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Low effort, low value post. Massive waste of time to anyone reading
/r/seduction09/08/22 02:52 AM
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Excellent advice. Thanks for posting.
/r/seduction03/06/18 03:31 AM
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When starting out on this story, I expected - maybe hoped - for the men seeking help to be simple, greasy caricatures, two-dimensional sleaze bags being whipped into a frenzy of flesh and female consumption. Instead, spending time with the 13, I sensed a combination of acute desire for change in their own lives, mixed with an even greater sense of loneliness. What Kezia and her coaches are ultimately selling is a structured dream they were desperate to buy into and believe. Whether it would work…
/r/seduction10/08/17 10:40 PM
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In addition to to the great line given by /u/thiswaytotheporn (lol @ the username), I would use the classic, "whoa, let's not get ahead of ourselves. I dont even know if I like you yet." *mischievous smile. You could also try something like, "me too. I see many people. " then cut the thread, go on to something else and run your usual game, reescalating. Basically, treat as a shit test.
/r/seduction04/08/17 02:54 AM
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Don't love the ad at the end, but this is good free content. Thank you for sharing and providing value.
/r/seduction21/04/17 05:30 PM
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Yes. There is a whole realm of things said during sex that would never be otherwise uttered.
/r/seduction06/04/17 12:12 AM
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Nice post. I've never scene attraction on a points scale before, but it works and is easily groked. Nice work.
/r/seduction22/03/16 06:44 PM
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While I agree with the premise, even grizzled vets still get nervous from cold approaching. That's part of what makes it fun! If you don't get a little nervous, you're not approaching enough high value targets.
/r/seduction09/02/16 05:53 PM
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You've found the dirty secret of seduction: there are no easy fixes. How do you do it? You just do. You start one day and you keep going. You may slip, you may fall, but you have to pick yourself up again and start again. The best way to do something is to actually do it. Pick yourself off of the couch and get out there. And most important of all, no more zero days!
/r/seduction12/01/16 07:35 PM
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Good article, but the website is shitty. It turns faded like it wants to load an ad and won't let you ex out.
/r/seduction11/01/16 08:31 PM
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Hey man. Just wanted to say, I really appreciate the advice you've been giving on here. The community is lucky to have someone of your skills doling out gold like you've been doing. Please keep it up and lurk less.
/r/seduction16/12/15 08:36 PM
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This is fantastic. Was not expecting to see actual truths.
/r/seduction03/11/15 10:03 PM
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Great advice from /u/yagelbee and /u/DaygameCoach . There is also the classic line of "I don't know you that well yet." But, in all honesty, sometimes you have to buy a girl a drink. I've done both, buying drinks and refusing to buy drinks, and the former works so much better. Just don't buy drinks expecting anything. Buy drinks because you are a man, a provider, and you are interested in this woman. Make sure you've qualified her first, though. You can also use the, "I'll buy this round if you …
/r/seduction01/10/15 06:23 PM
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Great post! Just to add one thing to the french kiss section. Trace circles over their tongue with your tongue. Gives you something to do if you don't know what to do otherwise.
/r/seduction01/10/15 06:04 PM
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I get what you're saying, and I agree, but what is the point? Just airing grievances? Shaming people to change ? What action do you suggest we take to improve the community?
/r/seduction01/10/15 01:50 AM
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Some really good stuff in here. Thank you /u/nebulous_slut
/r/seduction20/08/15 06:21 PM
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This is great. Thank you for sharing.
/r/seduction17/06/15 06:13 PM
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knocking her off the fence https://www.google.com/search?q=knocking+her+off+the+fence&ie=utf-8&oe=utf-8
/r/seduction31/05/15 10:27 PM
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Dunno if I have much to critique as it seems like you are just starting to get into the game. Just practice, practice, practice. That said, cold approaching three girls during the day is definitely a good start. Just keep at it and you'll improve. With girl 3 you should've at least gotten a number or set up a date for later. With the Tinder girl, she seems interested and you have a good start. Well, except for that last lol. It makes it seem like you were joking when you clearly are not. Either …
/r/seduction30/05/15 12:59 AM
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Classic advice.
/r/seduction15/05/15 08:36 PM
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This is really well done. Thank you for making it and sharing with the rest of us.
/r/seduction13/05/15 06:34 PM
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What are we arguing about ?
/r/seduction13/03/15 05:02 PM
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I'm on my phone, so I can't confirm, but doesn't it say right on the sidebar that this is the "male self improvement " subreddit? I do believe those were the founding principles.
/r/seduction13/03/15 03:23 AM
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Agreed, Tony. This sub has, unfortunately like the community as a whole, trended more towards picking up women as of late and moving away from what I thought was the positive trend of becoming more about male/self improvement. This trend, coupled with guys with little to no training who go out trying to emulate Simple Pickup, is the cause of this perception. Additionally, there is a big misunderstanding about what we do. Things like "women don't know what they want, so always be leading," or "fe…
/r/seduction12/03/15 10:49 PM
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Possibly. One can never tell. I like to think positively.
/r/seduction28/02/15 05:14 AM
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Re: your question. You just have to learn to be that way with all women. Treat them ALL at old friends. I want to say "Joker" is really good at this. His opener is usually, "Hey, how've you been?" Re: the guy. Could be he was just an excellent wingman and didn't stand in your way. A true american hero.
/r/seduction28/02/15 01:35 AM
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Ha. Are you on the groupme?
/r/seduction30/01/15 10:15 PM
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SF actually has a pretty good ratio of attractive females. It's when you start going south or east that things get hairy. Pun intended but not intended.
/r/seduction30/01/15 08:37 PM
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Crocodile tears for all of my boys in the bay area. The struggle is real.
/r/seduction30/01/15 08:01 PM
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I love Modern Love. Great find.
/r/seduction10/01/15 06:36 PM
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Good shit Nick, as we've become accustomed to from you.
/r/seduction18/09/14 08:25 PM
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I really wasn't asking for me, but I appreciate the sentiment.
/r/seduction18/07/14 06:22 PM
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get over yourself.
/r/seduction18/07/14 06:21 PM
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I was really looking for something more in depth. Saying "you guys need to research" isn't really helpful. People come here for constructive comments.
/r/seduction18/07/14 05:33 PM
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Great post. I've found that gaming in my gym attire when I'm all sweaty/smelly actually helps my game. No idea why. Think it's the pheromones.
/r/seduction18/07/14 04:11 PM
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While I agree with what you say, I don't think it's very helpful to new guys here. What's something you do or say once you get a girl home to ensure the lay. Is it a mindset?
/r/seduction18/07/14 04:08 PM
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Sounds like a simpler version of Style's "evolution" trick.
/r/seduction08/07/14 04:28 PM
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Great vids, man. I'm excited to hear what you have to say.
/r/seduction29/04/14 07:00 PM
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Really good stuff man. Thanks for sharing.
/r/seduction07/04/14 02:46 AM
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I've read this wall of text twice and I still have no idea what you're trying to say here. That its hard being a guy? Is that why you've posted this?
/r/seduction04/04/14 05:36 PM
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And I think that part came across. Don't be distracted with nitpicks.
/r/seduction04/04/14 05:13 PM
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Don't ask women. Tell women. I'm completely serious. You'd be doing her a service. This is really what pickup is all about.
/r/seduction04/04/14 05:01 PM
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OP, I'm going to say this in the nicest way possible, so don't be offended. You are a fucking nerd and you are looking at the world like a nerd would Literally laughed out loud. But yeah, mostly your points are valid. The lesson here, which is so basic it should be on the fucking sidebar, is don't take dating advice from women. They are awful at it and have no idea what they want.
/r/seduction04/04/14 05:00 PM
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tyvm
/r/seduction04/04/14 04:50 PM
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ISO = isolate or isolation. As for using a stranger to enter a set, its just as its written above. You find a random person and say, "I'm gonna go talk to those hot girls, do you want to come with?" Then you rock over there with him. You open the set and, hopefully, he's not totally useless and talks to one of the girls. You find your target, isolate her by either moving yourself between her and the rest of the group or actually leading her somewhere else.
/r/seduction04/04/14 04:50 PM
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Thanks!
/r/seduction04/04/14 08:10 AM
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Thanks man.
/r/seduction04/04/14 02:26 AM
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/r/GetMotivated
/r/seduction02/04/14 07:02 PM
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The exception that proves the rule. Sometimes, girls can give good PU advice. Nice work.
/r/seduction02/04/14 05:22 PM
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Don't remember actually, but if you google "joker" and "pua" or "pickup" on YouTube it should come up.
/r/seduction28/03/14 04:41 AM
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Np. Glad you enjoyed!
/r/seduction28/03/14 04:39 AM
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Level up! Nice work.
/r/seduction27/03/14 06:51 PM
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Thanks. There's so much info out there, sometimes it's good to condense it in bite sized chunks.
/r/seduction27/03/14 06:40 PM
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Thx.
/r/seduction27/03/14 06:22 PM
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Only way is to try. Make a commitment to yourself to go out every night this week and practice sober game. A lot of guys who do it claim they are often better and get laid more.
/r/seduction27/03/14 04:30 PM
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Dunno why the downvotes. It's assertive, assumes the sale, is to the point. I also like "Let's get out of here."
/r/seduction21/03/14 09:49 PM
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Good stuff. I like how it pulls in classic DHV statements and molds them into useable conversation pieces.
/r/seduction10/01/14 06:39 PM
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Awesome observation.
/r/seduction21/12/13 12:20 AM
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Few good nuggets I found in this FR. I came into the date with absolutely zero expectations honestly just wanting to have a good time and get to know someone. Love this. I made sure to keep strong eye contact I tell her at the end of the meal that we're going to another bar after. leading, leading, always leading I begin escalating. Leg on leg contact, casual arm grabs during convo, hand on back etc. Great escalation using a modified DeCarlo ladder I decide I want to kiss her. I'm in my head for…
/r/seduction12/12/13 07:08 PM
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que the gif of my head asploding. Otherwise, I am not sure what your comment is about.
/r/seduction27/11/13 05:08 AM
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I'm not really looking for existential bullshit. All I mean is, what is this doing in this subreddit. Far as I can tell, this sub was created so men could become greater men. I don't see the point of this post if it is not furthering that ideal. Unless, of course, it is simply an insight into women. In which case, I believe it.
/r/seduction27/11/13 05:07 AM
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Great story, but I'm not sure what the point is? Just an insight that women can fall for the "dumb blonde" as well?
/r/seduction27/11/13 01:05 AM
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hay-OH!
/r/seduction19/11/13 08:28 PM
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Website buries the lede, but hood advice.
/r/seduction15/11/13 05:39 AM
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Pretty good man. Thanks for doing this.
/r/seduction07/11/13 11:15 PM
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Maybe. And maybe they've been dating a long time.
/r/seduction22/10/13 10:21 PM
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If this is how you want to think about things, I can not change your mind. I only know what I know.
/r/seduction22/10/13 10:21 PM
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Great find. Although the the headline is "clickworthy," these tips work for anyone, in their 20s or 30s or 40s or w/e. It's just harder to learn these things as you get older. All classic advice. Personally, I have trouble with 7 and 8. Bookmarked and will read again.
/r/seduction22/10/13 07:56 PM
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ever see those ghetto trash guys who have hot girls? What about the guy in a band who has no money but consistently bangs 10s? Money matters as much as you let it.
/r/seduction22/10/13 07:53 PM
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Classic bullet points. Thank you for putting it succinctly. Especially this: Never take advice from women. Something guys tend to forget.
/r/seduction16/10/13 05:08 PM
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Great technique, man. Thank you for posting this content. Hopefully this will help a few guys.
/r/seduction01/10/13 09:04 AM
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Classic routine that has worked wonders for me.
/r/seduction28/09/13 04:25 PM
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100 per cent – any guy can date a model.
/r/seduction20/09/13 05:13 PM
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Great work buddy. She looked like a firecracker to me.
/r/seduction01/09/13 11:23 PM
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Just start a sub, tell all your wings about it and message the mods to get it in the sidebar. Good to have a sub to get Philly ppl involved and is a good resource to plan group events.
/r/seduction15/08/13 02:15 AM
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I'm sure if you looked around, you'd find something. If not, make a post on seddit and get a group together to go out and prowl. Remember to keep it low key and make it about making friends first. But don't just stand around and jerk each other off. Push each other to approach.
/r/seduction20/07/13 12:56 AM
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If you are in (or near) a big city, there's a group for you. Check the sidebar.
/r/seduction19/07/13 11:01 PM
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Just do it. Seriously, that's all there is. Challenge yourself to do it and, here's the kicker, go do it. What's that old saying about one million step journeys starting with the first step? You can even start by talking to guys. If you still can not talk to women, then you need to get with a group so you can all push each other. No point in spending money on someone to do it for you when you can get that for free.
/r/seduction19/07/13 08:35 PM
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I also had a little bit of an existential crisis the next day. I'm pretty sure I'm never gonna be able to land anyone more attractive than her. This girl was it. It was a perfect situation. I feel like I just climbed Mt. Everest and there isn't anything left to do. Don't worry about it. Although it was a perfect situation for you (cross between solid game and getting "lucky"), you are now building a solid repetoire for how to do this in the future. These are skills you do not forget and will wor…
/r/seduction15/07/13 06:44 PM
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It's not contradictory. It's a statement with a previously stated condition.
/r/seduction02/07/13 10:05 PM
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These should be the two top ranked comments. OP, look here. As long as you're not needy/overly available, text as much as you like.
/r/seduction02/07/13 07:27 PM
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Just wanted to say, I often read your links when I find them on here and I always find them helpful/motivating. Thanks for putting good stuff out there and moving the community forward. Really appreciate your work.
/r/seduction28/06/13 12:39 AM
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Well said (written)
/r/seduction20/06/13 12:36 AM
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A+ stuff. Thanks for sharing this.
/r/seduction17/06/13 10:12 PM
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Doesn't matter, had lettuce.
/r/seduction17/05/13 06:29 PM
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Dunno where the link is atm, but a recent study has actually found that shoulder-to-hip ratio and penis size are most important, while height is third. Everything being equal, as long as you have one of those three and the confidence to match, you should be fine.
/r/seduction22/04/13 06:55 PM
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Great stuff man. Thanks for posting.
/r/seduction03/04/13 11:55 PM
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seems like it at first glance, but he does make a slight distinction.
/r/seduction21/03/13 08:26 PM
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lol. I like it! Somebody get the trademark on that!
/r/seduction21/03/13 06:41 PM
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Although I like and appreciate the content -- I think it's very good and helpful -- I'm not sure that "aloof" is the word you are looking for. When I think of aloof, I think more of a James Bond type. What you're describing is more....I don't know what you call it, but certainly not aloof. Although aloof can work too! Thanks for posting.
/r/seduction21/03/13 05:02 PM
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Really good insights. Thanks for posting this.
/r/seduction15/03/13 09:49 PM
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tbf, bitches love mix tapes. (I got that bitch a mix tape).
/r/seduction11/03/13 05:07 PM
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WHAT IS THIS I DONT EVEN
/r/seduction08/03/13 09:50 PM
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I'm in the wrong line of business.
/r/seduction08/03/13 06:33 PM
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true that you funny bastard.
/r/seduction08/03/13 06:54 AM
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as long as there has been seduction, there has been people who decry it as "underhanded."
/r/seduction08/03/13 01:02 AM
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ha, nice.
/r/seduction08/03/13 01:02 AM
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Im not sure exactly how her 6 tips are any different then whats bleated here 1,000 times Never represented that they were. Just pointing out that there's no need to pay a dating coach thousands of dollars when all the steps to self-improvement are already available to you and readily accessible.
/r/seduction07/03/13 07:06 PM
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Exactly. Thanks for reading.
/r/seduction07/03/13 07:05 PM
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/r/BayAreaSeddit
/r/seduction04/03/13 11:53 PM
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/r/texttranscripts
/r/seduction04/03/13 11:52 PM
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You can build comfort/attraction over text. The trick is to do so without coming across as needy or falling into the friendzone. This means not overtexting, constantly setting up a date and sexualizing. Also, smileys. Got to use smileys. There are many girls I've had to build more comfort with via text. It works and the tips are readily available. Use them.
/r/seduction04/03/13 11:03 PM
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Would just like to point out that the mods are always looking to improve this sub and constantly working to that end. If there is something CONSTRUCTIVE you see that could be changed, they are more than willing to listen. They can be contacted through the sidebar. /my two cents is, this is not so much a place where you go to have all of your questions answered, rather it is more of a community for like-minded individuals who are going through the same thing to talk to each other, discuss strateg…
/r/seduction04/03/13 10:50 PM
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Hey man. Great post. Just wanted to let you know that you've been contributing some excellent stuff on here. Keep it up.
/r/seduction28/02/13 11:56 PM
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So true. Great insight.
/r/seduction12/02/13 09:32 PM
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friends
/r/seduction08/02/13 08:05 PM
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well
/r/seduction31/10/12 04:20 PM
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Good tips, awful proofreading.
/r/seduction30/10/12 05:59 PM
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Excited for this one. Great work getting him back, guys.
/r/seduction30/10/12 05:59 PM
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Basically what anon says. Introduce touching (kino) earlier and sexualize the conversation earlier. Throwing out one-liners like "I love it when you do that" knowing look or "oh man, you can't do that, I'm a nice guy!" when she does something sexy is a good start. You could also turn bits of the convo towards sex. Finally, when getting her number you should say things like, "you're single, right?"
/r/seduction30/10/12 05:56 PM
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We miss you bud.
/r/seduction17/10/12 05:18 AM
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Just noticed this and I really like it. Great enhancement/feature. Thanks for continuing to improve this sub, guys.
/r/seduction15/10/12 09:02 PM
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Good article. Thanks.
/r/seduction04/10/12 04:58 AM
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I like Toby's answer. Although similar, this isn't sales. You don't have to formulate every question so that it leads to a "yes."
/r/seduction04/10/12 04:57 AM
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In a vacuum, odd is good. Just own it.
/r/seduction04/10/12 01:35 AM
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Great response. This, to me, is what this place is about.
/r/seduction04/10/12 01:35 AM
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It's not necessary. It's more about push-pull. If you are too available, she will not want you. Learn to tease and you'll be fine.
/r/seduction04/10/12 01:34 AM
5

