The more sexual success I have with women, the more I realize I have no idea what I'm doing

totalradass · 2012-02-20T06:20:50+00:00

From kissing up until penetration, how long should foreplay last vs actual sex

Very situational. This is just something you have to get a feel for with experience. The most important thing with all of this stuff is being able to read a girl. You should have your own gameplan of what you are going to do, and be reading her to see what does and doesn't work on her, or when to mix it up.

What is the proper foreplay progression? Kissing, body kissing, heavy petting, finger-play, etc ...?

Foreplay starts when you say hello. The most important part of foreplay is that she thinks she is lucky to fuck you.

What are Seddit's thoughts on eating a girl out?

Do it or you are gay.

I personally fucking love it. If you don't go down on a girl don't be surprised if she doesn't call you back. Would you call a girl back who doesn't give bj's? I wouldn't. There isn't some technique that can be taught over the internet that will make you a cunnilingus expert. Practice makes perfect. The only thing I've noticed is girls tend to fall into certain groups that like different things, once I get it pinned down what group she is in, then I can usually make her cum pretty easy.

Basically practice. practice. practice.

How to properly ask for a BJ

You should never ask for something like this. That is just going to make her feel like she is taking some nerds virginity. Yeah some girls are into that kind of thing, but it is just generally bad practice.

If you go down on her first, which I strongly suggest, then if you stop, and are unclothed they will 80% of the time just go for it. It is just implied. The only reason most girls are even hesitant about going down on a guy is mostly them not wanting to be that vulnerable. If you go down on them first, not only are they super horny and wanting to please you for pleasing them, but they don't feel like they are giving their power away, because it is something you both did.

Imagine a rickety ass rope bridge across some canyon indiana jones style. The girl is never going to be the first one to cross the bridge. They just aren't. You have to show her that it is okay and cross the bridge first, then you can take her back to your apartment on your side of the river and put it in her butt while you listen to marvin gaye. It is actually kind of beautiful when you think about it.

If she is in the 20% who doesn't just go for it on her own. Hand on the back of her neck. Pull her in for the makeout. Hopefully you are already in your boxers. Put her hand on your dick. Kiss for a few seconds. Lean back slightly, and slowly guide her head down. It shouldn't feel like you are trying to submerge a beach ball under water. There shouldn't be any tension in her neck. If there is then stop, duh.

Although if you have gone down on a girl, and given her all the opportunities to reciprocate, and she hasn't it's time for a time out. I would ask her if she feels uncomfortable going down on a guy or has never done it before. Some girls fall into this section. They are inexperienced, and are self conscious about doing it wrong, tell them that that is silly, and that whatever they do will feel good.

The biggest point I can make here, is don't be afraid to be obvious. If you have your dick out while making out, and just lay back she is just going to go for it the majority of the time. You have to somehow breach the subject non-verbally. There are like a million ways to do this. Just use your head...

Tips on how to avoid the mood killing condom application process

I almost always go from getting a bj into having sex. So I just have them suck my balls while I'm putting the condom on. Crude, but it works. If I don't do that then just put it on with one hand quickly while I"m doing something else. Condoms are total boner killers.

Tips on how to be that long-lasting stallion

This isn't nearly as important as you would think. Some girls like it, but honestly I get more shit because I never cum during sex with a condom, and this makes them feel bad. I think most girls would prefer I came within five minutes then them never being able to make me cum.

If you end up coming pre-five minutes what ever you do... don't start apologizing. You should say something along the lines how you never cum while having sex with a condom but she was just so sexy or felt so good or whatever that it just happened. Make it a positive thing. If you make it about how sexy she is, and not some kind of thing about how you suck as a man, she will actually be pretty happy.

My usual process from beginning to end is something like this:

makeout, go down on her but stop before she comes (at some point after I take her pants off I usually take my pants off too), she goes down on me, I say I want to fuck you so bad right now or some such thing, put on the condom while she is licking my balls or whatever, consensual sex in the missionary position, If I didn't make her cum during sex I go down on her and make her cum now, then she gives me bj and I cum, sleep.

2012-02-20T07:23:53+00:00

"As budding PUAs, we need to be the man that she brags about." - Do we need to derive our worth from what she thinks of us?

2012-02-20T04:12:39+00:00

I've encountered this problem also especially in one night stands. I'm going to try a new method of asking them straight up what they like in bed. I tried it once the other night, she got on top and came in 15 seconds lol

puaCurveBall · 2012-02-20T05:21:55+00:00

Post this in /r/sex. Answers in order:

I'd argue twice as long as a general rule unless you are lasting 30min+
Ask her
It is fantastic you should be doing it A LOT
Suck my cock
Grab it and get it ready while she is sucking/stroking you
Don't last that long, most times she can get bored / dry after 15 minutes. Don't get me wrong, sometimes I go for 2 hours doing ton of position changes and its great, but honestly don't think you have to go more than 15-20minutes to satisfy the girl. Do that via oral
Get her a towel / water / wet wipe... spoon her or cuddle, or finish her off if she didnt finish.
Just poke her with it :)
Talk to her

Jayhawkerr · 2012-02-20T06:46:26+00:00

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Karismatic · 2012-02-20T03:41:57+00:00

From kissing up until penetration, how long should foreplay last vs actual sex

There is no actual magic time. It is completely situational.

What is the proper foreplay progression? Kissing, body kissing, heavy petting, finger-play, etc ...?

I'm a bit lazy so check this post in 30 mins and I'll have "my" progression.

What are Seddit's thoughts on eating a girl out?

I personally HATE eating out a girl, weird taste, but giving value means sacrificing. Therefore I'll do it to the best of my ability, and it usually makes the girl extremely pleased.

How to properly ask for a BJ

You don't ask. They offer. Usually I'll somehow mention it if they want to be eaten out. Girl: "Eat me out baby" Guy: "Heh, only for something in return" and shazam.

Tips on how to avoid the mood killing condom application process

Ha! I just had this last night. The way I recovered was after it was on just a "bit" more foreplay and THEN you drill it in her.

Tips on how to be that long-lasting stallion

I lasted 45 minutes, now really amazing compared to those who can go hours o.O but I usually just think of something else. For instance Team Fortress 2 or cats or my art work.

Post sex etiquette

Cuddle and text about how fantastic the night was.

Re-initiating for morning sex

Kissing her and caressing. It will lead to it if she is REALLY in the mood. Remember it is a 2-way street.

Leaving her place the next morning/getting her to leave

Situational

Title	The more sexual success I have with women, the more I realize I have no idea what I'm doing
Author	Jayhawkerr
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Comments	10
Date	February 20, 2012 2:42 AM UTC (14 years ago)
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