I met this girl, HB7.5 at a party over July 4th. I remember connecting with her well on different topics, and the conversation flowed naturally with some teasing. I ran the typical kino escalation on her, starting with elbows and shoulder, and eventually small of the back. I did a small compliance test on her, suggesting we sit on the bench, and as we talked, I did some touches on the knee.

When the sun set, we all moved downstairs into the apartment. I made sure to talk to other people as well. There was another HB7 there that had my same last name, upon first meeting, and I gave her a hug for being related (joke). Saw that the target HB7.5 was waiting on the wings to jump into the convo out of the corner of my eye, but I ignored her. That was probably some sort of social proof. At the end, I got the target's number, gave her a hug.

** Combination of naturally flowing conversation and some light kino got things going. No mistakes on reflection. **

Called her up a couple days later, and asked her out. I met her at a bookstore near my place to look at cookbooks. Used it as opportunity to kino, since I find it hard to kino over food. Surprisingly, she reciprocated early, and it became easy to hold her hand. I was hungry, so we went to a ramen place and I paid--she was in the bathroom when the cheque came, and I wasn't thinking--though she offered later. Ran standard kino while we went for some froyo (by this time I had my arm around her waist while we walked), and then invited her back to my place for a movie.

I got too engrossed into the movie and only made a move with about 15 mins left before she left. She was dodging kisses directly on the lips, but I was kissing her on her neck and ears. No clothes came off, but I was on top of her. In hindsight, that was lame.

At the end, she said I was too charming (in my mind, I said HA!). She kept asking me how many girls I take back to my place and how many people I slept with. Thanks to you all, I just agreed and amplified without answering her questions. And ended the night on that. I'm still terrible at push-pull.

** Lesson learned: too little too late, and should have froze her out. **

Second date went well enough, and she ended up at my place again. At first, she had LMR, even with kisses, but pushing through it slowly, and backing off, somehow, she seemed to change her mind, and we were making out. However, this was like a 5 hour LMR. To be honest, I was too tired. Managed to get clothes partially off, grind on her, and make out. Boob grazing with clothes on. She'd complain every time I'd try to get her clothes off. I didn't do as much push-pull. We'd talk inbetween make outs and watching the movie.

I noticed that she does push-pull. Every time she'd try to shit test me with a how many girls have you slept with. And I wouldn't answer, she'd throw my arm off her.

** Lesson learned: really need to push through LMR, and do much more push pull. **

Contrary to what is probably typical, we went on a 3rd date. I'm pretty sure she's into me, but I ended up in the candidate for boyfriend zone. On the 3rd date, we were suppose to go kiting, but she didn't have the shoes. So we just took a walk around the lake. At the very beginning, she dodged a kiss, and I just pulled back. But about 15 mins later, and for the rest of the night, she was the one initiating.

We went to eat dinner. We went split the cheque this time, though when she asked if she should pay, I said, "If you'd like", rather than "Yes, let's split it." I'm still getting over that provider mentality, and have to remember we're not b/f g/f.

Went back to my place, again, made out this time without pretense of movie, and again had to try and push through LMR. We were making out. I did the stomach to stomach thing. Got further with Heavy petting, etc. It was always two steps forward one step back. I'd just try stuff again and again. She did ask again about how many girls I've taken back to my place. remembering one of the lines here, I said she was the only one to fall for it with a grin. She laughed, and asked no longer. That seemed like it worked.

** The stopping, and trying again later or freezing out defn works for breaking down LMR. **

But no f-close. I ended the night since we both had to work in the morning. As she was leaving she told me she's a virgin (at 26), and that she's waiting for marriage. That explains a lot.

She's a committed Christian, whereas I'm not a believer. She's conflicted about that. She use to believe in that book, "I kissed dating goodbye", but no longer. I'm not sure exactly what to do here.

I thought about just friendzoning her (I do honestly enjoy her company and vice versa), because I have no intention of having no sex. I don't need help in not having sex. But on the other hand, I can't exactly push for sex in good conscience now. According to the 'leave her better than you found her', it'd be pretty shitty to push her into it if she's going feel shitty about it afterwards. However, it seems like I'm making progress, and she might give at some point...but that's like her saying I might give at some point and become Christian. Not going to happen.

I may just have to talk to her and see what her attitude and stance is on it, and make a decision on that. I probably can't do anything to change her mind by logic and reasoning, as personal decisions like hers is rooted in something else.