Final shot with a girl I like tomorrow. Going to be coming from a vulnerable place. Thoughts?

2012-05-01T11:38:49+00:00

you've asked her out twice unreciprocated and turned her off by being desperate and showing too much interest. realistically, it's not very likely you'll get a positive response from her. however, rejection builds character and is better than feeling regret over something you could have done. go for it and report back.

btw, if you're actually going to tell her that you're "drawn to her", do it the most nonchalant and neutral way possible.

2012-05-01T13:47:54+00:00

Coming from a vulnerable place.

So you're going to put all this pressure on her to make you happy... Yeah, I don't think that's going to work.

Not to sound cocky but I'm also really attractive and my body language and voice give off a lot of confidence, so it's going to be vulnerable but I can still come off as confident and outcome-independent.

That's going to sound like you have a lot of underlying insecurities. You can be vulnerable, but why would you be sharing that with everyone you know without getting to know them better?

Don't say move on; I can get other girls but I want her.

Well it seems like you already know what you need to do.

2012-05-01T13:46:12+00:00

Don't say move on

Move on.

TofuTofu · 2012-05-01T16:50:14+00:00

You've never really talked to her one on one but you want a relationship with her? Holy chode, batman! Get some standards and start qualifying girls. Girls find it unattractive when it's clear you only want her for superficial reasons.

2012-05-01T12:48:28+00:00

Aww jeez... dude you've got one-itis... you'll never get that "one girl" with that attitude, putting the pussy on a pedestal like that.

Your best bet is to talk to her like a HUMAN BEING

You're still trying to find the magic key... sorry Mario your princess is in another castle.

AegisSC · 2012-05-01T13:58:10+00:00

The seduction community has acknowledged that having the right attitude makes you attractive to the largest number of people, but that it isn't a magic spell on any one particular girl. You have to play the numbers. Some girls might not be into you, and now you look eager.

My advice- make sure you have contact info, and don't talk to her for a while. If you have her number you should wait a while and might call and pretend it was a wrong number. "Hey.. this is bob.. why aren't you jeremy. Oh my god jamie? Hahaha I hit the wrong number, how are you?"

The key is not to look desperate. Move on in your head, and if the chance arises- go for it.

There's a common seddit theme that today is your last day because girls flake so close now... but there's a lot to be said for some long-game.

d41d8cd · 2012-05-01T17:04:31+00:00

Hold a boom box outside her window playing the song you heard when you first met.

magicpurplepill · 2012-05-01T17:22:52+00:00

You're walking into a situation where by the tone and feeling behind your post you already know is a lost cause. So you are here trying to get help with a hail mary move that has nothing for it and everything against it.

Here's a scenario for you; close your eyes. Pretend you are some other dood with another life and another purpose. Now read your post over and ask yourself this question:

Does this sound like something that would come from the rational mind of a man in control of himself?

jk147 · 2012-05-01T17:40:52+00:00

Why do guys get one-itis with girls that they never dated? There are other girls out there. And dont friendzone yourself either when she rejects you again. Seriously.

2012-05-01T15:21:14+00:00

Comments are headed in the right direction, but no one is actually telling you what to do. Scale it back. Do not invite her to anything serious, and trust me i'm all direct, all the time. You've tried that, it has failed. Your only option at this point is go "social." This is college so you have an event you can invite her to, right? Pick the best event bring it up casually, tell her to bring friends. Remove the pressure and she'll come to you. Add more pressure by confessing your feelings, and it's done. She know. Trust me, she knows.

journeymanNS · 2012-05-01T16:13:04+00:00

Similar situation, but after fumbling around in my attempts here is what I can tell you.

1) Never tell her you are interested. That is one hard lesson I learned. Show it though touch and other stuff you do together!

2) Grow some balls and ask her out! Get her contact info. You already made the mistake of waiting for the last day of class to ask! Even if you fail, you gain experience on your next approach.

3) There will be others who is better than her. So don't pressure yourself and say I need this girl because honestly you don't! You are just caught up in the moment, aka oneitis.

4) Spend time with her, but don't expect anything out of it. This girl might be for you, but then again maybe not. You don't know her well enough to make that judgement! If you fail, no biggy, you move on and you gain a friend. So it's never a lose situation.

5) Think this through carefully with all the comments here.

EDIT is to make it easier to read.

fluidkarma · 2012-05-01T17:48:09+00:00

1 How can you like a girl you don't even know?

2 Why would you let this girl you don't even know have such control over you?

2012-05-02T00:52:41+00:00

I'm not going to say move on... but why do you need to profess your love to her. Your idea to approach her and talk about the situation is great, but no need to drop all this baggage on her, just keep it real with something like:

"Hey what's up? It's really too bad we didn't get a chance to hang out the last few weeks. You probably think I'm insane for for trying so hard to make it happen. I guess I should have just asked you in person, text makes everything confusing. Anyhow, I still think we should get together sometime soon and hang out, so how about it?"

If she says yes then just follow up with: "Well, when are you free?"

dantaeos · 2012-05-02T16:54:51+00:00

"Don't say move on; I can get other girls but I want her."

Lol that's fucking chodely. Seriously, you've never had a deep conversation yet you want her? That's so needy and wimpish it hurts.

She was attracted to you at first and then you became a needy bitch and now she wants you to fuck off. Deal with it. You can either cry and masturbate to the though of her licking you, or you can go out and fuck girls way hotter than her.

Title	Final shot with a girl I like tomorrow. Going to be coming from a vulnerable place. Thoughts?
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