Got the F-close, so how do I proceed now?

kongzilla · 2012-02-21T01:23:34+00:00

Hey man you can do whatever you want. You should probably look outside the box and look at your situation. You are 31 she is 19 if you pursue a relationship with her how much of a relationship will it be? Unfortunately if you do get in a LTR with her it will feel like more of a casual F-buddy type thing or like baby sitting.

On a side note i looked this up because it reminded me of your predicament.

ronson_magee · 2012-02-21T03:08:25+00:00

your instincts sound pretty good to me. who knows what she expects out of the relationship. your friends' advice seems sound unless some guys on here want to take a different position. good job man.

puaCurveBall · 2012-02-21T08:55:20+00:00

Unless she is begging for it, I'd keep text/phone stuff purely logistical. Make your relationship about the real world when you two are together, not electronic

sinking_sunk · 2012-02-21T11:43:39+00:00

Since she's 19 and probably hasn't had too many boyfriends, you are, for all intents and purposes, driving the relationship. You know what it's like to be 19. She has no idea what it's like to be 31.

I'd expect she'd either see you as a couple-month fling or fall hard for you quick. Usually there isn't much middle ground. But you never know since you say she's very mature. Still, I'm sure she's getting drunk at frat parties and hit on by horny college guys every week.

So the gameplan for the beginnings of the relationship. You share different arenas: she goes to school and you work. I like your friends' advice: couple texts during the week and a call on the weekend. I'd add that you should find a good "golden time" for communication. Like after she gets done working around 5-6. Get her into a routine.

I don't like morning texts and I'll tell you why. The great thing about afternoon texts is that she's thinking about you all day. She's looking forward to your text, even through she knows you're busy. Morning texts are easier to ignore and usually are harder to make into something beyond "morning babe."

Which means...I also don't like "Hi, how was your day?" texts. Those are married texts. Rather, texts like "I had the craziest day" or "Hope you day of work was better than mine" or "I wish I had an English 101 class so I could catch up on some sleep." Think of more engaging, hyperbolic texts for the younger, quicker of mind.

It's totally cool not to talk to her one day. You're a busy guy and sometimes you have long meetings. Don't say sorry, but do say you were thinking about her.

You're older, so much deeper and more mysterious. Exhibit your interests to her at different times (oh, you didn't know I can make a souffle. Hells yes, I'm an awesome cook. I have many interesting secrets...) Still, you're spontaneous and know how to show a girl a good time via a multi-stage date.

Lastly, I'd recommend a pre-scheduled lunch-date on/nearby her campus sometime. It will help work yourself more easily into her arena without coming off as "smothering."

2012-02-24T00:07:22+00:00

Having read JUST the title of the thread, my response is:

"Wipe it off, have her make you a sandwich, and play Skyward Sword"

Title	Got the F-close, so how do I proceed now?
Author	dave-gonzo
Upvotes	2
Comments	5
Date	February 20, 2012 11:47 PM UTC (14 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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