Hi Seddit! I have been a lurker for a while now and have been working on upgrading my life. I moved to Beijing, China a little over a month ago to learn Mandarin and "find myself." It has been a crazy experience so far and I am looking forward to having many more FRs!

Background: I'm 24 and have a bachelor's degree in electrical engineering. Worked full-time for almost 3 years after college, hated the corporate life, said "fuck it" and moved to China. I have always been a very introverted/shy/nerdy/beta/blah-blah-blah guy and decided to change that. I took relationships waaay too seriously and had my heart broken and (in my mind) had my world shattered a few times. I started practicing social skills and began to put myself out there and I am starting to become the person I know I am capable of being. I have gone out about 80% of the nights since I have been in Beijing all without anything more than #-closes. No kisses at all.....until last night:

FR: Disclaimer: I have been called a "terrible story-teller" because what I do is pretty much state as much data as possible and don't really embellish. So here are the facts of my experience

So last night (Sunday) I decide to go out for practice and concentrate on having fun and giving no shits. Before I went out I read a couple threads on Seddit and watched some funny youtube videos just to get happy. At about 9:50pm I get to a local bar that is also known as the "pussy pond" and start throwing back 5 yuan (that's like $0.97) whiskey+cokes. I stand at the bar for a while and make sure I make eye/physical contact with as many girls as possible and I am getting a pretty nice response. This gets me feeling pretty good -- along with the whiskey -- so I decide to head to the dance floor at around 10:45pm. When I get to the dance floor there are literally 2 girls by themselves dancing and I thought to myself "man I would be a badass if I just went and danced with them and got more people to join us." After 2 minutes of AA and fear I tell myself that I am too awesome to not let those girls be near me so I get out there..........I approached them in fun dance mode and they saw me coming and it seemed like they didn't want to be bothered. But fuck it...I just started dancing around them and within a minute they pretty much dance their way off the dance floor avoiding me as much as possible. Damn, sucks for them. So as the only person on the dance floor I make my way to the edge and just chill for a while -- I kept dancing on my own but in a much more confined/chill way. Within another 15 minutes the dance floor was filling up and this cute chinese girl comes and stands next to me. I gave her a smile and she returned one...and so did her boyfriend. Here is where I think my night actually improved....I decided to just let loose and I start partying with this girl and her boyfriend. The guy can't dance at all and I have a pretty good groove going so I start showing the boyfriend some dance moves. Being a white guy in China is nice because the guys in clubs love when you include them in the "dance circle." As I'm having fun with this girl and her boyfriend I glance around and see this other cute Chinese girl dancing by herself. We make eye contact for a second then I break it and go back to dancing with my new friends. After another 15 minutes of dancing and laughing I look back at that Chinese girl and she is smiling at me. So I decide to make my move and I dance over to her...I approach her with a smile and she is keeping hers as well. I put my hand on her waist and she immediately puts her ass on me and starts grinding. This is where I'm like "this is it! I'm taking this girl home with me." After some playful spinning and grinding I start to let my hands explore a bit and I gave her some kisses on the neck -- she was responding very positively so I moved in for the kiss. She hesitated for 1 second and then kissed me back! (Keep in mind that this very moment is the no-kiss-for-almost-two-years combo breaker so I am feeling sooooooo amazing! the night could have ended there and it would have been great.....but it didn't end there) This girl was out looking for a fun night herself. She seemed very experienced and I was in the right place at the right time. After another probably 30 minutes of dancing/playing/kissing she tried to talk to me but the music was too loud. I said "it's too loud let's get out of here" and she responded with an enthusiastic "ok!" I led her out of the club by the hand which turned me on so much just because it made me feel like an actual confident alpha-male -- something that I have been only dreaming about being until now. After leaving the club we walk about 10 minutes back to my place during which time we exchange names and very minimal info. We got to my place and she wanted to take a shower so we took one together....then went to bed, one thing led to another, and boom! The dry streak was broken!! After the deed we take another shower and she slept over. We even had another go at it this morning (and another shower)! I walked her out as I was heading to school and told her I'd text her soon and we said goodbye and now I'm here writing this FR.

I feel like I'm high on confidence right now! Last night was the first of many future closes and I feel like I don't really NEED to close anymore. My frustration is gone and my friends said I was "beaming" today in class.

Lesson Learned: Have fun! Don't give shits! Be playful, flirty, and don't be afraid to make a move. Thanks so much Seddit! I'm going to be posting more FRs in the future!!