If you escalate, it's a date. Plain and simple.
/r/seduction04/10/12 01:31 AM
0

"you're single, right?" also works.
/r/seduction04/10/12 01:30 AM
6

Hey. Just wanted to say thanks for doing this. It's great to have a guy out there giving away free stuff and really trying to help people. Keep it up!
/r/seduction03/10/12 02:37 AM
1

Start going out. Talk to everyone. Go out every night. Talk to everyone. Build social momentum. Get comfortable talking to anyone. Push yourself.
/r/seduction31/08/12 02:28 AM
1

You marvelous homo.
/r/seduction22/08/12 01:43 AM
1

We run at or near the capacity on that thing.
/r/seduction22/08/12 01:40 AM
5

http://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/u7am6/where_do_i_find_girls/ Also, Dan Savage answered a question like this on his podcast. I think it was number 292, then on the next one ppl were calling in saying that they tell ppl they can't drink all the time. It's not a big deal that you're an alcoholic. Just own it. have fun out there, player.
/r/seduction29/06/12 07:56 PM
2

What doesn't the wingman do? You guys are out in the field together, pumping each other up. You guys are helping each other talk to ladies. You're there for each other if there's any sort of trouble. You watch out for each other. You increase each other's social value. You each add to the other by increasing your social circles and having the other join in. In a wingman you've got a drinking buddy, a friend, a guru, a bodyguard, a cheerleader and a teammate. Really the question is, what doesn't …
/r/seduction25/06/12 12:13 AM
1

Great texting! Way to be funny while building attraction.
/r/seduction23/06/12 08:12 PM
2

Eh. So-called masters don't even have 100 percent rates. I think it's more about preparing for situations like that while also being able to nudge things in yr direction if she's on the fence.
/r/seduction19/06/12 08:08 PM
2

Great game, son! You have level upped!
/r/seduction19/06/12 04:01 AM
6

Yeah. Kiss on cheek on second date is not where u want to be.
/r/seduction19/06/12 03:57 AM
12

Movie line is great bc it almost always leads to sex and if she accepts, she should know that.
/r/seduction19/06/12 03:56 AM
2

Some solid thoughts in here. Good shit.
/r/seduction08/06/12 07:43 PM
1

I can't believe LA seddit needs a revival. People should be going out every night and getting laid. Great work getting it done, Yo.
/r/seduction06/06/12 08:29 PM
1

Every girl wants a guy with six pack abs. Every guy wants a hot girl. The thing is, girls are attracted to the mind most. Get yr inner game straight and who cares what you look like. The girl won't.
/r/seduction02/06/12 05:01 AM
1

Yeah, idk about falling in love, but u definitely have feelings for this girl beyond a simple snl. Take it slow, treat her well, and see where it goes.
/r/seduction28/05/12 04:10 PM
3

It's a choice you make. If she's worth it, you will do the right thing. However, do not stay with her if it means you will regret her down the road.
/r/seduction28/05/12 04:06 PM
1

Go forward. It appears to be a one time thing. Next time have sex.
/r/seduction27/05/12 09:51 PM
2

Hey dude. Really good blog. I followed a few links around and liked what I saw there. Keep up the great work.
/r/seduction24/05/12 05:26 PM
1

I agree. I think what's happened here tho is that op can't make any conversation at all. I would just go in and act like she's part of yr group. Then isolate.
/r/seduction24/05/12 06:17 AM
1

Good article and long. it's good theory. Question. How do you get the girls to type such long responses? I have a friend who would sometimes make long responses, but she only did so in one or two long sentences. Anyway, good article.
/r/seduction24/05/12 06:08 AM
2

Start by inviting her to lunch. Then for drinks after work. Then out to dinner. Then to your place.
/r/seduction24/05/12 12:46 AM
1

woooooooord
/r/seduction22/05/12 06:49 PM
1

Kumar's in the OC. What's that, like 2 hours?
/r/seduction22/05/12 06:47 PM
9

Re: the whole Asian card. Cold_gin is one of the best of the BAS crew I've seen in the field. He targets white women almost exclusively. He is as asian as you can get, accent and all. Don't limit yrself. You have it in you to be awesome. Allow yrself to thrive. You are a playa now. Act like one.
/r/seduction19/05/12 03:41 AM
29

Thousands of yrs of evolution have made you uniquely suited to seduce women
/r/seduction19/05/12 03:00 AM
3

Just go for it. You will know what to do.
/r/seduction19/05/12 02:53 AM
1

1) keep calling her/ asking her out. Eventually she might ask what you are together. If she doesn't then you will need to broach the subject. 2) you should let her know what you are looking for from the start. Barring that, if you notice her getting too familiar, it's on you to say what you are looking for. "look, I'm not looking for anything serious right now. I just want to make sure you are cool with that." 3) I just go with it. As the guy you are supposed to know what you want. You owe it to…
/r/seduction19/05/12 02:48 AM
4

Awesome that we're continuing to grow and improve as a community. I'm a big fan of all recent changes. I'm all for getting rid of the "is she into me?!" posts unless couched in the more general question. Keep up good work, mods.
/r/seduction18/05/12 08:36 PM
2

You define what a successful first date is to you. If you want to fuck the girl that night, then yes, a successful first date ends in bed. If you'd like to see her again, a successful first date leads to a second. Etc. Know what you want going in and judge your success by whether or not you got what you wanted.
/r/seduction17/05/12 08:45 PM
4

An excellent post. Should be sidebarred and adopted as the official seddit definition of oneitis.
/r/seduction15/05/12 04:24 PM
2

Lulz. I can think of one in particular (not tofu)
/r/seduction15/05/12 01:59 AM
1

Don't have any specific advice as you can find that in the sidebar and the wealth of posts on the subject. What I will say is that we all go through lulls in this game. The only way to improve is to plow until you reach the next lull. The only way to improve is through practice. For more on this search seduction for "plateau"
/r/seduction14/05/12 06:55 PM
1

Agreed. There seems to be quite a few good suggestions in here. I'll send you a link to the Deida pdf in response to your email.
/r/seduction14/05/12 04:42 AM
3

Yeah. It's lost on a lot of people that we are a self-improvement subreddit first. People come here looking better to get better with women, but hopefully leave getting better with themselves. This post is certainly a step in the right direction. By the way, if you have not read Way of the Superior Man, I highly recommend it.
/r/seduction14/05/12 04:36 AM
2

lol. Tao te jing for bros.
/r/seduction14/05/12 04:33 AM
15

Fucking seddit. I was looking for a post like this as I have recently become close with a woman who I like more than a fuck buddy or fling. Great suggestions here and a lot of truisms. Especially this: Show her you have her back by empathizing, not by trying to fix situations. Sometimes on seddit it's easy to get lost and think we're only here to fuck women. It's not 100% true. Some of us, while enjoying a good, meaningless fuck every now and again, truly appreciate a good woman and the resultin…
/r/seduction14/05/12 04:26 AM
1

Just ignore it and cheekishly smile at the girl. Be non reactive.
/r/seduction13/05/12 03:15 PM
5

Have you kissed her yet? Start with that. She might say something like, "I'm not looking for a relationship," to which you say, "neither am I." If she asks you what you want, "I'm just looking to have some fun. I find you incredibly attractive and I think you like me too. Don't overthink it, it's just a kiss ;)" Remember to keep the leading frame. Generally it is better to do things rather than talk about them. If she starts asking what you're looking for, be honest with her. Good luck, playa.
/r/seduction12/05/12 08:34 PM
2

I love that picture.
/r/seduction12/05/12 07:21 PM
1

I agree with dirtbrown. Something like "I had a great time tonight" or "I can't stop thinking about you ;)" Convey sexual intent without coming across as needy. Let her know you like her/are thinking about her. Most of all, stay confident. Know in your mind what you want and know you are going to get it.
/r/seduction12/05/12 07:19 PM
1

Awesome work. Congrats, man. And post a link to that FR!
/r/seduction12/05/12 06:56 PM
2

Agree. Instead of going for the fast lay, develop a friendship with a girl. Take her out to dinner. Talk to her. Tell her what you are looking for. Most important of all: qualify qualify qualify!
/r/seduction12/05/12 12:24 AM
3

There was a tl;dr in /r/sex a while back where a guy took someone to town for epitomizing all of reddit and the reddit generation for being sorry-for-themsef forever alones. It's worth a read if you can find it, think it was linked here yesterday or so. Anyway, the gist that I got is that a lot of people go through life thinking the universe owes them something. His point is that the universe owes you nothing. Good things come to those who go out there and take it. Be like Han.
/r/seduction11/05/12 09:09 PM
0

It's worth highlighting the Be your best self line imho. That's the most important take away from the entire post. The rest is explaining the differences between the two. Good post, tho.
/r/seduction11/05/12 09:07 PM
6

My observation of no fap for about a month or more is that I am a lot more motivated to get laid and find my interaction with women are much better. Plus, when I am actually fucking I want to go again and again which pleases the ladies. I like my ladies pleased. Plus, I like the idea of having control over my desires. All-in-all, I'd say it's worth a shot.
/r/seduction11/05/12 09:05 PM
1

Looks good. Woulda liked to have seen you get approval from mods, but a nice tool for in field.
/r/seduction11/05/12 08:46 PM
1

I assume you've read The Game, but if you haven't, Neil does a good job of going through some of the history of this stuff. Can't think of it now, but you might want to read the old school pickup book that was the end-all-be-all before pickup took off. Not 90s, but a good indicator of the state of the game pre-90s. Would love to see the finished product. Is this for a thesis, or just your own project?
/r/seduction10/05/12 05:01 PM
2

I feel fucking dirty…like a fucking skeeze artist. But I’m going to tell you guys anyway. You’ll probably shun me. You’ll probably tell me I’m a creep, and you know what, I feel like that. You do know what we do here, right? Kidding aside, feeling ashamed after getting a sexual desire fulfilled is a common occurrence. It just takes a reframe where you tell yourself that "I am a sexual being and my desires are natural. Women like sex just as much as I do, and any woman worth a damn is happy to fu…
/r/seduction10/05/12 04:54 PM
3

instead of just posting a thank you, post something specific on how you've successfully applied the principles here in your life so we can all learn from it. Agreed. Nicely said. Edit: Another way to say "thank you" to the community is to give back and help others. That's kind of the point of FRs, but you can be proactive about it too.
/r/seduction10/05/12 04:46 PM
2

You shouldn't really be looking for a job that goes well with pickup. You should look for a job that goes well with you. However, if you are looking for something short-term before seeking a higher degree, for instance, sales is very similar to pickup (confidence, assume the sale, cold-opening people, getting people to say "yes," building comfort and rapport, etc.). If you're looking for quick cash, waiting tables. If you're looking to get laid, bartend. The latter two options are pretty short-t…
/r/seduction09/05/12 09:37 PM
1

Tao Te Jing. Way of the Superior Man. Zen and the Art. How to Win Friends. I couldn't get through it, but you should listen to Blue Print Decoded. In general, read everything you can about game, but follow the 3-1 rule. For every 3 hours reading, spend 1 in the field. Also of interest to you, there are archives of every Style and Durden post from the old boards. Don't forget to read other things as well. It's all part of being a well-rounded man!
/r/seduction09/05/12 05:20 PM
2

What tofu, among others have said. Get your inner game squared away. Re-connect with friends. Get a hobby. Improve that part of your life you've always wanted to improve/been putting off. When you're ready for pickup again, it'll still be here.
/r/seduction09/05/12 05:12 PM
7

Wow. This was fucking amazing dude. From your DHV (protector of loved ones, not afraid to alpha someone away), to your classic "Hey, my eyes are up here!," to the ease with which you handled the shit test (and yes, it absolutely was a test and you passed with flying fucking colors), to your brilliant fucking "So...do you guys want this for here, or to go?," and finally your excellent close and control of the situation ("So I ask HB1 which room is hers, and she leads me in there and I close the d…
/r/seduction09/05/12 05:04 PM
2

Ten years ago Monday. PRACTICE?!
/r/seduction09/05/12 03:58 PM
1

Agreed. When I reposted to my blog I made that point.
/r/seduction09/05/12 12:51 AM
1

Oh fer sure. In no way am I disparaging seddit. I'm just trying to point out that there is so much more.
/r/seduction08/05/12 09:54 PM
2

Just assume the sale. If you want to keep hanging out with her, keep texting her, asking her over, out for a drink, whatever. If she doesn't want anything else, she will tell you. Remember, as the man it is your job to initiate and make your intentions clear. It is her job as the woman to say "no."
/r/seduction08/05/12 06:48 PM
2

Honesty + initiative works every time. Way to go! Now close it.
/r/seduction08/05/12 06:15 PM
3

Great FR, great work. Way to assume the sale on HBJ and keep the leading frame. godmode.jpg. When it works it feels like you are king of the world and can not be stopped. You just start thinking, "my god. I am awesome and every girl wants me."
/r/seduction08/05/12 06:13 PM
3

Word! That is some killer shit. Regardless of not using the "line" :) I love how you had built up so much comfort/rapport with her that she was texting back almost instantaneously towards the end. Also, she drunk texted you. Always a good sign! Nice work overall. I have a feeling you'll make a killing in FL.
/r/seduction08/05/12 05:36 PM
3

I would've liked to have seen an edit with the whole pickup (e.g., from #-close on) to show guys how "pickup" works. I.e., this wasn't some friend or a chick from OK-Cupid, this is a girl you worked magic on. From bar, to date, to bang. Two Q's: Did you use the "I don't have sex on the first date" line? Did she ever say "we're not having sex?" OK, one more, when did you see teh NOOODZ?! Great work man. Not even a week and you're back in action.
/r/seduction08/05/12 04:49 PM
3

"No, but if you've got a minute, let's go grab a drink/pizza." You can literally say anything. If she likes you, she won't care. Just be congruent. Also, specific questions like this go in /r/askseddit.
/r/seduction08/05/12 02:28 AM
1

Cool. Let's talk wed. As for a ping text, why not just ask her out fri or thurs?
/r/seduction08/05/12 02:24 AM
3

Srsly tho, we miss that guy terribly.
/r/seduction08/05/12 02:23 AM
6

Yep. But left a lasting legacy in BAS. Herpes.
/r/seduction08/05/12 02:02 AM
1

Any movement on airplane girl/ hottie from meetup? We need to get together for a drink soon an discuss. Maybe Wednesday happy hour?
/r/seduction07/05/12 09:23 PM
2

I wouldn't say that these are consequences of pickup. Just consequences of not getting your inner game in order. But yeah, I hear ya.
/r/seduction07/05/12 09:22 PM
4

You've got to be like George Bush with women. You're the decider. As soon as you waffle, they lose interest. You went from "I don't know" to "what're your plans [or whatever the text was]" to "I'm busy Saturday" all in a matter of what, a couple of days? you're good homie, but you need to take charge of the situation and decide what you want. then get after it. Re: the "one time thing" text, I never take that shit seriously. I'd respond something like, "whoa there! I'm not trying to date you, ju…
/r/seduction07/05/12 07:42 PM
1

I don't think you need to say "come to my place." Just invite a girl to the AGO. Then be like, "I've got some wine at my place and it's right around the corner. Let's go!" Another thing to do is to get the girl comfortable in your place before you take her out. Like, have her meet at your house ("come meet me at [address] and we'll head over together") before going anywhere. Or meet her close to your house and say, "I totally forgot my wallet. Let's go get it real quick." This is sort of a "hack…
/r/seduction07/05/12 07:37 PM
2

Important post. Seddit is not here to make you happy or fill a void. Seddit is simply here as a tool for men to use in improving their lives. It is important to have the skills you need to meet women, and a lot of men are seriously lacking in this department, but it is not the end all be all. In every pickup community I've ever been in worth a damn, the first step has always been fixing yourself (i.e., your confidence, your goals, your inner game) first. Second step is finding wings/friends to c…
/r/seduction07/05/12 07:26 PM
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fucking tofu. I literally came here to type "plow plow." Beaten to it by a damn Floridian.
/r/seduction07/05/12 07:20 PM
2

This was just addressed TODAY. Look up.
/r/seduction04/05/12 05:28 AM
4

Amazing book. I've taken a lot of inspiration from the section about women. Big props to sunny of bas fame for pointing it out to me.
/r/seduction04/05/12 05:26 AM
2

Beat to it by Kumar. What else is new?
/r/seduction04/05/12 05:16 AM
2

Don't allow HB10's beauty to cloud your jdugment. Go out with who you want. Personally, I'm a fan of keeping my word, so if you said you'd take airplane girl out, take her out. I personally wouldn't go to the party where you've been sarging everyone there (it's like bringing sandy vagina to the beach) and if she flakes, you go for sure thing asian. If all else fails, go to party alone and ignore HB10, but be friendly.
/r/seduction03/05/12 10:13 PM
3

Re: the flaker. Be nonreactive. i.e., nothing she says can take you out of state, nothing she does will change the fact that you and her are going out. In response to her "I'm not ready to date" something like, "Oh totally, I thought we were just going out as friends" or w/e. Continue talking to her, continue building trust and don't react (emotionally) to anything she says or does. She's testing you for congruency and manliness/masulinity. Assume the sale, keep escalating, respect her fears, bu…
/r/seduction03/05/12 06:06 PM
1

