Background

This is a pretty long read, so even if you could take a look at one approach would be great. I'm also not the best writer so try to give me a break :).

I’ve always been good at talking to girls but I always found myself in the friend zone. I think a lot of my problem was I never really displayed attraction, I just sort of assumed that girls should like me just because I’m being nice to them, which doesn’t work.

Then I found seddit, and started reading up. So I’ve started to touch everyone, always maintain eye contact and smile at everyone. I haven’t gone out much (Shitty town, most friends away at school) but I just went to my university orientation (Canadian university) where all the girls would be 18, and I’m a year older (19) due to taking a year off. It was awesome here’s a little fr.

Also I'd like to point out i went to this event with no intention of trying to pick up girls, just meet new people.

First I find out this orientation is being run by older students (Lets call them OS for older students) who attend the university, so it was pretty cool. I walk in and see all the OS trying to make small talk with the other people there with me and none of them look like they want to or are trying. So I walk in and start talking to all the OS and it was a good time.

Approach #1

So we sit down and after a brief talk, they split up the kids from the parents and start tours, and I’m thinking sweet. So queue splitting into groups and boring tours, but finally we all have to go get our student cards made, and I was first in line as to have time to chat up other people while I wait for them to be done.

So I approach one HB7 and HB6 and see them standing around talking with each other, and open with “Why do pictures on cards always look so terrible” which they instantly start laughing and we strike up a conversation. The 6 starts yelling across the room to another friend, and I start asking if they all know each other etc. and their other friend turns out to be an HB9, and I’m thinking “fuck I can’t deal with these 3 girls at once”. So I suggest we sit down at a nearby table as its going to take awhile and they agree. Me and the HB7 keep talking and she’s really cool, I start making jokes about how it must have been fun driving 4 hours to get to this orientation at 7 am, and we start joking about it. Me and the HB7 got along well.

The problem here is that the HB9 and the HB6 will not even have a conversation with me. I would turn to them and try to include them in the conversation (Where did you guys drive from?, I bet you girls are going to be the dirty partier types in res and mess the whole place up!), and I would just get a one word answer back and they’d go back to either being silent or chatting with each other. I assume this is just stupid high school girl syndrome and they just don’t want to branch out of their friend group, but I’d like to hear what you guys think.

At this point I should have asked for the HB7’s number but alas I’m stupid and did not, so I eject from this group as the tour starts again.

Takeaways/ Questions

Should have asked for the HB7’s number. As for the other 2 did I do something wrong? Because I feel as if I did everything right and their still just stupid high school girls.

Approach #2

So we make our way back to the lecture hall where a presentation will start in 10 minutes, obviously I make sure to be the last person into the lecture as to find a spot where I can chat up a girl.

I see a HB7 sitting alone who I’ve noticed to be quiet most of the tour, so I sit 2 seats down from her (The parents were coming back, but I still should have sat next to her). I wait about 10 seconds and finally turn to her with my hand out and say “Well this s going to be boring if we just sit here, hi I’m Upannndout” she laughs and says her name, and I go into interview mode as I couldn’t think of anything (Where you from, what you taking, are you excited etc). Theirs about 5 seconds of silence and she opens with

Her -are you going to get the (Card that you have to pay for to get discounts on campus)? Me-Well it gets you free cover to (Campus bar) so do you go partying back home? Her-(giggle) Me- I bet you do, so you should get it just for that and go to the bar every Thursday Her- ok ok you’re right but I don’t know if I’ll go all the time Me- Don’t worry ill make sure you go every night (Big grin on my face) Her- More giggles

Terrible timing as the parents come in, and her mom sits down beside her, and she introduces me to her mom (I thought this was pretty cool) and I open her mom with saying “Hey you know that (card) is a good investment you should totally get it for your daughter to make her happy” and the mom and daughter both start laughing. But then my mom walks in and that ends all conversation with HB7

Takeaways/ Questions

Should have asked for her number earlier, I saw her around later and talked to her breifly but her mother was there and her mom did not seem like the type that would be happy with me asking for her daughter’s number. Maybe I should have just asked in front of her mom anyways I’m not sure.

Approach #3

As the next presentation is about residences I decide to go outside the lecture hall to see if there was anyone to talk to (I’m not going to be living on residence as I didn’t get in). So I start chatting up the OS as they are the only people outside and were having a good conversation. One girl OS walks over whose a HB8 and I start talking with her. I start off by asking about what bars were good around there and such and we discussed that for awhile. The interesting thing is that when we started talking she was standing facing me from across the hall, but she kept getting closer and closer until she was standing beside me touching me. Then someone pointed out that her socks didn’t match and I started teasing her about that while attempting light Kino (touching her arm etc.), and then I start to ask her serious questions about the school because I’m legitimately interested. Finally she has to go help with the presentation and she leaves.

Takeaways/ questions

I should have asked for her number, and I should have used more sexual references. I feel like when someone pointed out her mismatched socks I should have maybe made a joke about her underwear not matching or something along those lines but I thought it would be in appropriate.

Overall

I may have not got any numbers, but what I realized when I left was just how good I felt. I felt like I had a great time and a lot of fun despite thinking it might turn out to be really lame. I didn’t get any numbers but I forgot how good it feels just to talk to and meet new people. So it was great for just making me a happier person.

In terms of pick up, I feel like I need to use more sexual references when talking to these girls (Comment on how they look, make sexual jokes, that type of thing) as well as just ask for the number earlier.

Any insight would be appreciated.