Overview In the most basic sense, a compliance test is when you ask someone to do something. They range from putting your hand out to shake, all the way to asking a girl for her phone number. Mystery called these "hoops" you make a girl jump through and believed that each test she passed was an IOI. However, this is not what I mean.

I am asking about compliance tests from women. How does seddit usually react to a compliance test? Do you react? Do you first make her pass a compliance test before passing hers? Does it depend on your mood?

I'll give a few examples. Some of these you may not even view as a "compliance test," but these examples are the types of things I am talking about:

Example one: Was in my PJs at home one night, prepared for bed. I get a text from an HB I met the weekend before saying "what're you up to tonight?" I told her, "In bed, care to join me?" She said, "I'm at a bar. Want to join me?" Now, the old me would've jumped at the opportunity and said "SURE! I'll be right there!." But I was tired, so I politely declined. Would seddit have met this HB at a bar?

Example 2 Walk into a venue. There is a HB Tall cutie up front taking donations for some charity. She says, "Do you want to donate?" STEP 1: would you give right away, or give her some shit? I tell her I have to break money at the bar. She says she can break bills right there. Through her shear resilience, I comply and donate a coupla bucks. We end up talking for quite a bit and I ended up making a friend at the bar.

Example 3 At starbucks ordering a cup of coffee. The cute barista says, "would I like whip cream?" Hmmm. I think about it. "Yeah you do," she says. Would seddit get the whip cream?

Conclusion Admittedly, this is some very minor stuff with some very specific examples. My overarching question though, is how do you react to these situations? Here's a hypothetical. You're dead set on doing something and a girl says, "well, I'd really like to do this [other thing]." Do you say "no" flat out, agree, or compromise?

Some benefits to agreeing include being agreeable, being a value-giver, having her like you because she gave you advise, and building rapport. Some dangers include losing the leading frame, entering her reality (instead of bringing her into yours), and coming across as too easy to please.

I have no idea if this thought is as clear on paper as it is in my head. So gimme some questions if you don't understand and I will try to elaborate. Otherwise, please tell me your experiences with such things, and how you've handled them plus the results you got. Thanks!