You're thinking of the normal 20 questions game. His is the PUA 20 questions game.
/r/seduction03/05/12 06:05 PM
4

Treat it like any other night in the field. Have no expectations going in except to have a great time and to meet fun people. To pregame, listen to music while in the shower that gets you pumped and maybe pregame with a buddy beforehand. Just have fun and the ladies will like you.
/r/seduction03/05/12 05:40 PM
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I'll add the two "classic" kiss close methods to this. MM: Say, "do you want to kiss me?" or "you look like you want to kiss me." Silence or affirmative answer means go in for kiss. Negative response = "I didn't say you could, it just looked like you wanted to. Deangelo(?) Kiss Test: During a conversation, grab a piece of her hair, or gently touch it. Stop and go on to something else, but keep talking the whole time. Then do it again and lightly stroke her hair. Mention something about how soft …
/r/seduction03/05/12 05:22 PM
1

Always assume attraction :)
/r/seduction03/05/12 12:36 AM
1

I mean, if yr fucking and you still consider that the friendzone then wtf is the friendzone? IT DOESN'T MATTER WHAT IT IS!!
/r/seduction03/05/12 12:36 AM
1

You know which it is because that is the frame you create. Girls should be the ones left wondering if it is a date or friendly outing. As men, it is our job to frame the situation and to make our intentions clear. This may be a little too advanced for your question, but it should be the underpinning of every situation you have with women. It is your world and she's lucky to be living in it. What I think you might be asking is should you say, "wanna go out on a date?" to a girl. The answer is no.…
/r/seduction02/05/12 07:44 PM
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This is very important to understand. Once u really get that women are emotional beings, u fix yr game accordingly and see vast improvements in yr interactions.
/r/seduction01/05/12 10:35 PM
1

Just a word of observation. The girls in this group seem pretty low value. Not sure I'd waste time trying to buddy up with them.
/r/seduction01/05/12 12:31 AM
0

I'm not saying it's right or wrong, I'm just saying that she should not judge how he will treat her based on his interactions with other women. She should judge him on how he treats her.
/r/seduction29/04/12 09:33 PM
1

Haha. Nice.
/r/seduction29/04/12 02:47 PM
1

Cool. Thanks for the insight.
/r/seduction29/04/12 02:46 PM
1

Again, different styles. I find the "slowly fading away" style to be more dickish than the upfront real talk style. You don't want to be in a relationship and one day realize the other person is slowly fading away. That sucks.
/r/seduction29/04/12 02:46 PM
0

Tbf, there are girls I'm a dick to and girls I'm not. It depends on whether I am in hit it or quit it mode. It doesn't mean that's my interaction with all women.
/r/seduction29/04/12 12:09 AM
2

Good answer despite user name.
/r/seduction29/04/12 12:07 AM
1

Great work op.
/r/seduction29/04/12 12:02 AM
1

Thought it was only bi women?
/r/seduction29/04/12 12:01 AM
2

This is very solid advice. Follow it op.
/r/seduction28/04/12 11:56 PM
2

Different styles. One thing I've learned in life is to be upfront and make yr intentions clear. None of this pussyfooting around bullshit. There are tactical ways to do it so as not to hurt feelings, but honesty is usually the best policy.
/r/seduction28/04/12 11:49 PM
5

Curious: why do women read seduction?
/r/seduction28/04/12 11:47 PM
15

Lotta bad advice in here. Just talk to her and tell her what you want. You can start with "idk what yr looking for, but..." or, "I just want to be clear that I'm not looking for anything serious. I don't want any hurt feelings. Are you ok with that?" Use a lot of "I" statements. In the future, set expectations early of what you are looking for (e.g., not looking for anything serious).
/r/seduction28/04/12 09:20 PM
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Came here to say this.
/r/seduction28/04/12 09:17 PM
1

haha. Of course, you can do that, but you've got to be really fucking goofy about it. "That's what she said" is NOT sexually escalating.
/r/seduction27/04/12 09:17 PM
11

Broski whoaski. You need to fuck that bitch and fuck her good. Bitches love fucking. Miss you, bud.
/r/seduction27/04/12 08:11 PM
1

Yes.
/r/seduction27/04/12 07:32 PM
2

Hey dude. You've got to conquer that shit. And by that shit I mean insecurities with your hair. First, what atafies said: shave it all off. If you can't change it, feature it. Second, find some buddies to go out with and hit the fucking town, picking up chicks. Physical limitations are mostly in the head. Sure, girls will be more receptive at first to handsome guys, but if your inner game is real solid, you can game anyone. So get your shit correct. Look at yourself in the mirror and repeat a ma…
/r/seduction27/04/12 07:31 PM
1

lmao. I had to look it up on urbandictionary cause I had no fucking clue what you were talking about.
/r/seduction27/04/12 07:19 PM
1

ha. Nicely said.
/r/seduction27/04/12 07:19 PM
3

Let’s get some input on this, I could be doing things all sorts of wrong and running off pure luck. You're good dude. Keep on keeping on.
/r/seduction27/04/12 04:20 PM
1

I really like her responses. Her: I just googled cupcake costume. Oh god. lol. Seems like a cool chick.
/r/seduction27/04/12 04:14 PM
3

Yeah. It also takes a certain degree of not-giving-a-fuckness, but this is exactly it.
/r/seduction27/04/12 04:13 PM
2

It's difficult to explain and more of a "show you" type of thing. However, if I could name two things it would be: Throw in innuendo whenever you get a chance by "misunderstanding" what she says. For instance, if she says, "I'm coming," you respond with "yeah you are ;)" You can also initiate with "Hey. When you're done masturbating, call me back!" Shit like that. You basically have to have no shame. That's probably number one. Throw in pet-names/nicknames. "Hey sexy, what're you up to?" Or, "he…
/r/seduction27/04/12 04:00 PM
1

Thanks dude. Good to hear.
/r/seduction27/04/12 03:55 PM
2

eh. Dr. Love, or whomever the dating advice guy on Askmen is always used to say to get the home digits and only call. Dunno if he still says it, but he was a couple of years ago and shit is outdated. I'm all about calling, but texting is just the reality of the game now.
/r/seduction27/04/12 03:54 PM
3

Couple things. The SNL is not always an option due to logistics, state of the girl, friends, etc. If that is all you are looking for, then sure you can just keep opening till you find a DTF. But for those times when it is not an option, a player needs to have skills to keep momentum going forward. Think of it as another tool in your shed. You may not need it for every project, but you'll be happy to have it when you do need it. Some PUAs/aPUAs are not looking for SNLs. I've had my share and I mu…
/r/seduction27/04/12 03:52 PM
0

wow. Never thought about the emotions behind smileys. Just observed that they work. This is interested background into the psychology of why they work. Thanks!
/r/seduction27/04/12 03:49 PM
3

Retarded or no, dude gets laid.
/r/seduction27/04/12 03:48 PM
2

Most of the time. How much rapport do you build before leaving? Also, one thing I neglect to add in my post, after you get the number, you should be staying in set for a bit. You can talk about w/e. Usually something like, "yeah, I know this great place where we can [whatever]."
/r/seduction27/04/12 03:47 PM
4

Tucker max once said that he writes like a 13 y/o girl in emails, with tons of smileys and shit. You should do the same, but not while sexting.
/r/seduction27/04/12 02:39 AM
6

Yeah. I was gonna do a post on sexting, but I realized I hadn't made a basic post yet. Put that one up first for completeness.
/r/seduction27/04/12 02:27 AM
8

Everything I write when it comes to theory is merely a guideline. When I say "always," it's intended for newbies. More advanced guys get that there are many ways to wax a cat.
/r/seduction27/04/12 02:02 AM
3

This is so fucking good I can't even stand it. Yes, hugs are girl crack. Yes, girls love to be pickup up (literally and figuratively). Great video and awesome routine. Thanks for sharing. This is what reddit is about!
/r/seduction26/04/12 11:57 PM
2

Or you could, yknow, hit the "save" button.
/r/seduction26/04/12 09:52 PM
0

TIL Washington Monument = Doggystyle. Edit: great FR. I love this.
/r/seduction26/04/12 09:45 PM
1

True. It's a give and a take. Basically, you just want her to see you as a sexual being and ramp up the tension.
/r/seduction26/04/12 08:30 PM
2

Teasing is treating them like kid sis. If no kid sis, do you have cousins, or a girl best friend? It's basically how you act around them. For instance, minsconstruing what they say, taking things to ridiculous levels (like she says she's into dogs, you say, "I like dogs, but not as much as YOU DO!"). It's being playful. Just careful what you tease about and don't go for sensitive areas like weight or hair. Matter of fact, don't tease on appearence in general. One fail safe tease that I always us…
/r/seduction26/04/12 07:59 PM
1

A lot of guys have different styles and over time you will find yours. You can either develop a texting relationship first (don't forget to flirt and throw in sexual innuendos), call her and ask her on a date, or text something similar to what smellyeggs suggests. You are free to pursue whichever line of action you feel most comfortable with. For a more in-depth look at text game, check out the sidebar here and the sub /r/texttranscripts
/r/seduction26/04/12 12:26 AM
1

You're not used to hanging out with drinkers. Really. :)
/r/seduction25/04/12 01:34 AM
2

I use NotLurking's "are you using this chair" opener and it worked like magic. With thanks to Kumar of course. Glad it works for you. The "you're smooth" compliment is one of the best to get in the field. I put my arm around her waist to let her know she was not forgotten about. I think that play was against the textbook material, but it felt natural so I went with it. Never against textbook to initiate kino. HB7 comes back to see me talking to the cute Italian girl. I introduce HB7 and the Ital…
/r/seduction25/04/12 12:56 AM
1

lol. You sly dog, you. :)
/r/seduction25/04/12 12:27 AM
3

To the top with you! Reminds me of something Neil Strauss once said/wrote: Replace your bad habits with good ones. It takes 21 days to break a habit, seven days to start it. However, the best way to make a habit is to DO IT EVERY DAY. Good post.
/r/seduction24/04/12 06:48 PM
6

Hey bud. I came to this sub 8 or so months ago in a similar situation. Things have vastly improved since then. My quality of life, mindset, sex life and social life have all gotten better in that short time. Just recently read some stuff I had written a year ago and I was a mess. So yes, you have found the right place. Just make a promise to yrself to stay committed. If you need any tips or have any questions, feel free to pm me.
/r/seduction24/04/12 02:41 PM
1

What a great guide. Thanks for posting this!
/r/seduction24/04/12 02:34 PM
1

Hey dude. You pulled two chicks to yr hostel, so I definitely did something right. Im wondering why the brunette left you alone with the blonde and why the blonde let her. Maybe she was moving her head towards you because she wanted a kiss? Hope you had a great trip and I can't wait to hear all about it.
/r/seduction24/04/12 02:59 AM
7

This is not helpful in any way. Please elaborate if yr going to dismiss op's entire premise. Otherwise, simply use yr downvote button.
/r/seduction23/04/12 11:22 PM
6

I've been focusing a lot more on being totally unreactive emotionally to anything a girl does and it's been extremely successful for me.
/r/seduction23/04/12 03:12 PM
2

This is an unbelievably good post with some really good active things guys can do (I.e. you avoid saying "be mysterious!" without elaborating). Seddit needs more posts like this. Thanks.
/r/seduction23/04/12 12:22 AM
8

Yr question is basically what seduction is all about. Read the sidebar.
/r/seduction21/04/12 01:39 AM
2

Way to put it into action!
/r/seduction20/04/12 03:19 PM
1

Nice.
/r/seduction20/04/12 03:18 PM
1

It's funny how, as we improve in game, we become better at seeing those opportunities and using them for something great.
/r/seduction20/04/12 04:46 AM
8

The irony is not lost on OP.
/r/seduction20/04/12 04:14 AM
1

Same. Look at it everyday.
/r/seduction20/04/12 03:56 AM
7

Because tomorrow may never come.
/r/seduction20/04/12 01:52 AM
15

Not if you do them now.
/r/seduction19/04/12 08:54 PM
1

In the eye wearing a smile.
/r/seduction18/04/12 02:17 AM
1

You don't "get" confidence. Rather it's something you build from within. One way to do that is to go to the gym and see improvements in your physique. Another is to become better in social interactions, like talking to everybody. It's in the way you carry yourself, the way you speak, and the way you treat other people. Socially awkward penguins are not confident. The only way you get confidence is by consistently putting yourself out there. You may get blown out a lot at first, but you begin to …
/r/seduction17/04/12 04:16 AM
2

To answer yr question, it helps. But nothing beats internalized confidence. Don't wait to gain confidence. Go out there and start sarging today!
/r/seduction17/04/12 12:41 AM
1

In response to yr title only: yes. It's human nature.
/r/seduction11/04/12 03:42 AM
2

Agree with Tokyo. You are not escalating enough. Always remember this: "A girl will forgive you for escalating too much, but will never forgive you if you don't just go for it." Words to live by, my friend.
/r/seduction11/04/12 02:34 AM
1

Agree whole heartedly with yr first two sentences, but idk where fear comes into it.
/r/seduction10/04/12 10:20 PM
2

Haha. That's later. :)
/r/seduction07/04/12 12:19 AM
1

Agree with KModek. These weren't dates, these were bang sessions. If you want more, ask her to dinner.
/r/seduction05/04/12 06:01 PM
4

Standard answer: Text her that night. If its too late for that, next day. Depends on when u text her, but standard is "Hey! It was nice to meet you. Hope you got home safe :) - (name)
/r/seduction01/04/12 03:12 AM
1

There's a name for it. Kill Beatrice.
/r/seduction31/03/12 05:39 PM
-1

I'd text her now. "Hey crazy (or w/e nick is suitable to her). How're you on this crazy day?"
/r/seduction30/03/12 12:20 AM
1

Lol. Thanks. I like girls and stuff.
/r/seduction29/03/12 06:15 AM
3

Heh. I might steal this. Edit: this reply was meant for a diff post.
/r/seduction28/03/12 11:00 PM
1

Insightful post. Thanks.
/r/seduction28/03/12 11:00 PM
2

Here's a q: did you use a line to kiss her or just go for it?
/r/seduction28/03/12 10:59 PM
4

Excellent post. Honesty, eh? It rocks.
/r/seduction28/03/12 08:47 PM
2

True story. And I've def said it before (will again in the future). But IMHO, girls want a guy who KNOWS. That said, you can't fake it. Long answer short, HONESTY. I think we are in agreement, tho.
/r/seduction28/03/12 05:51 AM
1

"We're just having fun." Trollface.
/r/seduction27/03/12 11:35 PM
5

Dude, just be honest. And if you don't know, figure it out.
/r/seduction27/03/12 11:32 PM
1

Dude, nice level up. Keep at it and don't get complacent. Soon you will post frs like tofu. :)
/r/seduction23/03/12 02:58 AM
2

lol. Nice progress, then.
/r/seduction22/03/12 06:47 PM
2

Dude, you are killing it lately. How long have you been in the game.
/r/seduction22/03/12 06:32 PM
1

Absolutely amazing run so far. Wish I lived closer to sf than an hour away.
/r/seduction20/03/12 09:14 PM
5

Agreed. Not having friends is usually a sign that one needs to clear away some inner game problems first.
/r/seduction19/03/12 11:09 PM
1

Yeah. Just bc she pulls away first time, doesn't mean she will the second or third time. Key is to not be a choad.
/r/seduction17/03/12 01:44 AM
1

Have you used angel/goddess again?
/r/seduction16/03/12 10:22 PM
1

Come not to praise Caesar, but to bury him.
/r/seduction16/03/12 07:06 PM
1

Do eet!
/r/seduction16/03/12 05:44 PM
2

I was at the bar last night and some chick was trying to order a drink. It was taking a while and I told her "smile and eye contact." She took my advice and bartender was there instantly. Tl;dr: smile!
/r/seduction16/03/12 05:42 PM
13

Fucking amazing and so textbook. I think a key takeaway here is to never give up early. There were at least two points where you guys were getting "rejection," but just pressed on. Very nice.
/r/seduction15/03/12 08:37 PM
11

Good post for later stages of development.
/r/seduction14/03/12 07:54 PM
2

Great work, bro! Regarding kino, it's the same as approaching. You just have to start doing it. Eventually you will get the hang of it. Keep it up and keep improving!
/r/seduction14/03/12 07:53 PM
2

Imkumaryo uses this one to great success I think.
/r/seduction14/03/12 03:37 AM
3

Go to the gym. Always assume attraction.
/r/seduction10/03/12 03:37 AM
3

This. A hundred times this.
/r/seduction10/03/12 03:03 AM
1

Classic advice
/r/seduction05/03/12 06:17 PM
1

Pretty golden stuff here. Thanks.
/r/seduction03/03/12 10:43 PM
1

Some good stuff here. In particular, the part about how a woman's perspective of attractiveness changes as she's ovulating.
/r/seduction02/03/12 06:32 AM
1

It was David d or wygant I think. Can't remember who.
/r/seduction01/03/12 04:52 AM
1

What is this I don't even.
/r/seduction29/02/12 08:49 PM
2

Hey Sasha. Love yr vids. Thx for doing this, etc. When do you eject, if ever. Also, have you never drank, or was that a game decision?
/r/seduction29/02/12 03:34 AM
2

Confidence comes from a sense that you've done everything in your power to make sure you are 100% prepared for this moment in time. It is a sense of serenity that you've put in all of the work beforehand and now you just need to go out and execute. For instance, Ray Allen has complete confidence in his ability to shoot a three because he has done it tens of thousands of times before. He shoots every day without any pressure on so that when the pressure is on, all he has to do is center himself a…
/r/seduction27/02/12 05:04 AM
2

