is what has roughly happened with all three of the number closes I followed up on this week. I felt I built a fair amount of rapport with each girl. Talking for at least an hour with the two of them and about 20 minutes with another one before going for the number close.

I'm starting to feel this is some sort of shit test I'm not really comprehending fully. I haven't gotten comfortable kino-ing yet and I think this has something to do with it.

Your experiences/thoughts are much appreciated.

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Edit: I started writing a response to drNGO and it started to look like a psuedo field report so I decided to just append it here. He suggested I use qualifications more. Here's what I had to say.

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You're right about qualifications. It's something I do sometimes but not all the time and I just need to make sure to make it a part of my regular game. I can definitely feel a difference in the girl's attitude towards me when I make a point out of it.

I've been trying to be more care free and silly when talking to girls these last couple days cause I still feel I take myself too seriously. But when I'm just goofing around, I tend to forget to do things like get the girl to qualify, get the girl to invest, reward her efforts, and more basic shit like delay my text responses.

I've given up on the first two flaky numbers. #1 I messed up cause I was kinda irritated with her behavior and acted less than smooth. #2 I messed up by giving up after the first freeze out (it's been 5 days). #3 I nearly messed up today too by being too quick on my text responses but I was bored at work, just trying to have some fun and not really thinking to delay my responses. And honestly, I was a little anxious after getting frozen out by #1 and #2. At least I didn't kick myself as hard with #3 as I did with #1 and #2. Practice makes perfect and hopefully #3 is salvageable if I give it a day off and resume with some more playful banter and throw in some qualifications.

There's another girl that I met on Saturday that I did more qualification game than I normally do and I felt she was growing more interested in me as I asked her about her hobbies/talents/interests and rewarded her when she made an effort. I think she wanted me to get her number but I hesitated after I found out I knew her brother. I shouldn't have hesitated cause I felt she made it pretty clear she wanted me to take her out and show her a good time. Still kicking myself about it =)

I heard there's a pain period in learning seduction and I'm grateful to be understanding more of what that means lately. I thought it was painful getting over approach anxiety and that everything would be much easier after that but now there's the pain of learning how to set up first dates. Don't know what comes after that but I look forward to the challenges ahead.

As always, your input is much appreciated.