Anyone have advice for me and my game? 19 y/o male

fatless · 2012-09-16T22:14:14+00:00

Don't ask them. Take the lead. Assume they want to leave with you. By asking her if she wants to go back to your place, you're allowing her brain to engage in Anti-Slut Defense.

Hey wanna get out of here? Wanna go back to my place? Are you done for the night?

Of course they are going to shy away when you pussyfoot around like that. Instead, you can simply say:

Let's get out of here

say that while you have her hand, after you've at least made out, and then start walking. Don't mention your place. Heck, it could just mean stepping outside with her for a more intimate conversation for the time being. But, look, you really need to ensure you've built up enough attraction for her to assent to your suggestion. You don't want to have her engage her brain and decide whether or not she wants to go back to your place, because when you do allow that to happen, her logical brain has a chance to override her emotional one.

Of course... if she lets go of your hand, pulls back, or disagrees somehow, you either jumped the gun by not building up enough attraction, or you somehow misread the situation terribly. Back off at that point, obviously.

IntensePancakes · 2012-09-17T06:32:02+00:00

For most girls you can't just make out with them for a while and then expect them to come back with you. You have to make her want to go further. You have to take things to a level where she wants more and sex is the only thing that will satisfy her. Don't just aimlessly make out with her for the whole night, escalate things slowly and deliberately. Start with just making out but then slowly intensify things. Kiss her more passionately, kiss her ears and neck, whisper to her and flirt some more. Make sure she reciprocates the added intensity, then you can go even further. Start touching and feeling her body, especially her chest and butt, and then finally the front of her pants. Once you guys can't do any more to each other without getting naked, then you can suggest going back. By the time you ask her, you both should already know what her answer is going to be.

Also, if she isn't responding to you escalating things, don't keep trying. If you've been making out with a girl for a long time and can't seem to escalate things past making out, gently slow things down, thank her for her time and then move onto the next girl.

skgoa · 2012-09-19T05:28:21+00:00

In addition to the other very excellent answers I have one more thing to add about what I feel your main missunderstanding seems to be. You are seeing talking to her and making out with her only as steps to the point where you get to put you genitals into her genitals. This is counter productive and quite frustrating, as you even noticed yourself. See it this way: you are a predator stalking your prey. Would you jump up and anounce "now I got you!" after reached halve distance? No, you wouldn't. Then why are you effectively asking a girl "I can haz sexy time, now?" Of course she is going to reject you! Actually, the predator analogy is very bad, because what you should be doing is enjoying the moment and connecting with her, instead of seeing her as a price that you are trying to catch. There will be instances when she is ready to fuck you on the spot, there will be instances where she won't give you more than light kino and a number - and over time you will also experience everything inbetween those two extremes. Stop focusing on that one little detail and start enjoying yourself. (And her, you definitely should enjoy her for more than the chance at getting sex she seems to symbolize for you.) Fucking a girl after the second time or the fifth or even the tenth time you met her FEELS JUST THE SAME. I.e. while you should definitely escalate a lot, in order to increase the sexual tension, you should also be aware of the fact that you aren't in danger of losing her. That's needy 'beta' thinking and a women will definitely pick up on that.

Title	Anyone have advice for me and my game? 19 y/o male
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Date	September 16, 2012 8:09 PM UTC (13 years ago)
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