My freshman year of high school, I moved to a new town. These kids belittled me mercilously. For a while I ignored it. That didn't work. Then, one day, I agreed and amplified (having no idea what tat meant at the time). The fun wore off for them and we eventually became friends.
/r/seduction24/02/12 11:01 PM
2

Yeah, I get that. Idk. When I'm really into a girl I see myself getting needy which I guess is the real issue here. I suppose the best option I've got is to feel it out and make my own way.
/r/seduction24/02/12 03:06 AM
0

I've got it on my list of reads, but it wasn't at my local used bookseller last I checked, unfortunately. Fortunately, How to Win Friends and Influence People was. I am four chapters in and absolutely blown away.
/r/seduction24/02/12 12:03 AM
1

The trolls have made us skeptical!
/r/seduction23/02/12 07:03 PM
2

Yup. :)
/r/seduction23/02/12 09:07 AM
3

Yeah. Like I said, sometimes the timing's off. But, I will tell you this. If you keep going out there opening sets, you WILL get better.
/r/seduction23/02/12 05:49 AM
7

If yr getting a ton of iods, it's time to move on to the next target.
/r/seduction23/02/12 05:44 AM
2

This comment is forgotten, but it's great advice. Some chick said that to me today and I was like, "That's cool. I make out with all my friends. I'll just get you drunk." Lol, then we made plans to go out tomorrow for drinks ;)
/r/seduction23/02/12 05:29 AM
12

Wow. I had no idea trolling had gone to that level. Thanks for the indepth explanation.
/r/seduction23/02/12 05:04 AM
0

not sure if trolling, or...
/r/seduction23/02/12 04:52 AM
2

Askseddit sidebar
/r/seduction23/02/12 03:19 AM
11

True
/r/seduction23/02/12 03:19 AM
19

On a phone atm, but basically, ur frame is yr reality and yr reality should be stronger than hers. Ie, her reality may be "I don't give my number to guys." yours is "that's ridiculous. Of course yr giving me yr number." /really short version.
/r/seduction23/02/12 03:19 AM
1

Nice.
/r/seduction23/02/12 03:17 AM
15

Nice elaboration. I was worried about it being taken the wrong way, but let's face it. We are all here because we love women. We just need to get better at getting them/ keeping them.
/r/seduction23/02/12 03:15 AM
9

Amuse yourself. "You mean with my hand?" or "I've took a vow of celibacy. How dare you ask me that."
/r/seduction23/02/12 01:13 AM
22

No problemo. *fist bump
/r/seduction22/02/12 11:47 PM
34

I asked a girl to dance "The Carlton" last week Awesome. And nice elaboration.
/r/seduction22/02/12 11:46 PM
1

One more thing. I dunno if you've ever seen True Romance, but one thing kept going through my mind as I read this post: You are so cool.
/r/seduction22/02/12 11:39 PM
1

is the tokyopua from that link the tokypua from seddit?
/r/seduction22/02/12 10:02 PM
1

Have you been using the HTMFAIP (Carnegie) method? Basically, tell them they rock and make them WANT to do it. I think you are.
/r/seduction22/02/12 09:59 PM
1

AMA /= fucking.
/r/seduction22/02/12 09:57 PM
2

I have such a hard time gaming at the gym. As in, will not do. I make eye contact and flirt, but mental blocks, etc., keep me from approaching.
/r/seduction22/02/12 09:55 PM
1

Fucking amazing. God I miss Amsterdam. If you're ever in the states, look me up. Also, I could probably google it but what's the eyeliner opener?
/r/seduction22/02/12 08:27 PM
2

eh, it's fine. IMO, you don't "get over" someone you love. You just find someone else to love. As of right now, no one's taken her place. That's not to say I won't find anyone who will, but I do still initiate contact with her. After living together for four years, she became my best friend.
/r/seduction22/02/12 07:13 PM
1

Dude, if she's going to yr house, she knows what's up. Don't worry about what she says with her mouth (unless it is a serious "no"). When she goes home with you, it's for one reason only. Capitalize!
/r/seduction22/02/12 06:14 AM
-1

Do eet faggot!
/r/seduction22/02/12 05:35 AM
14

"there is no one. There is no one."
/r/seduction22/02/12 05:35 AM
-2

Lol @ 5 months of oneitis. I broke it off with my Beatrice over a year ago and I still love her. I keep in touch with her, but still sarge and lay other girls. I would suggest you do the same. Six yrs btw.
/r/seduction22/02/12 05:34 AM
2

Sounds like a plateau. If you just push through, you can reach that next plateau. In the meantime, practice bouncing, aka the venue change. Start small by moving her from the dance floor to a table or vice versa. Then try bouncing to other clubs. Then try bouncing to yr house. Keep it up as it sounds like yr in a good spot.
/r/seduction22/02/12 02:31 AM
3

It's cliche, but you're only as as old (or young) as you feel. If you don't make it into an issue they won't unless they have a major block against it or something, in which case you're fucked anyway. So, easy advice, just plow on. Age does not matter.
/r/seduction21/02/12 11:27 PM
2

Ah, my favorite opener.
/r/seduction21/02/12 11:24 PM
0

Ignore and plow. Maybe = "yes."
/r/seduction21/02/12 09:08 PM
3

Stronger reality + plow. That's the RSD answer, and it has its benefits. Another option is to continue to build rapport.
/r/seduction21/02/12 08:09 PM
1

If kissing in the movies is a pre-teen move, what is getting BJs? In my experience, there's no BJ without a makeout.
/r/seduction21/02/12 08:08 PM
29

Achievement unlocked: The power of not giving a fuck. Good on you, man.
/r/seduction19/02/12 08:40 PM
1

Best answer is a makeout ;)
/r/seduction18/02/12 11:06 PM
1

My two cents: find a wing you can trust and develop a friendship. Then go out with him and push each other. While I really enjoy the women I get from my experiences with PU, possibly the best part about seddit is the friendships I've developed with out aspiring PUAs. TL;DR: focus on making friends, not girlfriends.
/r/seduction18/02/12 08:54 PM
1

What tofu said. Also, you should really be making out on the first date, not the fourth.
/r/seduction18/02/12 08:51 PM
1

Eye contact is good. The only way to tell if its too much is by practice. Walk around making strong eye contact with everyone, and you will quickly figure out when its too much. On your day 2s, have STRONG eye contact. This will lead to makeouts or a questioning "what?" from your girl. BOTH ARE GOOD THINGS. TL;DR: Make strong eye contact on day twos and when you want to make out. Throw in a triangle gaze so you're not staring.
/r/seduction18/02/12 06:50 PM
1

this guy's a phd. You should listen to him.
/r/seduction18/02/12 02:15 AM
3

Remember that you are the one in control. It seems like you're doing what you want, and you should continue to do so. But to give you a more concrete answer, this is what I do: never initiate contact, hang out occasionally, always be nice/gentlemanly, occasionally hook up, occasionally blow her off. If she's down with that, there's no reason to straight up "dump" her. Also, it's okay to not respond to texts/phone calls. It's kind of like acting like a hot girl.
/r/seduction17/02/12 05:37 PM
1

AA never goes away. You just have to approach fast before your brain gets in the way. While people in the community have been moving away from Mystery Method, there is still a lot of credence to the ideas there. One rule that should be kept as people develop their own game is the 3-second rule. You approach your target within the first three seconds of seeing her. The advantages are two-fold. One, you aren't a creep staring her down for 30 minutes before working up the courage to go talk to her …
/r/seduction16/02/12 07:04 PM
1

This is true. Some guys need help figuring out what to say, though.
/r/seduction16/02/12 06:43 PM
1

it's notlurkinganymoar
/r/seduction15/02/12 10:14 PM
1

Remember that you can always take a break from the game to clear your head/recalibrate. If you just keep pushing, pushing, pushing, sometimes you will overcome an obstacle. But allow yourself time to reflect without being hard on yourself.
/r/seduction01/02/12 07:28 PM
1

date
/r/seduction31/01/12 11:20 PM
0

Yeah, small sample size (~2-3 sets). Just wondeirng if anyone else had seen something similar.
/r/seduction31/01/12 11:20 PM
0

Yeah, small sample size (~2-3 sets). Just wondeirng if anyone else had seen something similar.
/r/seduction31/01/12 11:19 PM
2

Good stuff. Thanks for this. Coupla comments: She asks me to turn off the lights, I put on a condom, and then we share the full-close. You old softy, you. the girl could have walked away from me or waved me off if she was not interested at all, but yet she stayed. That is key! Yes! It is your job to escalate. Hers is to stop you when she gets uncomfortable or tell you to go away. I planted proper seeds and time-bridged. Great work.
/r/seduction31/01/12 09:37 PM
0

Can you see yourself marrying this girl? If the answer is no, then continue no further. Break it off. Ask for a break. Say something like, "you're a great girl and I love hanging out with you, but I need a little time to sow my wild oats," etc. Cons: She might say no; she might want to break up instead. Pros: the door is open to get back together with her after you have your fun and see life from the other side. Ask for an open relationship. Pros: duh, you get your cake and eat it too. Cons: She…
/r/seduction31/01/12 09:29 PM
1

A natural friend of mine who is in a LTR told me that if he was single he'd be doing yoga ALL THE TIME. Tons of hot chicks, looking good, getting sweaty, and checking you out. Plus, a great male to female ratio.
/r/seduction31/01/12 07:19 PM
1

If you're asking, yes.
/r/seduction31/01/12 07:13 PM
1

It's really not a big deal. Just be like, "heyyyyy!" Then proceed as normal. If you're interested, get her number. Something like, "we should hang out sometime" works wonders. Once you're getting her number, just open up a new contact and hand her the phone. She'll usually put her name in.
/r/seduction31/01/12 07:11 PM
0

push for the day 2. Then proceed as normal. Also, beware. Strippers are nuts and have daddy issues.
/r/seduction31/01/12 07:08 PM
1

haven't lived in the city for a few years. Glad someone's there to hold down the fort, though :)
/r/seduction30/01/12 09:28 PM
1

remember: dude's in the field are not your friend. You can be friendly/nice/sociable, but assume that people are not there to help you.
/r/seduction30/01/12 07:27 PM
1

Great FR. I totally forgot about le souk! I had a group of brazilian friends when i lived in nyc and they loved that place. I never had a bad time. I would suggest making it your spot and chatting up the bouncers so you don't have to wait in line. re: paradise bars, there's one behind MSG that girls from some fashion school to. It's got an amazing ration and is called something like the garden bar or w/e. If you can find it, it is paradise. re: the last apocalypse attempt: you forgot a very impo…
/r/seduction30/01/12 07:24 PM
2

Great reflection. I had forgotten how good I can be with women while on e. It's something completely unnatural, yet works so well. I think if we can break it down to how/why it works, we can figure out how to replicate. Two cents: Being in an emotional state. From my experience, e tends to put me in a very emotional place. E.g., I feel everything a lot more. I love everyone. I am very open to new experiences and very socially aware of people's feelings and the undercurrent of the situation. From…
/r/seduction27/01/12 10:50 PM
1

Have fun. Talk to everyone. Say "yes" a lot.
/r/seduction20/01/12 11:54 PM
1

Yeah, we preach to text her as soon as yr outta the club. No games here!
/r/seduction19/01/12 07:22 AM
2

The second position is "spooning"
/r/seduction19/01/12 05:36 AM
1

good tips. Thanks.
/r/seduction19/01/12 03:34 AM
1

No easy answer here. It's like anything else. You've got to get out there an do it. Then again. Then some more. It also helps to go out with someone who is better than you and can push you.
/r/seduction19/01/12 03:03 AM
2

The difference is in giving value. Check the sidebar for some great resources on this.
/r/seduction19/01/12 02:45 AM
2

at the end of the day, you HAVE to realize that you're surrounded by timid, scared, small people and if you just ACT, you'll be in front of most of them. Fucking A. I am saving that shit. Thanks.
/r/seduction19/01/12 01:46 AM
2

Congrats!
/r/seduction17/01/12 07:46 PM
5

A girl will respect you more for going for it and failing than she will if you hadn't done anything at all.
/r/seduction16/01/12 10:43 PM
1

Nice!
/r/seduction14/01/12 05:03 AM
1

Exactly. I feel like you need to smoke pot at some point to get it.
/r/seduction14/01/12 05:02 AM
1

Heh. Truz.
/r/seduction14/01/12 05:02 AM
1

Friendly /= supplication.
/r/seduction14/01/12 05:01 AM
2

Be friendly. Be the value. It's not so much about making friends as people wanting to be friends with you. Be the value, lift others up, be self-entertained. Lmk if you need more.
/r/seduction14/01/12 05:01 AM
1

First loves are tough to get over. I had to move out of the country to try to get over my college sweetheart. Even then, when I moved back, I attempted to seduce her (and did seduce her into my bed again). However, it never quite worked out after that. "There are many fish in the sea" is so cliche, but it is apt in this situation. You don't need to be an ass to her when you see her. Indeed, you can even (indirectly) try to seduce her. Just don't make her the focus of your attention. Hit on other…
/r/seduction13/01/12 11:30 PM
4

or at least a tmbg song.
/r/seduction11/01/12 09:47 PM
1

bingo
/r/seduction06/01/12 07:52 PM
7

Some great tecniques in there. Thanks for posting. Now I want a redhead....
/r/seduction05/01/12 10:06 PM
-2

You already know this is askseddit material. Other than that, stop bitching and man the fuck up. Best advice I ever received.
/r/seduction30/12/11 01:51 PM
2

Not great, but it may work for you. I like it. So go for it!
/r/seduction16/12/11 05:57 AM
1

A masterpiece. I'd like to hear a little more in-depth re: the karaoke lay.
/r/seduction12/12/11 09:30 PM
0

Kinda askseddit, but... It matters as much as you want it to. If yr looking for snls, dress the part. If yr trying to find "the one," who cares what you look like. Play on.
/r/seduction10/12/11 05:28 AM
5

Nice. Thanks for posting this. These Seddit success stories warm the cold, black heart. DO NOT READ FOR TWO MONTHS: Tell us how it goes after the breakup.
/r/seduction10/12/11 05:12 AM
1

I used to lurk.
/r/seduction10/12/11 01:37 AM
3

I have no clue what your fucking talking about.
/r/seduction09/12/11 11:50 PM
7

I'm really enjoying your FRs. WOMEN CANNOT STAND TO BE SINGLE new seddit mantra.
/r/seduction09/12/11 12:57 AM
4

I don't understand. You hit on ugly women or crazy ones? And what "other people" see it as a problem?
/r/seduction09/12/11 12:21 AM
2

If you make out with her, tell her to "get out of there." What do you mean by this.
/r/seduction09/12/11 12:19 AM
1

Well, it's not so much a fuck to become friends situation, but more of a, "hey, we're hanging out. Oh look, you're at my apartment late at night and now we're fucking," type of situation. Edit: thanks for the reply.
/r/seduction08/12/11 11:48 PM
5

Heh. So the usual then :)
/r/seduction08/12/11 11:41 PM
4

If you could give only one piece of advice to a guy just starting to game (e.g., one who still has trouble approaching girls), what would it be? How about for a guy with "intermediate" (read: can get numbers and k-closes) who's looking to up his game? Thanks.
/r/seduction08/12/11 11:35 PM
0

How do you deal with girls who get clingy after ONS, whom you'd like to remain friends with for social circle reasons, but aren't necessarily interested in hooking up with again?
/r/seduction08/12/11 11:31 PM
1

Hey man. Thanks for doing this. Any sex tips for a wild ONS?
/r/seduction08/12/11 11:28 PM
1

The best success I've had is been with naturals or Seddit guys as wings.
/r/seduction07/12/11 04:44 AM
2

Troll friends are trolley.
/r/seduction07/12/11 03:27 AM
1

Find a wing. Seriously.
/r/seduction07/12/11 12:20 AM
3

I've tried that one. Doesn't work. Instead try, "Hey baby, push my button. I'm feeling lucky."
/r/seduction06/12/11 11:40 PM
2

Shit is getting crazy I'm fingering this girl while she holds my jacket out so no one can see. But I can't hustle her out because this new idiot is manhandling her friend all over the place. Fuck! I turn left and I see this dude is actually fucking her friend next to me, 30 seconds later two huge fucking bouncers come up and grab dude never to be seen again. The gods have smile upon me, the dude gets kicked out, but the friend doesn't. My buddy reappears and we head to there hotel a couple of bl…
/r/seduction06/12/11 11:35 PM
3

Dunno why you got downvoted. Probably the best advice in this thread. If you'll allow me to reiterate: Make sure you build sufficient attraction before closing. Don't text constantly back and forth. Remember to be unavailable. Piggybacking on that last point, don't respond to texts too quickly. Call if you're asking for a date. There are times when one is allowed to break these rules, but you are not there yet, so stick to them.
/r/seduction06/12/11 11:29 PM
1

Tl;dr. Try and stick to one night for frs. But thanks for the post! Q1: generally, I try not to game girlfriends of friends. Q2: if you give out yr number, put it in her phone and call yrself to keep a leading frame.
/r/seduction04/12/11 10:56 PM
2

Askseddit post. That aside, google (or check the sidebar) for amog tactics.
/r/seduction04/12/11 10:51 PM
-2

Tbf, this is an askseddit post. That aside, I dunno how to deal with true psychological problems, if that is indeed what's happening here. That aside, my normal advice would be to man up and sarge. If true beauties ate a problem, start small (read: fatties) and work your way up. :)
/r/seduction04/12/11 10:19 PM
3

To elaborate a bit on this, it is the abundance mentality in action. Once you start talking to different girls you see that there are MANY fish in the sea and YOU are the value. keep at it, wolf.
/r/seduction04/12/11 09:57 PM
2

