A couple weeks ago I was riding solo at a bar downtown where I go to grad school. I picked up a really great girl that night, and now we are dating. So last night we were talking about when we met. She said there were a few things that I did that really got her attracted to me, and let her know that I was different.

  1. When I was doing my kino and touching her lower back (both quick touches and to lead her places) I didn't touch or grab her ass.

  2. I didn't try to take her home. I was pretty much outcome indifferent that night, and was just trying to have a fun time. If sex happened great, but it wasn't my goal.

  3. I asked if I could kiss her. Now this isn't something that I normally do, but we were sitting in her car, so I didn't really have great eye contact at the time. She thought it was kind of sweet.

  4. I asked her on what she called a "real date" not just to hang out at a bar.

She also said that, for her, number one and two would have been deal breakers.

There is a difference between the nice guy, and the good guy. The nice guy is a push over, but the good guy gets what he wants while still enriching everyone else. So, I just thought I would write this up for those that think the only way to get a girl is being a dick.