Anyone share a similar experience?

imtheoneimmortal · 2018-09-06T16:58:30+00:00

Isn't about only girl plates ltr marriage, is about yourself, you need a girl a validation because maybe you aren't so confident.
So build up confidence by approaching people (old young milf girls mens all) and start to care self of your body and mind (meditation)
When you have confidence many things buildup like more easier finding a job, a girl, go to party.

oytrp · 2018-09-06T18:04:19+00:00

1: We all have moments we look back on and cringe. All of us. What's the point of harping on it? Can't change it. Just learn from it.

2: If you still want oneitis, then you haven't even begun to take the pill. AWALT, there are no unicorns. This is fundamental. You will go nowhere if you can't accept this.

3: Sounds like you're asking if it's okay to stop trying to improve yourself. The answer is no. You don't have to take everything you read as gospel but more reading can only make you better. Quick fixes don't work. The more you read, the more you will internalize TRP theories and the more natural it will be for you to apply them.

RedPillD · 2018-09-06T18:33:22+00:00

Learn from your past mistakes but do not dwell on them.

Remember that this forum is chock full of men who were very recently ripped out of a fantasy. The angry and the bitter will always be the loudest.

TRP only gives you knowledge. It is up to you how you use it.

It's always okay to spend less time online and more time in reality. But you should never stop hustling. Choosing to not play the game is the same as choosing to lose it.

Charlie_Wright8312 · 2018-09-06T19:21:12+00:00

TL;DR? I (18M) am a beginner myself and stumbled across TRP two or three weeks ago, but I'd like to share some of my thoughts on this. Hopefully, I can spark a discussion and can learn a thing or two myself. Let's not take this as advice but rather approach this as a discussion where we all pitch in our views.

Q1. Important life lesson right here. Understand, only the present is real. This moment, here and now, is the only thing that actually exists. Time itself a human construct, created by us to introduce a structure, a certain method to the madness. It is a label. There is no such thing as the past. There are only memories in your head of past events that you hold on to. What I mean is that it only exists in your head. It no longer exists out there in the real world. And since it only exists in your head, since you're the sole reason it exists, you have complete control over it. Learn from your mistakes, yes, but once you've extracted the wisdom from it, don't entertain the memory in your head any longer. Shut it out. Don't think about it. Convince yourself to let go of everything that's happened before. None of it matters anymore. None of it is real anymore. Learn what you can and move on. (Similarly, the future also is a human construct, a contingency, a what if, a maybe. There is no such thing as the future. It exists only in our fantasy in our head. Think about the big picture and the long term, sure. But once you've established your mission, once your goals are defined, stop obsessing over the big picture and fucking focus on the small steps that you need to do today. Stop fantasizing about the grandeur and focus on today's nitty gritty.)

In short - Do not be emotionally invested in either the past or the future. Be cold and analytical in your approach, analyse and infer what you need to make your present more worthwhile and significant.

Q2. I hear you and I experience the same thing. I want a unicorn. I want true love. I want someone to care for me and look after me and love me for me. I don't deny that. I think we all have such tendencies because of the mother's unconditional love that we experienced (or wanted to) as children. There is no need to be in denial or ashamed about it. It is part of our innate human nature. But that doesn't mean it's okay to fulfill that fantasy of yours. Just come to terms with the fact that you have such fantasies but they will never be fulfilled. Stop expecting it. Don't entertain the thought that one day, it could possibly be fulfilled somehow. Slowly, the fantasy will die out as you learn and experience more and more of the cruelty in this world.

In short - Don't suppress it or be ashamed of it. It will die out on its own soon enough. Until then, don't let it control you.

Q3. I always struggle with this as well, and I hear it's a common problem. We all get so enthusiastic we are so stuck on reading and absorbing all this new information. We sense that there is some real wisdom and truth here and we can't get enough of it. But this is a huge problem because it fools us into thinking we are changing and making so much progress in our life while, in truth, we are the same beta bitch that we were fucking 8 years ago when we found this sub, lol. I've talked to actual people who have fallen into that trap. So yeah, is it ever appropriate? Hmm. Wrong question. It is never inappropriate. That's the truth. Read a lot, yes. But spend time applying more than you read. As noobs, we look up to these people so much we lose our sense of individuality. Stop listening to them and going to them for everything. Stop being so dependent on them. Stop needing them to think for you. The basic principles and concepts are given to you. Now go out into the world and test it for yourself. Apply and experiment. See what works and what doesn't. Don't take their word for it. Always check for yourself. Maybe your culture is different. Maybe your situation is different. There is no one size fits all. See what works for you and own it. (Although I have to mention that this kind of leeway is only available on the small things. It's okay to disagree on that. What it's not meant for is the overall concept and theories and principles. These are time tested and backed by evidence. Don't waste your time testing them. Learn from others experiences and avoid the fucking landmines. Learn the difference between the training grounds and the middle of the fucking battlefield. Know where to practice and where to just do what you're told.

In short - Read a lot, but apply everything you read AS YOU READ IT. It is a simultaneous effort. Read and apply, test everything and experiment what works for you. Form your worldview based on this combination of learning from others experiences and your own experience. Don't let it be one sided either way.

ThatCurlBro · 2018-09-06T18:50:17+00:00

You shouldn’t forgive neither forget your past. Analyse it from a emotionally detached standpoint, see how you could have done it right, and learn so you don’t repeat the same mistakes.

If I am sometimes embarrassed about something I did in the past I just reevaluate how dumb it was and (force) laugh. It actually worked for me to feel more comfortable with such memories.

Title	Anyone share a similar experience?
Author	ch_da_guru13
Upvotes	2
Comments	7
Date	September 6, 2018 4:45 PM UTC (7 years ago)
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