Well I am sure we have all heard about various tales of Friend zone, in fact I read few of them and was not at all disappointed. But here is mine that I would like to share with the Internets.

About 4 months ago I came across a girl ... on Facebook and we have been constantly chatting everyday for hours, ever since. At first I had no interest in anything, but noticed that I liked her persona and found out we have a lot of things in common (almost scary). We continued doing our thing and developed a friendship.

In matter of 2 weeks she asked me if I knew of any modeling agencies as she would like to give it a shot (like most girls), so being the good guy, I knew of someone (lets call him Ted ... cuz he is super chubby) ... now i didn’t meet her in person yet and since I arranged for a meet with this agency I decided to show up, as I don’t want her to feel creeped out or feel dodgy.

When I saw her, I was baffled by her beauty, instantly liked her and basically couldn’t take my eyes off her, but had to, otherwise I would have looked like a rapist. Fast forwarding few days and she landed her first modeling opportunity ... things between us both seemed good and solid as friends ... the reason i started off as a friend is to make sure i don’t end up with a psycho, you know testing the water first before jumping in.

Now what has happened is over the week this Ted dude got to be friends with her and developed feelings for her ... and me I became her best friend in less than a month time.

One day I told Ted that I like her and turns out he does too, asked him if I am stepping lines and he said nothing happened so nope ... by this time all three of us started to hangout every week, chilling and basically goofing around, so we all became closer. I then decided one day to confess to her about my feelings and that I want more than just best friendship.

Now what I came to know from her is that, when Ted asked her to be his girl, she was giving it a serious thought, until I came into the scene, which is when she decided to see who is the right one to go for, Her best friend (aka me, who she finds really good looking) or a close friend (aka Ted who wears crocs). Like any good guy I gave her time to think and decide, I was not even worried, as she talks to me a lot, shares everything with me and is closer to me as a person.

One fine day in our weekly hangout we decided to watch movies, where we were sort of cuddling (without any sexual intent) now Ted got all jealous and left us for a while. Turns out at night he called her and cried on the phone telling her how he cant afford to lose her. Even more surprising is the fact that he proposed to her the following day (after he saw me physically close to her), well the proposal wasn’t of matrimonial nature but rather where he officially confesses wanting to be with her.

That same night both her and I had a long conversation, where I asked her if she would go for him or should I still hold on to my feelings for her, her response “i don’t know” ... however later I just casually told her fine go for him and i would remove my feelings for u, to which she said “ok” and turns out she didn’t sleep the whole night as she felt crappy.

Now what is the situation, She knows two guys like her and want to be with her, and both Ted and I know we both like her. However the funny part is every time i do something nice (like giving her flowers and etc) she asks “is that as a best friend?” probably in an attempt to tease me or she is really dumb :/ moreover she actually says that i don’t even try to hit on her, which is bizarre. Moving on I did tell her that if she only looks at me as a best friend and nothing more, than to state that, so I don’t look like an ass, but she never did, in fact tells me not to think that way.

Now let us focus on this month, She tells me that she has developed feelings for him, so i tell her that i should stop hitting on her... she decides to spend alone time with me, lying on top me while playing with my hair (trying to comfort me). I am confused as to whether she wants me or not, cause in no point did she say she looks at me as a best friend ONLY, but rather kept saying she will miss me and that one day I will get a good girl. at one point i asked if she would go for him and she says that if her feelings for him persist then she will otherwise it could be temporary feeling.

Funny thing about this is that for the next three days she acted like i divorced her, being very dry (obvious she is upset) even her sister said she has been acting rude at home.

Now last week, we came over to my office for something she needed to do for her university and i helped her out, but during a break time, we were cuddling AGAIN, under the table ... she asked if this would upset Ted, now instead of acting jealous/annoyed i played it cool and said yea it would, but she made no move, but kept laying on top of me, missionary style.

Yesterday i was teasing her cause her feminine cycle was getting the best of her, so i gave it a nickname “Blood Demon” she responded with “I hate you” I said “no you don’t you love me”, she then says “I don’t love love you but love you as a friend” I say “No you really love me” she states again “I don’t love love you, I love you as a friend .... i love ted”.

Her verbal slap was a bit too much for me to process right away, but she as usual asked me if they both look good together, I said no you don’t ... (i did tell her that he looks like her uncle next to her). I told her that since they both are of emotional nature he would keep on giving her until he will feel like her butler (he did have a fight with her about how he feels less of a man and more like her puppet), consequently they would break up.

Now I told her that I cannot give her the boyfriend experience without getting anything in return, (she claims she gives me the gf experience, proved her wrong), and she tells me that she wont like if i change my behavior with her, i told her i will be her best friend only and that it is unfair for me to act the otherwise where she likes another guy. she tells me that I should have made my intention clear from day one, I told her i didn’t know her back then, and it is not about first come first serve ... she then tells me she needed to go for “something”

I still wonder why would she go for a guy who is not in a relation with her, but fights almost every week over stupid reasons and then calls her and cries (literally) about how he doesn’t want to lose her, he is too clingy to her and calls her for hours at least 3-4 times daily.

now I did read stories about other redditors who got out of the amigo zone but wondering if there is anything else i can do to make her interested in me.

TL;DR: I like a girl who is my best friend, she like a guy who is too clingy to her, (no one is in a relation yet), told me I should have told her about my feelings earlier, because it was first come first serve for her, now that I tell her i will stop giving her boyfriend experience, she tells me she wont like the change ... anything else i can do to get her attention towards me?