Constant rejection?

highseddit_user · 2012-05-24T04:31:38+00:00

For me, rejection is internal. It's like when you do something you feel was incredibly stupid, ie trip while walking. You think everyone around you is watching/judging you, but put yourselves in their shoes: how long do you think about someone you witnessed stumbling? Not long at all right? Think of rejection as stumbling: the person rejecting you isn't giving you a single thought. No judgement, no worries. Keep on moving your legs and soon you'll be able to run without getting winded right away.

Murmaider · 2012-05-24T06:31:15+00:00

Realize that 1 year from that nite, those feelings, that rejection won' t mean shit. Life isn't guaranteed, you could die next week and none of those feelings will matter. Kind of depressing but it helps me overcome many obstacles. Take advantage of life.

reboot2012 · 2012-05-24T07:52:34+00:00

I do the following to ease the pain of rejection:

I go to places that I enjoy and where I'm feeling good like bars and clubs. Rejection is a lot easier to handle when I'm having a good time. Conversely, I dont try to do daygame cos I just suck at it and being rejected in such places just feels awful to me. One rejection in a coffee shop gets me a lot more down than 10 rejections in a dance club. I do want to one day improve my day game. But let me get good at shit that I enjoy, the low hanging fruit. And then go after the hard shit.
I go out with buddies, especially buddies who are chasing gals. Being rejected is a lot less painful when I can come back to my buddies and make that FML face. Being rejected is also a lot less painful when your buddies get rejected too - LOL
I love numbers. Pretty much every thing in the universe has a probability. If my probability of hooking up is 1%, that means the sooner I get thru 99 rejections, the closer I get to that feelsgoodman stage. I try to keep track of my approaches in a spreadsheet - and then I analyze the conversion rate and shit... get all nerdy with this stuff. For example, I know that my conversion rate is a lot higher in the meatpacking district than it is in Upper West side. I've hung out equally in both places. Anyways... point is its all a numbers game. And every thing I do is about improving the conversion rate. LOL - I'm a fucking nerd...

Jay-grove · 2012-05-24T07:44:47+00:00

Always look for patterns.

If you are consistently getting rejected chances are good you are consistently making similar mistakes.

No two interactions are just alike, so you have to look at the overall picture and see if you can point out some general issues or things that you say or do that you look back on and think, "DOH!"

Just for kicks, read up about Colonel Sanders trying to sell his chicken recipe... good story about perseverance.

Cheers

switch50 · 2012-05-24T17:39:10+00:00

Learn to let go of attachment. Learn to differentiate between your ego self and your genuine self, many people mistake themselves for their ego and suffer. Some meditation doesn't hurt.

But keep trying bro!

gausslaw · 2012-05-24T05:07:01+00:00

As Smoky the Bear says, "Only you can prevent forest fires."

Ultimately nobody here can give you any one bit of advice that isn't going to make you feel like an untouchable loser who will get laid every 2-3 years from time to time. Just roll with it. Try to get laid at least every year..

Title	Constant rejection?
Author	highseddit_user
Upvotes	16
Comments	11
Date	May 24, 2012 3:52 AM UTC (14 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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