Hi seddit, I have been interested in seduction for about a year or so. I am one of those weird people that just want to be the life of the party, and have no interest in banging girls. I want to be Mr Social. I have learned and applied the seduction principles, and it feels like it just doesn't do anything for me.

I'm reasonably good-looking, funny, jovial, friendly. I make people laugh and always have a smile on my face. I am not being invited out to things. Last night, my mates were just sitting around playing xbox on a friday night in our residential college. Meanwhile, my flatmate, who I asked if he wanted to go out with us earlier that day (he went, had a great day), goes out drinking with a bunch of girls I know. Admittedly, I'm not on great terms (we chat sometimes yet not great friends) with these girls, but it would have been nice to invite me out, especially since we saw these people in the college lobby, and they just stared at us, not even coming over to say hi, on their way out to buy drinks.

It's shit like this seddit, that pisses me off. I offer more value than these other people, yet I am the one that gets ignored. I am forgiving, so will continue to invite people out to the stuff I organise, and won't let their bad behaviour allow myself to behave badly. Yet, it is demoralising and I'm just sick of these nights when I'm not going out and having fun.

Is the diagnosis, just to go out solo? Find new bros that are more into going out? I have a few theories:

  • I think it might be something as simple as finding more female friends. I don't go over to a girl's house just to hang out. I hang out with mostly dudes, and we don't often interact with other girls.

  • Maybe i flirt too much with the girl's around me. I try to game everyone I meet dudes/girls.

  • Maybe they're put off by the fact that me and my bros don't go out to bars/clubs enough (we've come full circle haven't we).

  • Maybe they are just put off by my over-enthusiasm.

  • Maybe they think I don't have enough female friends. In which case I should work on friend-zoning these girls.

Just thinking out loud. Thoughts?