Hello Seddit, long time reader, first time poster. Just came from a 4 year relationship and getting back into the game.

As it says in the title, I am going on a date that will happen in the Noon time and need your help. This particular girl (whom I believe is a 7.5) has been giving some heavy tells and mixed signals. I am about to go into detail but please bear with me.

To get it started, I met this girl 5 weeks ago on campus and pretty much share classes together on 3 days. I would see her for about 3 hours on Tues/Thurs and 6 hour on Wednesday. Everything I describe below happens in 3-day intervals in a week.

1st week:

  • Friendly speak and introductions.
  • Turns out I am really funny and joke a lot. Tease her a bit.
  • Spend more time paying attention in class rather than talking to her all the time so not to seem desperate.
  • Have a pretty good conversation on the phone at night.
  • Tells me I need a haircut and to clean up a bit. (I have long hair and unshaven facial hair)
  • She hits me a bit every time I make a joke or tease her.

2nd week:

  • Face is shaven (hair still long)
  • It's my birthday, she (surpisingly) gives me a cake. Get my first hug.
  • Get some lunch during class break, finds about my ex. I find out about her ex. She is coming from a 3.5 year relationship and has been broken up for 2-3 months. Say it is mutual. Wants to know about my relationship.
  • Tells me where she works and to try it out.

3rd week:

  • I screw up this week and am in her personal space more often than not trying to talk to her during class most of the time. Huge mistake.
  • Tells me I would look better in summer clothing. (I tend to dress in the fall)

4th week:

  • Hair is cut. States that I look much better.
  • Wear summer clothing, states that she likes what I'm wearing.
  • Revert to non-chalant attitude due to Week 3 failure.
  • Hits me a lot more every time I make a joke. Hits me to get my attention when I'm not paying attention to her in class sometimes.
  • It is her birthday. Remember she loves balloons. I got her (1) balloon. Ties it around her wrist for the rest of her day. Get a hug and she makes an inside joke about a past conversation with my birthday.
  • Eat lunch with her on a break and both suggest to share one plate. She states she wants to play and I tell her that I don't roll like that. Tell her to pull out her hand and we rock-paper-scissors for it. I lose, I pay, she enjoys it and states that I am a lot of fun.
  • Ask her out to get some Dim Sum as she has never had it before. She wants to go. I name a date and she can't but she suggests next Friday. I say that is fine.
  • Try calling her the next day, she doesn't pick up. She doesn't return phone call. (Give her BOTD as she works a ton as a waitress)
  • Walk her to her class (we walk together a lot) and tells me that she has a realization that we walk together a lot. Tells me she'll just ask me next time cause she doesn't want it to be my responsibility. I pretend to walk away offended as a joke and she tells me to stay.

I am not sure what her interest level is and how I should be playing off of on the date or what I should do. I am looking for a girlfriend and want to be straightforward but not sure if the timing is right. It seems if she is showing interest but not too sure as she doesn't exactly return phone calls and is becoming apparent that I am showing interest in her. I also feel like I have waited too long and have to do something now.

I would also like to add that this weekend she will be going to a weekend that her ex is also attending. I am a bit worried but it is out of my power to do anything about it so I wont worry too much about it.

What should be my next step seddit?

I am now entering the fifth week with her. I believe in the past four weeks she has seen me a lot so I'm considering not attending the first two days of classes as I do not need to and have finished all projects anyway. Will show up on the third day just before the date the next day. Also completely changing how I dress and to stylize more. I'm going to mention the Friday Dim Sum date at Noon again to clarify that it is really happening. How should I go about this date? I'm not even sure if she knows it is a date but I'm trying to remain casual about it.

Thanks for the long read.

TL;DR: Met a girl and have been talking for 5 weeks. Some of her tells says she likes me and sometimes I believe she doesn't when she doesn't return phone calls. Going out to eat Dim Sum with her during noon-time for the first time. Want to date exclusively and how to go about it.