I'm simply not attracted to most people. disclaimer: while looks do play a part my standards there are pretty average, eyes and smell by far outweigh ever other cue, I think eyes because of personality, and smell is obvious.

It related to seddit because the more people I'm attracted to the more opportunities I can generate by being genuine. The more i can fulfill my own desires, and the desires of others.

I've found that genuine attraction/interest with someone helps create a rapport that it hard to match. And people can always tell when you are only mildly interested. I've been reading how to win friends and influence people and it basically says the same thing.

I have been frustrated by the fact that, if I have no interest, regardless of the opportunities that come my way, its not going to happen, or be extremely mediocre. Rather than offload this to the rest of the world for not being awesome enough, I would prefer to take responsibility and change myself.

Its like the opposite connundrum to how to get more people to be attracted to you. How to be more attracted to other people.

I consider myself very grey when it comes to boys/girls, however % of boys that do it for me is so tiny I might as well call myself hetro. Changing that may also get me more opportunity but not focusing on it.

If you couple all this together with an extreme intense desire for intimacy(not sex, although they usually go hand in hand), if I do like someone it usually implodes in my face. Waiting around for awesome people to show up is a fools game.

Sorry for long post, any help, advice or whatever would be appreciated. also not a throw away because I could simply not give two fucks what people think of me.

AFC reporting for duty.

TLDR; Inner Game. I'm not attracted to most people, want to change myself. The more opportunity I have, the more I can work on my game so that I can lead a more fulfilling life, and fulfill the lives of others. Total net positive.