Hey Seddit, this is my first written FR. I wanted to share this one because I feel that I have learnt a lot and perhaps you can too.

Two weeks ago on Monday I was at a great club, completely sober and ready for some game. After making a few approaches and loosening up I went for a wander. I saw an HB8 and HB7 stood towards the side of the dance floor, looked over and noticed that the HB8 looked at me and then quickly looked away. In that split second I walked straight over there and with a rather direct opener pointed out that she was clearly checking me out. I went on from there and spent a solid ten minutes building attraction, her friend tried to drag her away and eventually gave up and wandered off on her own. I # closed and continued with my night.

Two days later I gave her a text to see if she wanted to meet up, we arranged for coffee. I thought my text game was pretty strong, kept things minimal and to the point whilst teasing a little at the same time.

We finally met up for coffee and things started to go a little downhill from here, we had an amazing conversation but I didn't re-start with the kino nor did I manage to escalate at all. We finished our coffee and talked for about half an hour but I didn't have the balls to bring a flirty vibe to the table. We went to a couple of shops after and then I invited her back to mine for a bit.

She came back and we chatted for about 5 minutes before she said she had to leave, my guess is that I didn't make her comfortable enough (I live with 9 others so it can be hard when the kitchen is a mess). Regardless she left and that was that.

I've tried arranging to meet up since and just before I decided to write this received a text saying: "Thank's for the offer, I think you're a really nice guy but I got more of a friend vibe so I think we should leave things at that." Bringing closure to the story.

In retrospect: The problem here clearly lies with the first date, my approach was great and although I could have gotten further in the club I don't think that it was too much of an issue.

I have learnt that it is VITAL to reiterate that flirtatiousness from the second you see her on the second meeting. Women do not look for nice guys, they want something interesting and different. Something worth keeping in mind for next time.

Your comments are much appreciated, if you want to point anything else out then that would be great and hopefully this FR will help some of you guys out too.