Keep at it and trust in yourself. It takes work, but you will see improvement.
/r/seduction03/12/11 10:52 PM
2

You'd be surprised.
/r/seduction03/12/11 07:28 PM
6

Relevant username. Good post. I'd like to add one: If you go to talk to a girl and she brightens up an gives you a big smile before you say anything, she's into you.
/r/seduction03/12/11 01:21 AM
3

deceptive title on that Strauss article.
/r/seduction02/12/11 04:17 AM
1

Yeah. But so don't most things.
/r/seduction28/11/11 08:37 PM
2

It's the old leader of men, protector of loved ones, pre selection, etc. basically, being a modern alpha male. Check the sidebar.
/r/seduction28/11/11 07:39 PM
1

Yes.
/r/seduction28/11/11 07:05 PM
1

heh. Well, at least you open like a champ :)
/r/seduction28/11/11 07:05 PM
1

Guys value girls based on looks. Women value men based on other traits (think MM's attraction switches). Therefore, even if you look like a 5, it's the value you bring that's most important. Generally, if your social value is a 9, then you should be going for 9s. If it's a 5, you're gonna have trouble gaming 6s and up.
/r/seduction28/11/11 06:59 PM
1

This is dog.
/r/seduction28/11/11 06:55 PM
2

Someone gets it! tbf, it turns out me and some drunkass girl dressed as snookie were the only ones to respect the theme.
/r/seduction28/11/11 05:05 AM
3

"You are the value."
/r/seduction28/11/11 01:29 AM
1

Yup.
/r/seduction27/11/11 11:36 PM
1

It's fine to run out a suit every so often (see how it works for you), but no need to live in one.
/r/seduction27/11/11 11:35 PM
1

I'm in San Jose, but there are plenty of guys in sf. Subscribe to BAS.
/r/seduction27/11/11 10:51 PM
1

I like the game.
/r/seduction25/11/11 07:46 AM
2

It's cool man. They can't all be yesses. Keep at it!
/r/seduction24/11/11 05:59 AM
5

It's a realistic number for improvement purposes. Guys think they can read a post, go out, and get laid tonight. However, you've got to work up to good interactions. Some guys might get it at 1000, some at 1. But when you've got it, you know and do not need the "practice" anymore. It'll happen by 2000.
/r/seduction24/11/11 02:20 AM
2

There are guys who go out consistently in SF
/r/seduction24/11/11 02:17 AM
20

Yeah, you just reminded me of something I wanted to put into this post but forgot: everyone out at bars and clubs are just extras in the movie of your life. If they're cool enough, maybe you'll let them play a supporting role. But until that point, they're just wallpaper.
/r/seduction23/11/11 10:04 PM
7

We should have a game where we post something totally afc and pick out all the things wrong with it. To me, it's not the "4 days" that screams afc, it's the "if she's not kissing you." Why the hell aren't you kissing her? For bonus points, why the hell are you taking her out to dinner and why the hell are you buying her food?
/r/seduction23/11/11 07:04 PM
23

Two biggest parts of being a good conversationalist are being observant and listening. Smaller parts include being knowledgeable and genuinely interested in people. That's the theory, here's the practical: You: "Hey, I just had to come over here and talk to you because you're super cute." Her: "tee hee." You: "so what are you doing here?" Her: blah, blah, [interesting nugget], blah. You: "Oh, you like [interesting nugget], too? I knew you looked cool. I was [something random you were doing or w/…
/r/seduction22/11/11 10:19 PM
1

Maybe. There's also something to be said for taking a couple nights off to get your head straight.
/r/seduction21/11/11 09:57 PM
0

Like I said, just plow. For me, I feel better as soon as I'm out in the field with fellow sedditors, opening sets. Maybe ask your wing to go out with you and tell you if he sees anything different.
/r/seduction21/11/11 09:38 PM
1

I think you just push through. Realize you are the value and have lost nothing. You are the exact same guy you were two months ago. Hell, maybe better. Get out there and eyefuck some girls. Then penis-fuck them.
/r/seduction21/11/11 08:25 PM
3

And kind of a dick. The age opener is terrible. You never make a big deal out of age. The only acceptable joking about age is either when she's younger than you ("I bet you don't even remember Shi'ra," or w/e) or when it is part of your teasing and you do it in a disqualifying way making it about you ("I'm too young for you."). You never make a big deal about it or ask a set of girls if they're "your age" w/e the fuck that means, because it makes you come off as a condescending prick. Second, I …
/r/seduction15/11/11 12:02 AM
1

Plateaus happen every step of the way. Just plow through until you reach that next plateau. Keep approaching and you'll keep improving.
/r/seduction14/11/11 11:13 PM
2

try my secret garden instead.
/r/seduction11/11/11 10:06 PM
-1

Although he didn't put at the top that it was an article by Coover taken from seddit, he did put in a via link. When you give credit it's no longer plagiarism.
/r/seduction11/11/11 07:21 PM
1

Please take posts like this to askseddit in the future. In general, best way to respond to a compliment is "thanks." You can also try to disqualify yourself. "Thanks, but it's not mine." Or, "oh, thanks for noticing, it's a wig."
/r/seduction11/11/11 07:17 PM
2

I can buy this. Girls don't like it when you're better at "their" things. e.g., if you are dressed better than her/hotter than her, she won't take to kindly to it.
/r/seduction11/11/11 06:44 PM
5

Start with the sidebar. Approach.
/r/seduction10/11/11 05:58 AM
1

Awesome. Be sure to pm me pics. Unless its on yr dick, u can keep that one. :)
/r/seduction10/11/11 05:53 AM
1

absolutely. Whenever you want to come down to visit, we'd be happy to have you. We usually hit up SF on the weekends (and have a pretty good turnout). Otherwise, I do most of my sarging in the south bay.
/r/seduction09/11/11 11:48 PM
3

approach tonight. no more excuses.
/r/seduction09/11/11 11:44 PM
1

lol. I think you just called me old. :P
/r/seduction09/11/11 11:32 PM
1

I only got into the community in July or August, so it's entirely possible I wasn't hanging with the crew at the time. But word, next time you're in town, we'll compare notes and talk to girls.
/r/seduction09/11/11 11:32 PM
1

This link is pretty worthless. "Hey! Want to get better at sexting women? Buy my book! You can get pictures. Of girls. Naked! Buy my book!"
/r/seduction09/11/11 08:22 PM
2

I like it. Thanks for sharing.
/r/seduction09/11/11 07:17 PM
1

You created the site? Well that just won't do.
/r/seduction09/11/11 07:01 PM
1

Good shit, man. I appreciate the feedback. I think the key to really being in an alpha mindset is to stop overanalyzing shit like this. Do you want cream? Do you want to go to a bar? Do you want to donate? That is the extent of how much you should think about these things. Yeah, I mostly agree with this. It's just something I got a lot of all at once and I'm always looking for an edge/ways to improve. e.g., for a while I kept getting "have a good night" at the end of a set if I didn't number clo…
/r/seduction09/11/11 12:38 AM
2

Hey dude. Re: your Q. It was an external circumstance of that night. I had only brought so much with me as I didn't intend on hanging out all night and really needed to go to the bank. But I jumped in there on the way and had some great sets, so stuck around till I was broke.
/r/seduction08/11/11 11:41 PM
7

see also, abundance mentality :)
/r/seduction08/11/11 10:40 PM
3

Awesome find. "The effect is based not just on reciprocal self-disclosure, but on gradually escalating reciprocal self-disclosure. . . . we also tested an intense version of this with cross-sex couples - and the first ones we tested fell in love and got married. And as of last year, when I last had contact with them, they were still together."
/r/seduction08/11/11 08:11 PM
2

Couple of great things here: "do you know how beautiful you look?" She blushed and giggled. I then said to her "I love to date women with the kind of style you have." She then asked me my name. In. I wouldn't use that line, but it worked for you. Nicely done. "I'm going to take you out on a date tomorrow. I am going to call you at 7:30 sharp and you better pick up. We will then meet at a place for dinner and afterwards we are going to see some live music at this particular place." Way to take ch…
/r/seduction08/11/11 07:51 PM
1

Posting this here rather than starting a new thread. Anyone have a site that talks about "dat look?" Or links to movies where men give it? I'm working on nonverbal game and would love to add this to my repertoire. Thanks!
/r/seduction08/11/11 07:38 PM
6

"The only IOI you need is an absence of IODs." - Carl Sagan.
/r/seduction08/11/11 07:32 PM
1

Personally, I gain nothing from reading college FRs. It's the only reason I bring it up. House parties, talking to girls on the quad, sitting in the home team section for the big game, these things are not relevant to my journey.
/r/seduction05/11/11 08:35 PM
5

Re: your question about opening the bored faces, one of my favorite openers is to walk over to them and say, "you guys are having way too much fun over here. You need to calm down." Say it with a smile, then open as normal.
/r/seduction05/11/11 08:16 PM
1

It's fine to start early, but don't game in school. And check out highseddit.
/r/seduction05/11/11 07:45 PM
2

Just putting it out there for the powers that be.
/r/seduction05/11/11 07:29 PM
1

Always be gaming. i.e., don't just go out Friday night after reading seddit and expect to become don juan. You need to live the principles.
/r/seduction05/11/11 07:28 PM
5

I'm fine with uniseddit having its own sub. All the "girl in my class" posts get tiring.
/r/seduction05/11/11 06:43 PM
2

Tl;dr Seriously, tho, I think the community polices itself. With upboats and downboats, the cream will (hopefully) rise to the top.
/r/seduction05/11/11 03:43 AM
1

Use early and often.
/r/seduction05/11/11 01:12 AM
7

Be the value. You are a social being. Women want you. You have a life outside of picking up women. You are the perfect man for this girl, right now. Improve the lives of those around you, no matter their station in life as compared to yours. ABG -- Practice ABC -- Escalate! I only need eight.
/r/seduction03/11/11 06:45 PM
2

ty dude. I was about to repost it with a snarky sendup to the mods :)
/r/seduction03/11/11 06:43 PM
1

What PUA curve said. There are many divisions within the seduction community: MM vs. Natural, Sexual vs. Social, etc. Seddit, imo, focuses more on inner game than any site I've been to. It's a great resource for building value, improving inner game and getting a mansformation. I'd also suggest the pickup podcast.
/r/seduction03/11/11 06:40 PM
1

Well, not every post. ') I've currently got one stuck in there, if you don't mind helping out.
/r/seduction03/11/11 06:33 PM
2

why's that?
/r/seduction03/11/11 06:30 PM
1

In honor of White Castle, f/k/a Club Kumar
/r/seduction03/11/11 06:09 AM
1

great post. A lesson I have to remember. Thank you.
/r/seduction02/11/11 06:38 AM
1

I've noticed that you're very good at making girls feel comfortable around you. Do you consciously do anything to do this? I go in looking to build rapport. I'm not going in to hit on a girl. Just to talk and have a good time. If I see that she is receptive, then I ramp attraction by throwing in some "you're sexy" lines, adding push-pull, and physically escalating (which I am still working on). I think I might need to temper some of the tension I'm creating with a bit more comfort I agree. I'd l…
/r/seduction01/11/11 07:51 AM
2

Yr txts were txtbk. Excuse the pun.
/r/seduction01/11/11 03:16 AM
1

Right. Shit test. "You got the wrong idea." Then continue to escalate.
/r/seduction01/11/11 03:13 AM
1

I think you handled it well. Didn't notice until I turned around and you were there. Excellent work, as always.
/r/seduction01/11/11 03:10 AM
2

I shut down for about 30 minutes and do nothing. After this, I open a group of three girls dressed as flappers indirectly and one of them invites me back for drinks. My face lights up and I go 'Really?!' and she reconsiders her decision. lol. This is my favorite set. I decide to try out more direct approaches. By this do you mean going in and trying to use all physical? Or is it more of a "Hey. I think you're hot. C'mere" type of open? Breaking Rapport Tonality Granted, I haven't been in enough …
/r/seduction01/11/11 12:27 AM
1

Congrats man. Looks like you happened into some solid inner game. Once you get that shit down, "state" is just a word.
/r/seduction31/10/11 04:31 AM
1

Best way to get back into it is just to get out there and approach. Delete her from facebook, gchat, twitter, everything. Then get on that horse and fuck bitches.
/r/seduction30/10/11 11:47 PM
9

It's certainly difficult and requires strong physical game. Best option is to go in, try to get her to laugh, ramp up kino, then bounce her somewhere quieter (like outside to smoke).
/r/seduction30/10/11 11:29 PM
2

right on :)
/r/seduction27/10/11 09:53 PM
6

tbh, it is impressive. This wouldn't be a billion-dollar industry if it wasn't. May not be a big deal for you, but to most men around the world it is.
/r/seduction27/10/11 09:04 PM
1

That link is pretty golden and sort of a mini-realization thing. Thank you. I'm about to watch it again.
/r/seduction27/10/11 05:48 AM
1

Sometimes you make out with a chick all night and jerk off. Sometimes you get laid. Often times it is out of your power. Although you may have helped yourself out by involving the friend (not in the makeout, unless she was down). But you got a makeout (and had a chance to feel boobs ;), so it's not like you did poorly.
/r/seduction26/10/11 06:09 PM
1

?
/r/seduction25/10/11 05:37 PM
2

Fedora.
/r/seduction25/10/11 05:37 PM
1

Changing a trait for the positive = standing up straight and being comfortable with wh you are. Not being true to yourself = doing something you dont want to do (unless you've specifically chosen that activity to make you better at something else) and/or pretending you're interested in something you're not. These are just examples.
/r/seduction24/10/11 09:55 PM
1

This is probably the best definition I've seen, and a good distillery of what we are trying to do around here.
/r/seduction21/10/11 06:37 PM
3

I agree, although I'd go with probably not worth the trouble. As for the advice on what to do if he does want to pursue further, I agree. Sprinkle in some abundance mentality and continue being a boss.
/r/seduction20/10/11 06:29 PM
1

Between seddit, 100 sets, my blog, and random thoughts I have stored on my iPhone, I am constantly keeping track of progress.
/r/seduction20/10/11 06:30 AM
2

I think they're overemphasizing to make a point. While it's not 90%, if you are cognizant of your surroundings, you will start to notice subtle hints that women would like to be hit on. However, this is not something in the community we teach because it breeds inaction. Better to just keep approaching. You don't get better by waiting for someone else to invite you to action.
/r/seduction20/10/11 06:29 AM
2

I dunno. Can I borrow a book?
/r/seduction20/10/11 05:11 AM
6

There's so much gold like this in that article. Tons of inner game shit, creating your own reality, being the value, etc. They didn't put him on the 100 for nothing.
/r/seduction19/10/11 11:17 PM
2

Smile. Optional: "You have nothing to worry about."
/r/seduction19/10/11 08:24 PM
2

While this is certainly great advice, I don't think it's so easy to classify Guy #2 as a value-giver and Guy #1 as not. For example, you can wait around all Friday night for someone to call, but if nobody calls, you're not doing shit. I think this post deserves to be expanded. Sometimes Guy #1 leads into Guy #2. You don't make friends (mostly) by waiting for people to call you. Sometimes (most of the time), you need to call other people. Say, "Hey. I'm going to [X-bar]." Or w/e. Also, it sometim…
/r/seduction18/10/11 05:46 PM
1

I think it's stupid. We're not here to force-feed people. If someone is interested in joining our community and becoming better, they should put in the work like the rest of us. That means going out, finding what works, and trying new things. To establish a hierarchy by putting titles next to our names creates a subculture which, quite frankly, is unnecessary. We're here to get better with women. If other people have the same goals, it won't kill them to pay attention and find the person they ca…
/r/seduction18/10/11 05:32 PM
0

Is this a "how to tell good story" thread, or a "what are some good topics" thread?
/r/seduction15/10/11 03:16 AM
1

Excellent advice. I would like to add, "talk to everyone." The best way to get better at anything is to practice. So don't go in a club/bar/whatever and only talk to women. Talk to everyone.
/r/seduction14/10/11 08:33 PM
2

Being playful/ having a playful conversation requires two things (which are really similar). 1. Be in a playful state. Let her feed off of ur energy. This comes from being a leader. 2. Be in the moment. If you overthink it, it won't work.
/r/seduction14/10/11 08:30 PM
1

We probably need a sticky on IOIs as they are a whole post in-and-if themselves. Suffice to say that the only IOI you should be looking for is a lack of IODs. For instance, ur talking to a girl, she's talking back. You touch her. She does not recoil/allows it to happen. That is an IOI. Remember: You are the man. It is ur job to talk to interesting ladies/hit on them. It is their job to tell you to go away if they're not interested.
/r/seduction14/10/11 08:28 PM
7

I've been enjoying this series. Please keep it up. As for IOIs, the only one you really need is a lack of IODs. e.g., if you're talking to a girl and she doesn't walk away, IOI. It's all about assuming attraction. Course, that is a little advanced, so I do see the need to give newbies some guideposts to look for.
/r/seduction13/10/11 09:44 PM
3

Great post, although I greatly disagree with your effort breakdown/percentages. Verbal game is a paper tiger. The real game should be focused on physical game and your mansformation.
/r/seduction13/10/11 07:01 PM
4

Great FR. It's shit like this, Seddit. my wingman was a trooper and occupied HB7 No shit he's a trooper. Sounds like he was winging you for hours. If he didn't get his dick sucked, you owe the man a beer. Or ten. After the dance club we hit up a small bar nearby and it was there where I seduced her into coming home with me. Please elaborate. Re: what to say. Nothing. Seriously, it's no big deal. Just proceed as normal.
/r/seduction12/10/11 11:35 PM
1

wrong subreddit. Try uniseddit or askseddit.
/r/seduction12/10/11 10:26 PM
1

what nyc said. just do your thing. A modern alpha male is nonreactive.
/r/seduction12/10/11 06:39 PM
0

