A study on dancing confidence over age.

grkirchhoff · 2012-02-25T22:38:52+00:00

I didn't read the whole thing, just the summary. I used to be very shy about dancing. I remember back in high school I got dragged to a dance, and after I'm in the parking lot surrounded by about 8 girls all dancing up on me. I'm standing in the middle of them stiff as a board. I also wasn't dancing at all. Very awkward, but I just couldn't bring myself to move for some reason.

It's one of those defining moments that made me cringe for years afterwards. There were a few similar events in college, but at that point alcohol was involved so I at least don't remember most of it.

Then I went to a dance class. It started off pretty bad. Sweaty hands, sweaty pits, awkward laughs, the whole deal. Interestingly enough, after about a month of that, something snapped and I became very comfortable about it. Fast-forward several more months and I run into girls that are nervous about dancing with me because they heard I was really good.

TL;DR: Take some dance classes.

RoaldFre · 2012-02-25T21:24:54+00:00

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Sirtubb · 2012-02-26T01:12:24+00:00

Accept that you really can't dance and just shake your butt and have fun or take dance classes. My veiw on the subject.

_rapunzel_ · 2012-02-26T02:38:14+00:00

Does this study explain why my mom is comfortable enough about herself to dance in the aisles at the supermarket?

JaesunG · 2012-02-26T07:19:51+00:00

2 words: 2 step

CunningLanguageUser · 2012-02-26T17:28:38+00:00

Pro tip: Dancing with the mindset of light-hearted making fun of the whole situation with perhaps a bit of obvious exaggerated imitation gives your brain a defence or excuse of sorts and goes a long way to removing shyness. You weren't 'serious'. That's when you realise that dancing is itself more to do with confidently doing whatever you want, than what you actually do.

Once that settled in, I could dance genuinely.

Title	A study on dancing confidence over age.
Author	Ozergn
Upvotes	11
Comments	9
Date	February 25, 2012 8:10 PM UTC (14 years ago)
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