So I had a really good night last weekend, and had a lot of attraction from all over. At the end of the night, the cops broke up the party I was at, and one of the girls I had been talking to told me to come with her. We went back to her place after a lot of making out and physical escalation in public on the way back, including me rubbing her clit through her pants as I picked her up and threw her against a random car to make out some more.

When we got back to hers, I took off her panties first and did this little coin sex game I saw on /r/sex a while back- you get the girl to hold a coin between each of her 5 fingers as her two hands are together above her head while standing up, and you tell her to close her eyes and spread her legs, and keep her hands above her head and the coins between her fingers at all costs. I teased her for a while, kissing and licking different spots, and started teasing her inner thighs with kisses, but she dropped the coins early because she was a little drunk. After making out roughly some more, we got on the bed, I went down on her for a little bit, then came out for some kissing as I was fingering her. She was definitely enjoying it, but at some point she said she couldn't have sex with me tonight. I said don't worry about what other people will think, just enjoy it, and during more escalation, I told her things like "think how good it would feel to have me inside you right now" etc etc. However, she just said that as a rule, she didnt have sex with guys who she wasnt seeing/in a relationship with or whatever. She kept apologizing for being a tease. While it frustrated me, I remembered "let go of the outcome" and enjoyed the fooling around a lot more after stopping trying to pursue sex. After we went to sleep, she woke up probably 4-6 times in the middle of the night, jumped on top of me, placed my dick on her clit and started to grind on me and hump me for a minute before slowing down, when i'd move her off of me.

We watched some stuff on youtube and talked the next morning and kissed a little more, where i did some chodey things like said thank you after she kissed me, and doubted that she gave me her real number (i called it immediately after she put her number in, and her phone sitting next to her wasnt ringing...i dont get blackberrys), but nonetheless we texted a few times this week, she said she was so happy to have met me etc, and now im back at school and wont be in the same place as her for like 4 months. I'm not trying to pursue her in particular, but I'm a little confused by the situation that happened. Part of me thinks I could have done something different and we would have had sex, but another part of me thinks that if that was a rule of hers, and she was really strict about it, I wouldn't want to have her regret breaking that rule just so I could get the ego boost from getting laid. It should be said that she was really tired (she was passing out hard in between her grind sessions) and I also didn't get head, but gave it to her. She was giving me a handjob as we fell asleep and she put her finger in my ass pretty early on (bonus!) but no blowjob and no sex.

Maybe I should have just told her I wanted some attention too, or said something like "are you as good at giving head as I am?" or whatever. But it was very weird, and I have had a few things like this happen in the past, where theres a lot of sexual attraction, I finger the girl or whatever but we dont have sex. I would love to know how to get past this sticking point.

edit: If you're downvoting, at least explain why? I'm genuinely looking for advice, wtf? Isn't this the right place to ask? @_@