So I went all out on my one-itis. Deep down I knew this was not going to work, but at least I have closure.

frogma · 2011-10-05T16:37:15+00:00

This was... just... terrible.

Read through the sidebar, and you'll find plenty of advice that says to do the exact opposite of what you did here.

This was a love letter- not only that, but it was highly based on logic ("I'm good for you, that's why you should dump this guy and date me instead"). It's the worst way to get a girl (unless you're Casanova in the 1600's or whatever).

But you also put her on the defensive- even if she did like you, she's likely to respond by being defensive either way, since you instigated that. Don't ever put that kind of pressure on a girl, not even in person. It won't work most of the time.

If it didn't work out at the bar, you should've waited till you saw her again (or initiate a text convo at the very least), and made some moves. If you had kept it more nonchalant and just gone with the flow, it would've worked out better for you even if she rejected you regardless.

Use this as a lesson that you should never send any sort of messages like this, EVER. I don't care what the situation is. They don't work.

porphyry3 · 2011-10-05T15:02:47+00:00

Are you serious?

probablyreadit · 2011-10-05T16:15:36+00:00

I honestly don't know why this didn't work.

Title	So I went all out on my one-itis. Deep down I knew this was not going to work, but at least I have closure.
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Upvotes	0
Comments	6
Date	October 5, 2011 2:49 PM UTC (14 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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