I kinda didn't even want to write this because it seemed pointless but after seeing the thread of people bashing this community I felt compelled to write about my night out last Friday. I went out with the BAS guys like we usually do in SF on Fridays.

Before I get to the drinking & debauchery, I just want to mention a quick story that happened while me and heckz were looking for a spot outside. We found one, but it required me to parallel park. (I suck at doing this, especially on a busy street) When I felt I had kinda messed up the parking job, and was going to restart, heckz stopped me and "coached" me through it. This situation was sort of a microcosm of my experience with the seduction community so far. In the past months I have been moved beyond what feels comfortable and safe, and I've had great friends that I've made here, that push and encourage me to succeed.

First Set

Our usual bar was pretty packed when we went in, and we met up with the rest of the BAS crew. While I'm waiting for my drink, I notice two girls next to us, drinking some draft beer I can't identify. I ask them immediately what they're drinking and after they tell me, I demand a sip to see if its any good. 3 months ago, I would've never been able to do that, I would've sipped by beer, and stick with my social group. Eventually, they prompted me for my name (I don't tell anyone my name when I'm talking to them now, if they're interested in me, they will ask, helps gauge interest) One of the girls was pretty shitfaced, the other one was not as bad. The least drunk one was sending some obvious signals my way. All while I'm talking to them, other BAS guys are arriving, and I'm genuinely happy to see them because they are my friends first, wingmen second.

Birthday Girls

Walked over to a girl carrying a golf club, and demanded to know (in a gentle and funny way) what she was doing with a weapon inside. She lit up instantly, told me that it was her friend's birthday and they were doing a golf theme (girls are such nerds about their birthdays ;-) After a couple of minutes I got prompted for my name again (I'm never introducing myself ever lol), and gave her friend, the birthday girl, a big hug. She also complimented/was impressed by my beer choice (Guinness), I've had that happen a couple of times when I go out, maybe its peacocking at some places. She left to go to her party, made sure to let me know that she will talk to me later.

TofuTofu and venue change

I think Tofu arrived at this time, and it was great to see him IRL again. We got a shot and a beer and caught up, and while we're hanging out with the other BAS guys, the girl from the first set comes to find me. (I've never had girls who were complete strangers actively look for me at a bar before I got involved in the community) I end up hanging out with her for a little bit longer, but her and her friend and getting progressively sloppier throughout the night (and it was only like 11:00pm too) I start to lose interest. I pawn her off on some other guy and go back to hang out with my friends. Tofu decides to bounce to his friends birthday party which is near by and asks me to tag along. When I'm leaving I say bye to all the people I talked to and the HB drunk chicks give me a big hug and butt squeeze on my way out. That was a first, and I left the bar feeling good and just a little used ;-).

TofuTofu in action and Karaoke

At the other bar, Tofu introduced himself to a group of three cute girls. I laid back, and ate some leftover chips from a party that was there earlier and observed. (Actually one of the girls did introduce herself to me because of my shirt, but the IOI's we're going Tofu's way) It's always fun to watch Tofu interact with people, especially when they ask him about what he does for a living, Japan, etc. These girls were mesmerized by what he was saying, it was so funny to watch. We eventually left with the birthday people, and did some karaoke. Now if you were to tell me that I would be comfortable doing karaoke in a room full of strangers at some point in my life, I would've said you were crazy. But I did do it, and I loved every minute of it! After me a Tofu did an awesome rendition of Dr. Dre, I left.

Thoughts & Takeaways

I know that this night probably seems terrible compared to the top [FR]'s, but I want people to know that your value as a person isn't determined by how many notches you get on your belt. If men dedicated their lives to creating happiness for themselves instead of focusing on getting pussy; this forum would be about women trying to get men. I've been doing a fun experiment lately, of not complaining about anything at all, and seeing how many days I can do in a row. So far I've been going strong since Wednesday. When people ask me how I'm doing, I answer, "Can't Complain", that doesn't mean that I'm great, I just literally can't complain about it.

This is probably a rambling connection of thoughts, more so than a field report, but I want the critics of seduction to read this. 4-5 months ago, I was a recluse who stayed inside on weekends, getting drunk and high by myself until I couldn't feel feelings anymore. Now, I enjoy going out. I enjoy talking with strangers, cashiers, baristas, customer service people, neighbors, and old people. I'm not doing any tricks, or methodology to manipulate women. I'm finally expressing the truest and most honest version of myself, and people are liking me for me. That's what the community has given me.

One more thing, fuck the haters.