I will most likely be down voted Helping to fulfill your prophesy.
/r/seduction12/10/11 06:37 PM
8

It gets tiring answering the same Q's over and over again. If people check the sidebar and read the material provided for them, they'll be all right. Now I'm off to post a new topic in the No Asad16s Club.
/r/seduction12/10/11 06:36 PM
1

it's easy to say when you look back on it and see it from a distance -- which is sort of the point of writing FRs in the first place -- but this reads as a six steps to becoming AFC. I'm glad you realize where you went wrong and are committed to getting better.
/r/seduction07/10/11 09:00 PM
1

Next time you're in the city, head over to bayareaseddit.
/r/seduction07/10/11 08:16 PM
3

Good question. My gut tells me, "no," but I often try harder when I am really interested in the girl and end up going down in flames. So I don't know what the real answer is.
/r/seduction07/10/11 08:10 PM
2

There was a stupid thread on the main site about "Cheesiest pickup lines that worked." I actually saw a good one: "Hey. Wanna makeout?" Will try and report back.
/r/seduction05/10/11 07:11 PM
1

Start with "hi" and a smile.
/r/seduction05/10/11 05:46 PM
1

Don't really know how to answer this other than to say, "it comes with practice." Look, if you don't feel like talking to anybody, by all means, don't. But don't expect to pick up that cute girl, either. As for politely ejecting from a conversation, you ever get blown out while talking to a girl in the nicest way possible? It's sort of like that. Funny story. I started talking to this guy at the bar who had a Mohawk once. He said, "Oh, you done fucked up now," and followed me around a bit. I jus…
/r/seduction05/10/11 05:43 PM
2

good points!
/r/seduction05/10/11 05:41 AM
1

If you are attracted to women, it's natural to check em out. Just don't be overtly obvious...unless that's part of your game ;)
/r/seduction05/10/11 03:51 AM
14

I am here to become a better person. Getting girls is a happy result from that.
/r/seduction05/10/11 03:46 AM
3

It's up to you, man. I can't tell you who to be friends with.
/r/seduction05/10/11 03:45 AM
0

It's shit like this, Seddit.
/r/seduction05/10/11 03:43 AM
6

Who cares? Seriously. This isn't a John Hughes movie. Read the shit on inner game again.
/r/seduction05/10/11 02:56 AM
12

Thanks for sharing your experience. Seems a lot of guys are skeptical.
/r/seduction05/10/11 02:41 AM
1

Nice!
/r/seduction05/10/11 02:39 AM
1

Exactly.
/r/seduction05/10/11 01:16 AM
7

I tried this in college. It was great at building attraction, terrible for getting laid. Basically, if you've developed the frame that you're aloof and unattainable, why would a girl approach you? What reason do you have to approach them?
/r/seduction04/10/11 11:42 PM
5

I wouldn't mind seeing an /r/sedditfrs subreddit for only FRs.
/r/seduction01/10/11 07:06 PM
4

Tl;dr. But awesome fucking handle.
/r/seduction30/09/11 05:18 AM
9

This. This. 1000 times, this.
/r/seduction30/09/11 05:18 AM
-3

I'm 14 and what is this?
/r/seduction23/09/11 03:20 AM
1

Fucking A. Equally important is that guy who first came up and danced with him. You should be that guy too. Sometimes being a good leader means learning how to follow.
/r/seduction22/09/11 05:11 AM
-1

This is why you are downvoted.
/r/seduction22/09/11 04:57 AM
1

but you did it in the wrong way. You came in here as, "I know better than y'all, and this is what you need to do." That is not the way to help men. I understand that that's what you thought you were doing. However, many of the things you said, if you look at my original post, are known things. You can do better.
/r/seduction22/09/11 04:40 AM
5

I think OP basically just stumbled in here from somewhere else and was like, "I CAN HELP!" without having any idea about what we do.
/r/seduction22/09/11 12:59 AM
1

google "how to pick up hired guns" or something similar. This will give you an idea. Basically: be different from the average guys they see, don't be needy, tip well.
/r/seduction21/09/11 11:31 PM
9

so basically, girls are looking for the following traits in men: successful risk-taker socially competent leader of men ability to emote / emotional healthiness protector of loved ones Thanks for the heads up!
/r/seduction21/09/11 11:27 PM
1

Np. Re: set 4, I think there's nothing you could've done. Maybe you iso'd her too fast? Re: shit tests, you should be good at them. Agree and amplify is exactly like yes...and.
/r/seduction21/09/11 03:37 AM
2

You were totally locked into set one. What happened to her? And wtf is beasts friends forever? Great work in this set. I really don't like the "I know you" opener. I like the assumed I know you of, "Hey! How've you been?!" But the opener, "I know you from somewhere" is a pretty well-known AFC opener. i.e., it's an opener often used by AFCs, so your calibration has to be PERFECT. Basically you'll get shit-tested right away. If you want to keep using it, I'd suggest dealing with everything after y…
/r/seduction21/09/11 12:44 AM
2

sounds to me like he heard, "what is love," and started dancing with the girl appropriately.
/r/seduction21/09/11 12:39 AM
1

ISO = isolate :) Re: dancing, I dunno man. It's a confidence thing. I get if you don't have the confidence to do it, then you probably shouldn't. But it sounds like you know what you're doing. So just use that to your advantage. And hey, if people start a dance circle around you, I guess you'll have to deal :) That said, remember to calibrate if you're dancing with a girl. Being a good male dancer is being a good leader. So don't go way overboard. Just don't feel like you can't use your talents …
/r/seduction21/09/11 12:07 AM
1

Glad to hear it. Nicely done. Now go do it 10 more times ;)
/r/seduction20/09/11 11:41 PM
3

Nobody's judging him. That's the point. Whether or not someone is judging you is within you're own head. All this outside shit that you can't change (whether it's because of culture or nature or whatever) is just an excuse. Get your inner game straight, and no one will care if you wear a turban or a dress. Once you get over it, everyone else will, too.
/r/seduction19/09/11 07:39 AM
2

You're doing it wrong.
/r/seduction19/09/11 07:37 AM
2

I miss yr smiling face.
/r/seduction19/09/11 03:02 AM
-3

Didn't read the post. It's a limiting belief you have. Kill it.
/r/seduction19/09/11 03:01 AM
1

Nice
/r/seduction18/09/11 10:20 PM
1

Great post. Some of these are absolute gold. Thanks.
/r/seduction17/09/11 08:17 PM
1

"Wouldn't appreciate what? You having fun? Sounds like a GREAT guy ;)" I tend to puss out too at the boyfriend line. It's a cross between not wanting to get stuck in that frame so ejecting, a little bit of embarrassment at having "wasted" my time, and a -- perhaps -- misguided sense of chivalry/bro-code. Besides, there are plenty of girls without bfs. Edit: forgot to say, great job regardless. Sounds like you had fun and she liked hanging out with you. You now are friends with the bartender at t…
/r/seduction16/09/11 07:01 PM
2

"this" of course, is called NLP.
/r/seduction16/09/11 06:07 PM
3

That was great. Invalid fear, but I like rage comix with my pua.
/r/seduction15/09/11 01:54 AM
2

exactly. And really, that's what we are all here to do. We may come seeking to get better with women, but we leave as better men.
/r/seduction12/09/11 11:06 PM
5

We learn pickup to become naturals. If you're not feeling or become "natural," then you're doing it wrong. I think this is what you're saying.
/r/seduction12/09/11 06:30 PM
2

Your legs will start to feel jelly Hey legs, you jelly? Yeah, you jelly.
/r/seduction12/09/11 06:26 PM
2

Nice, basic outline of the basic steps. I'm sure this will help some guys. Thanks.
/r/seduction09/09/11 08:27 PM
1

why do you need to be horny to talk to girls? It sounds more like a motivation problem than anything else. How do you motivate yourself to clean? You get no instant gratification out of it. Have you ever trained for something or learned to play an instrument? What motivated you to practice? Use that same technique for talking to girls outside of your house. That or do internet dating.
/r/seduction08/09/11 10:32 PM
3

what about "Bridges of Madison County" or "The Notebook" or "The Secret Garden?"
/r/seduction08/09/11 10:30 PM
0

exactly. mmmmm. pussy.
/r/seduction08/09/11 10:29 PM
1

This is great advice. The two things that worked for me were 1) finding this community and 2) actually going out and talking to new people with the community guys. I had a lot of ups and downs on the way (reading the game, making afc friends, going out alone, hooking up with random girls, working out), but those top two are the best.
/r/seduction08/09/11 10:29 PM
1

Don't do that to yourself, home boy.
/r/seduction08/09/11 10:24 PM
1

You carry the felines and I bring the reptiles, deal? lol. Really? Way to innocently ramp up the sexual tension. I like the FR, but c'mon! Nobody talks like that! It's not that I don't believe this happened, just that the actual conversation had some revisionist history in there. That said, nicely done and way to ABG. "Awesome. Look, I only have one more minute to flirt with you (she smiles and laughs). Coffee or tea?" Great close. Will be stolen.
/r/seduction08/09/11 10:22 PM
5

Nice FR. Having not read your previous two, it seems as though things are progressing normally. How old is this woman? Btw, it's not that she's not willing to put out, she is. You just have to make the right moves. Disqualifying yourself as LTR material is good. But you also need to reframe. Her: "any further and I won't be able to control myself." You: "You're right, this is getting really hot and heavy." Keep kissing. Then stop. You: "Wow, we should slow it down." Her: "Yeah." Keep kissing her…
/r/seduction08/09/11 10:15 PM
1

I don't know what you mean by the "getting into state thing." The best way to get into state is to open sets. So do that. A lot.
/r/seduction08/09/11 09:44 PM
1

Opener: "Hi! I think you're really cute and would be kicking myself for the rest of the day if I didn't come up and talk to you." "Hey, I like your style. [Cold Read] You must not be from around here." "Hey, I need your opinion. Is this cafe any good? Why? What do you like there? Oh, well I [do this] and I think [whatever]. But you seem like [cold read]" I don't think you're looking for openers, though. You're looking for conversation threads. Just avoid interview questions such as "How old are …
/r/seduction08/09/11 09:41 PM
15

should I confess to my undying affection for her? No. Should I get her number and say, "Hey, I'm gonna miss you. We should hang out." Yes.
/r/seduction08/09/11 09:36 PM
7

abg. Also, without reading the post, my first response was, "pussy."
/r/seduction08/09/11 09:27 PM
3

From what I've heard and experienced, it's mostly about eye-contact. Make eye contact with a guy you like and give him the "fuck me" eyes. If he gives you his "fuck me' eyes back, it's on. Practice this and you'll be golden. No cold-approaches even needed as this will screen out straight guys (as a straight guy getting his inner game down, I've noticed I've been getting these "invitation eyes" a lot more. It's got to be effective because a lot of gay guys use 'em). Good luck! btw, as a gay male,…
/r/seduction08/09/11 08:27 PM
1

I'll just leave this here. Fwiw, option 2 is your best option. Option 3 will get you nowhere because you are then at the whim of fate. We make our own fate. Likewise, option 1 is bad because you don't need girls to pickup girls. You handle your shit and take what you want. In this situation, what you want is HB8.
/r/seduction07/09/11 09:53 PM
3

hopefully someone sharing my viewpoint can expand: I'm not sure that's necessary. You did a fine job of explaining the viewpoint in one paragraph. Regardless, I will attempt to fill a non-existent hole. The concept of "avatar" comes from Mystery Method. It's a way to get your AFC (or geek) to start seeing himself as a PUA. Moreover, it uncages him from his bad habits by creating a "character" throughout whom he can act out his fantasies (in this case, being alpha and getting the girl). It is ver…
/r/seduction07/09/11 09:22 PM
13

Posts like this are always welcome as newbs constantly ask this. Thanks for sharing your journey.
/r/seduction07/09/11 09:10 PM
0

I'm good, thx.
/r/seduction07/09/11 03:45 PM
2

Keep plowing. Plateaus are for climbing.
/r/seduction07/09/11 04:27 AM
3

Plateaus are a natural part of the game. We all sort of improve by fits and starts. First we have trouble approaching, then we have trouble #-closing, then we have trouble with flakes, then we have trouble f-closing. Just keep going out there and doing you're thing. The improvements will come. That said, you've made tremendous progress for only being in the game five months. Gratz.
/r/seduction07/09/11 12:48 AM
-3

"It's weird, whenever a guy doesn't text me back, I can't stop thinking about him. (emphasis mine) It drives me crazy! Isn't that weird? hahaha. :)
/r/seduction07/09/11 12:45 AM
4

Manage expectations, don't be too available, have fun.
/r/seduction07/09/11 12:44 AM
2

open half the sets I used to, hook twice as many yes.
/r/seduction02/09/11 09:18 PM
2

YEAH BUDDY!
/r/seduction02/09/11 09:17 PM
1

This is an excellent question.
/r/seduction02/09/11 09:16 PM
3

re: her female friends. Don't forget to flirt
/r/seduction01/09/11 05:34 PM
1

Without getting into a long-winded answer, I refer you to this and this. Both are excellent starting points. Also, this is very helpful. As for me, reading up on those links, going out every night, finding this community, and setting and keeping goals have all been extremely helpful.
/r/seduction31/08/11 08:30 PM
1

Which? Inner game?
/r/seduction31/08/11 04:21 PM
0

This. You're putting the pussy on a pedestal.
/r/seduction30/08/11 06:59 PM
2

Nicely played. Not to take anything away from you, but don't get used to this sequence of events happening. It's always nice to have the frame of the girls chasing us, but it usually takes a little more effort. I think what happened is, she was really interested in you because of your disinterest in her. You showed you were a high-quality male b/c you were not intimidated by her and not fawning all over her. As PUAs, we are the exceptions to the rule. In college, I tried to learn how to use this…
/r/seduction30/08/11 06:58 PM
4

Thanks, dude. Seddit needs more posts like this which, unfortunately, it is lacking. Glad to have you as part of our community.
/r/seduction30/08/11 06:16 PM
1

It's really not all that different. Start grinding or whatever, escalate, and then bounce her to a table and use your stack/routines/rapport-building. Or, if you're already making out, bounce her somewhere quieter/darker to makeout at.
/r/seduction29/08/11 09:13 PM
1

I suggest you buy the car first. Then call her the next day or w/e and ask her out.
/r/seduction29/08/11 09:09 PM
1

Man. It's been over a week since I last got blown out really badly. I must be due! I look forward to it :)
/r/seduction29/08/11 09:05 PM
2

Really nice FR. U are a boss.
/r/seduction28/08/11 11:41 PM
1

Whatever dude. You are unaffected. Just live ur life. As a suggestion, next time make the goal to open 3 sets ONLY. Doesnt even have to be girls. Just do it and you'll improve with time.
/r/seduction28/08/11 11:31 PM
0

Lol. Srsly
/r/seduction28/08/11 05:17 AM
1

lol. Good sex advice on seddit? I don't believe it! Nice meeting you the other night by the way. I'm sorry we didn't get a chance to chat. Next time.
/r/seduction27/08/11 12:53 AM
1

lighter repairman. Solid stuff.
/r/seduction26/08/11 12:07 AM
18

Couple of things. My mom taught me that if she'll hold your hand, then she'll kiss you. It's worked 100% of the time for me. If she lets you touch her hair (or the back of her neck), she'll kiss you. Gently brush the hair out of her face and behind her ear. Then kiss her. "Kiss my cheek." Point to it. "Now the other one." point to it. "Now the lips." Point to them. Go get her, tiger.
/r/seduction26/08/11 12:05 AM
9

You're allowed to be charming 100% of the time.
/r/seduction26/08/11 12:00 AM
2

psst. /r/malefashionadvice
/r/seduction25/08/11 07:19 PM
1

You're title is a little misleading, as you don't want advice on dealing with an ex, you want advice on how to get back with an ex. If you dig around the internet a little, there is a ton of stuff for you to find in that regard. But from experience, just let it go, man. She broke up with you. When a woman breaks up with you, it means she's done with you. Over it. Don't take too much from the fact that you hooked up with her. You can continue to do that for a little bit, but she'll eventually cal…
/r/seduction25/08/11 07:11 PM
1

This was a really good IAMA. If you're still around, i have a phone number question I'd like to ask you. Either way, thanks to you both a bunch!
/r/seduction24/08/11 10:07 PM
1

wow dude. This is one of the best answers to a question I've ever seen on here. Thanks for the input. I hope you guys stick around and throw us a few bones every once in a while :)
/r/seduction24/08/11 09:50 PM
2

What is your favorite opener? What is your favorite rapport question? Do you use a line to number close, or do it different every time? What is the first text you send a girl after #closing her. Do you call instead? What do you follow up with. Thanks a lot.
/r/seduction23/08/11 08:32 PM
1

Very nice post. I will use some of this in the future. wait a minute is that beach San Francisco's beach?? it totally is! when were you there? (even if it's not SF, you break the ice) you in SF?
/r/seduction22/08/11 09:18 PM
1

brilliant.
/r/seduction22/08/11 06:03 AM
2

This is some evil shit.
/r/seduction20/08/11 08:43 PM
2

Sure. That's just another tool in ur box
/r/seduction20/08/11 07:16 PM
9

You beautiful bastard. I shoulda came.
/r/seduction20/08/11 06:35 PM
1

Good stuff. Couple of comments on the cube: Make sure you make clear to her that the room is HUGE. Sometimes a desert will work the same. You can also use flowers. Where they are in the room, in relation to the cube, what color they are, etc. These are her friends. How close they are to her, what kind of flowers they are, etc. Regarding the horse, make sure you anchor. "You said he should be cute [touching your hand to your chest as you say this]. Hmmm, interesting [cheeky smile]."
/r/seduction20/08/11 06:12 PM
1

