I need to get laid

sirderpy · 2012-04-15T17:14:30+00:00

There isn't a lot to say here. You're suffering from "oneites" and you want a magic word that will get you this one girl. The game is about re-inventing your self, making your good points show and correcting your bad points. Did you even read the side bar?

hot4belgians · 2012-04-15T17:56:36+00:00

Step by step sheswaytoohot.

1) First thing's first, you said you're insecure - you're not going to even get your motor running if you can't recognise that you're amazing. I tell my friends this anecdote all the time and they wish i'd stfu but: take a one on one sport - tennis i normally use - all the players at wimbledon (or wherever; doesn't matter) are pretty much at the same physical level the reason they play so differently and perform to different standards is pretty much down to what's going on inside their head - whether you think you can or you can't; you're probably right.

2) Don't aim too high - anything can happen and even though she's obviously a really awesome girl and you've probably got a good rapor with her it doesn't mean you'll get a blowjob. You could or you couldn't. Your expectations are only going to make your approach anxiety worse.

3) rather than treating her like your only goal at the moment: treat her as an experiment - something you'll both learn from, you're not looking down on her from this perspective but if things don't work out the way you want things do make sure you fucking learn what went right and that enabled you to get that far: work on that and the world is yours.

4) Fat can be an issue but you can overcome it - decide yourself whether you want to or not it's not for me to tell you to do.

5) She's not going to go for you if you just want her to touch your penis, she probably won't even touch your penis. Lose that attitude, i doubt it'll help you in this circumstance.

Sirderpy is right, it's a lot of work to learn the skills to be attractive but it's not like you won't make progress if you start experimenting and finding out what works for you. Single goals are bad

puaim · 2012-04-15T19:06:15+00:00

Buddy, if you're so hung up on your weight, then that's the thing you need to focus on. Not some hot chick.

One of the foundations of /r/seduction is inner game. Just call it confidence and self-assuredness. If you aren't confident in yourself, and if you aren't self-assured, then forget about having luck with ANY woman.

If being fat is a hangup to you, do everything you can to change it. If you already have (i.e. you've a medical condition or something), then accept it and move on. I'd personally recommend doing both. It'll be better for your game if you learn to be with hot chicks with a disadvantage. Let your personality shine through. Learn all the game about cocky-funny, being alpha, etc., etc. - choose your favourite guru and follow there stuff. Being fat is never an issue though. Loads of fat guys get girls. Don't tell me it's not possible.

As far as getting with the girl is concerned: if you think you've got nothing going for you, you don't. All you've got is your personality, and that should be enough. Don't become one of those guys who thinks "oh, I need to buy a jag so then I'll get laid.. and I need to buy my own place. and a shark tank". Fucking hell. If she likes you for you, brilliant. If you're sitting around in your family's home without any aspirations or anything to better yourself, then you're probably not hardy enough anyway. Change that.

If you bring her to your place, I'd recommend you bring her there, and don't make a move on her. Then go out, do whatever, and bring her back there another time. Read about the escalation ladder. Seriously though dude, you've got a lot of mind-changing ahead of you. Eat up anything you can on innner-game, because you need it. I'd also recommend starting out by reading a book such as double your dating, and learning how to act etc. And that's the advice i'd give to you if you legit want to pull this girl.

You're probably not going to fuck this chick. In my mind, when I think about game, I know the girl for me.. and I know how she got away. I'm not in this to win her back, or meet her again and woo her. There is no perfect girl. But when I meet the person who I want to marry, I don't want to scare her away. I don't want to settle for some other chick. At some point you're going to meet another girl who's just as amazing as this one. If things don't work out with this one, they might with the next one.. if you're ready.

also, read the fucking side bar.

pansartax · 2012-04-15T18:14:48+00:00

Are you trolling

GlitterZombie · 2012-04-15T17:35:48+00:00

I don't want to tell you to 'believe in yourself' because if you think she's out of your league, she probably is. Do you have a beautiful singing voice and the work ethic of an irish train track builder? There may be hope.

2012-04-15T18:59:48+00:00

I feel like your first problem isn't women. Not in the slightest.

You seem to be living a dead end life with no motivation or will to succeed. You have to WANT to fix not only your love life, but also the SOCIAL, EMOTIONAL, PHYSICAL, and MENTAL aspects of it.

Find out what you want in life and work for it. /r/fitness and /r/loseit for weight loss and control. /r/getmotivated. /r/frugal /r/malefashionadvice /r/seduction

2012-04-16T01:07:57+00:00

Paleodiet plus P90x or crossfit. I was 25% bodyfat last year and now Im 9%.

Git er done

2012-04-16T02:53:58+00:00

I'm not HUGE im just a regular fat dude around 5'5 195 pounds but it definetely shows kind of bad.

Sorry if I am being mean, but this sounds terrible. Head over to http://www.reddit.com/r/keto/ or paleo and feel better about yourself. Since you're self conscious about your fat, you can rebuild yourself. My fat friend who had nothing going on for him in high school got skinny and I didn't even recognize him. He is getting way more ass than I am. You only have nothing going for yourself because you feel that way.

I'm not sure if you're actually serious because the way you write this post is just so... childish. I'm guessing you're not a very social person (I was sheltered for most of my life) so really start hanging out with more people, girls especially. Even if she becomes just a friend, shes gonna be good for you.

IAmTheOmNom · 2012-04-15T19:56:10+00:00

She is only out of your league when you think she is out of your league.

If you really wanna go for it, then do it, experience is always good for you. But at your current level, mindset and everything, expect to fail.

And what all the other ones said.

Slick_McQuick · 2012-04-15T20:49:31+00:00

Weight is something you can control, and you'll become a healthier person by losing a couple pounds. Other than that, you have to come to terms with the fact that the only way to make a move is for you to make a move and that has the inherent risk of rejection. But you shouldn't be worried about that. Nothing ventured, nothing gained. Remember that one.

Also you physically may have nothing going for you, but the easiest way to win a girl over is to make her laugh and you seem like a decently funny guy.

gravedigger04325 · 2012-04-16T16:39:12+00:00

Start working out, eating right, and losing weight. Weightloss doesn't have to be monotonous, add something fun to it, or a reward, or something. I.e. instead of running all the time, go for a swim. Lose 10 pounds, reward yourself with a cake (a slice of cake). pick up an activity you've always wanted to try (surfing? climbing? biking? something else?). Lose your first 25 pounds? Go to an amusement park or something.

Chances are she isn't actually as hot as you think she is. I have a friend who is not attractive by most peoples standards, and always seems depressing (Some are alpha, others are beta, he is more of a gamma or delta. {Α, Β, Γ, Δ...}). His idea of a "perfect 10" is what I would call a "maybe if I've blacked out and won't remember anything tomorrow." The amount of alcohol required to hit on some of the girls he's slept with would literally kill me. I've noticed a lot of guys who are self-conscious enough of their looks tend to think other people look one hell of a lot better than they actually do, and you seem like you're interested in her most because she's the first person to give a damn. Boost your self esteem, and you'll find it's easier to talk to her.

TL;DR she isn't out of your league, You're out of your league.

Title	I need to get laid
Author	sheswaytoohot
Upvotes	5
Comments	14
Date	April 15, 2012 5:06 PM UTC (14 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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