Why not to confront?

Blackhawk2479 · 2018-09-12T16:43:13+00:00

You’ve nexted her for joking?!?! No wonder she wants to know what has happened.

Lighten the fuck up dude.

fashfront · 2018-09-12T16:30:46+00:00

Jeez dude what did she say

thisiswhyicant · 2018-09-12T16:47:46+00:00

Must have been a dick size joke. Everything besides that is fine in my book.

DiscordantMonk · 2018-09-12T17:06:19+00:00

Periodic explanation of boundaries is perfectly healthy. You want the pussy, but you want her to know she crossed a boundary she clearly doesn't grasp mentally? I question your frame and boundary setting ability. I would let her know her actions will result in immediate disqualification from plate status if her behavior doesn't change.

oytrp · 2018-09-12T18:42:24+00:00

Telling a woman she fucked up achieves nothing. They will justify their actions and try and start an argument.

What works is exactly what you did. Withdrew attention. Trust me, she can correlate her actions with you going cold, and if she cares enough, won't do it again.

Confronting her only shows that you have a weak frame, that her words and actions can have an impact on you.

Now it's time for you to be stoic and hit her up like nothing happened. Or hard next if you think she's not worth the headache.

trashcatcher489 · 2018-09-12T18:16:09+00:00

You couldn't take a joke. Your frame is like a brittle piece of glass. She's in disbelief that anyone could be so weak and doesn't even realize that's why you nexted her. When she does, especially if you go and talk about your feelings to her, she will lose interest and get out of there after realizing how petty this was.

You need to work on your toughness. If you can't take an obvious joke, you have clear vulnerabilities. Work on these.

Title	Why not to confront?
Author	WellEducatedAgni
Upvotes	1
Comments	14
Date	September 12, 2018 4:28 PM UTC (7 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
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