It's not really a placebo so much as a tool to extract core values from women and demonstrate your higher value w/o coming off as needy. Like a carpenter's hammer, these may not always be the best tools for the job at hand or the person using them, but they are just that. Tools.
/r/seduction20/08/11 06:07 PM
1

there is certainly something to be said for visualization of goals :)
/r/seduction18/08/11 09:43 PM
3

a rose by any other name
/r/seduction18/08/11 07:47 PM
2

oh, absolutely. I didn't realize that I limited myself to just girls in the original post.
/r/seduction18/08/11 06:04 PM
2

Heh. It is addictive, but given the choice btw sarging and reading, choose sarging every time.
/r/seduction18/08/11 02:57 PM
1

I could buy this. But maybe change "talking to girls" to "meeting new people"
/r/seduction18/08/11 02:55 PM
1

Could u give an example of what ur talking about?
/r/seduction18/08/11 04:11 AM
1

Think so.
/r/seduction18/08/11 04:10 AM
2

If/when you do, consider it lesson learned.
/r/seduction18/08/11 04:09 AM
1

np. Full disclosure: I've never used the above method before, just saw it as a "friend-zone" killer from an mPUA. It works though. You're frame is that you're just caught up in the moment. "We shouldn't be doing this." Kiss. You can't stop yourself. "OMG this is so wrong." Kiss. It works b/c you voice the concerns so she doesn't have to. It's also got an element of Push-Pull in it and allows you to frame her as the sexual aggressor. All stuff you want. Good luck!
/r/seduction18/08/11 12:53 AM
1

Hey man, thanks for the reply. Regarding number 3, you're right, of course. I am unaffected by outside circumstances and non-reactive. I am not outcome dependent. You're other points are all good as well. turn serious situation into chillax ones. word.
/r/seduction18/08/11 12:06 AM
2

OK, well shit test failed. Agree and amplify. "Yes, this is wrong we probably shouldn't." Kiss. This time YOU stop. "God, this is so bad. I really don't want to ruin our friendship." Kiss. Credit for this goes to Gambler I believe. Everything she said to the next day was all backwards rationalization by her. You took her by suprise because you were assertive. She was not ready nor expecting that. She said she was drunk b/c she can't figure out why she made out with you, so that's the only thing …
/r/seduction17/08/11 11:59 PM
5

Socially awkward penguin says: Remember that post I made about never getting sustained eye contact? (You probably don't...and I deleted it). Courage Wolf says: I am going to share with you a great tip on making eye contact with women. Nice mini-breakthrough. If you sustain eye-contact with people until it gets awkward, you'll eventually figure out what the right amount is. I made eye contact today with this kid couldn't be more than 12. He was going East-West and I West-East on the street. He wa…
/r/seduction17/08/11 10:53 PM
-2

I never knew this. I have heard that Asian people have terrible peripheral vision.
/r/seduction17/08/11 10:49 PM
1

no way dude. You're always cool :)
/r/seduction17/08/11 10:26 PM
2

I've also started LTRs from SNLs. I'm not saying it can't be done, just highlighting best practices.
/r/seduction17/08/11 10:06 PM
1

HB5
/r/seduction17/08/11 10:06 PM
2

etov summed up my thoughts, but I would like to say, way to represent the over 20s sedditors :)
/r/seduction17/08/11 10:02 PM
6

You mean you don't? ;)
/r/seduction17/08/11 09:12 PM
11

I think we need a definition of sarging. What I meant by it in the title is actively going out and talking to women. Talking to your mom doesn't count, obviously, but certainly can help in other respects. What I do personally is go to bars and clubs. Some people go to a local university and day game. Some guys do it at the mall. It's basically getting out of your comfort zone (sitting at home and playing video games) and interacting with people.
/r/seduction17/08/11 09:12 PM
1

This may or may not help you, but your inner game will calibrate a lot of this. If they continue to neg you, tease and generally be assholes while you're around women, then you need to stop hanging out with them while you're around women. If you don't want to do that, then you need to keep a good frame and be unaffected. You're a boss, so start acting like it, fool!
/r/seduction17/08/11 07:28 PM
1

re: overdoing it. 1. How do you know when you do and 2. what do you do when you realize it?
/r/seduction17/08/11 07:16 PM
1

Awesome fucking FR. I really like you're style of game and see a lot of commonalities with mine. If you're ever in the bay, hit me up so we can game. Immediately after arriving, we get some beers at the bar and first things first, a chick bumps into me (never let that slide) YES, YES, YES.
/r/seduction17/08/11 07:00 PM
19

Nobody who sleeps with 300+ guys she met at clubs should claim she's "just looking for a relationship." If she wants a relationship, it's easy. Don't sleep with the guy. Become less available. There's a book for women out there I was thinking about this morning. A girl used it on me in college and I hooked, HARD. I think it's called "The Rules." Have at it, gentle lady of seddit.
/r/seduction17/08/11 06:52 PM
6

Act like a normal human being. Sometimes we get so caught up in the game that we forget what just plain human interaction is like. So what this means is, if you had a good time, text her and tell her. Continue to tease and be playful. When you find something fun to do, tell her what you're doing and tell her you want her to come along. :) You'll do fine.
/r/seduction17/08/11 05:58 PM
3

Fucking awesome. Saved. Just goes to show you there's more than one way to skin a cat. Put another way, there are many ways to see a naked pussy :0 Honestly though, thanks again. This is some useful stuff here.
/r/seduction17/08/11 05:48 PM
1

Bravo, good sir. However, you have still not "killed Beatrice." If you truly want to get over Liz, you have to cut her out of your life completely. If you still have feelings for her, back off and try to forget about her. But who among us hasn't done something -- or at least wanted to do something -- similar. Just remember that these are real people you are dealing with.
/r/seduction17/08/11 05:28 PM
5

No they don't. Paragraphs on reddit are fucked up.
/r/seduction17/08/11 05:27 PM
0

wow, seddit is hungup on this one thing. OK guys, you got me. I have no idea what it's like when someone is hitting on me. I've never experienced that before.
/r/seduction17/08/11 08:14 AM
2

Haha. You caught me. Yeah man, I dig the nonverbal cue setup.
/r/seduction17/08/11 01:48 AM
4

lolwut? We need more FRs like this on here. I've never heard of the "please get up so I can sit in your seat and look at my blackberry" routine before.
/r/seduction17/08/11 12:39 AM
3

Some good stuff here. I would've like to seen you go more in depth into how one achieves outcome independence, but otherwise a solid read.
/r/seduction17/08/11 12:24 AM
3

I assume attraction :)
/r/seduction16/08/11 11:03 PM
1

not really the point of the story, but if that's what you got out of it, perhaps I wrote it incorrectly.
/r/seduction16/08/11 11:02 PM
1

Read Simone de Beauvoir's Second Sex.
/r/seduction16/08/11 10:03 PM
1

This is probably ask seddit material. That said, cocky-funny is fine. You don't want to give her a serious response here.
/r/seduction16/08/11 09:41 PM
1

I was thinking about her today. She had the most amazing smile. When I opened her, I kept thinking (ESCALATE, ESCALATE), but it's like my brain was frozen by her beauty, lol. Hasn't happened in a while.
/r/seduction16/08/11 01:49 AM
1

nice try, Fader.
/r/seduction15/08/11 11:14 PM
1

First off, you did a lot of things right. As ASA said, your first text was golden and the entire interaction was really tight. Personally, I think you escalated too fast with no real justification in the second text. Like one minute you're talking about her modeling a backpack, and the next you're basically asking her out on a date. It wasn't congruent. NOT TO WORRY! You got her number, so you've got game. Keep going out there and keep at it. ASA's advice is right on, so text her in a week if yo…
/r/seduction15/08/11 11:08 PM
3

What the hell is this? lol. Seriously fucking weird. I agree with most people on here who say she is trying to get her to chase you, in which case it's not worth your time. You are the prize, abundance mentality, etc. However, I would followup with one very simple text: "?" Same thing I would do in person if a girl said some shit like that. Just scruntch the eyebrows and give a quizzical look like she's either an idiot or fucking insane. It's a surefire way to tell if it's a shit test or not. Le…
/r/seduction15/08/11 09:33 PM
1

the 10 who was surrounded w/ hot friends.
/r/seduction14/08/11 09:41 PM
1

That girl was awesome! Not only was she gorgeous, but she was genuinely nice to. I opened her twice, and both times I got this huge smile from her. Wish I knew where to go with it from there, lol. But every time I tried talking to her, her friends swooped in and it was quite difficult to make any leeway. Anyway, good night. I already told you what the persian girl's sister said. I'll have to come up again at some point.
/r/seduction14/08/11 08:21 PM
1

Sounds like you had a great time. Just call her up, tell her what you're doing "Hey, let's go to [X-Bar] on [Saturday] at [time]." You can add some humor in, like, "As long as you don't try to get me naked again ;)" Have fun man, and post the LR when it happens.
/r/seduction12/08/11 07:31 PM
1

yup. when a girl is dubious about your congruence, she will test it. Hence, the "shit test," which is exactly what this was. The usual advice is agree and amplify. Another reaction would be to disarm with comedy b/c she is kinda AMOG'ing you. You could say, "I'm not pretending, I took down FIVE GUYS on my way over here!" lol, must be said with the right frame though or might come across as defensive. but I think the right move here would be disqualification. "That's right. You're very observant.…
/r/seduction12/08/11 07:26 PM
3

Assume attraction. They approach you because they are attracted to you. That's it :) What throwaway said. Being a good listener /= letting a girl go on and fucking on about their life problems. Cut that shit off stat. And don't you go emo on them, either. Stay out of the friendzone by physically escalating. If you're not physically escalating by the 1st or 2nd time you're hanging out (nevermind the 4th or 5th time), you're doing it wrong and on the fast-track to Friendzone City, population you. …
/r/seduction12/08/11 07:19 PM
3

Me: "How is the air up there?" Wow, that is fucking bad, lol. As a general rule, you should NEVER comment on the obvious and NEVER about physical attributes. Most guys comment on physical attributes. We are the exception to the rule. Secondly, opening negs are fine, if you do it right. You need a little push-pull. "OMG, those are the most adorable glasses! My sister had a pair just like them in grade school!" - hold your frame. OR "Cool glasses." Then STOP, hold your frame and look her in the ey…
/r/seduction12/08/11 07:10 PM
2

Read especially the "All About Inner Game" link to the right. Find out what you want out of life, go out there and get it. Also, you don't need money to meet women. Go to bookstores, parks, w/e. One guy in BAS went two weeks straight just walking around a local university and talking to everyone. Cost him nothing. Have fun with it!
/r/seduction12/08/11 06:53 PM
2

You are tearing it up this week with your posts!
/r/seduction11/08/11 08:34 PM
1

Good stuff sir. This is exactly what I am talking about. You just laid down some knowledge and got yourself reddit friended by me. Thanks for taking the time to reply to my questions.
/r/seduction11/08/11 08:02 PM
2

A valid suggestion. Although, to each his (or her) own.
/r/seduction11/08/11 12:18 AM
1

lol, I was about to write the same thing. Beaten to it by kumar as usual :)
/r/seduction10/08/11 11:45 PM
2

That sucks. I was looking forward to the Strauss one.
/r/seduction10/08/11 09:41 PM
1

Yeah, it's kind of a crappy line though because it's AFC. I have used it on a girl I wasn't interested in just to open her set, though. It worked because for the rest of the night whenever I wanted to talk to the set I'd go, "I swear I know your friend from somewhere."
/r/seduction10/08/11 09:39 PM
2

So, a lot of times I'll post a question on general technique in here, but use a specific situation as an example. The response I get will be "that girl just wasn't that into you," or "abundance mentality," etc. A lot of the times that is not the response I am looking for. I am doing this to get better with women. I don't want to become someone who gets laid because he approaches 100 girls. I want to be the guy that those 100 girls want. Therefore, responses that are specific to the girl in the s…
/r/seduction10/08/11 09:13 PM
3

You are the OKCupid whisperer. You should link to your first post when you do these FRs where you talk about what to do for OK Cupid dates.
/r/seduction10/08/11 09:01 PM
2

welcome to the community. Step 1: read up on the material. Step 2: find guys in your area and go sarge. Step 3: Sex.
/r/seduction10/08/11 06:59 PM
1

"oh, I thought it was a weird spelling. "
/r/seduction09/08/11 10:26 PM
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Same way you talk to any attractive girl. Don't go in all slobbering, throw in a couple of negs, stay in state. Practical pickup had a pretty humorous video from Comic Con this year that you may find helpful. Pay close attention to their body language.
/r/seduction09/08/11 09:39 PM
2

I once # closed a girl at a bar by giving her my number. She texted me a week later. I was like, "Who is this?" Instead of giving me her name, she referenced a conversation we had. I was like, "Oh!" Then I asked her out. About three hours into the date we met some new people and she had to introduce herself. That's when I learned her name. lol. You could also try, "hey, how do you spell your name so I can put it into my phone?" Haven't tried it myself, but I heard it works.
/r/seduction09/08/11 09:35 PM
1

push-pull. Reframing the woman as a sexual predator.
/r/seduction09/08/11 05:19 PM
1

learn when to pull it back to go into rapport.
/r/seduction09/08/11 04:52 PM
2

disqualification is one of the strongest techniques in the game. It's a way to reframe the situation as a woman chasing you. i.e., if you're not interested in her/not available, then she will have to chase you. It's also a good way to push-pull/bait and release. e.g., you pull her close and say, "you're cute, I like you." Then you physically PUSH her away and say, "But it will never work, you're too [pushy, high-class, whatever]."
/r/seduction09/08/11 04:52 PM
1

http://redd.it/jbpvc Sent you a message on this. I think it got stuck in the spam filter.
/r/seduction09/08/11 01:09 AM
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Generally, the polite response is "thank you." Move on. However, we are the exception to the rule. I was listening to a podcast with Dan M/Social Hitchhiker. His style is to use heavy DQ's. Thus he takes a compliment as an opportunity to disqualify. E.g., "Thanks, but you should see me in the morning." Or, "Wow, it's nice of you to notice. It took me 10 hours to put myself together." The template is: agree, then put yourself in the "bad category." So if she says, "You're really smart," you say: …
/r/seduction09/08/11 12:23 AM
2

You know, I've heard that people stay away from dating site game because it's too easy. I've never, until now, seen the proof.
/r/seduction08/08/11 10:48 PM
2

Digital Love - Starts getting good about 1:38. See also Get it Get it. Better Off Alone
/r/seduction08/08/11 10:43 PM
2

ABC - Classic advice. And what happened, office too far away?
/r/seduction08/08/11 10:07 PM
1

Couple of my personal pua songs are the Daft Punk song that goes, "why don't you play the game," and the old club song with the line "talk to me."
/r/seduction08/08/11 05:12 PM
1

Those topics are only boring if you let them be. Have fun with girls. Tease them. Make statements. Don't ask q's.
/r/seduction08/08/11 02:55 AM
1

this is probably more proper of a topic for its own thread. However, my two cents of it is, you have to moderate how much value you give. As with all things, a little moderation goes a long way. If you hold back on compliments, it really counts when you do give one, so you don't want to go overboard. Another point that I think should be made and hopefully not missed, is you still want to neg/tease girls. There is certainly a difference between being a value giver and being supplicating. You want…
/r/seduction06/08/11 10:50 PM
2

I'll have to schlep my ass up to SF and sarge with what is becoming the legendary tofu soon. Nice FR man. Is fucking girls in your office your patented move? lol.
/r/seduction06/08/11 10:42 PM
1

Excellent report. Just remember to keep improving.
/r/seduction05/08/11 08:13 PM
3

Awesome line. Social proof (assuming you're not a fat guy who ate 'em yourself), Leader of men (I sent them to the grave), willingness to emote (console me), cocky-funny, and even DHVs that you have $$. This line packs a lot in.
/r/seduction05/08/11 06:57 PM
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Social proof. Leader of men. Risk-taker. Initiative. Being a fun guy. Kino initiated right away. Showing yourself as a fun guy. Being funny. Knowing when to go into comfort. Introducing the topic of sex. Being cocky-funny/generally confident. This is what I wrote as I was reading through your FR. You did a ton of things right here, and I listed them all above. Newbs could learn a lot from this FR.
/r/seduction05/08/11 06:48 PM
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Great work, man. Keep it up! Every approach is an accomplishment. Just by having the balls to sit next to an attractive woman and strike up a conversation, you're doing better than 90% of the male population. By making her take off earbuds to continue the conversation with you/ getting her interested in the conversation, you are better than all AFCs. Now work on making STATEMENTS rather than ASKING questions. e.g., "I bet you like to read romance novels." Or, "It looks like you are a big skiier.…
/r/seduction05/08/11 06:45 PM
1

If it makes you feel uncomfortable, nip it in the bud.
/r/seduction05/08/11 01:36 AM
1

eh, close enough
/r/seduction05/08/11 12:02 AM
1

Sounds like you got this. It's probably more of an /r/relationship question, honestly.
/r/seduction04/08/11 10:19 PM
1

wtf is this
/r/seduction04/08/11 10:08 PM
2

In my experience, if one girl catches feelings for you and they're all good friends, the other girls will tend to back off and try to get the two of you together. The way to fix this -- and I am not the person to ask about how to actually implement this -- is to DQ yourself as bf material and present yourself as a male whore. That way, the girls will know that if they ever want or need NSAS, you're the guy to call.
/r/seduction04/08/11 10:07 PM
1

lmao. Goal in sight.
/r/seduction04/08/11 10:05 PM
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What I usually do in these situations is present an alternative view. e.g., "I think s/he is only doing that because...." Otherwise I treat the speaker like I do anyone who is boring me: change the subject or lose interest in what they are saying. Of course, you can always try, "Excuse me, but I don't like talking down about people like that and I don't like it when my friends do it either." But the first two are probably more socially acceptable. Finally, lead by example. If you never talk shit…
/r/seduction04/08/11 10:04 PM
1

that's the overarching goal. The underlying goal is 100 sets where I escalate to the point where she'd want to go on a date.
/r/seduction04/08/11 09:58 PM
3

