Girl I met at university..she is clearly interested. Dunno how to approach it at all.

lonelyboner · 2011-09-04T13:07:42+00:00

serious question: do you fap alot along the lines of like once a day?

if yes, stop and see what happens for like 2 weeks.

postman_pat · 2011-09-03T16:09:16+00:00

Sounds like you're doing well.

An important thing though, is not to get oneitis for this girl.

One thing you keep saying is that you feel anti-social, awkward, whatever. I think that your goal in flirting and spending time with this girl should be improving your social skills, and NOT nescesarily going for an F-Close. it might happen with this girl, it might not.

So have fun with her, learn something about yourself, and see where it goes.

absurdconcept · 2011-09-03T16:54:01+00:00

It's neat that you were able to analyze what's going on after the fact. That means you're conscious while you're interacting with her, I imagine.

You're sharing books (I hope she offered to split the refund for her book with you), so you inevitably have to do homework together, right? You're both on campus? If so, ask her over to do homework sometime. Try to escalate kino from there.

josh2449 · 2011-09-03T21:27:26+00:00

Just do it, man. I know it's completely obvious and "easy" advice, but that's honestly just what you need to do. You can either sit here, type out a crazy long post on Reddit, and overthink the whole situation too much, or you can just get her number and ask her out the next time you see her. You're better off than most guys, as you can already tell she is into you. So you can either keep up this "I don't know what I'm doing, ahhhh" attitude and miss this opportunity - wondering forever what could have been - or you can just go for it. You miss 100% of the shots you don't take...

whatwhatinyourbutt · 2011-09-03T15:57:22+00:00

I had trouble with this as well. I never really got over it and when I asked for a girls number it was awkward. What I found made things easier is just suggesting a mutual activity bar, party, bite to eat, anything that required exchanging phone numbers. But keep it real. be yourself. Don't oversell yourself and if it doesn't workout than oh well. Even if she friend zones you its a great way to meet other girls. Friend zone is not bad all the time. I met my gf of 6 years through that situation.

BananaBug · 2011-09-03T07:36:55+00:00

Well first off dating isn't the easiest thing in the first place, especially if you aren't as much of a social person as others so feeling nervous and unsure is normal. So I'm not sure that it's a barrier. If you get to the point of becoming emotionally or physically intimate with a woman and you have trouble with letting her in then I would suggest there is a problem.
So with this girl, you already have an in since she wants to share books. Getting her number should be easy and getting coffee after class is a good idea. Her thinking you want to hang outside of class is a good thing silly, it lets her know you're interested in her outside of just sharing books. Personally I think it's a lot better to start a friendship then try to dive into trying to have a relationship but that's just me. So next time you have class with her try to keep calm, ask her if she wants to get food/coffee sometime, get her number, and let the rest just happen in time.
I hope this helps a little bit although I am a girl so who knows what the guys perspective will be. Good luck :)

Title	Girl I met at university..she is clearly interested. Dunno how to approach it at all.
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Date	September 3, 2011 7:17 AM UTC (14 years ago)
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