Writing this FR since I'm bored at work with the okcupid date I had last night HB7.

I'm almost at 50% reply rate on OKC, so it isn't that difficult for me to get a date from that site. The most important thing I find on OKC is really the pics (sorry guys even though I know looks don't matter, but it seem to be the case with online dating). I typically just send out random messages to girls without really reading their profile and get replies back. The girl I dated last night wrote back something really generic and asked me a question regarding my profile. I basically just turned it into a banter by saying, "Are you really going to survey me with these boring questions?" (These type of stuff works really well on okc) and after a few more bs messages, I told her we should grab a drink and fight it out.

We exchanged contacts and I waited about an hour later to text her:

me: Hey lets grab a drink tomorrow at 7 after work

her: Spanish class tomorrow...who is this? <---use this as your advantage to tease her and make it fun

me: ohhh u forgot about me already :P it's (name here)

her: sorry I didn't have a chance to save it yet

me: okay i'll forgive u this time...might have to bite u when I see u =P...what's your sched like? (date plans and stop text)

Now I sort of escalated this a little sexually through the biting text. She texted me the next morning changing her mind that she is able to meet up after her class. I decided not to give in and told her I already had plans and we'll just meet the next day as we planned. This got her wondering and builds some tension.

I met up with her the next day at a lounge and made sure I sat next to her so we're touching a little. We ordered drinks and she paid for herself. I started building rapport first by some random small chat asking her if she ever been to the bar or hung out around the area just to make her feel comfortable, but I knew I had to get out of this meaningless chat quickly. I asked her to let me see her hand (kino) and started doing cold reading. Even though I suck at this, but I just bullshit my way through and tried to make it funny. This gets her laughing and giggling and that's when I knew it was time to escalate and change topic to something more interesting (escalate and lead on the high notes guys). I started asking her about relationships and dating questions. I decided to ask her what makes a good relationship. She just said some generic bs which I expected since girls don't want to look slutty or anything, so I decided to take a chance to escalate and ask her about sex in a relationship. When I first brought it up, she seemed caught off guard (emotional spike), but I kept my frame and looked her in the eye and made it sound like it's normal and not a big deal. She saw that I didn't flinch and became more comfortable with talking about it.

After another 30 min of chatting, our drinks were done and I decided it's time to venue change. (Note: throughout our chat, I made sure I kept kino and teased her every chance I get. By the time we walked out, I had enough rapport to grab her butt which she even said it's okay since she feels comfortable with me, but I did not kiss her yet) I told her lets go grab a movie at my place which she was a bit hesitant at first. I kept my frame saying "It's up to you...you can go home or we can chill" and made it seem like no big deal which she complied. Once we got to my place, I put on some random movie and we started making out. I started escalating by trying to take her clothes off, but hit LMR. I pulled back a bit and just decided to play with her necklace she had on and started joking around to try and get her laughing. Once she started laughing, I caved man her and carried her to my bed to try again. At this point, she was still giving me LMR, but it was less. Eventually I plowed through and she gave in.

Things I learned:

-Escalate quickly and get out of small talk

-Keep your frame....it only gets awkward if you feel awkward

-When trying to take her home, make it like it's no big deal and she can walk anytime

-Hitting LMR does not mean the end. Keep plowing. She came to your place knowing what will happen

TL;DR Okc girl, build attraction through text and escalate sexually quickly. Met up for drinks, brought her back to my place and hit LMR. Kept plowing and eventually she gave in.