Lately I've been having this problem with LMR and it's getting me down: I'll be hooking up with a girl, get as far as fingering, then they stop everything and say they feel like they shouldn't be doing this. So the usual advice I'm hearing is take a step back and then try again. But my question is, what happens when things stop, then they say it's late and they have to go home? I've told them that I don't want to have sex, and that they're gonna sleep in my bed... but they start going into all kinds of excuses and then I have to give them a ride home. Then... I never get a response back, or maybe a... "let's just be friends."

It's starting to mess with me psychologically. Maybe I'm not good in bed and it makes them change their mind. If so, not really sure what I should do. I've had a lot of experience with sex, just not recently though, and I feel like I'm pretty natural at escalating. Anyone else feel like this, and what could solve this?

And do they actually want to be "just friends" forever, or do they just want to know me longer than one night before we fuck? Is it worthwhile to pursue this? I'm in college, if that's relevant.