Background

So I was always shy about talking to girls in the coffee shop, nightclubs are a joke but approaching someone seated at a table in their own world was something I was really not comfortable with.

Open

So I just did it. This sexy girl was sitting there rapt with attention on her laptop, on the other side of the shop. I feel shy about going out of my way to talk to a girl but I was having a hard time concentrating and just said fuck it i'm walking up to her.

"Hey...I'm just leaving but I had to talk to you before I go" (or something). It opened pretty well, she was clearly taken aback, but that's natural. Blah blah and then "I actually gotta go, I'd like to hang out some more, how do we make that happen?". She volunteers an email, I'm like ok, then pull out my phone and tell her I don't use email much. Got the number and then set the date "I can meet sometime next week, I'll give you a call". She wasn't overtly into me but I just assumed that's cause she was shy and too turned on ha.

Phone

I just called her and set it up vaguely (in the evening, around this area) and told her I'd get in touch the day of to set the time and place. Sent her a text time and place and it's all good.

Close

Meet up at the park, walk a bit, drinks at 2 different places then walked her back home, "Can I have a glass of water?" and then I'm in.

-Later, she complimented me on how I went for the kiss, I did it early (at the first bar) she gave me a shit test and I just pulled her in slowly and kissed her a bit instead of answering. "Good answer". She always hates it when guys go for the awkward kiss at the doorstep.

-Taking the hand and let's go is just too good.

-Didn't talk too much about the same topics; always shifting, always vibing, always steering, just saying what I wanna say and then when she wants to say something SHUT UP and just eye contact, no mmhmms or head nods or nothing. She said she felt like she knew me for so long, she felt so comfortable, such a good listener, no awkwardness etc. Even though I spoke at length about whatever I wanted to talk about.

-Only problem is now I think she is super into me especially since we ended up in bed despite wanting to wait, so be forewarned if you do stuff like that.

-I don't like to talk about it too much but the shirt is like the last thing to come off in this situation, over and under clothes is a lot smoother.

Body Language Notes

-This is beyond crucial to everything, improving your body language improves every part of your life.

-Lean back, chin up. This is your default position.

-Don't always be turned to her, look straight ahead, point your body straight ahead, this is your world and she's a guest.

-Speak slow with lots of pauses, this is good for many reasons but mainly for...

-Eye contact, soft, strong, and unflinching during pauses, drives girls crazy and feels so baller.

-I personally don't overuse touch, I touch her shoulder a couple of times to show that I'm comfortable but I don't want her to get too comfortable. I do take up space and use that to to get close and build tension. To that effect, sitting across from each other is crap, get her beside you/90 degree angle, it's a must.

-One thing I do abuse is the hand hold because it just works as a functional thing (to get her to follow you), plus it feels good for everyone.

Thanks

I hope this helps out, I would not have been able to do this so smoothly and felt so in control of the situation without all your guys' help. See if you can spot the 'technology' at work, I used it to great effect at crucial moments, if you want I can explain more in the comments. At the end of the day, when the time comes you gotta nut up or shut up ;)

TL;DR: Just read it.