I don't really know how to frame this question just yet. Basically, I'll come in all cocky-funny and a girl will be really turned off by it and think I'm just being an asshole. This does not happen 100 times out of ten. It happens maybe 1 out of 10. Here's an example:

Last night I went to two bars. First bar, I'm talking to HB Blonde bartender. She's like a 7, 7.5. Personality-wise an 8. So I'm talking to her, negging her, teasing her, generally having a good time. She is blushing and keeps coming back to talk to me. She's telling me about herself, w/e. At one point she says, "Stop teasing me!" or "Are you teasing me?" Or something.

QUESTION ONE: What do you do at this point? Stop teasing completely? I think this is the right line of play. You just STOP, and move on to something else. You've got your reaction and need to move on.

So we bounce to second bar. This bartender is HB Asian 8. Think the asian girl from BSG and Hawaii 5-0. She is almost a dead ringer. So I come in and order drinks. I can't remember what I say, but I'm just being CF. We get our drinks (and I ALWAYS tip), then I ask for a lime. She says, "I don't give limes to rude people." I say, like, "You think I'm rude? What did I say?" And she says, "You're rude!" And I say, "I am rude, but only on Tuesdays." And she says, "Well it's too bad we met on Tuesday."

Wtf happened here? Was this a shit-test? Did I pass it? QUESTION TWO: what would you have done in this situation?

So she walks away. As I am typing this now, I think she was looking for validation. I was just refusing to buy into her frame which probably pissed her off. Anyway, she comes back and I order a drink for my buddy. She comes to me right away (IOI). She makes the drink *STRONG (IOI). I say please and thank you she walks away.

So, now I am fucking confused. I say "please and thank you" and she is giving me IOIs, so I think I win her over.

Fast forward a couple mins. Now I need a drink. I order one. She comes to me first out of a group of people. She makes my drink and GRABS my money from me. I turn around. Maybe about 30 mins later, I see her pointing to me and saying, "He's RUDE!" I'm like, "what?" She's got two guys there, both looking ready to OMG me. She's like, "I want you out of my well" (a place at the bar). "My sorority sisters said you said [something mean] to me." I am completely confused right now. I look her in the eye and say, "are you serious right now?" She says yes. I say, "what did I say?" She says, "something rude." I say, "No I didn't." I know, I know, afc, but I was really confused. Anyway, she says "leave my well or I'll call security." The AMOG is like, "just go bro." W/e I leave.

Strange stuff. I literally had zero interaction with her other than what I had written above. Some outside factors that may or may not have played a roll: I had planted myself at that spot early in the night. She had some friends from grade school come in that I talked to. One of her sorority sisters were there at one point and I opened her and spoke to her group.

QUESTION THREE: wtf happened here? Is there anyway I could've diffused the situation? Should I have just bought into her frame and treated her like a goddess the rest of the night? I noticed that when I turned polite and said "Please and thank you," she changed right away and started acting nicer to me.

Thanks seddit.