Social Awkwardness (Repost)

fatless · 2012-05-05T19:02:20+00:00

Bro, don't sweat it. The high school / town social dynamic can be pretty limiting. Your "social awkwardness" is probably only a function of the environment, not you. Plus, you're just a kid anyways - you're supposed to be trying on different personalities right now. Don't feel like you're "doing it wrong" when there's really no "wrong" way to be - just be you, or be a better you if you want. I was a weird mix in h/s - captain of a sports team but also in the computer A/V club. I had good grades, but also hung out with stoner/fuckups as often as I did my AP-study friends. I was all over the place really.

One of the biggest predictors of obesity is to look and see if a person's friends and family are overweight. Your choices in life are heavily influenced by your friends and peers, so try to pick friends that reinforce good habits like sports, studying, etc, because to a large extent, they will help define you as a better person in the long run.

You sound like an intelligent guy with your shit sorted out (for a ~16 year old). It may indeed feel like it's moving slowly, but you'll be amazed how quickly your life start to fly by as you get older.

My advice is that you just stick to learning about stuff you're interested in, be passionate and have your own hobbies. Read weird books. Listen to different music. Volunteer to do some political work. Build some cool shit. Have fun. Don't play too many video games. Fuck around and enjoy the free time you have - you'll never really get it back after high school. You can work on your social skills in college and afterward, when they'll actually matter more.

Shit, also, don't worry about girls or relationships right now. High school dating is usually petty and silly stuff, you're not missing out. I didn't feel like I even had time for one because I was to busy doing stuff I enjoyed. Stick to being a good you, and the women part will fall into place down the road just fine.

Wat_The_I_Dnt_Even · 2012-05-05T19:24:27+00:00

Well sir, you've come to the right place for help.

I would recommend reading The Game by Neil Strauss to start things off. It is a beautifully well written book of a man's journey from socially awkward, to life of the party. It is a wonderful intro the seduction community. The book is full of life lessons and gives any AFC confidence that they can make their own lives the way they wish.

Do not wait for your life to change or it will never happen. Nothing will change in your life if you keep saying, "maybe tomorrow," or "i'll just wait until later." If you wait to start being more social in college you're only going to hurt yourself. Hell, if you wait until next week, you're going to regret it the future. You have to go out right now and MAKE it happen. You're in highschool man, you need to milk the experience for every last drop of memories and experience you can. Have the most fun you can and the women will cum racing to you.

You said that initiating conversations is not your forté? That's because you don't practice. Try talking to anyone you can; people you don't know too well on the swim team, lunch ladies, your parents friends, bums, clerks, school mates, anyone that gives you a chance. In order to have game with women, you need to have the ability to convey likeability and positive energy with anyone, not just the women you want to pork.

As for more tips: do some more reading around here, especially the sidebar and FAQs. The guys here love to help, and sometimes even the ladies ;)

Title	Social Awkwardness (Repost)
Author	Askquestionsbro
Upvotes	6
Comments	2
Date	May 5, 2012 6:13 PM UTC (14 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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