100 dates with girls I am attracted to. Insta/mini dates count. Must be 100 different girls.
/r/seduction04/08/11 09:33 PM
2

No matter what seddit says, you will listen to your penis. Just remember the campsite rule: at the end of the relationship, the elder partner should leave the younger in "better shape than they found them". This includes no diseases, no fertilized eggs, no undue emotional trauma, and whatever [usually sexual] education that can be provided.
/r/seduction04/08/11 09:20 PM
1

granted. But any idea on the more general question of the teasing? What is that.
/r/seduction03/08/11 07:51 PM
1

good advise as always. Thanks man.
/r/seduction03/08/11 06:16 PM
1

yes
/r/seduction02/08/11 06:46 AM
1

Nah. People have been using the "manhands" neg forever.
/r/seduction01/08/11 11:20 PM
1

this is great shit.
/r/seduction01/08/11 09:45 PM
2

A lot of people probably would not agree with this, but stop "gaming her." Just be a normal guy. You can still push-pull, cocky-funny, etc., but don't think too much about it. The only thing that is getting in your way is your own ego. You're 4pm "hey" didn't work because there was nothing to respond to.
/r/seduction01/08/11 08:53 PM
3

"I know...why are yours so calloused?" *kino her hands. Rub her palms. "you could really use some lotion RUBBED IN RIGHT THERE." Massage her hand.
/r/seduction01/08/11 08:46 PM
1

nice. That chair trick is one of my favorites.
/r/seduction01/08/11 08:44 PM
3

Basically goes up to a two set and says, "are you lesbians?" *smile
/r/seduction30/07/11 03:24 AM
1

Fuck ten other women.
/r/seduction29/07/11 08:59 PM
1

Asking if lesbian, not such a good idea... There's a bay area sedditor who uses this line to great effect.
/r/seduction29/07/11 08:55 PM
2

This is amazing and I will try it.
/r/seduction29/07/11 06:58 PM
1

This was surprisingly useful. Will save and reference later.
/r/seduction28/07/11 10:18 PM
5

nice link.
/r/seduction27/07/11 06:52 PM
3

the advice really isn't that bad.
/r/seduction27/07/11 05:57 PM
1

I lucked out and we began holding hands. It may sound stupid but this is actually really hard for me when I’m on a date. Some of the best dating advice I ever get was from my mom. "If she'll hold your hand, she'll kiss you." It is true 100% of the time.
/r/seduction24/07/11 06:48 PM
1

This is one of the hardest things I've ever encountered in game theory.
/r/seduction23/07/11 06:02 PM
1

If you do that, then is it "mandatory" (for lack of a better word) to pull right after you show interest?
/r/seduction23/07/11 02:54 AM
2

There will be a point in the night when you feel yourself falling out of state. Here is my advice to you... Stop whatever you're doing. Take a deep breath. Look around the room and identify at least ONE thing that is FUCKING AWESOME. You'll be hardpressed to find a situation lacking at least ONE awesome thing. Focus on its awesomeness and realize how awesome your life is. We're all spoiled, lucky bastards. Every moment that you're not happy you are squandering a chance to be awesome. Fucking. Aw…
/r/seduction23/07/11 12:41 AM
1

Frogma, where the fucking hell are you? I want to see you in action. By the way, last night I tried an admittedly milder form of your kino push-pull tactic (omg, come here, you're so cute! Now get away, I hate you!) and it worked like a fucking charm. Next time I go out I'll have to push harder and test where the line is. Question: where the fuck do you go after that?
/r/seduction22/07/11 08:22 PM
1

edit your post above and put this update in there so you don't have to keep typing it to every reply. Also good work, you win :)
/r/seduction22/07/11 08:02 PM
3

"Hey, my cars in the shop. Let's go to [X] instead."
/r/seduction22/07/11 07:55 PM
1

just wanted to say you are correct. Went to a school with that ratio (and at least half the guys were gay). Even though it was New York City, and the girls had lots of chances to get hit on, straight guys were still in high demand.
/r/seduction22/07/11 07:54 PM
1

just wanted to say you are correct. Went to a school with that ratio (and at least half the guys were gay). Even though it was New York City, and the girls had lots of chances to get hit on, straight guys were still in high demand.
/r/seduction22/07/11 07:54 PM
3

/r/frugal would have a conniption, but it is worth it. Read the post directly above yours. Then ask yourself, "how much is a good time worth?"
/r/seduction22/07/11 07:51 PM
1

My copypasta two cents: "Kill Beatrice" Let them google it.
/r/seduction22/07/11 06:55 PM
1

re: the dick thing, it's actually not all that uncommon for guys to be unable to perform with a condom on. Especially their first time. Practice jerking it with a condom on. It sucks, but it will get you more prepared mentally for this shit.
/r/seduction22/07/11 06:50 PM
1

Talk to ALL the people
/r/seduction22/07/11 06:13 PM
6

I like it. We should put that on the sidebar.
/r/seduction22/07/11 06:12 PM
4

haha. This was awesome. My two favorite lines: On the ride back to her place she's still teasing me. So I tell her "Jenny, sometimes I don't know if I should hug you, pat you on the head, or pin you up against a wall and spank you like a little slut." She blushes a little. Even though she gets in the car, she seems tentative about this. So before she can voice any LMR, I say "I wanna fuck you in a parking lot, because I know you're not the type of girl to do that sort of thing. And I'm not the t…
/r/seduction22/07/11 06:10 PM
2

No idea why you are being downvoted for this. I was going to post very similar counterpoints to the ones you touch on above.
/r/seduction22/07/11 06:03 PM
1

I'll start. Natural ~6 months Do not know yet. So far the best material I've gotten has been from reading seddit and sarging with my local lair. I started by using and relying heavily on routines. While this is fine, it isn't me. I'll still use some canned material if I feel it's not played out and if it fits my style (e.g., I love using the Cube), but for the most part, my openers are opinion and my DHVs are all self-made stories. I'd like to get better at listening to who I am talking to and r…
/r/seduction22/07/11 05:39 PM
1

Awesome. Definitely get into contact with me when you get back. It seems as tho you have made great progress.
/r/seduction22/07/11 06:32 AM
1

How has this been working for you? Still gaming every day? What other progress have you made?
/r/seduction21/07/11 07:29 PM
3

Bayareaseddit
/r/seduction21/07/11 06:03 PM
1

Agree. Stop being a dancing monkey.
/r/seduction21/07/11 05:59 PM
3

What theory other than The Game have you been reading?
/r/seduction20/07/11 09:27 PM
2

I believe this is a well-known phenomenon in the community. Basically, if you get a girl's "buying temperature" up really high, then another male can be successful and pull her away.
/r/seduction20/07/11 09:11 PM
1

Lookit A1-A3. Most ljbfs come from too much C (comfort) and not enough A (attraction). Practice negging/gentle teasing and qualifying your target before moving to comfort building.
/r/seduction19/07/11 06:03 PM
1

build attraction
/r/seduction19/07/11 05:49 PM
5

In one of the AMAs, someone said they have a three strikes policy. I assume everyone has a different take on this, but I generally agree with this policy. That is, unless her excuses are lame. In which case, move on.
/r/seduction19/07/11 12:18 AM
1

If you need a routine, google "evolution phase shift routine." I'd suggest changing the words and making them your own, but this is considered a pretty good way to *close. Have not tried this particular routine myself, but Style's routines have usually been pretty right-on for me.
/r/seduction19/07/11 12:17 AM
2

Nice advice. Are you an English major by any chance?
/r/seduction15/07/11 08:42 PM
4

How is that a shit test?
/r/seduction15/07/11 08:42 PM
3

Wish I was back in college. Let this FR be a lesson to you college freshmen: TALK TO FUCKING GIRLS. IT'S COLLEGE. YOU DON'T EVEN NEED GAME!
/r/seduction15/07/11 08:40 PM
1

Unfortunately, I'll miss the funtivities. Going to some lakehouse by yellowstone with a coworker and some single ladies. Hopefully it turns into a FR. When you move to SF, make sure you have a couch so I can come and sarge on the weekend without worrying about driving home.
/r/seduction15/07/11 08:34 PM
4

wtf is this? Focus on women who are not married. Kill Beatrice. Go to clubs/bars in your area. Focus on work at work. Don't concern yourself with the comings and goings of others.
/r/seduction15/07/11 08:28 PM
1

Why not text him, "what're you up to [tonight, tomorrow, Friday]?" [His Response.] "Cool, let's hang out." [His response.] "That sounds great! I'll see you then." Don't be clingy. Let him know you want to hook up. Don't go crazy on the texts. Basically, same things as for us. Just don't give a fuck. You're a girl, he should have to work at it.
/r/seduction15/07/11 08:09 PM
3

Don't drink too much Hit on EVERYTHING. Talk to EVERYONE. Dance like a motherfucker. SMILE Fun wedding game I play. At the reception, you introduce yourself to everyone at the table you don't know. You then tell them that you have a great wedding game to play that's tons of fun and easy to do. Ask them if they'd be interested in playing. Here's the game: You go around the table and each pick a song you think the DJ will play. Each person gets three songs. If the DJ plays your song, that's a poin…
/r/seduction15/07/11 08:02 PM
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lol
/r/seduction15/07/11 07:56 PM
1

I wish I could upvote particular ones. Also, I wish I could save posts.
/r/seduction15/07/11 07:52 PM
2

I wouldn't worry about it. Let them think you're gay all the way into their panties.
/r/seduction13/07/11 09:02 PM
1

What is this, I don't even. Also, good advice for opening.
/r/seduction13/07/11 08:51 PM
2

Basically what everyone else here has said. Work on inner game. Get confident. Repeat to yourself that "I am an alpha male. I am the perfect man for my ideal woman. Women find me attractive." Then, keeping your state, open sets.
/r/seduction13/07/11 08:50 PM
1

wtf is silk igloo?
/r/seduction12/07/11 08:36 PM
7

Also, talk to EVERYONE. Not just pretty girls. If you have the balls to talk to that homeless man, you have the balls to talk to Jessica Biel if she's next to you on the bus.
/r/seduction12/07/11 08:15 PM
1

+1 for the awesome craigslist line. I will use this in my day game.
/r/seduction12/07/11 08:15 PM
1

So many reddit birthdays in one reply.
/r/seduction09/07/11 08:43 PM
8

tbh, my few experiences with Japanese girls have completely turned me off of Asian girls. But I'll keep an open mind with Korean girls if I ever meet one :)
/r/seduction08/07/11 06:45 PM
33

How are they in bed? In my limited experience, I've been sorely disappointed.
/r/seduction08/07/11 06:34 PM
1

I got to agree with you here. I've been using the "you must be the bad one" routine for a few weeks and I've gotten mixed results at best. I find it usually works best when you tease the quiet one with "she's so quiet. I bet you she's really a loudmouth when you get a few drinks in her."
/r/seduction08/07/11 07:04 AM
1

This is very good.
/r/seduction07/07/11 06:23 PM
4

elaborate, please. Or give us an example picture war thread.
/r/seduction06/07/11 07:43 PM
3

Just came on to say that and see what other people thought about it.
/r/seduction29/06/11 06:14 PM
6

3 second rule is not "count to three seconds." It's approach within the first three seconds. Also, it's not so you don't look like a creep, it's so you don't freeze like OP and overthink it.
/r/seduction28/06/11 05:01 PM
3

see my edit, above.
/r/seduction27/06/11 09:51 PM
6

I love sealing wax. Why haven't you banged her yet? Edit: if you're looking for a more helpful reply, why not try, "Let's discuss literature/linguistics/whatever over drinks [Tuesday] at [cool bar]. Shall we say, 8?"
/r/seduction27/06/11 09:22 PM
1

This is fucking amazing.
/r/seduction27/06/11 09:17 PM
3

This is great stuff here. Just top-notch basic shit everyone should know when they are beginning.
/r/seduction27/06/11 09:03 PM
0

it is
/r/seduction27/06/11 08:59 PM
1

I like the top bit. Bottom bit is unnecessary.
/r/seduction24/06/11 08:33 PM
3

Each day we grow farther from birth. Each day we move closer to death. The journey’s length is uncertain. What you want to do, do it now. Rm.Shanmugam Chettiar.
/r/seduction24/06/11 08:27 PM
0

I like it except for the movie part.
/r/seduction23/06/11 08:28 PM
2

"Drinks, 9pm tonight, bar Y." -- I don't see anything desperate about that. It puts you in control and shows that you are a leader.
/r/seduction22/06/11 07:58 PM
1

If you're new to the city, why not have her suggest a place?
/r/seduction22/06/11 07:54 PM
1

excellent ideas. This is the type of response I was looking for. thank you.
/r/seduction22/06/11 05:34 PM
1

exactly the type of thing I was looking for. ty.
/r/seduction22/06/11 05:33 PM
2

cheap is fine too.
/r/seduction22/06/11 01:54 AM
3

lol. so many trolls.
/r/seduction22/06/11 01:53 AM
1

lol. You gonna be helpful or a smartass.
/r/seduction22/06/11 01:37 AM
1

cheap is like zero dollars. I guess I could go for hikes and shit. Just trying to get ideas. I'm seeing a couple of gals now and feel limited because I can't afford to see many more.
/r/seduction21/06/11 11:53 PM
1

Pin this shit.
/r/seduction21/06/11 11:20 PM
3

lol. "we do it." Nice FR. Upvoted instantly when I saw "One thing I've learned is that if you can find some girls out drinking on a Mon-Wed night they are almost always down." So true.
/r/seduction21/06/11 10:34 PM
2

Like a boss. You make me wish I was back in NYC so I could hang out and learn from you.
/r/seduction21/06/11 10:27 PM
2

Good shit, man. In return, what I've learned about hooking: Hooking is all about your state. If you walk in there, talk to a girl, and own that shit, she is hooked. Just like you said about attraction. Good voice, good eye contact, and great state. Squash your AA and approach her like you're the coolest guy in the room. Moreover, you don't even care what she thinks of you. You're just talking.
/r/seduction21/06/11 06:00 PM
1

So true about the "we won't have sex" comments. I've slept with -- or plan to sleep with in the near future -- every girl who's ever said that to me.
/r/seduction21/06/11 05:57 PM
1

My main interest is your transition from rapport/attraction into comfort. My current sticking point is what to do after hooking a set. I start to kino escalate, but sort of run out of things to say. I've been told to #-close then eject, but that doesn't seem right. I feel like there's got to be a better way to keep the convo going. Just follow the DiCarlo ladder? Talk about what? Appreciate you taking the time to help a rAFC out.
/r/seduction21/06/11 12:47 AM
9

couldn't agree more. Would like some more details, but this was a good FR nonetheless.
/r/seduction20/06/11 08:59 PM
1

This is fucking amazing. I had no idea that OVID is an OP (original playa). Good find.
/r/seduction19/06/11 04:11 PM
1

speaking of reframing, can you link to a good site that talks about reframing? I was trying to explain reframing to some wings in the field and don't think I did a good job.
/r/seduction19/06/11 04:09 PM
2

no idea what a honey-badger is, but good fucking response.
/r/seduction19/06/11 04:07 PM
1

yeah, I posted in reply to someone else that I meant to say this was an ASD/LMR type thing. I'm glad I'm not the only one being super-cheesy and getting laid :D
/r/seduction19/06/11 04:06 PM
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hahah. You totally shoulda went home with 6.5. Nice job avoiding the dance floor. It's such a trap. As for HB8, just approach her and have better congruence than whoever she's talking to. Sit down right next to her in the booth, put your arm around her and AMOG the guy she's talking to. Be all, "so how do you know my lovely friend/a nickname you have for her/a playful tease/roll play." Don't worry about the confidence. It will come after you approach more sets and become more comfortable in your…
/r/seduction19/06/11 04:04 PM
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I think the answer a mPUA would give is "build more attraction." How you do that, I don't know, but it will give you stronger results/less flakes. -edit: whoops. Meant to make this it's own reply and not a part of this one. Oh well.
/r/seduction19/06/11 03:42 PM
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Dinner doggy-bowl. I dunno if that's the right term, but those eyes where the eyes go all clear and you know she's yours. It wasn't a set per se, as I've seen this chick before. I guess I should've been more clear that this was more of a ASD/LMR type thing that came up as we were making out.
/r/seduction19/06/11 03:40 PM
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My favorite one is probably the "don't be discouraged by rejection, you win by approaching" model.
/r/seduction19/06/11 04:02 AM
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she gave me the DDB eyes and I kissed her.
/r/seduction19/06/11 03:20 AM
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Yeah, I really like this line. Thanks for the FR.
/r/seduction15/06/11 08:38 PM
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Yeah, I get that. I'd really like to work some canned material into my routine. When I'm natural and the HB's receptive, everything goes well. But if I have to push, I usually just crash and burn. I feel some canned material would really help with that.
/r/seduction14/06/11 08:12 PM
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nice work. I like the move in the first set where you tell her to stop. Very cocky-funny. I'll have to try it.
/r/seduction14/06/11 07:51 PM
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it's not lying, it's flirting
/r/seduction13/06/11 08:03 PM
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